My friend Kevin had a woman show up at his home unexpectedly this weekend. They have been on 3 dates so far and he couldn’t remember telling her where she lived. He sent me a text message asking me if I gave her his home address (they met through at a mutual friend’s birthday dinner) and of course I hadn’t.
He is trying to figure out if she is some crazy, stalker girl or if he inadvertently gave her his address. Even so, she took the liberty of coming by with a bag of groceries to cook him a nice Sunday dinner. While the gesture was sweet and thoughtful, he is hung up on the fact that she pulled a pop-up visit on him.
I don’t know why it’s a big deal, though. Do men dislike surprise visits from women that much? If you really like them, does it matter if they show up unannounced?
Admittedly, I don’t know if I’d pop up on a new guy in my life, and I probably would raise an eyebrow if he did it to me. I don’t think it would be a deal breaker though!
What do you think? Do you wait on an invitation to the man’s home or do you feel comfortable coming by on a whim?
Have you ever shown up somewhere your date wasn’t expecting you? Did it go over well? Are you generally opposed to surprises when it comes to this kind of thing?
I kind of like dating surprises! As long as they don’t result in injury, jail time, or a hefty fine for public nudity. Not saying any of those things have happened to me, though.
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog