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When should you decline a date offer?

I used to get so frustrated with one of my friends because she would accept any and every offer for a date.  It’s great that she is friendly and approachable, I think more women should be! However, she doesn’t seem to have figured out when to turn a date down.

Even though my friend claims to be drawn to a specific type of guy, she welcomes and encourages the polar opposite to pursue her. When things don’t work out she is confused, shocked even.

She thinks I should try it her way more.  She asked me why I didn’t give the guy on Marta -  (a loud man with a tear drop tattoo under his eye) my phone number.  Of course, I could tell we weren’t a match but this was using that whole “judging a book by it’s tattooed cover” logic.  I told her that I’m pretty sure I’m way too boring for him!  Despite his persistent, profanity-laced attempts to get my number, I declined.

Maybe I could adopt her ways more ….and maybe she could try to be more selective.  I’m a firm believer in dating someone compatible with you but that can’t always be determined in a span of a Marta train ride.

When is it appropriate to decline a date or pass on someone who is vying for your attention?

When you figure out someone is not a good match, isn’t the polite thing to do is say no? How do you handle it when you have to let someone know you’re not willing to date them?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

283 comments Add your comment

Retired Old Atlantan.

April 15th, 2011
8:01 am

Where is everyone this morning? Working on your tax return? (You’ve got all weekend.)

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
8:09 am

Morning morning this morning good morning

My best friend and I were discussing this very topic just the other day. We have a mutual friend who seems to reek of desperation for finding a guy but doesn’t seem to know when to say NO. We tried to ’save’ her in the club once from what obviously looked to be an uncomfortable situation and yet she still continued to entertain him….We left well enough, alone and got back to having a good arse time. Oh well…

CoolShadow

April 15th, 2011
8:20 am

When is it appropriate to decline a date or pass on someone who is vying for your attention?

Is this a trick question?

Personally, I’d rather a woman decline my offer is she’s not really interested, that’ll save me time, hope and money, though not necessarily in that order. And in some cases, her rejection may be a blessing in disguise; over time you may discover that you wished you never approached her. So her rejection could be a mechanism for “saving you from yourself” although you may not realize it at the time.

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
8:58 am

We are off to a slow start I see. Yaaawwwwwwn!

Ok I know a bit early for a random vent but for whatever reason, I find it HI LAR IOUS to see a Shake Weight on someone’s Wedding Registry :shock: :lol:

Black and White Smiley Faces ☺☻

April 15th, 2011
9:00 am

You should decline a date offer when you know it is someone:

a) Who isn’t appealing, is crude & obnoxious, only wants sex, etc.
b) Who appears to be a troublemaker
c) Who appears to be irresponsible and a womanizer

A gentleman should do the same, but kindly and with candor (be honest and say you’re not interested but be respectful as much as possible)

Now, I don’t mean reject a man or woman simply because you don’t want to give them the chance to know you better.

But, separate the riff-raff from the “ok” people.

Don’t ever string anybody along. Please don’t say yes to guys just so you can have a “friend” when you know the whole time you have no intention of letting them be more than that.

Just my $.02.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
9:05 am

Good morning.

@WD ~ When is it appropriate to decline a date or pass on someone who is vying for your attention? You did right to not give your number to the profanity-laced, tear drop tattoo person on Marta. However, that was a funny little read.

Nick Cannon

April 15th, 2011
9:19 am

“I find it HI LAR IOUS to see a Shake Weight on someone’s Wedding Registry”

Slim — Now there’s a bride who’s serious about pleasing her man on the honeymoon… ;-) :lol:

Sugar

April 15th, 2011
9:21 am

OFF Topic . I have been talking to this guy on the phone for about three weeks, not seen him since I met him…but when we were getting off the phone yesterday he ended saying “I love you” ..I just took it as a “slip pf the tongue” sort of speak & he didnt mean to say it. Does those words roll off guys tongue so easily. I didnt need to respond since it was soo quick.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
9:25 am

GOT D@MMIT! Nick Cannon just hijacked my laptop!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
9:28 am

Sugar — If he’s so accustomed to ending phone calls with “love you” that he just let it slip… then he just might be married. Just sayin’…

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
9:29 am

D@mn… that was a lot of “justs”

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
9:29 am

You have the right to decline anyone’s invitation at any time for anything.

Where people get throwed is the manner they do it.

As for being open to engaging anyone in conversation, there’s some truth to “thinking outside the (self-imposed) box”. Okay, so the dude (or chick) with the tear drop tattoo may not have been the one; but maybe the skinny kid with the funny name that asks you out could be.

Would you know because (s)he’s not your type? Or would you offer him [her] the opportunity to prove your assumptions incorrect.

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
9:40 am

Nick – How is using a shake weight going to improve on Man Pleasing skills?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
9:44 am

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
9:45 am

@Slim: you.did.not.just.ask.that.

not you

For Real

April 15th, 2011
9:47 am

“Even though my friend claims to be drawn to a specific type of guy, she welcomes and encourages the polar opposite to pursue her. When things don’t work out she is confused, shocked even.” – Irrational people make irrational decisions and your friend will continue to make irrational decision until her light comes on.

As for when to turn down a date. It’s simple, if you don’t like what you see, if you don’t like what hear and if you don’t like what you smell then turn the dayum date down. It ain’t rocket science.

Oh and Shout Out to Huggie Lowdown for this funny ish: “Donald Trump aka Toupee Fiasco”

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
9:47 am

Sorry Dan for asking

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
9:53 am

Sugar – anybody that you have been only conversing on the phone with and have not seen in the three weeks since you met him has another woman or other women plural in his life.

The “I love you” is one of two things – what he says when he gets off the phone with the person who he is really in a relationship with or it’s a set-up. He’s trying to see where you are emotionally, if you’re weak enough to fall for the okey-doke so that he can somehow take advantage of you. (Trust. I have experienced this firsthand.)

czBrat

April 15th, 2011
9:54 am

HiYas!

i generally say “no” just because, but i’m polite about it. if a dude is interested enough and persistent enough, he may eventually get a “yes”. but if we’re not vibing on the first date, there is no second date. period. at the risk of stinging with rejection, like CoolShadow said, snipping it early saves everyone time, effort and missed opportunities.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
9:55 am

Don’t accept a date when his breath/body smells. (Run away from homeless dudes.)

sugar

April 15th, 2011
10:02 am

HE could be “involved” I know he has a daughter that he talks to often, just find it odd it would slip just like that. Thanks for input

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
10:02 am

Don’t accept a date when he has a jealous wife or a wife period. (That could get messy.)

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
10:06 am

Speaking of doing things out of habit when you’re married/attached… My buddy & I had one of our regular beer tennis challenges over the weekend & as we were walking back to my car to leave, I had to catch myself to keep from walking over to the passenger side & opening the door for him… :lol: Doh!

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
10:11 am

@Sugar ~ he’s eager to please (lol).

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
10:11 am

Swizzie…too funny.

I was with my sister going to the mall one day and I automatically stepped to the side to let her open the door for me. (lol)

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
10:12 am

There are 4 simple reasons to just say no.

1. You are obligated to accept anyone’s, no matter who they are, invitation just because they asked.

2. When it’s someone you know that is not available and you should not be dealing with

3. When there is Zero attraction and/or interest there. Don’t waste your time and theirs. Don’t do pity dates and string him/her along.

4. When you have dated this person’s kind before and you know it will be toxic. No matter how much they get your juices flowing Just Say No. Avoid the fallout that you know is going to eventually take place.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
10:13 am

Don’t accept a date if he has *butter* on his teeth.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
10:13 am

OMG, Swiss, that was hysterical. I had to cover my mouth to prevent from laughing too loudly.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
10:14 am

You are NOT obligated….

Dang I am starting out wrong this morning. LOL

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
10:19 am

Leggs — I assume you’re referring to the video I linked?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
10:21 am

I’ve got a “Big Jim” over here with your name on it, Leggs:lol:

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
10:22 am

Yes, swiss, I’m referring to the linked video. When it squirted I fell out laughing into my hand.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
10:24 am

You’ve got mail.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
10:26 am

Leggs, I laughed out loud also. When that thing shaky weight first came on the scene my sister-friends and I said it looks like a learning device for giving a handjob. Especially the commercial where the woman is holding it out in front of her. LOL

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
10:31 am

Only South Park!!!

@Raqi V ~ I’ve never seen a commerical for this device. The entire concept is funny!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
10:32 am

“Don’t do pity dates and string him/her along.”

Raqi — You left off 1 part: “Unless said pity date will also include a pity f__k. In that case, carry on.”

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
10:33 am

If she is pushing a stroller with a kid, has a kid i a backpack and she has one that is walking holding her hand just say no.

If you are at the beach and she has razor bumps down there just say no.

If you can “smell” her just say no

If she is on her cycle say no…not today.

If her ex husband is a stalker just say no

Just say no for the hell of it sometimes, because women do not handle rejection very well and it is funny to watch.

If she has a tattoo on her neck just say no.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
10:34 am

Anybody have a pick-up truck & wanna help me pick up a grill from Home Depot this weekend? All the burgers, brats, beer & booze you can consume in return…

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
10:35 am

“Just say no for the hell of it sometimes, because women do not handle rejection very well and it is funny to watch.”

+1

:lol:

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
10:37 am

There is no reason for a married woman to have a shake weight

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
10:38 am

Leggs, maybe I should say Infomercial. In my very recent past I have had many late nights not being able to sleep so I see a lot infomercials just flipping thru the channels.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
10:41 am

Swiss, it would take me to long to get there for you to use my truck. LOL

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
10:42 am

TheDude and I are disagreeing on a financial matter. I believe that you should have at least one credit card. He doesn’t think you need to have any, that if you can’t pay for it cash, then you need to leave whatever it is it where it is.

AmazonRed™

April 15th, 2011
10:42 am

Happy Friday All -

It’s okay to be selective… more people should be.

I’d reevaluate if all my reasons for declining were “petty” (not tall enough, don’t like his shoes). The character of a person takes a while to determine, but even initial meetings will give you clues. Don’t dismiss someone who appears to be of good character just because you’re wrapped up in the packaging.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
10:42 am

If you can “smell” her just say no

PurpleR, you should have said “If you can “smell her and she smells bad” just say no. LOL

There is something about some people’s natural aromatic essence that draws you to them. It’s called true chemistry. Animal magnetism. LOL

You know you done sniffed your wife’s panties pillow before when she wasn’t looking because you love her natural woman scent. Don’t lie. LOL

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
10:44 am

P-lito is the one that licks the panties.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
10:45 am

SexyCool, you should always have a credit card for emergencies. What if you need a major car repair? Wouldn’t he rather put $2,000 on a credit card and pay it off over 3 or 4 months rather than having your bank account take a $2,000 hit? Give him that example.

AmazonRed™

April 15th, 2011
10:45 am

He doesn’t think you need to have any, that if you can’t pay for it cash, then you need to leave whatever it is it where it is.

That works for folks who deal in the “hustler” mentality. Has he ever owned a home before? Being responsible with credit does you more good than it does harm.

For Real

April 15th, 2011
10:45 am

“All the burgers, brats, beer & booze you can consume in return…” – Swiss I’m available to to consume all the burger, brats, beer & booze you can afford. Just let me know when. Oh and I’m going to be on my bike so I will require a nights stay at your house as well. Oh and since I will not have any clothes I’ll need to borrow some from you. Oh and if your wife has a twin, a sister, friend, cousin or auntie that looks like her I will require you to arrange for them to sleep over with me.

For Real now wondering if Swiss will figure out that he doesn’t have a truck.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
10:46 am

Raqi you are correct some smell good and do you have a hidden cam I sniff, smell and chew on my wifes panties..most times they are still on her when that happens lol

SexyCool, I think every home needs an American Express card, just in case. And just pay it off at the end of the month.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
10:47 am

Exactly, Rock.

Red, he already owns a home that has a tenant.

For Real

April 15th, 2011
10:47 am

“He doesn’t think you need to have any, that if you can’t pay for it cash, then you need to leave whatever it is it where it is.” – I agree, with debt card now being accepted around the world, just open bank account and put the funds into that account.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
10:49 am

SexyC — I agree with you, but I understand Dude’s sentiment. But you can still have a card & still follow Dude’s mantra. Just because you have credit cards, doesn’t mean you have to run up balances. Just use them as a replacement for cash — i.e. pay off the full balance every month. It’s convenient & it helps build your credit rating. Plus, you have some purchase protection in some cases, some offer rewards programs, etc.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
10:50 am

@SexyC ~ you should have at least one credit card. I also agree with TheDude, pay for things with cash. However, you should have a credit card for emergencies.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
10:50 am

Licking and chewing panties? Do you have pica? LOL

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
10:51 am

‘There is no reason for a married woman to have a shake weight’

Purp – that’s what I was thinking…seems especially strange to put it on your Wedding Registry. :???:

AmazonRed™

April 15th, 2011
10:51 am

Red, he already owns a home that has a tenant.

So he paid cash for that? (entirely possible) What is he living in? I need more info. :lol:

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
10:52 am

For Real — Have you seen where a lot of the big banks are threatening to “cap” debit card transactions at $50 per transaction if the new restrictions of swipe fees for debit cards go through? Greedy muff__ers….

