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Wedding ring off or on?

Ladies, imagine seeing a gorgeous man, sashaying over to him, and doing a full court press flirting session.  You are practically swooning all over the man as you try to picture him next to you on a beach in Jamaica.  Then the reggae music in your head stops abruptly, *making that record scratching sound* because he just uttered the oh so lovely, “My wife…”

You don’t really know what he said after that because you are too annoyed that he is not wearing the one thing that would spared you the last ten minutes of flirting:  A wedding ring! The purpose of the ring should partly be to let single women know you can look and admire; but don’t get too happy when you see the man. He’s taken.

What is it with men and the wedding rings/bands? According to recent reports, Prince William has no plans to sport one, either. This article makes me really wonder about the motivation to wear or not wear a ring. If there is not a ring, does that mean there are bad intentions?

When you get married (yes, that’s right, when!), do you plan on wearing a wedding band?  Do you think we really need that “symbol” of marriage as long as your behavior is honorable?

Single guys, have you ever worn a ring to send a message that you were taken?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

340 comments Add your comment

czBrat

April 22nd, 2011
1:30 am

seriously. why am i even up? :sad:

czBrat

April 22nd, 2011
1:39 am

first of all, i’ve never done the approach thing, so i’ve no idea how annoying it might be to push on an unavailable dude. seems like that would kinda su ck.

second, s/o has already picked out his ring and is sooo excited to wear it. says it’s the kind he’s always wanted but never got. i think it’s kismet that we each happened to choose rings that happen to look like a perfectly matched set.

oh. and i really don’t think the prince will need a ring to let people know he is, in fact, married.

SeeYas! g’nite.

Geechee

April 22nd, 2011
7:30 am

I never wore a ring when I was married but I was never involved in any sort of approach/flirt thing. I just haven’t worn jewelry of any sort for my entire life and the ring really bothered me.

Sorry I missed all of the fireworks the last two days, but it has been fun to follow. AmRed: You go girl!

Simple Man...

April 22nd, 2011
8:26 am

Morning CZ!!! I dont understand why the women would be pissed…He never led her on, in fact it seems like he put it out there early on that he had a wife…What more could a woman ask for????

Bishop Long's Wife

April 22nd, 2011
8:29 am

Wedding ring off!

Celisea

April 22nd, 2011
8:33 am

Morning,

From Diva’s post “My wife…” and from Simple Man’s post in fact it seems like he put it out there early on that he had a wife

Imma have to agree. With Simple Man? I know right…lol Anyway, you can’t be mad if he says it. You really should be upset if he goes there because that can easily be dismissed. Really though if he puts it out there can ya reeeeally be mad about it? Just K.I.M.

I don’t necessarily think NOT wearing the band is indicative that there are less than honorable intents. There are more men that wears the ring and display less than honorable character. At the same time why not wear the ring? I just think it depends on the person and their character or the lack thereof.

Celisea

April 22nd, 2011
8:33 am

really shouldn’t not should

Celisea

April 22nd, 2011
8:34 am

I’m blogging before coffee???

Simple Man...

April 22nd, 2011
8:37 am

This is gonna be my day…I got Celisea to agree with me first thing!!! :) Besides, you know the old saying, “A ring has never blocked a hole”

IN DENIAL

April 22nd, 2011
8:38 am

The ring doesn’t mean JACK! One’s behavior & associations will let the opposite sex know if there available. If one is married & “acts like they are”, people will know. To some people, a ring means it’s a safe, no strings attached, one nighter.

czBrat

April 22nd, 2011
8:38 am

I’m blogging before coffee
that’s just never a good idea. LOL. mornin’ C. hey Simple.

Celisea

April 22nd, 2011
8:42 am

Hey Brat…lol Even worse, I’m eating tortilla chips and salsa. So not a good idea.

Simple Man – did I bring the clouds by agreeing with you this morning? I kid.

In Denial – I agree.

MzNewy

April 22nd, 2011
8:46 am

I don’t feel that not wearing a ring indicates ill intentions. Some folks just don’t wear jewelry. In addition it could be because of the work he/she does that they don’t wear the ring (mechanic, some types of engineers). She (chic in the scenario) was wrong in two ways…1) She got mad when he mentioned he had a wife 2) She approached him like she couldn’t be shot down. I mean really, I liken that to the guy that asks for your number then calls you all sorts of B!tchs when you say “nope”.

MzNewy

April 22nd, 2011
8:46 am

Where are my manners…Good morning All!

Leggs

April 22nd, 2011
8:48 am

Morning….

I would prefer my husband to wear his ring because I definitely would wear mine. However, it seems a man wearing a ring is a definite magnet for some women. They think they can have a relationship with a married man w/no strings attached. But, why buy the ring if you aren’t going to wear it?? I don’t understand spending $$ on a ring just to let it sit in a jewelry box. I do understand certain occupations may dictate that you don’t wear your ring, but when going out why not put it on?

And, I agree, why should she be mad because he uttered “My wife..” She should be mad at herself for flirting so hard w/o asking if he’s married.

“I’m eating tortilla chips and salsa.” – Ummmm, that’s a crazy breakfast.

Celisea

April 22nd, 2011
8:53 am

Leggs – Usually if I want breakfast and coffee, I head down to the cafe. I just sat down and started working early today. This was actually a snack for after lunch but hey… :)

czBrat

April 22nd, 2011
8:56 am

I liken that to the guy that asks for your number then calls you all sorts of B!tchs when you say “nope”.
LMAO!! boy that takes me back to my younger days (dealing with young fools).

hola leggs. according to s/o it’s not even the ring that calls ‘em like a dinner bell. just a man’s vibe when he’s happily involved peaks other chicks’ curiosity. women can tell when a man is being well-kept. and if they have low/no morals … they move in.

SlimNumeroUno

April 22nd, 2011
8:57 am

Good morning All,

I would like my hubby as well as myself to wear our rings…

Leggs

April 22nd, 2011
9:02 am

Excellent point, czB!

@Celisea ~ I don’t drink coffee, but heading down to cafe. I’ll get you a breakfast burrito (egg, sausage & cheese wrap).

Simple Man...

April 22nd, 2011
9:03 am

You ladies do undersatnd that guys do not feel the same about wearing wedding rings as you do….I think for the most part we view them as something that done to appease the wife… Guys dont put the same level of importance on this as you do…..

Celisea

April 22nd, 2011
9:04 am

Leggs – I know I’m eating salsa but no can do the buritto with breakfast. Can you get that on toasted wheat for me?

Leggs

April 22nd, 2011
9:14 am

Great, cuz I don’t understand my breakfast wrapped up either. Here’s your virtual breakfast on toasted wheat!

czBrat

April 22nd, 2011
9:15 am

simple, i had no expectation as to whether or not s/o would want or wear one. he had mentioned that his previous ring was very blah, and that execs in his industry are ultra conservative. he surprised me when he decided he would get the kind of ring HE likes and is now very happy he’ll get to sport it. oh, and yeah, it’ll be a symbol of our blessed union too. LOL

leggs, i go from coffee to tea to cocoa to cappuccino depending on my mood. today, imma put the coffee on while i walk the dogs AND pick up a capp on my way to see my sisters. as you can tell by the time stamp on my first post, it’s bout to be one of those days.

Fion

April 22nd, 2011
9:16 am

Ring, Sming. Do you really think it matters. There are some Women that look for the ring. If they see it, that’s target they zero in on.
If the person you’re with has no intention of honoring their commitment to you, it doesn’t matter if they wear a ring.
The question is one of character.

Celisea

April 22nd, 2011
9:18 am

Ut oh, I’m agreeing again Simple Man…2 for 2….I’m scared :) I say that because a pretty cool friend of mine worked here and NEVER wore his ring and that ALWAYS caused lot of chatter (unbeknownst to him) from the other chicks on the team. I dunno, it was a big deal to them that he didn’t mention “marriage” nor really talked about that so they all assumed he was “up to no good.” Wasn’t a big deal to me because that was neither here nor there with our friendship. I tended to stay away from the chatter nor did I ever tell him….at first. After he left here we were talking about old times and I told him. He acted as though that was nothing to him but he’s been wearing every since.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2011
9:30 am

Yes, czB ~ posting at 1:30 in the morn. Turning on your coffee machine and also going to get a capp on your way to your sisters? How much coffee do you drink in a day?

@Fion ~ character all day every day…yes sir!

Tyron

April 22nd, 2011
9:30 am

no I will not be wearing a ring because of my occupation, and hobby, it’s easier to leave it at home than to always be looking for it.

kellibean

April 22nd, 2011
9:32 am

My s/o is a musician and can’t wear a ring while playing because it gets in the way. He’s not opposed to wearing one, though. We talked about when we do get married, maybe tattooing each others name on our ring finger.

Fion

April 22nd, 2011
9:32 am

I have a female friend that has a girlfriend that will tell you very proudly,
“Yes she dates Married Men”.
Matter of fact the one she’s seeing now, she’s been seeing for something like 5 yrs.
Reason I know, I’m single as all get out, and the woman wouldn’t even entertain giving me some Play.

