There are times when we are most attracted to the people that really need us. I think it’s especially true with men, who seem to have an innate need to protect and provide. I often wonder how that drives the way we select mates.
Do you think that we have a little bit of the hero complex dynamic playing out in our relationships?
When I think of hero complex, I imagine someone who gets extreme pleasure from rescuing (perceived or otherwise) someone they are dating. Whether it is financially, emotionally, or whatever need you believe you can and should fulfill – it’s what appeals to you.
Have you ever gone through a hero complex phase? Everyone you dated was a “project,” or was someone you swooped in and saved from uncertain disaster. How did that play out when they no longer needed to be rescued?
Everyone wants to feel needed, but how can you tell when your desire to be needed is actually problematic because you have to be the”hero?”
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog