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Date debate: Obligations

The fastest way to find out if you and your date have similar “moral compasses” is to bring up the topic of “obligatory sex” (yes, those are sarcastic quotation marks).  I found that it’s one of those getting to know you topics that a man and woman can have that lets them know just how compatible they are.  Trust me.

At one point, I had to stop and think how we even got here.  The conversation related to someone not being in the mood and how their partner deals with it.  I agreed that I would not state my personal opinion on the topic until after the MIA blog readers discussed what they thought, so I will just frame the topic like this:

Is there ever a time when you are obligated to be intimate with your partner?

Would you ever tell your partner that they are obligated to please you?

How important is it to find out about a person’s attitudes/views about sex when you are dating? When do you start exploring that topic with them?

P.S. Have you ever been on a date with someone and they said something that annoyed you so much that you wanted to get up and walk out? Yeah, just wondering.

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

227 comments Add your comment

Sexual Chocolate

April 18th, 2011
6:31 am

One word – Chemistry! Either you got it or you don’t. If you like to fugg don’t hook up with someone who does not!

catlady

April 18th, 2011
6:39 am

Obligatory? No. Consensual? Yes.

Have I ever walked out on a date? No, but I can imagine doing that in the wrong situation.

Have I ever been turned down when I wanted sex? Yes. It hurts. Didn’t like it.

tyrone from east point

April 18th, 2011
6:44 am

During Holy Week…Easter is Sunday, this is your topic?

JT

April 18th, 2011
7:10 am

I wouldn’t call it obligatory sex, I would think that everyone would want to satisfy their partner’s desire/need. It’s called sacrifice/compromise. Now on the flip side of that is if you have had an awful day, extremely tired, or just have other pressing issues, your partner should understand that sex can wait unitl a better time.

Never walked out on a date, nor had anyone walk out on me…

mikey D

April 18th, 2011
7:23 am

two weeks hump or dump

CEB

April 18th, 2011
7:23 am

Olderandwiser49

April 18th, 2011
7:27 am

Sex should simply “happen”. It should not be forced, coerced, or given as a sense of obligation. “Obligatory Sex” has the same effect as asking for an apology or asking someone if they love you – the response is meaningless. Sex, like love, should be given freely and unconditionally, or not at all.

zinc

April 18th, 2011
7:36 am

I think obligatory is a tough word but yes, there are times that I have not been in the mood and still had sex with my partner. But in nearly all of those situations, we were in a committed relationship. I can recall a few times where I knew I was over dating a woman and had yet to break it off but we were spending time together. In each of those cases, I feel obliged a bit to have sex because that is what she wanted.

I do think there is a point in a committed relationship where each partner must give into the other from time to time. That is part of being in a relationship. Right now, my fiance and I are in the mood at totally different times of the day. She is a right before bed person. I am more of a middle of the day person. It is a give and take relationship to meet both our needs.

On you last note, I have had TWO dates that I nearly walked out on. One was with a woman that I had been on numerous dates with. She made a disparaging comment about the waiters ethnicity that was overheard by the table next to us. It immediately turned to an argument so I found our waitress and asked her to make our order to go. Date over. The second was a first date with a someone that I really liked. We had a great banter and buildup to the date. She was a bit nervous and showed up on the date a bit tipsy. After the second drink she spilled her guts on the entire world of politics. While I agreed with 99% of what she was saying, it was totally inappropriate in the setting. And a major turnoff. Needless to say, I didn’t leave but I instantly ended the dating part of the relationship. We later became really good friends.

Atlanta= land of the free, home of the thirsty

April 18th, 2011
8:42 am

If the date is going bad, text a friend and have them concoct a faux emergency to call and get you out of it. Or, simply tough it out and never see the person again. Thankfully I have never had to do this but I have been a “saver” before.

I am NEVER obligated to do anything. Call it callous, selfish. Idc

SlimNumeroUno

April 18th, 2011
9:13 am

Marvelous Monday to all,

Nope, never walked out on a date or had the urge to pull a disappearing act due to something brash they said. I’m pretty much in line with what has already been said regarding the Obligatory versus Consentual sex. There have been plenty of times when my partner and I were not on the same sex wavelenght/schedule. I tend to lean more toward night time nookie as opposed to morning gooshie. There have also been times when i wasn’t really in the mood but he was so geared up that I went along with the program. More times than not, I ended up happy that I did oblige him. I’m sure it has gone both ways with him not wanting to really give it up but he does OR he’ll please me in a less strenuous way…that way everyone is happy. ;-)

MC Hammock

April 18th, 2011
9:15 am

No such thing as oblicatory sex. You either want to or you don’t. HOWEVER, if you don’t want to, bear in mind that there is a sea of fish out there that want to. Don’t think someone will just hang around for a while because of your personality and good looks. I’d rather cut the grass with fingernail clippers in a hail storm that have sex with someone that didn’t want to. But you put yourself in that position if it is a constant thing. Moving on to more lubricated pastures.

Never had a date walk out on me, but I have no doubt that some have wanted to. I have asked for the check prematurely and taken a date home prematurely because they were being a pain or it was going very, very poorly. If you act like a biotch, you’ll get treated like one. You act like a pain and I’ll remove the cause of that pain. Nothing personal about it….well, yeah it is.

czBrat

April 18th, 2011
9:16 am

HiYas!

i’m with zinc n jt on this one. although “obligatory” leaves a bitter taste in my mouth, there have been times i’ve had to push issues aside and take care of my s/o. he’s an amazing man and should not be wandering around unfulfilled :razz: but he doesn’t pout if he gets an occasional “no. thanx” either.

i hear ya on this too —-> my fiance and I are in the mood at totally different times of the day.
good sex knocks me right out, so i’m all for it just before bed. s/o says it’s the best way to start the day. i tell ya i STRUGGLE to get up and at ‘em after a good a.m. romp. :lol:

Pamela Anderson

April 18th, 2011
9:18 am

I think that every man is obligated to want to have sex with me all the time. If you won’t have sex with me, I’ll walk out on you. It’s that simple.

Simple Man!!!!!

April 18th, 2011
9:27 am

Morning Folks!!! Gonna be first to admit it…had a date walk out on me once…We were on a first date, She felt the wait staff was a bit to friendly…She mentioned it to me, I laughed…she excused herself to go to the bathroom..waitress came over and said I think your date just left..I said, good thing we she had not ordered!!! I invited 3 ladies that were waiting for a table to join me, and they were wonderful ladies and it tured out to be a much better time than I was having with the original….

knockoutblonde

April 18th, 2011
9:30 am

Yes, I have walked out on a date. My time is too important to me to just go through the motions for an entire evening.

Yes, it is very, very, very importnat to me to be on the same page with regards to the moral compass and sex. I will not give or accept obligatory sex under any circumstance. Problem is, if I’m vibing with you and things are going well. I’ll be wondering what sex with you is like. Whether that happens or not is another story. But you better believe I’ll be thinking about it. Can’t say that I can remember a man saying NO to sex when the offer is on the table. I would think there is something very strange with him if he did. And don’t give me this moral comopass thing. Men are men and I love ‘em. They may try and act otherwise, but if you put a pretty face, a nice pair and an amorous attitude in front of them….it’s a done deal.

SlimNumeroUno

April 18th, 2011
9:35 am

czBrat – I’m the same way…good sex is a great night cap. So when you come humping my backside in the wee hours of the morning, all i can think is I’m not ready to get up as it is, now you want to take my last few minutes of sleep time away. lol Then if we get our morning groove on, i want to roll over and go back to sleep…not get up shower to get ready to go to work with the wobbly legs. :oops:

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
9:37 am

Obligatory anything is within marriage and marriage only. And that’s not a bad thing at all.

SlimNumeroUno

April 18th, 2011
9:41 am

Raqi – I understand your point of in Marriage-Only on the obligatory sex but that does happen as well when you’ve been in a long term relationship. Everyone isn’t on the same page at the exact same time All the time.

czBrat

April 18th, 2011
9:42 am

um. no, simple, i had not left. that trifling server lied. i returned to see the menage going on at our table, then i left. btw, you owe me cab fare.
i kid! how are ya?

omg, slim! i couldn’t have said it any better. LOL. it’s to the point s/o will warn me that he’s setting my alarm a half hour earlier so i can be prepared. my compromise is that i DO roll over and snooze …. i just skip my morning yoga. :}

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
9:48 am

SlimN, believe you me, I know and agree. The hub and I dated for 4-1/2 years before the getting married. I was just pointing out the fact that “obligation” in the true sense is only when you are married.

Before marriage we did because we love each other. In marriage we do because we love each other AND because it’s our duty as husband and wife.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
9:50 am

Good morning.

I agree with everyone who feels the word “obligatory” is a bit harsh. In all relationship there are times when one party wants sex and the other isn’t necessarily in the mood. It’s called compromise. Because once you start, your mind and body will be in sync and you’ll find your more in the mood than you originally thought.

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
9:54 am

That’s why I feel marriage is the ultimate commitment. It’s put you on the spot of obligation, duty and being accountable to each other.

SlimNumeroUno

April 18th, 2011
9:56 am

Raqi – I gotcha ;-)

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
9:57 am

Leggs, I say it all the time, anybody can be persuaded. The key to commitment in my opinion is allowing yourself to be open to be persuaded.

It’s says much about a person that cannot make themselves do for their partner just because they are not feeling it at the time. But there is balance to be had even in wanting and giving in.

Simple man!!!!

April 18th, 2011
9:58 am

CZ…LOL….You should have taken a Town Car!!! You are sooo much better than a cab!! :)

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
10:06 am

Exactly, Raqi V! Exactamundo!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
10:10 am

Morning folks…

There are certain things that husbands & wives should do (willingly and happily) to keep their spouse happy (and to just plain keep their spouse). Guys need to handle their business, take care of any problems/projects around the house, help out with the house work (especially if the wife works), avoid being a slob, and keep the romance going in the relationship (take the wife out on dates, do random thoughtful things just to let her know you’re still courting her, etc.). And women had d@mn well better f__k their husbands. Well. :lol: If those things don’t get done (by either party) there will be problems….

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
10:14 am

Swiss, LOL at you making it seem like that’s all a wife has to do – fhh. There is a lot more to being a wife…a good wife than just fhh.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
10:16 am

Message to all from Me.lo – “responding to u from my hotel suite in Harare.

I will be back in the Atl on the 19th of April and at work maybe a day or two later after shacking off the jet lag. Talk to u guys soon and tell everyone I said hello. Celisea, I’m well, but tired!”

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
10:16 am

Raqi — This is true. But the f__king (or lack thereof) is the one universal deal-breaker for us dudes… ;-)

For Real

April 18th, 2011
10:20 am

Morning Blog Fam!!!

The only obligations a man and a women have to each other is when they are married. PERIOD!!!

I walked out on a date. It wasn’t anything one thing she said but she was just so freaking mean and bitter about her past. So I told this evening is not going to work paid for her dinner and jetted.

czBrat

April 18th, 2011
10:21 am

LMAO @ Raqi. i was thinking ‘dang. swiss makes it sound like we get a pretty sweet deal’.

swiss, if you subscribe to the chris rock theory of love and marriage, you left out two major deal-breakers. ijs.

hola, Leggs!!

TenderRoni

April 18th, 2011
10:22 am

Morning All,
I agree with most who has stated that its about compromise. Its about setting my feelings, and giving to my partner. When I’m not in the mood, I can usually muster up the feelings to get me in the mood, with the help of the s/o of course.

I have never walked out on a date. But I had one date where he wanted to continue the date somewhere else, and I nicely declined to go the next venue. Luckily I drove, and I throw up the Dueces and was out.

kimmie

April 18th, 2011
10:25 am

Good morning All! Still in “move” mode, but I can finally see light at the end of the tunnel. I feel good that a lot of things I am giving away will go to good use by others who really need them.

On topic – I’ll start at the bottom. Have never walked out on a date or had one to walk on me. I have scheduled a date where a early exit was guaranteed, like a lunch date during a work day. Glad I did too, because I did not want to go out with him again and an entire evening would have been torture.

As for obligation, while true the only real obligation is within a marriage, certain considerations have been made within a long-term relationship as well. It is a good test for marriage, if you are willing to compromise or bend a little, you all may be ready to take it to the next level. If not and you are so unyeilding, then yeah, stay single.

For Real

April 18th, 2011
10:25 am

“Guys need to handle their business, take care of any problems/projects around the house, help out with the house work (especially if the wife works), avoid being a slob, and keep the romance going in the relationship (take the wife out on dates, do random thoughtful things just to let her know you’re still courting her, etc.). And women had d@mn well better f__k their husbands. Well. :lol: If those things don’t get done (by either party) there will be problems….” – And the queye said AMAN!!!!

“It’s says much about a person that cannot make themselves do for their partner just because they are not feeling it at the time.” – I’ll say it again, you are one quirky chick but you get it.