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
10:53 am

P-lito – that’s the one I have.

I told him that having at least one credit card where you can demonstrate the ability to manage credit is good for raising your credit score. He says that if we just pay the mortgage on time then my credit score will be just fine.

What is frustrating me is that he is mad that I’m not seeing it his way, that my thought process is wrong. I told him that one way or the other is not right or wrong it’s just different. And what is really most important is that I consistently make sound financial decisions, whether it be cash or credit.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
10:56 am

@SexyC ~ it’s your credit card and he’s asking you to get rid of it? Or are you talking to him about opening a joint credit card account???

Tancred

April 15th, 2011
10:56 am

“Despite his persistent, profanity-laced attempts to get my number, I declined.”

Sounds like a black guy. I say that because since moving here 10 years ago, I’ve had lots of time to observe human behavior, and since I live ITP and work right across from Five Points, I see mostly black folks on my commute and my walks around work. I’m amazed at the brazen, in-your-face manner of many black men as they hound, harass, and comment upon random women. I’m always seeing them shouting out of moving cars at women, doing all they can to get their cell #. My female coworkers cannot avoid comments about their rear ends when they go to get some coffee. It seems totally accepted as “normal” behavior by a lot of women, with some even stopping to give their # willingly. It’s a culture of aggressive, sexually charged harassment, and I don’t think I’m out-of-bounds saying that it’s a generally negative aspect of downtown ATL. Of “black” ATL to be honest. It seems to be a part of an overall abandonment of the idea of treating women with respect. Am I wrong here? Sometimes it’s not just the cover, but the audio that goes along with it.

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
10:56 am

‘There is something about some people’s natural aromatic essence that draws you to them. It’s called true chemistry. Animal magnetism.”

Raqi – You are absolutely right about that. I love the way Beau smells and he is always talking about how he misses my smell when i’m not around.

‘You know you done sniffed your wife’s panties pillow before when she wasn’t looking because you love her natural woman scent. Don’t lie’

Now that is funny but on the real, folks DO do that….What I find awkward is when you CATCH the dude smelling ‘the female remnants’, say from his falanges or something. I thought yall grew out of that after graduating from HS. Guess it’s the human equivalent to dogs sniffing each others azzez

AmazonRed™

April 15th, 2011
10:57 am

I have two credit cards. Got my first my freshman year of college, my 2nd my senior year. I didn’t go crazy with it, never missed a payment on it (when I carry a balance) or defaulted on it. When it was time to buy my house (at 29 – 10 years of credit history) it was a breeze to get qualified because I didn’t have to jump thru hoops for verification and such.

In my opinion, it’s better to have a solid and established credit history, even if you have the means to never use it. Folks who have built empires do a lot of it through credit, borrowing etc.

AmazonRed™

April 15th, 2011
10:57 am

Don’t feed the trolls today please!

For Real

April 15th, 2011
10:58 am

Swiss: Yeah I saw that but I knew that was coming because more people are opening acct and treating them as their credit card accounts without the interest and finance charges.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
10:58 am

My credit card.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
10:59 am

SlimN, I have side eyed many wedding registries. I knew this couple that had lived together for 5 years and had a very nice home. When they got married they all kinds of high dollars cookware and whatnot on there. What had they been using those 5 years and why did getting married give the right to ask folks for new/better stuff? That pot was good enough to boil water for your boyfriend, does he need a better pot because he is now your husband?

We didn’t have a wedding registry and didn’t really expect any gifts. Most people gave us money and some gave us some “couple gifts”.

IMO registries are for people just starting out and needing to build a home without breaking the bank. If you good and grown and already moved out of your parents house you should have established a well working home.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
10:59 am

And there’s a joke to be made here; but I won’t.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
11:02 am

@Raqi

Why hate on the come-up?

I might want the 8 slice toaster, instead of the two 4 slice toasters we got. Plus, you wasn’t screaming all that “breaking the bank” jazz at that costly arse reception when you was dranking and eating for free.

#howsoontheyforget

AmazonRed™

April 15th, 2011
11:03 am

He says that if we just pay the mortgage on time then my credit score will be just fine.

So he believes in credit, just not credit cards. It will probably ding your credit more if you closed the account that’s already open anyway. What’s the big deal now that the credit card already exists?

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
11:03 am

Rock – I feel the same way about registries and such.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
11:03 am

SlimN, yep men are just dogs like that. LOL But I will admit to being b!tch (female dog) and rolling over onto the hub’s side of the bed and taking a nice whiff of his lingering essence when he gets up sometimes.

I have seen the hub on more than a few occasions put my cami to his face if I leave it lying on the bed. LOL

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
11:09 am

Dan, what? First of all that hellavu reception was a gift from our brothers. Neither one of us asked for it nor knew about it until the day before we got married.

And secondly, boy stop. You just mad you weren’t invited. LOL Just kidding.

But I take it that you are thinking about getting married and have a registry in place. Do you my brotha. I just gave my opinion.

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
11:11 am

‘That pot was good enough to boil water for your boyfriend, does he need a better pot because he is now your husband?’

Raqi – :lol: Great point though. I’m one of those folks who buys all the cheap miscellaneous stuff off registries anyway. Or you could always go with the infamous Gift Card. ;-)

And as far as being a bytch as well, I love wearing a t-shirt he’s had on. But with all that said, if I meet a dude and his body chemistry does not fare well on my sniff-o-meter, then it will definitely turn me off. It’s happened before where I met a dude and i think he had some grocery store cologne on. Ewwwww YUCK

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
11:12 am

And thirdly, asking for something versus just being gifted something does not compare.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
11:14 am

@Raqi

Good for you on having someone throw you a reception.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
11:14 am

Tancred it sounds like you just described me and I am not black.

SexyCool, I am sure he will come around sooner than later. I know its your card but it’s in the same house hld so a joint decision. I am glad you discussed it with him and did not fall into the “well it’s my card, and it’s not yours so I am going to keep it!” you home will be blessed just because of the way you are thinking now.

Slim,SexyCool, Raqi…what is wrong with enjoying the taste and smell of a woman, I know some women that like the taste of themselves. You know when you catch a man enjoying your juices or smell it turns you on. And don’t even get me started on licking her toes while she wears open toed high heeled shoes

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
11:18 am

Purp – I don’t believe I was voicing a complaint on a guy enjoying the smell/tastes of a woman…Frankly, I welcome it :oops: I know i’d much rather him like it than to get up from down there with the boo-boo gas face tombout he forgot to turn the stove off and needs to leave to go home :shock:

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
11:18 am

@Raqi

The registry has been and is to my mind a “wish list” of sorts. Of course we’ve all known people that use it as a come-up (really my dude, an X-box 360? ReallY?). But the list is merely suggested items as far as I’m concerned.

