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Most underrated singles: Do you overlook them?

Essence.com featured a list of the most underrated “types” that seem to get overlooked in dating.  There was a list for men and women, which seemed to outline the many perfectly dateable individuals that get a bad wrap in dating.  From the Mamma’s boy to the corporate/career woman, the underrated types actually read more like …normal people. You know, humans with imperfections?

I can’t honestly say that I haven’t overlooked men who are considered underrated. However,  I am not all that convinced they would have been interested or a good match for me anyway.  I think some single people are drawn to a certain “popular” type but is that who we should end up dating?

If we are all trying to date “the type”who are supposedly in high demand, who do you think is getting ignored? Would you consider yourself the type that is underrated?  If so, does it bother you? What (if anything) would you do differently to stand out?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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czBrat

April 26th, 2011
11:25 am

not completely eye-to-eye on that 11:08, raqi, but i know what you mean.

HiYa, reign. picturing you and the wee one bonding before dawn. just awwwww. :)

lay in low

April 26th, 2011
11:27 am

@morris..tell your brother to take off his cape..he has a save-ho mentality..this is why he getting these chicks….its his attitude not them…he has something inside that comes out that says “i will save you” and these chicks are leaping at the chance to be saved..he needs a re-tool…

Morris

April 26th, 2011
11:28 am

Dan..simply superior… the Billfold…hah..no he does not say that. Just trying to metophorically say he says… they ask him for money or expect him to pull out money. That’s all…

AmazonRed.. he meets them at his business, out on the town…I guess. I am never there when he meets them. We (my wife and I) meet them at family gatherings and stuff. They seem cool to us…but the stories he tells us after he tells them goodbye…makes us shake our heads.

SexyCool

April 26th, 2011
11:29 am

I would love to hear the stories THEY tell.

Celisea

April 26th, 2011
11:31 am

I’m leery of folks posting “stories.” There are always 2 sides. I have the same advice for a man being used or says he’s being used as a chick. Until he’s sick and tired of being sick and tied…..

TenderRoni

April 26th, 2011
11:32 am

@PRain- like Awww to you and the baby time, thats so sweet

And I agree with last paragraph. It seems some of these men aren’t looking for quality. They weren’t paying attention in the dating process.

Morris

April 26th, 2011
11:32 am

SexyCool…again you may be right. We only hear one side of the story. Personally…I think he likes them, gets scared…runs! Although a couple may have been around for a payoff.

I’ve told him this…he laughs it off.

Celisea

April 26th, 2011
11:32 am

Raqi V

April 26th, 2011
11:33 am

AmazonR, while I was sitting in the hospital this morning the hub called me to say, “I want to go to the beach. Let’s go to the beach tomorrow. Make that happen will you.” Then he hung up. No good-bye, no thank you, no nothing.

The only good beaches I know of are at least a 4 hours drive away.
Do I…?

a) Tell him there is no way I am driving 4 hours away from my baby and be gone all day from him

b) Get some here to make the pool ready, pull out the poolside loungers and be prepared to man the grill and put together some nice summer drinks

Or

c) Pack the picnic basket, grab the sunscreen for the toddler, know that God has his hands of protection around the little squid anyway and hop in the wagon headed for a nice relaxing Wednesday afternoon at the beach

I know this does not compare to you dilemma but I figured I would give you the chance to advise me since I stuck my nose into your affairs. LOL

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 26th, 2011
11:35 am

@PR

I take your point.

But rarely do people meet, date, and fall in love with one person? If not, then the process may have something to do with.

As for tolerance levels, standards and the like, most of that comes when you know yourself enough to have those things and recognize them in other people.

I’m not saying there’s no fault to be shared, but life ain’t lived like Rockwell or Disney, so just stating what “should be” often leaves out what “is”.

Raqi V

April 26th, 2011
11:35 am

SexyCool, I know right. The guys tickle me with their many double standards. They find it within reason to hold on to what is valuable to them (money) while they feel out the woman, however she is not allowed to hold on to her goods while she feels him out. GTFOH

AmazonRed™

April 26th, 2011
11:37 am

Raqi – :lol: Again, it was no problem with you being nosy. I put it out there, I had to expect people to comment. I really don’t understand why people post stuff they are not prepared to answer or take questions about.

But in any case, my advice would make you single. :lol: Cuz my ass would choose option B. I’d find some sand for his ass. :lol: Besides, isn’t lil one still in the hospital? You probably couldn’t even enjoy yourself 4+ hours away from him.