TenderRoni

April 18th, 2011
10:26 am

@Swiss- thank you for your post, plain and simple man prespective

For Real

April 18th, 2011
10:28 am

Raqi: On your 9:57 post, what always amaze me is when people will do any and everything they can to keep a job but will disregard their partner and put limitation on their partners but not their job.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
10:30 am

cz / Raqi — I’m not saying that’s the only thing involved in being a good wife / keeping a husband happy… but I am saying that that’s the one thing guaranteed to be an issue for any husband if it’s not happening.

But since you mention it, I do have to say, from a dude’s perspective — a good f__k won’t make other issues go away… but it will make me forget about them for a while… :lol:

Dr. Spock

April 18th, 2011
10:35 am

When a relationship or marriage is going well, sex occupies about 40% of the marriage. When things are bad in the relationship/marriage, sex is 90% of the problem.

I didn’t make that up. That was one of the quotes from a marriage counseling session.

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
10:44 am

ForReal, I agree. Yep folks will give their all without complaint, endure all kinds of aggravation and manipulation to keep a job, but find it to be asking too much to be obligated and/or have a duty to their spouse.

They are pretty much telling their spouse or S/O, “you don’t mean that much to me”.

For Real

April 18th, 2011
10:45 am

Dr. Spock: One major issue between couple is the definition of “When a relationship is going well” and “When a relationship isn’t going well”. Since men and women see things differently often times their perception of the relationship will differ.

Blog please rank each in order of important:

Money

Children

Work

Sex

Household

Friends

Family (In-laws)

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
10:45 am

Swiss, that may be a thing but it’s definitely not the only thing that can create a problem in my relationship.

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
10:47 am

ForReal, in the ranking, for your entertainment, can I place equal importance in more than one area?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
10:48 am

Raqi — We’re saying the same thing. :lol: Yes, there are other things that will be issues (and will vary from one guy to the next) — but the sex thing will be an issue for every guy. That’s all I’m saying.

For Real

April 18th, 2011
10:49 am

Raqi no, describe them as 1 and 1a cause nothing in life is equal.

czBrat

April 18th, 2011
10:49 am

can we add “we time” to that list? or is that considered “household”????

For Real

April 18th, 2011
10:51 am

Swiss: I also believe the definition of “an issue” and “a problem” differ between men and women. I believe an issue is something minor but a problem is going to cause some money and time. Where women use them interchangeably which cause dudes to get the gas face.

kimmie

April 18th, 2011
10:52 am

What I’ve noticed, from the outside looking in, is that when folks are willing to put their career/job ahead of spouse/family – when they would RATHER work late than go home, something is not going right in the relationship.

Some don’t have the OPTION of making adjustments at work. They just don’t have those types of jobs. So they have to make the best of things when they are at home.

For Real

April 18th, 2011
10:53 am

Brat: I can tell what type of student you were in school. No, answer the questions before you please and uncross your legs while sitting at your desk for Prof. For Real.

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
10:55 am

I have to say all areas are of equal importance, as with everything has its place at its appropriate time.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
10:57 am

“I also believe the definition of “an issue” and “a problem” differ between men and women.”

For Real — Yep. And a woman’s definition of “issue” and “problem” can also differ, depending on the time of month. ;-) :lol: Oh hell, where did I put that vest…?

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
10:59 am

czBrat

April 18th, 2011
11:05 am

fine! *legs AND arms now crossed. pouting!*

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
11:08 am

Why you pouting…you didn’t get enough (lol)?

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
11:09 am

Making sure I make wise choices in spending money is just as important to me as being a good mother to my babies.

Wanting to be a good mother made me get up at 5am and go to the hospital this morning however I made it back here in time to make breakfast for my family and my husband was able to leave for work on time.

Realizing my husband has needs and willing to meet those ranks in equal importance of making wise spending choices with the money he works so hard to obtain.

No I will not neglect my babies need for food or comfort when sick so I can give my husband sex. No. However being intimate with my husband is very important to me that I will not put our non-sick child in the bed with us as to prevent from being intimate with my husband.

I will say that friends and family rank lesser than all other areas. They are important to have in our lives but not as important as other things.

One example: I am meeting my husband for lunch today because we need to spend time together. I love my daughter and she is normally here with me but the hub dropped her off at the ggm this morning so he and I can have lunch alone together. My daughter is no less important being that she is not joining us in lunch, it’s just time for the hub and I to spend a few hours together outside of the house.

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
11:12 am

And as I reach to grab my purse and keys I will say again, there is a time and place for everybody and everything in our lives that are of equal importance.

Have a good afternoon.

kimmie

April 18th, 2011
11:19 am

Raqi – Very well said.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
11:36 am

We are obligated to please each other daily whether it involves sex or not, but sex should not feel like a “job” unless you are role playing.

I have never had nor have I walked out on a date. But I have stood people up and I have been stood up at the last minute.

TenderRoni

April 18th, 2011
11:55 am

@ForReal- I will take a stab at your list:
1.household- when the house is in order everything else should follow
2. children- their needs will always be at the top
3. sex- gotta have it
4. money- all ready straight
5. work- pretty stable, work hard to pay bills and live comfortable
6. family (in laws)- keep them close, but not too close
7. friends- great to have them in my life, but family comes first

The first three are the balancing act, they will always be interchange depending on the day of the week. my .02cents

For Real

April 18th, 2011
12:09 pm

Thank you Tender. You get a gold star for following directions without a narrative. Although that was a good narrative Raqi, it’s just not what I tasked you to do.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
12:20 pm

D@mn, it’s slow today… May as well take a crack at For Real’s list:

1) Household — I’m taking this to mean the general state of the most important relationship in the household (that of the husband & wife)

2) Sex — (Although, given my definition of “household,” I see this as one part of #1)

3) Children — Well, if I had any. But until I do, this one is omitted from my list…

4) Money

5) Work — 4 & 5 are really 1 & the same for me… i.e. the only reason I work is to make money. Now, if I hit that Mega Millions, then Work will also be omitted from my list…

6) Family

7) Friends

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
12:31 pm

Agree with the thought that it is an obligation *after* the vows.

Prior to, it’s just recognizing and being willing to fulfill the needs/desires of your partner.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 18th, 2011
12:40 pm

Afternoon
You aren’t obligated to have sex with anyone (barring marriage obligations), but as a man you will probably get called every name in the book for refusing sex. Women want it when they want it, and they don’t take “no” for an answer.