I wouldn’t expect someone to do more than they could or ask them to do more than they wanted.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
11:18 am

@Raqi V ~ sounds like he’s thinking about a registry so he can offset that 4-slice toaster he already received (lol).

AmazonRed™

April 15th, 2011
11:18 am

I know its your card but it’s in the same house hld so a joint decision.

That’s a good point.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
11:21 am

Yeah, ARed, must admit that is a good point.

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
11:22 am

Tancred – Um, I work in a very male dominated environment and believe you me, they are all pretty much just as nasty/fresh/inappropriate…and it isn’t confined to just black guys.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
11:24 am

The reason I’m not fond of registries is that, for me, the stuff that I want usually costs more than I’m comfortable *expecting* folks to come out of pocket for. You know…all the upgraded stuff.

I’d rather just make do and upgrade (paying cash) as I go.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
11:24 am

SlimN, gift giving for wedding is customary and that I get. And I get that registries a made up so people will know what you need and you don’t end up with five 8 slice toasters. But my beef has been with those that I know personally (at you Dan) that have nice things already or just are too cheap to buy what they really want but look for others to do it for them.

Heck if I want a set of 1200ct Egyptian cotton linen I go get it. Or save up for it and then go get it.

Some folks are just fine sleeping on some rough-arse 250ct Walmart originals and too cheap to do better but since they find themselves in position to have someone else pay the price for the best they put it on a “registry” making their friends and family fell obligated to get it.

I think the feeling of obligation and asking for stuff you won’t buy for your ownself is what rubs me the wrong way. And I am a gift giving fanatic.

jw

April 15th, 2011
11:25 am

If you or your buddy let a man talk to you like that – then are stupid enough to give him your number – you kinda get what you know is coming – that’s abuse waiting to happen! No person should be degraded to the point of giving in to some low life clown. No male should do that to anyone.

You are right – you have to draw the line – can’t trust folks anymore for anything – and there are some signals that should send up great big RED FLAGS to stay away. Using your MARTA buddy as an example – if he is going to trash you to bits to guilt or anger you out of a phone number – you can expect he isn’t going away anytime soon – even if you stall, he will become a stalker type and create an air of discontent that you nor your friend ever should have to put up with. It is with great certainty that you will have trouble with that individual – and will eventually have to have the police get involved – those types should never, ever, never, never ever get a shot at dating decent people – sorry, folks like that ruin it for everyone.

Steven Q. Stanley

April 15th, 2011
11:28 am

After 30 a woman should never decline a date under normal circumstances, any man willing to go out with you is a keeper. Beggars can’t be choosers.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
11:29 am

And along comes Stanley with some comic relief. I needed that laugh.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
11:30 am

Dan, this me closing that door and walking away because I don’t get why you have a problem with what the brothers did for me and my hub and we didn’t ask for it. I am sorry you having to pay for something you would rather not. I am sorry.

Celisea

April 15th, 2011
11:30 am

Steven Steven Steven, that was fuuuneee…great for a Friday, along with my Andre Crouch at my desk…lol I needed that laugh.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
11:32 am

But Stanley, she didn’t beg for him to ask her out…he did it voluntarily!!!! Therefore, she has the right to be choosey. :wink:

Celisea

April 15th, 2011
11:35 am

Steven don’t make me have to close my door…you silly man

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
11:39 am

@Raqi

No, no, no.

That wasn’t me having a problem with anything. I think it’s wonderful.

In fact, I’m jealous.

No, Raqi, that wasn’t what that was.

Steven Q. Stanley

April 15th, 2011
11:41 am

The other option is to get ready for spinsterhood and start collecting cats.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
11:42 am

Oh, and I pay for what I want (and what will be in use for a long time).

Where I get to pinching Mr. Lincoln til his nose bleeds is the little stuff. The, we’re only going to be here/do this/(and the worse arugment to make to me)live life once.

Beds, appliances, cars, homes, sheets, towels, food, etc. I pay for what I want.

jones

April 15th, 2011
11:45 am

Tancred soooooooooooooo true!!!!!!! but SAD

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
11:46 am

Marry an Italian, it is customary to just give money, big money and that is it!

“Hundreds on the table twenties on the flooooooor”- Jeezy

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
11:48 am

That wasn’t me having a problem with anything. I think it’s wonderful

Dan, then I am sorry for the way I responded. I just went back and read your two comments and I still read them as you having a problem with it but I apologize for my misinterpretation of what you wrote.

Hey I about to go make a turkey sandwich for myself and some cheese toast and chicken nuggets for the baby, you want some? LOL

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
11:52 am

I want some purple drank.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
11:54 am

@Raqi

I won’t say that “paying for your own wedding/reception blows or suuucckks”, because it’s a blessing to be about to do so. And I don’t use emoticons, because, well, I’m from Adamsville.

However, that statement was meant to playingly sarcastic

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
11:56 am

Hey Purp — Do you guys do that “money dance” thing at Italian weddings? Where people come up & literally pin $$ on the bride & groom before dancing with them?

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
11:56 am

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
11:59 am

We don’t do purple kool-aid but I do have some cran-grape juice. Will that be cool?

I think there’s some Samuel Adams, Amstel Light and Coors downstairs in the beverage fridge. We don’t drink so you can have as much of that stuff as you want. But don’t go getting drunk on me. I am not trying to be ‘splaining to my husband why there’s a drunk man out on the lawn.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
12:02 pm

Isn’t Mad Dog 20/20 Purple (lololol).

JASon

April 15th, 2011
12:03 pm

“When is it appropriate to decline a date or pass on someone who is vying for your attention?”

This must be a joke. I cannot believe this was made into a serious question. No, its completely inappropriate to decline a date with someone! You must accept anyone who asks you out in this world, or else! Lmao

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
12:04 pm

Dan, man you are worst than husband with that dry humor. LOL Use a “LOL” next time okay?

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
12:07 pm

Swiss, no but we do the tarantella dance!

The money is placed in a large kettle pot at the beginning of the receiving line. With the money from both of our families total we had over 50k and some land from my folks.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
12:07 pm

I deplore the use of “that” phrase in print and moreso in person.

But, I’ll work on it.