Or I’d find a restaurant called “The Beach” and take him there. :lol:

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 26th, 2011
11:37 am

@PR

Congrats on the quality time.

kimmie

April 26th, 2011
11:38 am

Purple – That’s so sweet! Sounds like you’re taking to this daddy thing rather well. You’re a natural! :)

AmazonRed™

April 26th, 2011
11:39 am

Raqi – I have a feeling he just wants the both of you to relax, but dumping a project on your lap in that manner isn’t the way to get it done. :lol:

Blackfoote

April 26th, 2011
11:44 am

LOL……Raqi V
These dudes are killing me I haven’t laughed so hard at men in a while. All I can say is we need to check ourself.

Simple Man Know known as "Coitus Interruptus"

April 26th, 2011
11:44 am

Raqi..if I may….There are several local places with “Beaches” i.e. Stone Mtn, or the Place on off of 138 where the Olympic Beach Volley ball was held. Now these are “real beaches” but the effects are the same.. In fact the one Off of 138 even has a wave pool for the little ones….
http://www.claytonparks.com/InternationalPark/index.htm

TenderRoni

April 26th, 2011
11:45 am

@Blackfoote…you ain’t never lied!!!

Purple Rain

April 26th, 2011
11:45 am

I love the quality time with him, and I really happy it’s a boy. I usually do it before dawn because I am heading out around 4:30am and he is awake around 3am and I am still clean
also at that time we are alone and I don’t have to share him with family at all…or my wife telling me how to hold him and don’t do this and don’t do that.

Dan, I know I have lived tough times in regards to dating being left at the “altar” was the most heartbreaking of them all. This is not directed towards you. I just don’t get people who say they keep meeting the same “type” obviously something has to change. Look in different areas or stop making the same mistakes. The first two times can be chalked up to “life and bad choices” anything after that a major change needs to be made internally. I don’t know, I just don’t go for excuses. And there is a difference between and excuse and a reason in my mind.

Atlanta= land of the free, home of the thirsty

April 26th, 2011
11:46 am

Tough crowd :lol:

Morris: what is it about your bro in law that he continues to attract “aint sh*&$” women? He should ponder on that, much in the way men try to make women who have such bad luck think it’s ‘them’.

TenderRoni

April 26th, 2011
11:46 am

Do you mean they are Not real beached…also there is Lake Lanier

SexyCool

April 26th, 2011
11:47 am

Rock – what about the resort at Lake Lanier?

Atlanta= land of the free, home of the thirsty

April 26th, 2011
11:51 am

And I would be remiss if I didn’t mention the obvious: there are PLENTY of thirsty folks willing to give anyone on this list a chance. Just sayin. Especially in Atlanta 8-)

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 26th, 2011
11:52 am

Raqi — Sprinkle some sand on your CT & yell “Surf’s up!”

Atlanta= land of the free, home of the thirsty

April 26th, 2011
11:53 am

I want some neopolitan ice cream

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 26th, 2011
11:54 am

@PR

I’m not taking it personally.

Again, we agree. The first step in problem solving is to look at all inputs (in this case, yourself included).

And I agree that “blaming others” is a useless invention.

Where we differ is that for me, the world (people and places) are a part of the equation as well. You (not “you” PR, the nebulous “you”) could be doing everything right and still be wrong.

AmazonRed™

April 26th, 2011
11:55 am

there are PLENTY of thirsty folks willing to give anyone on this list a chance. Just sayin. Especially in Atlanta

Yes, we are fully aware of this. :lol: That’s why it’s a little unnerving to see so many folks with complaints.

Raqi V

April 26th, 2011
11:59 am

LOL AmazonR I can go to Lowes and get 10 pounds of sand and spread it out beside the pool.

Raqi V

April 26th, 2011
12:00 pm

czBrat, what part of what I said do you not agree with?

AmazonRed™

April 26th, 2011
12:01 pm

LOL AmazonR I can go to Lowes and get 10 pounds of sand and spread it out beside the pool.

That’s what I would do. Water…sand…drinks, grilling? Sounds like a beachy good time to me.

Again, reason #2384 why I’m still single. So don’t listen to me. :lol:

Blackfoote

April 26th, 2011
12:02 pm

Men wake up and gather your senses women are here made exclusively for us, if you believe you’re a good man and your woman is not look in the mirror and make that change. Bashing, hitting, calling her out her name is not the answer if you’re the tip of the spear take aim at being a man and not whiner please. This just sucks.

TenderRoni

April 26th, 2011
12:05 pm

@Morris- your broher-in-law seems like a decent dude, I will come from a different angle, and give him the benefit of the doubt. He may not be leading with his wallet, he could simply be old school dude and believe a man should pay the majortiy of the time (which is cool). I know plently of men like this. You try and offer to pay, and their like ‘No,no I got this’. So some women will see an opportunity to take advantage.