I’ve never walked out on anyone, and no chick has ever walked out on me. I’m not saying I’m above either one though. lol

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
12:59 pm

“but as a man you will probably get called every name in the book for refusing sex.”

Dreams — Yeah, at the top of that list: “gay.” As in: “He MUST be gay if he doesn’t want to get with THIS” — said by the 300lb woman with “fromunda” cheese stains all around her CT… :lol:

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
1:11 pm

Afternoon All,

I agree with most that obligation is such a harsh word. I also agree that only comes into play once Married. Even with that its ok to feel obligated to do the do but I would surmise you’d have a better quality of Life if you found a better way to dress up that conversation.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
1:24 pm

WOW, it really is slow in here today.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
1:28 pm

Just got back from an home energy efficiency workshop. Presentation would have been so much better if he didn’t sound like Ben Stein!

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
1:34 pm

Leggs – That sounds boring as heyal regardless of the speaker. Hopefully you got something out of it to save a few $$$.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
1:46 pm

@WD ~ Didn’t get anything out of it. Well, I did. LED lighting is the way to go. HDepot sells the bulbs at $16.00 apiece. Very useful info for my budget. :wink:

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 18th, 2011
1:47 pm

Yeah, at the top of that list: “gay.” As in: “He MUST be gay if he doesn’t want to get with THIS” — said by the 300lb woman with “fromunda” cheese stains all around her CT…
swiss yeah “gay” is probably the first word that flies out. that’s just their way of rationalizing the rejection. lol

Presentation would have been so much better if he didn’t sound like Ben Stein!
Leggs They should have called me in to deliver the knock out blow with a presentation on the anisotropic nature of laser-induced photon scattering by rubidium-87 in a 3-dimensional optical lattice. That usually works better than Nyquil. lol

WillieD what’s good man. it’s scarce in here today. I think there were more people at the Rapping Duke’s 6th album party last year than there are in here. lol

kimmie

April 18th, 2011
1:50 pm

Leggs – Well you know the “best” way is usually the most expensive way!

Sounds like it was a real snoozer!LOL!!

abc

April 18th, 2011
1:51 pm

A spouse should be regarded above the children. Kids are not always the top priority, and they shouldn’t be.

AmazonRed™

April 18th, 2011
1:54 pm

Afternoon lovelies -

Have you ever been on a date with someone and they said something that annoyed you so much that you wanted to get up and walk out? Yeah, just wondering.

Yes I have. Did I? No. Just kept it classy, when the check came I insisted I pay my share, and never spoke to him again.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
1:56 pm

I suppose women say “gay” just as fast you guys say “beeotch.”

SlimNumeroUno

April 18th, 2011
1:57 pm

Hmmm, list….here goes

Household
Sex
Money
Family
Friends
Work
Children – don’t have any…yet

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
1:58 pm

@DreamsM ~ before I got to the Nyquil part, I said “sheesh, that would put me to sleep!” :lol:

@Willie D ~ in a room of 35 people, there were only 2 black people (me and another female).

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
1:59 pm

Dreams – wassup mayne, just flying under the radar on this end. The word Obligation will usually send the blog ladies underground. hahaha

kimmie

April 18th, 2011
2:00 pm

Leggs – Yep, or we get the usual “Well if you won’t, someone else will” spill.

Or a woman can assume if he’s turning her down, he’s probably getting it SOMEWHERE! LOL!!

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
2:03 pm

I knew someone would come on and say spouse should come before children. We had a very lenghty blog discussion over children vs. spouse in the past.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
2:05 pm

@kimmie ~ just this past weekend I told lil leggs when a boy tells her that she’s to tell him “then let someone else!”

THE INFAMOUS DK

April 18th, 2011
2:05 pm

I just dropped by to drop a heavy duty joint on ya’ll ..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZeKaHBMKows

Good afternoon Party people..

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
2:06 pm

Leggs – the practical things needed to make your home energy efficient are what your Grandma told you years and years ago. You have the most energy efficient home and still have bad habits that will drive your costs up.

ABC – I understand that and I’m consciously working on that. The problem is Deep down I know that my Wife may not always be my wife but my kids gon be my kids no matter what.

AmazonRed™

April 18th, 2011
2:07 pm

Oh, and seeing as I’m not married, I’m not obligated to anyone for sex. :lol:

However, there is always the time in dating when you’ve been going out regularly, he’s spent a lot of money, and there have been some heavy make out sessions. You’re fine with continuing this pattern but you know he’s ready to slide into home. :lol:

Is some physical better than none? Or should you just be a nun until you are completely ready to go all the way?

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
2:08 pm

meant to say you CAN have

kimmie

April 18th, 2011
2:09 pm

Leggs – Absolutely and I’m glad you told her that!

To be honest, a guy has to do a lot more that turn me down one or two times for me to think he might bat for the other team!

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
2:11 pm

Ladies line up! I am here for the obligatory sex that you all owe me!…..I listen to the voices in my pants………….

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
2:15 pm

Ared – I use a general rule of thumb that I use to verbalize during the making out sessions. When I pass second base then I’m sliding into home, I don’t recognize Third. Stop me at Second and we good. I would most times stop myself at second just to get the signal to take home. Don’t play with me cause I fo sho aint playing with you.

AmazonRed™

April 18th, 2011
2:15 pm

God

Husband

Children

Family (In-laws)

Money

Household

Work

Sex

Friends

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
2:20 pm

God

Wife

Children

Household

Family (In-laws)

Friends

Money

Work

Sex

AmazonRed™

April 18th, 2011
2:21 pm

When I pass second base then I’m sliding into home, I don’t recognize Third. Stop me at Second and we good.

Good to know. I guess it’s bad if I tag you out as you’re sliding into home huh? :lol:

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
2:28 pm

Ared – I see you conveniently skipped the next line. I’m stopping to wait for the you to wave me home, Then I’m sliding head first. At that point I think we’ll both be pleased with the decision. You aint fooling me, I know you being a Sag and your temperment you don’t recognize third either. Knowing you they get thrown out at first quickly.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
2:29 pm

Leggs — Touche’ ;-)

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
2:29 pm

Obligatory sex…..boy…that sounds like NO fun.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
2:31 pm

But you have to admit, Leggs, dudes handle rejection (for s#x, particularly) much better than chicks. We’re used to it. But some of y’all will lose your d@mn minds if we turn down the puddy… :lol:

AmazonRed™

April 18th, 2011
2:32 pm

Ared – I see you conveniently skipped the next line. I’m stopping to wait for the you to wave me home,

I didn’t miss anything. Many a man thought the signals I gave were waving him home, when really my ear was itching. :lol:

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
2:33 pm

Obligatory sex…..boy…that sounds like NO fun

tell me about it, don’t do me no favors even if you are Mrs.Dynamite.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
2:34 pm

SexyCool it depends. LOL

Swiss, guys handle any kind of rejection better than a woman.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
2:35 pm

Swiss, unless that woman had beaten a man in a sporting event or weight lifting or something. That rejection would be the worst.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
2:36 pm

I think that I would get over the intial pangs of obligatory sex once I start to climax. I may feel empty afterwards but for that climatic moment all will be okay!

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
2:38 pm

Well if you won’t, someone else will

kimmie, that’s when you say “Let me show the door”. LOL

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
2:39 pm

“If you won’t someone will” I think we discussed that and one of the ladies said that was okay to say to a man.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
2:40 pm

Interesting, PR/swiss. When talking about “rejection” I immediately turn to all the conversations over the dance floor and men being timid to ask a girl to dance for fear of her saying no then having to walk back to the table with his friends (sorry for the run-on sentence). If they take that badly, I would surmise being rejected for sex would truly injure their ego. I always thought women handled rejection better then men only because I don’t know many weak women! A no isn’t the end of the world, but if you continuously keep saying no, then it’s not the sex that’s the problem, it’s the relationship.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 18th, 2011
2:40 pm

<emI suppose women say “gay” just as fast you guys say “beeotch.”
Leggs Naw, I don’t think so. Guys learned that rejection is part of the game at like 2. Yeah there’s still some who don’t handle it in stride, but most know what’s up. Women, on the other hand, get livid when they want some Marvin Gaye and can’t get it.

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
2:41 pm

Sounds like this is the thought process….”Dude, I’m just doing this cause yo’ dick.johnson is poking me in the back and waking me up. KY me down and come on. No, seriously COME on. I’m tired and I’m ready to go back to sleep. So, I’m gone go ‘head and break you off so you can shutdahellup and I can meet my obligation and get some damn rest.”

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
2:41 pm

Never liked that sentence “if you won’t someone else will.” To guilt someone into giving themselves up simply to please you is crazy and proves just how selfish you really are. IMO

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
2:42 pm

Ared – naww dayum ya ear, its something else twitching. See I can read lips, especialy DSL’s (yours). You clearly said ‘come get this P&*#&*’ . Thats my story and i’m sticking to it.

kimmie

April 18th, 2011
2:42 pm

Swiss/Purple – I wouldn’t know how other women react or feel after being turned down. But speaking for myself, I guess I’ve not been so confident and arrogant as to have that “how dare he” attitude. The few times it has happened in my life, especially when I was younger, I thought something must be wrong with me. I am fastidious about personal hygiene, almost paranoid about it, so I’m hoping he didn’t think I was not too tidy. Or was my technique off, did I do something wrong? As I got older, I’m more realistic. I’m a together woman, but every man is not going to be interested in me in that way – and that’s okay. As long as my SO is interested, that’s all that matters. If there is an issue, we work it out.

kimmie

April 18th, 2011
2:45 pm

That “if you won’t” mess is the tiredest line in the book. You haven’t SEEN rejection till you use that line on ME!!!

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 18th, 2011
2:45 pm

Well if you won’t, someone else will
What lamo cat says this? Sounds like a last ditch effort out of desparation …showing all your cards and handing over leverage. If you can get it somewhere else, then do it. No need to announce it.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
2:47 pm

“Guys learned that rejection is part of the game at like 2.”

Hmmmmmmmmm??

Laughing at you SexyC. But you are on point!

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
2:47 pm

Well if you won’t, someone else will

I can honestly say I’ve never used that line.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
2:50 pm

@kimmie/DreamsM ~ I’m speaking strictly from a young boy’s mindset. I sure hope no grown a$$ man is uttering those words. We were just sitting around talking about all the bi-girls, the straight up gay girls at her school and the lines some guys use on the straight girls. I started the convo off asking if she heard the phrase “blue balls” and the convo escalated.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
2:51 pm

Leggs, that must have been someone else using your name because I thought you said it was okay to tell a guy that. LOL

I think guys handle rejection better because if a woman is confident enough to put herself in a position in which she might be rejected it just makes it that much worse. Rejection doesn’t bother me, Iw ill just take my ball and try and shoot hoops on another court. Plenty fish in the see, just have to cast a new type of bait. LOL

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
2:51 pm

“When talking about “rejection” I immediately turn to all the conversations over the dance floor and men being timid to ask a girl to dance for fear of her saying no then having to walk back to the table with his friends (sorry for the run-on sentence).”

Leggs — Where do you see those guys? At the middle school Sadie Hawkins Dance? :lol:

Most dudes I know in that situation would take about 0.063 seconds to pivot & start macking on the chick beside you… :lol:

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
2:52 pm

SexyCool, for me “obligatory” covers those times when you are doing it for the team. LOL

(I know you know this but amuse me all the same. LOL)

Seriously…think about it…TheDude not coming thru for you EVER when he is just not feeling it. How disappointing and disconcerting would that be? If you all only watched what he wants to watch, only go out when and where he wants to go, only eat what he likes and only have sex when he wants it, that pretty much says he only cares about himself and is just using you as a filler.

Him engaging in obligatory activities shows he loves and cares for you.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
2:53 pm

@WillieD ~ glad to hear it…sounds like someone’s having a hissy fit when they say that nonsense.

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
2:54 pm

whats funny is Women can point to 1 maybe 2 times in their life being rejected. Then like Kimmie says they look around doing the sniff test wondering what that was about.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
2:55 pm

If it’s one of those rare times I am not feeling like having sex once I get inside all those feeling subside very quickly. LOL I’m so easy, my mind will say no but my body will say yes. THe body wins everytime! I’m such a slut for her. I am handling the no play zone quite well. I have given up on porn too, I am on a record run this time.

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
2:55 pm

SexyCool on that 2:41pm you just make it seem so…let’s say…BAD.

It sort of along those lines but with a lot more love and care and a lot less callousness. LOL

Sassy Me...lost like Nemo :-)

April 18th, 2011
2:56 pm

….”Dude, I’m just doing this cause yo’ dick.johnson is poking me in the back and waking me up. KY me down and come on. No, seriously COME on. I’m tired and I’m ready to go back to sleep. So, I’m gone go ‘head and break you off so you can shutdahellup and I can meet my obligation and get some damn rest.”

As I wipe water off my monitor….