Off to get my cheese sandwich. BRB

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
12:12 pm

“With the money from both of our families total we had over 50k and some land from my folks”

Yeah, other cultures do weddings way better than Americans… Everywhere else in the world weddings are a huge party, but the guests all help pay for it & then some…

Dee

April 15th, 2011
12:12 pm

I’m in my 40s and I’ve been asked out by several 20 something year old guys. I have a 20 something year old son, and I’d never date a guy that young. What is this world coming to? Also, I don’t date guys that I’m not attracted to. Guys seem to think that they’re allowed to look horribly unattractive and still should have a very nice looking woman. Not so! I don’t have a problem telling a man that I’m simply not physically attracted to him if he persists in asking for a date, and I’ve done all I could to avoid telling him why I don’t want to spend extended time looking at him.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
12:13 pm

Swiss, that’s true all I had to buy were her rings.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
12:14 pm

“I’m in my 40s and I’ve been asked out by several 20 something year old guys. “

Dee — Have you been hanging out at Johnny’s Hideaway?

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
12:14 pm

Dee usually ugly people attract other ugly people. Care to post a picture?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
12:16 pm

Purp — Yeah, it’s kind of a shame… I’m sure we offended some people by keeping our guest list so small, but if their cheap azzes would help pay for that sh!t we would have had a bigger wedding… :lol:

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
12:16 pm

Have any of you seen the remote?

ForReal, stop trying to mesmerize Leggs and take my remote out of your pants. You making me miss Family Feud. Somebody hand me the Clorox cleanup.

(!@%$#%@. You can’t put nothing down around that boy before he goes sticking it in his pants.)

Dee

April 15th, 2011
12:16 pm

@Stanley…you must be horribly unattractive and are turned down often by women. Otherwise, how would you know about any female subgroup unless you specifically target them out of your own desperation?

Dee

April 15th, 2011
12:19 pm

@Purple Rain…Yes…I’m horribly unattractive!!!! So, no worries on ever being approached by you. Right?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
12:19 pm

Purp — Is your wife Italian also?

Dee

April 15th, 2011
12:20 pm

@ Swiss…no, I don’t.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
12:24 pm

Let me play devil’s advocate here w/SexyC and the credit card.

I agree with PR that it’s admirable that they are sitting down and discussing these matters because they will be living together. On the other side of the coin, they are co-habitating. They are not married. Not sure if he has proposed but they have discussed. Why should she give up her credit card and score she’s been working on over the years simply because her boyfriend asks her do so. What happened to when in a relationship one must maintain their own identity. Her credit is her credit, not her boyfriends.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
12:30 pm

I have on my steel encrusted bustier (better than my current blog vest).

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
12:33 pm

Leggs, I can only assume, yep I assuming from written exchange between SexyC and myself, for him to make such a statement HerDude is in the process of building for their future. He is attempting to get things in line as they walk into life together.

And even more important those are the type things couples should discuss before getting married. The problem with so many couples that are struggling and/or have parted ways is they did not talk about and agree on the important stuff before getting into a marriage.

You should agree on where you are going to live, whether you are going to have separate bank accounts, the spending of money and how (i.e. CC, Cash), kids and how many. So I think he is within his right to be having that discussion with her.

I believe in being “minded” before you enter into anything. Especially a lifetime commitment with someone.

Samantha

April 15th, 2011
12:33 pm

You did the right thing by not giving that guy with the tat of a tear underneath his eye your information. If I’m not interested in a person I simply and politely turn them down when they ask me out on a date. If they persist on dating me I then get it through to them that I’m not interested in dating them and suggest to them not to ask me again and they usually don’t. :)

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
12:36 pm

And you can wear that steel bustier all you want but it ain’t going to save from this switch imma about to apply to your leggs.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
12:37 pm

Tatted-Eye could have been trying to set her up for a robbery. (lol)

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
12:38 pm

@Raqi V ~ I’m assuming the same thing. I see nothing wrong with “discussing” it. Issues like this should be discussed. However, not all discussions/requests will be in favor of the one making the request. You win some, you lose some. Just wondering.

C from Marietta

April 15th, 2011
12:39 pm

@ AmazonRed,

We can tell your real impressed with yourself.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
12:39 pm

Good one, Raqi V. Note to self: find some armor to protect the legs!

Laid Back White Guy

April 15th, 2011
12:43 pm

Women saying yes “out of pity” is what I worry about. I’m a very nice guy, with a great personality, with lots of friends and I don’t think I’m so hideous people can’t stand to look at me…lol. I have some physical disabilities that I am left with from injuries I received in a car accident a few years back. I’m very self conscious about this. So I usually don’t worry about dating because all I would worry about is that the lady said yes out of pity…that’s just me.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
12:46 pm

You win some, you lose some

That’s not only marriage and coupledom, That’s Life.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
12:46 pm

Swiss, yes she is Italian also. We got married in Vegas but has a reception down in Atlanta.

Dee, right I won’t approach you I would hate to stoop down to your ugly. LOL

Leggs, because SexyCool is open to discussing the issue rather than just go her own way and she is willing to submit to her “head” and trust him to noy lead her into financial peril.

Doophus

April 15th, 2011
12:58 pm

A chick approached me last night in South Atlanta and asked me if I wanted a date. I indicated My interest (in principle) as I pondered possible conditions she might desire in addendum. I declined the date. I only had $ 27.00 and she wanted $30.00 and appeared to be in no mood to haggle. A lesson learned that I should carry more cash.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
12:59 pm

@PR

I’m (kinda) with Leggs here.

I’m not asking for (or expecting) fielty until that ring. Before that, we are free agents negoiating terms.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
1:01 pm

Now, giving me that trust beforehand may lead to the bling a little faster than the resistance to it would.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
1:02 pm

Dan I am of the mindset that nothing magical happens the moment you say I Do, it is just at that moment confirmed before God and legally so in the time leading up to the both parties need to act the part especially if they are in the same household.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
1:05 pm

And if marriage is their eventual plan. But buying a house together is a major step, so the credit card issue should be small. This is what my wife and I did, I added her to my credit cards and she added me to hers. We have one joint bill account but we both have access to each others personal accounts. If you can trust someone with your health, heart and well being enough to marry them or buy a house with them etc you can trust them with “your” money. The less things are seperate in the same househould the less of a chance of seperation happening in the relationship.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
1:10 pm

@PR

Of course “I do” changes things – legally. Until that time, both parties have a fiduciary interest in self preservation. But, showing a willingness to let me “lead” in this case would’ve shown me more about where her head is in terms of joining our lives together.

As for joint accounts, good for you and yours my boy. I’m sure you’ll respect my “to each his own” comment.

Tiger Woods

April 15th, 2011
1:13 pm

Would my life be better, if she have said no? Yes!!!

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
1:15 pm

Dan of course I respect your comment. Not speaking on SexyCool’s situation exactly but if two people buy a house together, hopefully they have gotten past the point of self interest

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
1:16 pm

Leggs, because SexyCool is open to discussing the issue rather than just go her own way and she is willing to submit to her “head” and trust him to noy lead her into financial peril.