Fion

April 22nd, 2011
9:34 am

……..now Ol’ Boy is paying for it, but hey, that’s their thing.

Maybe that’s it. My money wasn’t Long Enough.

Celisea

April 22nd, 2011
9:36 am

I see Kellibean wants to get things jumping this morning. Kellibean, I played the cello, clarinet and piano…my brothers all play drums and one of them plays paino as well playing the violin. My sisters all played the paino. I really can’t think of too many more instruments where a ring can’t be worn while playing. What instrument does he play?

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 22nd, 2011
9:36 am

Do you think we really need that “symbol” of marriage as long as your behavior is honorable?
Like you said, it’s a “symbol”, so you actually answered your own question. We don’t need any symbols.

I think the ring is over rated anyway. I don’t wear one now, so I could definitely do without one. If the wife wanted me to wear one, I would. It’s one of those things where it doesn’t hurt me to go along, but if you left it up to me I’d rather buy something else with the money.

Blackfoote

April 22nd, 2011
9:39 am

I wore a band and it felt like I recieved more inquiries than when I was single. I still believe married men get lots of play than single guys but when I became single again it seemed like nobody was available. Somehow being married seems to make you more attractive to some women.

Simple Man...

April 22nd, 2011
9:40 am

Celisea, LOL!!! Why are you calling you girl our for being in denial??? LOL

Fion

April 22nd, 2011
9:41 am

@ Blackfoote

………say it again dude.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2011
9:45 am

@Fion ~ it’s been said about 5x already. 8:37, 8:38, 8:48, 8:56 and 9:16 (lolololol).

Blackfoote

April 22nd, 2011
9:47 am

Fion it’s unexplainable…..I came out of my divorce thinking I was going to go on a tear with the ladies I was being turned away left, right, north, and south.

Fion

April 22nd, 2011
9:48 am

@ Leggs

yeah, that’s it. If you think a ring is going to be so sort of Kryptonite you’re in for a rude awakening .

just sayin’

Fion

April 22nd, 2011
9:50 am

meant some sort of……..

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 22nd, 2011
9:51 am

“Somehow being married seems to make you more attractive to some women.”

Blackfoote — Indeed. Especially to ho’s… :lol: Seriously, if you’re concerned about your man drawing attention from women, it might be safer if he didn’t wear a ring.

But in Wise’s example, there’s no reason to be upset, as the dude put it out there early on. Not his fault she was hearing the wedding march 2 minutes after laying eyes on the dude.

MzNewy

April 22nd, 2011
9:51 am

When I think about it…It seems as if everyones stock goes up when they are attached. Let’s face it, no one wants someone that no one else doesn’t want. :)

kellibean

April 22nd, 2011
9:52 am

@Celisea…he plays guitar, but says it’s uncomfortable when he’s playing with a slide. He also does work on the side with fixing jukeboxes, so he wouldn’t wear the ring while doing that either. I really don’t mind him not wearing a ring when he’s playing, as long as he gets the tattoo! :-)

wow

April 22nd, 2011
9:53 am

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 22nd, 2011
9:53 am

What instrument does he play?
Celisea It’s called a Grafenberg. It can be played by mouth, finger, or other appendages. I could see how a ring might get in the way on this one. I play that instument myself. lol

Celisea

April 22nd, 2011
9:53 am

Swiss – Indeed.Especially to ho’s…

Irrrrrk (record scratch). Only ho’s

Poppa Grande

April 22nd, 2011
9:54 am

As for Prince William, there is no real need for him to wear a ring. Shoot, his wedding is going to be televised for the whole world to see. Everyone will know that he is married.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2011
9:55 am

@Blackfoote ~ guess the only tear you made was in your own ego. :wink:

The Reanimated Corpse of Swiss (now with titanium-infused bionic w@ng)

April 22nd, 2011
9:55 am

I think I told the story of the two Russion hoes who tried to run up on me at the pool in Jamaica on my honeymoon! Those hoes sat there & watched be being all lovey-dovey with Mrs. Swiss for a good 30-40 minutes & as soon as soon as she left for 5 minutes to go the ladies room, they tried to pounce… :lol: Silly hoes.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 22nd, 2011
9:55 am

@Blackfoote/Fion

Ring or not, some ladies can smell when you are with someone; and they pounce.

Leggs

April 22nd, 2011
9:56 am

Good one, DreamsM. Good one!