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
2:56 pm

@swiss ~ I see them when I go out. BUT, I read what most of you MLBs have posted over the years about going over and asking a girl to dance.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
2:58 pm

Willie D, good point most ment can’t count how many times or instances that they have been rejected a woman can give you a time and place and all sorts of other details about the few times that they have been.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
2:58 pm

And, for the record, not all men are as big, strong, macho, the roaring alpha male as all of you seem to be! Just like not all women are weak like the ones you guys seem to talk about that goes ballistic at rejection!

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:00 pm

@WillieD ~ She instantly did an introspection of herself. That’s not always the right thing to do! Why should she down herself immediately.
Behind closed doors, you guys do the same thing!!!

AmazonRed™

April 18th, 2011
3:01 pm

See I can read lips, especialy DSL’s (yours). You clearly said ‘come get this P&*#&*’ . Thats my story and i’m sticking to it.

See, this is why fools get tagged out at home plate. :lol:

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:03 pm

Leggs, record has been noted!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
3:04 pm

I don’t think it’s a question of weak or strong — it’s just a question of practice. :lol: We have a lot more of it. If dudes didn’t learn to brush off rejection & keep it moving, the species would die out, ‘cos we’d have given up a looooong time ago… :lol:

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:06 pm

Ladies this is what I have observed sometimes. Tell me how this makes you all feel. The guy just stands there staring obviously. Then he does not ask you to dance but just starts dancing in your area then slowly starts busting moves until he is right up on you. I have never seen that work once with a sober woman.

Also, why do women dance in groups then get mad when a guy comes and tries to join in?

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
3:06 pm

Purp – so true, we get so used to it that some dudes cant believe they actually suceeded. hahaha

Leggs- So you trying to tell me that Women handle sexual rejection better than men. Really is that what you are trying to say?

Ared – you win, at least i got my uniform dirty dayum.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:06 pm

@PR ~ nothing new. You make it sound bad. A woman can give you a time, date and place for just about anything significant in her life, GOOD OR BAD!

Lord Velonese

April 18th, 2011
3:07 pm

“During Holy Week…Easter is Sunday, this is your topic?”

Best comment thus far today. Dr.Spock should return his or her degree.

kimmie

April 18th, 2011
3:07 pm

Leggs – Yes, introspection indeed. And that was in younger days, when I was not as confident.

Plus, my thought process on this rejection thing is in the confines of a relationship. If the person I’ve been “regular” with keeps turning me down and I know he’s not ill, got a sick child or otherwise preoccupied, there is something wrong. And yes, the problem could be me. But I’m not just walking up to dudes at a club asking for “favors”. Not the same thing.

Simple Man!!!!

April 18th, 2011
3:09 pm

“I’m gone go ‘head and break you off so you can shutdahellup and I can meet my obligation and get some damn rest.””

Well damn……

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:09 pm

@WillieF ~ we started off with sexual rejection, then we went straight to rejection. Depending on the situation, yeah, some women can handle it better than men, even in the sexual department!

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:14 pm

Leggs, thank you for proving my point. Rejection is significant for a woman, for a man it’s just part of life nothing significant. We just let it go.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:15 pm

@kimmie ~ I know exactly what you’re saying. I’ve always found it amazing that one (when we were younger) would immediately think they were at fault. Something had to be wrong with me, etc. instead of thinking positive about yourself and thinking perhaps something’s wrong with him. Too many young ladies immediately thought they were the problem! That’s all I’m saying. I don’t think I ever thought I was the problem, I just wasn’t the one for him!

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:16 pm

When men don’t call women pnoder why. When women don’t call we just call someone else.

When a woman flirts with a man and he doesn’t bite the women thinks, what is wrong with him?

When a man flirts with a woman and she doesn’t bite, we just start to flirt with someone else…her loss.

LOL

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

@PR ~ the only point I proved was your remark that women remember rejection. You made it sound like we especially remember the time, date etc when rejection occurred. That’s not true. We have the knack to remember the good as well as the bad with equal clarity!

Celisea

April 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

While I haven’t really read or skimmed, obligatory is within the confines of marriage. While I’m by no means as pure as the driven snow I’m amazed at how “far away” we’ve moved as a people. I just remember my daddy teaching me you don’t have to prove a thing in letting someone know you care/like them. Just had the preacher teaching this to the teens at church yesterday. While it may not be popular with the masses, nothing wrong with living and learning (as young folks) to live and do things the right way. I agree.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

“Might as well just get some cats!”- Stanley Q.

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

Leggs – WillieF mayne I get demoted a letter just for getting rejected more than you. hahaha

A woman can give you a time, date and place for just about anything significant in her life

So being turned down for Sex is something significant in your life??? I will accept your Some Women comment. But I can guarantee you that every Woman on this blog can get it 10 times before a Dude can. I can also guarantee you that every dude on this blog has been turned down 10X more (Married or not) than any Woman here has.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:19 pm

This is ridi*cu*lous! It’s absolutely amazing how weak some of you really think women are.

@PR ~ “When men don’t call women pnoder why. When women don’t call we just call someone else.” Brother, we do the same thing! And, remember this emotional rollercoaster definitely is a two-way street. Behind closed doors, you men are singing the words to Mr. Telephone Man!!! :wink:

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:19 pm

Leggs, you all do remember and you all lie to save face. Now what do you have to say to me?

kimmie

April 18th, 2011
3:20 pm

We just let it go.

Purple – So some chick at a club turns you down and you shake it off. Big deal. Would you just “let it go” if your wife continually turned you down, would it concern you at all? That’s where I’m coming from. I don’t give a flip about those that don’t give a flip about me.

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
3:21 pm

Clarification – I wasn’t saying that the above comment was my thought process. I’m just saying when it is made to sound like an obligation, it seems…so…dry…

I certainly don’t have those issues with TheDude. Like Purp said…my body responds to his touch and from there it is all good in the hood…cause that’s where I live now.

Did I tell y’all the police were arresting a guy in front of my house one morning last week when TheDude was leaving to go to work? (lol)

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:21 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: , so sorry, WillieD.

And, that was PR’s comment about a woman being able to give time, date and place for rejection. I just countered it with we’re able to do that with good and bad things, not just bad!

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:22 pm

Leggs, I disagree we are not that emotionally attached at the begining like women are. Why do you think it takes so long for a man to give a woman his heart? We are used to keeping it on standby because we are used to rejection. That why women are so all introspective so soon because the lead with their heart. Not all women but quite a few.

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
3:23 pm

Celisea, I agree.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:23 pm

kimmie, my wife is more wired than I am, don’t have those problems yet. So I can’t answer, I would probably welcome the “break” if it did get that way.