@PR ~ I understand all this. But as you stated, you don’t know if she’s “willing to submit to her ‘head.’”

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
1:19 pm

Leggs, where did I state that I knew or didn’t if she were willing?

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
1:19 pm

in that regard.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
1:20 pm

“because SexyCool is open to discussing the issue rather than just go her own way and she is willing to submit to her “head””

↑ – this is where you said it.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
1:22 pm

So, Dan for you marriage is solely the merging of beds and nothing else? Together but separate?

When do you feel the discussing and agreeing on how the household finances and budgets should be handled? Or will there be no discussion for you? You do your thing and she does hers?

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
1:22 pm

Until the ink is dry on the license and even after, it would be foolish of me to not have some consideration for my own interests alongside those of the relationship.

However, in this particular instance, for me, it’s more about managing the differences in the way we do things and how we think – managing the conflict and how we resolve or compromise on the issue.

And my frank opinion on this specific matter is that simply HAVING the credit card is a non-issue and would continue to be so until IF, God forbid, a time came when I created a bill that I could not manage to pay in a timely manner.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
1:24 pm

@PR

When people have been single for a while, used to doing things on their own and in their individual way, there is a natural resistance to change that has to be overcome.

More importantly, there is a fear that has to be discussed and conquered. And some arguments are tacit admissions of that fear.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
1:25 pm

Leggs, it’s obvious then that she cares about what her man thinks, and that within itself is a form of submission. Submission is not just bowing down they are working on mutual agreement once he comes around. LOL

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
1:28 pm

@Raqi

Our lives are being merged in a way that works for us. Yes, we’ve discussed finances, child-rearing, sleeping habits and more.

Are there contentious moments, sure. But they are “teachable moments” for us in resolving conflict and developing a deeper understanding of one another’s thought process.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
1:28 pm

Dan, I agree that being said you are kind of stuck with someone if you buy a house with them for awhile and if something happened to cause them to split it will probably be ugly to seperate the shared interest in that home. Just saying, that a home is a major step towards something and it’s a big financial interest, so how money is spent should really have been worked out before undertaking mutual home ownership. SexyCool I am not pointedly talking about you to but just using some of it for sake of discussion

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
1:30 pm

Again PR, I understand where he’s coming from (in terms of paying for things with cash) and where she’s coming from. Just wanted to play devil’s advocate to see what the massess would say.

I’m surprised my nemisis is so quiet.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
1:31 pm

Understood. No worries. I put it out there, so I understand that all sides of it will be discussed.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
1:33 pm

Leggs — Who is your nemesis? Cankles?

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
1:37 pm

Ohhhh Swiss, do me..i mean, do mine. What would be my nemesis?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
1:39 pm

SlimFat Azz Part Deux

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
1:41 pm

@PR

All you say is true.

Where I’m coming from with it is instinctual.

For example, did you wife sleep soundly when y’all first got together? Or was she as vigilent as she had been while single? Over time, did she ease into sleeping soundly beside you with little to know worry about every sound?

See, a person can say anything and mean 95% of it. But those slight mental and physical reactions tell more of the story than most recognize.

So, yeah, buying a house is a big step; it just may not be the final one for some couples.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
1:41 pm

Slim — Or Tiny Va-giny. Take your pick.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
1:43 pm

Really, adults have nemsis (sp)?

On a blog?

that’s funny

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
1:43 pm

And Dan I feel that part of the self preservation process is knowing who is doing what and possibly eliminating situations before they occur.

Purchases made for the household on my sole credit card while married in many cases does become both of OUR responsibility. No you cannot make your wife to be get rid of her credit card but you should care enough that she has it knowing that part of it can one day be allocated to you in a divorce settlement.

I know a little about this because my friends brother got divorced and all things accomplished and accumulated in the married became communal responsibilities and debts. No matter whose name it was purchased in. She could prove she bought if for the house and he had to pay half of those bills.

(if you all are even still talking about this. LOL)

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
1:43 pm

My nemesis: Dutch Oven

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
1:44 pm

swiss – I think this game sounded good in theory until Tiny Va-giny lol Sort of reminds me of those Garbage Pail Kid Cards

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
1:51 pm

How about Cheese Grater? lol

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
1:51 pm

Purple’s nemesis: The Barzini Family. :lol:

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
1:51 pm

And the funny thing is some of that stuff he didn’t want or need and never used. Her argument was it was there for his usage and pleasure had he chose to use and she never denied him the usage of those things.

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
1:52 pm

Afternoon All,

Dan – whens the wedding?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
1:54 pm

More important question: Dan — when’s the bachelor party?

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
1:58 pm

Not sure if yall know but there is going to be a new reality show called MOBWives…maybe we’ll see Mrs Purple on there? :lol:

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
1:59 pm

@Raqi

I hear you. Though, divorce is not an option. I wrote a check that had a comma in it.

@WD – August 20, 2011

@Swiss – One is here in about a month, the other is 3 weeks before the wedding in Vegas, and there is talk of a third. (I have a disparate group of friends).

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
1:59 pm

Swiss – true dat, Plus knowing Dan the bachelor party’s entertainment better have steel umbrellas. Dan will make it rain with a roll of quarters and bytch about that. hahaha j/k bnr Dano

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
1:59 pm

I can’t remember if it was Mari or Jacq (both attorneys) that told me about the guy that had to pay for ½ of the cc bill that was still owed at the time of the divorce where his wife got a breast enhancement. 2 months before they separated. LOL

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
2:00 pm

Though, divorce is not an option.

Dan, that’s the right attitude to have going in. :wink:

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
2:07 pm

@WD

Pennies – cheaper and they hurt less coming down.

wow

April 15th, 2011
2:08 pm

SO Raqi baby is in the hospital fighting for its life & you are on a blog BS, but then again what do u expect a H

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
2:09 pm

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
2:09 pm

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
2:12 pm

Rock – too frickin’ funny.

And in other news, ABC cancelled All my Children and One Life to Live. Not that I ever watched either one of them. The only soap I ever watched for any length of time was The Young and The Restless. Back when Brad was the pool boy and Jack was married to Patty.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
2:13 pm

SexyCool, I am surprised soap operas still exist. I would have thought that era of women died out 10 years ago.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
2:16 pm

I guess you can say Reality Television has replaced soap opera. All the same drama but without the dramatic background music. LOL

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
2:17 pm

I know, right?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
2:19 pm

“guy that had to pay for ½ of the cc bill that was still owed at the time of the divorce where his wife got a breast enhancement. 2 months before they separated.”

