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When should you decline a date offer?

I used to get so frustrated with one of my friends because she would accept any and every offer for a date.  It’s great that she is friendly and approachable, I think more women should be! However, she doesn’t seem to have figured out when to turn a date down.

Even though my friend claims to be drawn to a specific type of guy, she welcomes and encourages the polar opposite to pursue her. When things don’t work out she is confused, shocked even.

She thinks I should try it her way more.  She asked me why I didn’t give the guy on Marta -  (a loud man with a tear drop tattoo under his eye) my phone number.  Of course, I could tell we weren’t a match but this was using that whole “judging a book by it’s tattooed cover” logic.  I told her that I’m pretty sure I’m way too boring for him!  Despite his persistent, profanity-laced attempts to get my number, I declined.

Maybe I could adopt her ways more ….and maybe she could try to be more selective.  I’m a firm believer in dating someone compatible with you but that can’t always be determined in a span of a Marta train ride.

When is it appropriate to decline a date or pass on someone who is vying for your attention?

When you figure out someone is not a good match, isn’t the polite thing to do is say no? How do you handle it when you have to let someone know you’re not willing to date them?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

283 comments Add your comment

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
3:58 pm

“tell us more of the future please.”

I see darkness ahead — a gaping chasm of mystery. I hear shrieks bordering between pleasure and horror. I smell a pungent hint of sulfur and brimstone wafting in the air. I see… Oh… wait. That was just Slim’s CT….

(I kid because I luv, Slim) ;-) :lol:

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
4:00 pm

I just had a flashback to all those commercials when I was a kid where if you wanted information on just about ANYthing, you could send a SASE to Pueblo, Colorado.

Raqi V

April 15th, 2011
4:00 pm

I feel like getting dressed up. I am going to go take a shower, put on something really pretty with a nice pairs of heels and some cute accessories. This will a nice addition to the hub coming home to a NewYork strip steak, twice baked potatoes and sautéed green beans.

Yall be good.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:04 pm

Raqi, don’t forget the tequila!

SexyCool, what are you smoking?

Swiss, it smells like honey to me!

SexyCool

April 15th, 2011
4:04 pm

I don’t smoke.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:06 pm

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
4:09 pm

Purple — After all these years of talk about Slim’s CT, I always think of it sort of like this:lol:

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:10 pm

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:12 pm

SexyCool, you spoiled my joke by not responding to smoking

Celisea

April 15th, 2011
4:15 pm

Glad I’m home so I can check out all the kinky links without the job banning me :)

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
4:19 pm

Only you, swiss.

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
4:25 pm

I can’t imagine Swis, Purp and 4Real all hi at the same time

  

April 15th, 2011
4:27 pm

Well this has, once again, turned into a “community chat room” instead of a blog about the topic.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:28 pm

Willie, but whatever ladies that are with us will have the tme of their life!

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
4:31 pm

Purp – no doubt about that. Just make sure I’m there if it ever happens.

Celisea

April 15th, 2011
4:31 pm

Hey “blank” wouldn’t you rather have shooting the breeze convo rather the slew of trolls that’s getting in under the gate??

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

April 15th, 2011
4:35 pm

Ya’ll are silly man. Missed ya’ll today…too many meetings.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:38 pm

Going to start a reality show!

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
4:40 pm

@PR ~ Make sure give “blank” a leading role.

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
4:41 pm

Celisea – I imagine ‘BLANK’ would rather have us have deep meaningful conversation @ 4:30 on a Friday to satisfy his/her voyueuristic tendencies.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:41 pm

Who is blank?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
4:43 pm

“I can’t imagine Swis, Purp and 4Real all hi at the same time”

I’d have to think the odds are pretty good that this ↑ has already happened on numerous occasions…

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
4:44 pm

@PR ~ blank’s only post is at 4:27

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:45 pm

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 15th, 2011
4:45 pm

Matter of fact, right now could be one of them…. :lol:

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
4:47 pm

hahaha, so true

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:48 pm

Phone ringing?

Celisea

April 15th, 2011
4:48 pm

Willie D – LOL…”blank” ain’t getting that today. Not on a Friday after 44:00…not on this blog

Willie Dynamite

April 15th, 2011
4:54 pm

Purp – He too busy munchin Funyuns and cheez whiz to answer.

Purple Rain

April 15th, 2011
4:55 pm

LOL Willie on a high person would eat those two together.

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
4:57 pm

The mere mention of Funyuns makes you think you’re smelling them. UGGH!

Leggs

April 15th, 2011
4:58 pm

One of you high bloggers who keeps hearing phones ring, please leave the E.O.D…thank you.

African bloger

April 16th, 2011
3:05 pm

So how are u folks doing over here…do u recognise my broken english spellings..ha ha ha?

hey Celisea..hey Leggs..and u my phine sophisticates..miss reading u guys!
Swiss..Ms Swiss spitting pregnant saliva yet? howdee?