But if he was my kinfolk, the advice I would give is- if he is doing most of the initiating, like calling to set-up dates, paying for dates, and she is not initiating then maybe she is not interested. He should get creative with dates. Find dates he can go with them that don’t cost much, or are inexpensive. If she gripes abuot you not spending then that will give you an indication what she’s after.

If a person is interested and like you, they will meet you half way.

AmazonRed™

April 26th, 2011
12:14 pm

I want to meet Morris’ brother-in-law…there has to be more to the story, if he’s so together…. Is he short? Chubby? Hard on the eyes? Is he dating women out of “his league?”

Intriguing… :lol:

Blackfoote

April 26th, 2011
12:14 pm

“If a person is interested and like you, they will meet you half way.”

Thanks TenderRoni it can’t be put any other way.

Simple Man Know known as "Coitus Interruptus"

April 26th, 2011
12:17 pm

Morris’ Brother = Short dude…. :)

TenderRoni

April 26th, 2011
12:17 pm

I’m curious too ARed. Shot give us the physical description of this dude. And does he have kids? How does he treat his mom and sisters? What are his hobbies?

Celisea

April 26th, 2011
12:17 pm

there has to be more to the story, if he’s so together

Like I said earlier, I’m leery of “stories” from folks where leave it to them, it’s all the other person’s fault. It very well could be but how will we know. I guess though for entertainment purposes, stuff like that turns the pages

Raqi V

April 26th, 2011
12:17 pm

It seems as if Morris’ brother may have fallen victim to the dating out of your league syndrome. (M dot)

There are women out there that are single and looking that are not out to get into a man’s pockets. The thing is you have to be wanting to be with that type of woman. She is usually your non-trendy, every day ordinary woman.

Men need to stop chasing the Kim Kardashian of the world and then expecting them to be ClaireHuxtable and Mulan all rolled into one.

You don’t go deep sea fishing to catch NewYork Strip.

AmazonRed™

April 26th, 2011
12:22 pm

Morris – Call your BIL and tell him to come on this blog. :lol:

Blackfoote

April 26th, 2011
12:22 pm

Celisea they trying to keep the pages turning……LOL

Atlanta= land of the free, home of the thirsty

April 26th, 2011
12:24 pm

Morris if you’re here in Atl email me your bro’s info. I know some real good looking, quality “Ms. 35 and overs” who are overlooked by “good” men, and tired of the game.

smiggity@aol.com

SexyCool

April 26th, 2011
12:25 pm

I’m still stuck on this article suggesting guys that guys that have “fingernails are dirty and his breath smells like fertilizer doesn’t mean he’ll never figure out how to remove his cuticles or that flossing isn’t done exclusively in a drop-top.”

Listening to this mess, that means somebody should have hollered at the stinky homeless dude begging on the train this morning.

Atlanta= land of the free, home of the thirsty

April 26th, 2011
12:28 pm

“Men need to stop chasing the Kim Kardashian of the world and then expecting them to be ClaireHuxtable and Mulan all rolled into one. ”

8-)

AmazonRed™

April 26th, 2011
12:30 pm

SCool – Wow..did they really say that? I only read the headlines, not the text that followed.

Breath like fertilizer? Really? You haven’t handled that by 30+ years old? :lol:

Purple Rain

April 26th, 2011
12:31 pm

Amazon if he comes on this blog that’s a for sure way for him not to get a date from a woman on here. I mean look what happened to Simple Man.

Raqi V

April 26th, 2011
12:32 pm

SexyCool, I agree. Bad hygiene is something that is a choice rather than a DNA pattern. Soap, toothpaste and mouthwash are sold at various stores across the nation.

Why should someone be willing to settle for a man that doesn’t like bathe and brush his teeth? That’s not to even be compared to being short or shy, having man-boobs or a receding hairline.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 26th, 2011
12:32 pm

@Raqi

Did you say the men need to stop looking for the unrealistic? Really that simple huh?

Raqi V

April 26th, 2011
12:32 pm

Atlanta, who are you originally?

Atlanta= land of the free, home of the thirsty

April 26th, 2011
12:35 pm

“Morris’ Brother = Short dude…”

I was thinking ugly but that’s relative, too.

Clearly it is our goal this morning to save Morris’ BIL

Raqi V

April 26th, 2011
12:36 pm

Yes, Dan because it seems to be a man’s tales that are being addressed today. (i.e. Morris) When a woman comes here talking about she wants a man with Donald Trump’s money but 9am-5pm work hours I will tell, “Girl stop fooling yourself”.