Willie Dynamite

April 18th, 2011
3:24 pm

Did I tell y’all the police were arresting a guy in front of my house one morning last week when TheDude was leaving to go to work? (lol)

Was that a Ex who couldn’t deal with rejection.

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
3:25 pm

As far as my guy saying no to sex, I did have to bring myself to a point of realizing that he was not rejecting me but rather not in the mood for sex.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:25 pm

Leggs, as soon as we said rejection I bet you could remember a time you were rejected. If a guy were to think about rejection it would all be a blur. But what we would remember is acceptance. LOL

For the record I can find a way to refute everything you type, if you haven’t caught on quite yet.

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
3:28 pm

The few times I can remember being blown off for sex were when I was in a supposedly committed relationship.

Which makes me think it’s more likely that a man is willing to take a pass on the puddy that is in house as opposed to puddy that comes and goes and that he is not guaranteed access to on a regular basis.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:28 pm

SexyCool, Simple Man proabably was trying to call the police on TheDude, so that his own odds would be better. What did the guy do, break into something?

I can tell you how to make your puppy a great guard dog in one easy step if you would like. Keep her away from anyone but you and your mate when at home, if you have company put her up and away. Only socialize her away from the house. That way if anyone comes to your home that is not you or TheDude, she will start barking like crazy!

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 18th, 2011
3:28 pm

If a guy were to think about rejection it would all be a blur.
Purp Only time dude remembers a rejection is if it’s a chick who circled around later down the road to get with him after the rejection.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:30 pm

Honestly I am to tired to try and entertain another puddy, my home puddy keeps me worn out. I have no energy to give to another puddy. I wonder if she is doing that on purpose? I tend to think so becuase even in the absence of puddy she gives me the best massages now and I don’t even ask for them.

kimmie

April 18th, 2011
3:30 pm

Purple – LOL!! You know what I’m saying though. Because of the “order” of things in society, men have traditionally done the asking so naturally they have more experience at dealing with rejection. Sounds common sense to me.

Dealing with a loved one rejecting you on such a personal level is a whole different deal. Hopefully you would not just say, “whatever” and go looking for love elsewhere until you’ve at least tried to make it work. Hopefully the other would compromise and work with you too, per the “obligation” part.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:31 pm

Dreams, yes you are right and then we have the power to rearrange her spine or just tell her “no thanks” LOL

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:32 pm

@PR ~ I’m too strong willed to lie. I’ll speak the truth. You ask, I’ll tell you. Now, I won’t necessarily step to you and volunteer information. :wink:

@SexyC ~ I thought it obvious!

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:33 pm

“Leggs, as soon as we said rejection I bet you could remember a time you were rejected. If a guy were to think about rejection”

Now, I really couldn’t. I’ve never been rejected when I invited someone to bed down with me (lol).

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:35 pm

kimmie, if a loved one told me no( I would be hurt….but then) I would ask her what does she mean “no”? Then again I would probably ignore her and keep trying. That’s why you can’t marry a big fat woman, if she says know you have to be able to pin her on her back with her legs up and lick her into submission.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:37 pm

Well Leggs, only an idiot would tell YOU know. Question have you ever asked a guy to come haev sex with you? I don’t want to know the nature of the relationship, just have you just needed some and called up a suitor to handle it?

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
3:38 pm

Other hood happenings – chick knocked on my door at 9p last night and asked me how much I paid for my house.

Celisea

April 18th, 2011
3:38 pm

Raqi – The discussion came up with the class of young adults as a copule of the 18/19 year olds are virgins and feeling pressured to give it up. My pastor took ‘em back a few years and introduced to how we use to do it. I dunno….I felt proud of them wanting to hold to a standard. :)

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:38 pm

SexyCool, did you move into a bad area?

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:39 pm

@PR ~ I been caught on to that. No sweat You’re not the only one. Two particular bloggers relish doing that, but only one posts to me.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:39 pm

Ladies when does no mean no and when does no mean “take it”?

Celisea

April 18th, 2011
3:40 pm

within and couple….typos…ya’ll be easy

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:40 pm

@PR ~ I have.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:41 pm

Leggs, I have not seen my other muse. So I bother you now because I know you won’t take it personally. :)

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:41 pm

OMG, SexyV ~ really. WOW, that’s hudtzpah (sp?)

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
3:43 pm

I moved into a “transitioning” area.

Lotsa buppies in my neighborhood, a few older people, a couple of young white families, some renters, the neighborhood drunk/homeless dude, some teenagers hanging out on the corner.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:43 pm

Leggs 3:40 is sexy!

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:44 pm

Sheesh, SexyC, SexyC!!!!

@PR ~ I don’t take it personally from you because you’re not nasty and finger pointing with your questions. As has always been said, it’s all about the delivery of the question/statement!

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
3:44 pm

Celisea, one thing I do know about myself personally, while I did not obey every single thing my parents taught me, that they did teach me kept me out of way more trouble than I did get into. That’s why I teach my babies. No matter what I did do wrong they need and deserve to be instilled with how I was taught and more.

Like I told my son the other day, life is life and yes some days may seem dull because other kids are allowed to do XYZ. But believe me there will come a day when you will appreciate not getting into certain things. There are some horrible things you can get into you will not be able to get out of.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:45 pm

SexyCool, is it a “sub-division” or a metro area?

Raqi V

April 18th, 2011
3:45 pm

SexyCool, transitioning for the better I assume?

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:46 pm

Leggs, the voices in my pants are telling me to flirt with you now :)

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:48 pm

I laughed this morning when you typed “voices in my pants!”

@SexyC ~ did she introduce herself first? How did you answer her?

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
3:49 pm

Metro area. And yes, for the better. APD now does daily foot patrols. Although, it’s actually pretty quiet. A Walmart is planned for less than a mile away. Lots of good things happening in the neighborhood.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
3:51 pm

PR ~ tell the voices to stop talking to you.

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
3:56 pm

She just said that she and her husband were looking to buy in the area and that they had seen the For Sale sign, but by that time there was already a contract and she just wondered how much I ended up paying for it.

I told her. Because if she really wants to find out, she can. Trust me, I know how much all of my neighbors paid for their houses, how many square feet they have, what their taxes were for the last three years, how much their solid waste bill was last year and all of the names of the property owners in the area. There is a site that you can go on that gives you a summary of all the police activity in the area and so on…..

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
3:59 pm

Leggs, tell them yourself. LOL

SexyCool, your process went really quick I thought it was going to be the end of the summer, maybe I read it wrong. How’s the puppy?

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
4:01 pm

Touche, PR, Touche!!!!

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
4:03 pm

I made the first offer on January 31st. Submitted highest and best on February 9th. Went under contract on February 18th. Closed April 5th.

GiGi is growing and driving me crazy. I went back to walking her every day on Friday. Gave her the chicken and rice yesterday. Will be at the vet’s office by Thursday if the bulkiness has not returned.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
4:04 pm

“Depending on the situation, yeah, some women can handle it better than men, even in the sexual department!”

You know I luvs me some Leggs, but from my experience, that ↑ is some bullisht… :lol: Ladies almost never get shot down, but even in committed relationships, dudes get turned down for sex all the time. We may pout for a minute, but then we grab a beer & watch the game & that’s that. I can remember 2 times in my life when I’ve rejected my girl (when in a committed relationship) and both times, you’d have thunk I slapped her mama — with The Matterhorn. :lol: It was all incredulity & threats: “Oh, we’ll see what happens the next time YOU want some then…”, etc… C’mon, now…

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:05 pm

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:06 pm

Ladies who here has been rejected by a man sexually? Put your hand down Simple Man!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
4:08 pm

:lol: D@mn, Purple, that was cold-blooded. Funny, but cold-blooded… :lol:

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:09 pm

Swiss, he will usually come out when I start chirping on him. LOL

For Real

April 18th, 2011
4:10 pm

DAYUM!!!! Purp!!!! Funny tho…..

Chink

April 18th, 2011
4:12 pm

PR I have when I was pregnant but he said he didn’t want to hurt the baby…that count? I still felt rejected!

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
4:13 pm

“Ladies almost never get shot down” – I did say that. PR kept yapping in my ear.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:15 pm

Chink, yes I guess that counts. Is that even possible?

For Real, LOL

For Real

April 18th, 2011
4:16 pm

Ding-Dong….

Sexcool: Oh look it’s our first welcome to the neighborhood. TheDude put your shirt on and why did you wear those sock and zip your pants up! Hello and good evening I’m Sexcool and this is TheDude. And what’s your name?

Lady Cross da Way: Lady Cross da Way. Look here I was wondering how much you paid for you house cause Imma be mad to def if I paid more. Hey your old man good at fixing ish? I need my garage doe fixed. Um yall wouldn’t happen to have a extra garage door opener would you? Wow that smells good what yall cooking for dinner? Smells like some African ish. Can you run me to sto? Child I’m out of pads and I’m on the second turn with this one unless you got some you can let me borrow.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:18 pm

For Real, okay the pad thing even grossed me out! Good Job!

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
4:18 pm

Chink

April 18th, 2011
4:20 pm

PR

No that’s why I felt bad and un sexy but hey I think he knew what I was having so maybe there was a mental block ..oh well

Simple Man!!!!

April 18th, 2011
4:21 pm

Damn Purp….Whats up with that!!!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
4:22 pm

Hey, it worked!

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
4:23 pm

That was funny, ForReal. Probably accurate in some neighborhoods.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:26 pm

Swiss, works like a charm everytime.

Hey Simple Man, you have been to quiet today. So I had to dig you up.

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
4:27 pm

I had one of my neighbors tell me that she grills out a lot and that sometimes she plays her music kinda loud. Finished that little speech up by saying, “But we all get along over here and don’t nobody call the cops.”

In other words, “Btch, if you call the cops on me for playing my music too loud, I’m gone know it was you.”

#NeverScared….lol…

Simple Man!!!!

April 18th, 2011
4:28 pm

Gotta get this work done……I dont get paid to be good looking!!!

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:29 pm

Chink, are you still in a relationship with the guy? I will say from experience that when your woman is pregnat it is sexy but the limitations suck! Sometimes that stomcah gets in the way.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:30 pm

Simple Man, you don’t or can’t? And why are you using so many exclamation points? LOL

For Real

April 18th, 2011
4:31 pm

“For Real, okay the pad thing even grossed me out! Good Job!” – Let it be known this 18th day the year of our lord 2011 that For Real hast caused Purp’s belly to curdle with great joy. That is all!!!

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:32 pm

For Real, yes I think I almost hurled when reading that. LOL

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
4:32 pm

@SexyC ~ I’m tapped out. Care to leave the E.O.D? Thank you.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
4:32 pm

“Let it be known this 18th day the year of our lord 2011 that For Real hast caused Purp’s belly to curdle with great joy”

Okay, now that grossed me out. You’re on a roll today, For Real:lol:

For Real

April 18th, 2011
4:34 pm

Lady Cross da Way now putting a copy of snitching in Sexycool’s mailbox with a note that says “If everything is everything then everything is all right”

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
4:34 pm

Sht happens?

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:34 pm

Swiss, touche’!

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:36 pm

I will leave the EOD:

“Benedici questa Casa, Donandoci Gioia e Amore”

Bless this place with love and laughter!

Simple Man!!!!

April 18th, 2011
4:36 pm

Purp. I dont… Folks that sign the check only want results…. :)

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:38 pm

Simple Man did you call the police opn that guy in Sexy Cools transition area?

Simple Man!!!!

April 18th, 2011
4:39 pm

Nope….Neighbors saw him peeking in Scool’s window….

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
4:40 pm

Dang, PR just bum rushed that E.O.D…you do know it’s 4:39 p.m.

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:46 pm

It’s actually 3:45 LOL

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:46 pm

This wife of mine is already talking about having another baby! I told her if we didn’t it would not be from a lack of trying. LOL

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
4:51 pm

Bum rush the show, you’ve got to go for what you know!

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
4:54 pm

I hear ya…I’ve heard it’s “a dog eat dog world”

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 18th, 2011
4:58 pm

“If you ever catch on fire, try to avoid looking in a mirror, because I bet that will really throw you into a panic.”

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
5:01 pm

On the good neighbor side…there is a lovely older couple that lives across the street. Mr. and Mrs. V. Mr. V came and cut our postage stamp of a yard Friday afternoon as a welcome to the neighborhood. He also cut the tiny front yards of the two empty houses next to mine.

Leggs

April 18th, 2011
5:07 pm

Daggone it, 107.5 wanted the 17th caller and I was #14!!! *##$%!%#$#)$*$

Purple Rain

April 18th, 2011
5:07 pm

Sexy Cool your neighborhood sounds like the one in the movie Friday. LOL

SexyCool

April 18th, 2011
5:09 pm

Now that you mention it…..(lol)