He should have negotiated to right to come over and skeet on them tit-TAYs every other weekend, too… :lol:

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
2:20 pm

Raqi / Sexy — Mrs. Swiss still DVRs her 2 soaps & watches those suckers every day…

Jeff

April 15th, 2011
2:21 pm

1. They’re married
2. They have multiple baby daddy’s
3. They’re and obvious goldigger/princess.
4. When they describe they’re favorite thing as a finally tuned European sports car.
5. When they treat their kids like crap.
6. If she walks like a clydesdale when she wears high heels (you’ve seen them at church)!

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
2:21 pm

SexyCool, let’s compare notes. Which is harder? Potty Training or House breaking? LOL

Liz is sitting here on the pot and I know the minute I put her undies back on she is going to wet them.

Sassy Me...lost like Nemo :-)

April 15th, 2011
2:22 pm

The only soap I ever watched for any length of time was The Young and The Restless. Back when Brad was the pool boy and Jack was married to Patty.

Me,too. Lawd when I first saw Victor Newman cry I was genuinely devastated…those were the days.

ABC cancelled All my Children and One Life to Live

I know some folks are in serious mourning right now….

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
2:23 pm

I Tivo GMA everyday for some of the segments I want to see and Oprah, but that’s about it.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
2:24 pm

Well…considering the fact that I’m about to lose it with GiGi…IDK…

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
2:26 pm

Dan – funny, good thing its YOUR bachelor party. Hopefully whoever is throwing it for you will NOT have the same shall we say fickleness as you. Afterall you only get married once. hahaha. Try to enjoy bruh. I want an invite.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
2:27 pm

TheDude took her to get shots the Sunday before we moved and since then, she ain’t been right. (lol)

She had been doing really well in the crate all day, but since those shots, she can’t go all day without having to go. So, I’ve had to open up the crate to give her more room. Otherwise, I will come home to a dog that I have to bathe everyday.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
2:28 pm

I suppose Cankles make perfect sense.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
2:29 pm

But…now that we’ve got the move out of the way, we have GOT to get her some training. She has been showing her behind the last few days when I have called her to come inside.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 15th, 2011
2:31 pm

A dog that boo-boo’s where it eats is a problem.

@WD

Fa sho. If I know the plan before hand, I don’t mind sharing. The more the merrier.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
2:31 pm

She doesn’t eat in the crate.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
2:32 pm

Swiss, maybe he should have negotiated having one of the implants removed and him having full custody of it. He can use it as a stress ball every time he thinks about some other guy palming an enhancement he is paying for. LOL

AmazonRed™

April 15th, 2011
2:32 pm

Guys seem to think that they’re allowed to look horribly unattractive and still should have a very nice looking woman. Not so!

Why did this make me laugh so hard? :lol:

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
2:33 pm

SexyCool, is she going to be a big dog? Have you consider getting your yard fenced and putting her outside in a dog house?

AmazonRed™

April 15th, 2011
2:34 pm

We can tell your real impressed with yourself.

Sure am! Why wouldn’t I be? :)

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
2:35 pm

Why did this make me laugh so hard?

AmazonR, I guess that poster never heard of the Janet Jackson Jermaine Dupri collaboration. LOL

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
2:35 pm

Rock – she will get to be at least 50 pounds, so she will have some size on her. And she will spend some time in the back yard eventually.

AmazonRed™

April 15th, 2011
2:41 pm

AmazonR, I guess that poster never heard of the Janet Jackson Jermaine Dupri collaboration. LOL

:lol:

Lady~

April 15th, 2011
2:45 pm

When is it appropriate to decline a date or pass on someone who is vying for your attention? When you are simply NOt interested……..Happy Friday MIA~ ;)

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
2:46 pm

Sexy Cool, maybe the shots have something in them thats making her go and the change of environment as well. How old is she again? It takes multiple months for them to get potty trained.

Swiss and Slim, no mob ties here in America. LOL

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
2:53 pm

Purp – that’s what we think as well. She is almost 5 months old. She’s improving, but her poops are still off. We are going to mix in some chicken and rice to her kibbles this weekend to see if that firms it up some more.

AmazonRed™

April 15th, 2011
2:56 pm

Had lunch with an ex today. He’s a dear friend now. He gave me some good feedback about me and relationships. The good news is that I’m very loyal, and when I decide to give a guy a shot, I’m all in.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
2:57 pm

Now that I have a refrigerator, I don’t feel like going grocery shopping.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
2:59 pm

Liz and I just walked to the mailbox and I was utterly surprised to see a letter from my mother’s half sister in Bordeaux, France. This letter is very unexpected yet a nice surprise.

She and I share the same birthday and she heard about my son and just wanted to offer her prayers. That is so freakin’ awesome.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:00 pm

SexyCool, rice and bread works wonders also. Honestly she is going to be around a 1 year old once she has the potty thing down pact.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
3:00 pm

SexyCool, yall just get on up and make it Costco or Sam’s tomorrow. LOL

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
3:02 pm

PurpleR, I thought bread gives dogs worms. That’s what I was told. But I do know that rice does stiffen up the poops and makes them fat.

We has a 125 lb english bulldog. He couldn’t walk from the end of the driveway to the garage without having to take a break. LOL

For Real

April 15th, 2011
3:13 pm

Lets see what the happs are:

Scool is giving a 5 month old gizzards and rice.

Ared a gave her ex some good news, a good shot and some feedback all while her ex was all in her.

Scool ain’t got no money to buy groceries.

Raqi gave Mason rice to stiffen up his poop.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:19 pm

Rai, if bread gave dogs worms it would give humans worms. LOL Worms come eating in areas where there were feces, or from ticks, mosquitos etc. Bread will not give a dog worms.

For Real, that was funny.

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
3:21 pm

Mean mugging you….(lol)

SlimNumeroUno

April 15th, 2011
3:23 pm

For Real

April 15th, 2011
3:23 pm

Raqi: And cold water gives dog gas too!!! Oh and baloney gives fish the worms.

For Real

April 15th, 2011
3:25 pm

Slim: You leaving before I can get a chance to play with you?

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:26 pm

For Real, what are you smoking? LOL

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:26 pm

Drinking to much tequila will make a woman’s vagina hurt.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:27 pm

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
3:29 pm

My sleep number is 65.

For Real

April 15th, 2011
3:31 pm

Purp: I’m not smoking anything. There is this new energy drink called… wait a minute… it’s called…. Fluidextract Cannabis Indica. Dayum it’s good to death. Hold on the telephone is ringing.

For Real

April 15th, 2011
3:32 pm

They must have hung up… Do you hear that? Shhhh!!

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:33 pm

My sleep number is 96 it used to be 69 but you know…inflation changes things. LOL

For Real, I didn’t hear your phone. LOL I am done with the cannabis now :)

For Real

April 15th, 2011
3:33 pm

Never mind I thought it was the telephone again.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:33 pm

Friday is an ultimate 420 movie!

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
3:34 pm

ForReal, how old are your kids?

For Real

April 15th, 2011
3:34 pm

Raqi: I know you got some spicy cheese and crackers at your house don’t you?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
3:36 pm

“Drinking to much tequila will make a woman’s vagina hurt”

Not to mention her booty hole.

For Real

April 15th, 2011
3:36 pm

Purp: Most certainly is… You know they filmed the first movie in 30 days.

Raqi: 16 and 11.5. now how bout dem cheese and crackers?

For Real

April 15th, 2011
3:37 pm

“Not to mention her booty hole.” – Swiss wrong hole you big silly head!

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:37 pm

Swiss where is knockoutblonde? LOL

For Real

April 15th, 2011
3:38 pm

Booty hole = Knockoutblonde

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
3:38 pm

Purp — Last I saw her, ordering another round of tequila.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
3:39 pm

No ForReal. LOL There is some pepperjack and smoked gouda in there as well as some sharp cheddar. If you like the imitation stuff my son has some cheez wiz.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
3:41 pm

Raqi — Stop smoking me.

Sassy Me...lost like Nemo :-)

April 15th, 2011
3:41 pm

Booty hole = Knockoutblonde

:shock:

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
3:41 pm

Wait… I mean, don’t stop.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
3:42 pm

The hub picked up some Keebler Wheatables the last time he went to the store. You can have some of those if you like.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
3:42 pm

Don’t hate her because she’s booty full.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:44 pm

For Real/Swiss, she is almpost ready!

Sassy, pretty much. LOL

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
3:44 pm

I think we need to have a blog bachelor party as an excuse to to f__k some random skrippers in honor of Dan’s upcoming nuptials…

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:44 pm

DP=knockoutblonde

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:45 pm

Dna is getting married? For Real you are next, LOL Stay away from the light!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
3:46 pm

Purple — It’s the natural progression of things. Couple years from now, this’ll be a swingers blog. :lol:

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:48 pm

Shaggalicious!

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:49 pm

Swiss, oh you meant DP is the next progression after the booty hole? LOL

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
3:51 pm

Purple — My prophesies are intentionally ambiguous so that all may derive meaning from them.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
3:51 pm

In other words: yes.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:51 pm

Swiss, tell us more of the future please.

For Real

April 15th, 2011
3:52 pm

Swiss: I agree we should all honor Dan’s nuptials. Hell I say we make it a week long honoring to so that we can include yours and Purp’s nuts-u-walls as well.

“Dan is getting married? For Real you are next,” – Heyyyy Purp what have I done to you? Why all the hostility?

For Real

April 15th, 2011
3:53 pm

We should change knockoutblonde name to Ying-Yang and every time she post someone should write Ying-Yang in da house!!!

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
3:56 pm

The innanet has put Pueblo, Colorado out of business.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
3:58 pm

For Real okay, LOL

SexyCool?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
3:58 pm

“tell us more of the future please.”

I see darkness ahead — a gaping chasm of mystery. I hear shrieks bordering between pleasure and horror. I smell a pungent hint of sulfur and brimstone wafting in the air. I see… Oh… wait. That was just Slim’s CT….

(I kid because I luv, Slim) ;-) :lol:

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
4:00 pm

I just had a flashback to all those commercials when I was a kid where if you wanted information on just about ANYthing, you could send a SASE to Pueblo, Colorado.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
4:00 pm

I feel like getting dressed up. I am going to go take a shower, put on something really pretty with a nice pairs of heels and some cute accessories. This will a nice addition to the hub coming home to a NewYork strip steak, twice baked potatoes and sautéed green beans.

Yall be good.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:04 pm

Raqi, don’t forget the tequila!

SexyCool, what are you smoking?

Swiss, it smells like honey to me!

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
4:04 pm

I don’t smoke.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:06 pm

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
4:09 pm

Purple — After all these years of talk about Slim’s CT, I always think of it sort of like this:lol:

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:10 pm

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:12 pm

SexyCool, you spoiled my joke by not responding to smoking

Celisea

April 15th, 2011
4:15 pm

Glad I’m home so I can check out all the kinky links without the job banning me :)

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
4:19 pm

Only you, swiss.

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
4:25 pm

I can’t imagine Swis, Purp and 4Real all hi at the same time

  

April 15th, 2011
4:27 pm

Well this has, once again, turned into a “community chat room” instead of a blog about the topic.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:28 pm

Willie, but whatever ladies that are with us will have the tme of their life!

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
4:31 pm

Purp – no doubt about that. Just make sure I’m there if it ever happens.

Celisea

April 15th, 2011
4:31 pm

Hey “blank” wouldn’t you rather have shooting the breeze convo rather the slew of trolls that’s getting in under the gate??

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 15th, 2011
4:35 pm

Ya’ll are silly man. Missed ya’ll today…too many meetings.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:38 pm

Going to start a reality show!

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
4:40 pm

@PR ~ Make sure give “blank” a leading role.

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
4:41 pm

Celisea – I imagine ‘BLANK’ would rather have us have deep meaningful conversation @ 4:30 on a Friday to satisfy his/her voyueuristic tendencies.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:41 pm

Who is blank?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
4:43 pm

“I can’t imagine Swis, Purp and 4Real all hi at the same time”

I’d have to think the odds are pretty good that this ↑ has already happened on numerous occasions…

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
4:44 pm

@PR ~ blank’s only post is at 4:27

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:45 pm

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
4:45 pm

Matter of fact, right now could be one of them…. :lol:

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
4:47 pm

hahaha, so true

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:48 pm

Phone ringing?

Celisea

April 15th, 2011
4:48 pm

Willie D – LOL…”blank” ain’t getting that today. Not on a Friday after 44:00…not on this blog

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
4:54 pm

Purp – He too busy munchin Funyuns and cheez whiz to answer.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:55 pm

LOL Willie on a high person would eat those two together.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
4:57 pm

The mere mention of Funyuns makes you think you’re smelling them. UGGH!

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
4:58 pm

One of you high bloggers who keeps hearing phones ring, please leave the E.O.D…thank you.

African bloger

April 16th, 2011
3:05 pm

So how are u folks doing over here…do u recognise my broken english spellings..ha ha ha?

hey Celisea..hey Leggs..and u my phine sophisticates..miss reading u guys!
Swiss..Ms Swiss spitting pregnant saliva yet? howdee?