accessAtlanta

City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP
City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP

How much communication do you need?

Comedian Chris Rock once said that women loved talking so much, that if talking were an Olympic sport men wouldn’t stand a chance.  Alright, so women enjoy talking…a lot.  What do men have against talking?  There doesn’t seem to be a loss of words when it comes to NBA playoff debates or fantasy football stats!

What some men seem to dread is the discussions about their relationships, though.  Honestly, I’m not a big fan of the long drawn out talks about relationship issues either.  I understand that communication is important to make a relationship work.  I just think some people take it too far and go overboard.  How much communication do you really need in a relationship, anyway?

A reader emailed me recently because she has a hard time getting her man to talk about their sex life.  She wants to find out what he likes, tell him what she likes, and really work on making things better.  Her man is not the “communicating type” i.e. he’d rather just figure it out in the bedroom without all the deconstructing and analyzing.

I know that a man who is not big on communicating is likely to change, but is there some way to compromise this kind of thing?

Men, does it bother you when you are pressed to share feelings, thoughts, etc. when you are dating someone?  If you are in a relationship, are you willing to meet your woman half way and do a little more communicating?

Ladies, do you find that talking to your man about the relationship is like pulling teeth?  Have you tried taking him to a sports bar and talking to him over a beer? <– Advice from Steve Harvey. True Story.

BY Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

279 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

April 13th, 2011
4:36 pm

Swiss, I will just say “i’m an idiot” again

Leggs

April 13th, 2011
4:36 pm

the wee hours of a Winter’s night…

Purple Rain

April 13th, 2011
4:37 pm

DId you all read the news about the lady who drove her kids into the river over in New York and I think the 10 year old was the only one to escape the vehicle?

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2011
4:37 pm

Celisea – I know you would never call me a snot. No harm no foul.

PR – ALL the pics?

Leggs

April 13th, 2011
4:38 pm

Oh Boy, PR, sounds like you may be the brunt of a few jokes, or nothing will be said just so you can save face….(leave it alone, leave it alone (lol))..

Celisea

April 13th, 2011
4:38 pm

Awwww, I want to see the pics of little Dante.

Leggs – LOLOLOL :)

Raqi V

April 13th, 2011
4:38 pm

PurpleR, are you one of those guys that have to be spoken to and given directions in “terms you can understand”?

Celisea

April 13th, 2011
4:39 pm

Raqi V

April 13th, 2011
4:39 pm

PurpleR, has you wife given birth? If so Congratulations.

Celisea

April 13th, 2011
4:39 pm

terms you can understand”?

ba doomp doomp

Sassy Me...Exhaling :-)

April 13th, 2011
4:40 pm

you have to know that the standard alibi for wife killers has become the fishing/hunting/hiking/camping trip.

It plays out the same way almost all of the time..i.e.Scott Peterson. He claimed he was fishing when his pregnant wife disappeared…whuteva. This guy was trying to give himself an alibi…albeit a bad one at that…

My granny used to say “Unjust don’t prosper” and it sure don’t…

Raqi V

April 13th, 2011
4:41 pm

Celisea, what tickles me is we women are forever defending ourselves against the generalizations of these blog menfolk, yet they take issue when I make a statement based on my experience about a sect of people they are not a part of and know nothing about.

Your statement stands true.

Purple Rain

April 13th, 2011
4:41 pm

Raqi, yes our son is here early :)

Leggs, I just got some looks so far.

Willie D, all of the pictures! I thought I picked the ones I did not want to load to the site but it loaded them all.

Celisea

April 13th, 2011
4:45 pm

“Unjust don’t prosper”

agreed

Raqi – 4:41….exactly and as usual….

Have a good one blog folks

Leggs

April 13th, 2011
4:45 pm

Another case of technology getting a grown a$$ man in trouble. No disrespect, PR. Remember “this too shall pass….”

Leggs

April 13th, 2011
4:47 pm

@PR ~ I can only imagine. I’ll never forget my biggest blunder ever. Every time I see this person I act like it never happened. Thank goodness I only see him about 3 or 4x a year.

Purple Rain

April 13th, 2011
4:47 pm

I’m not in trouble only pictures of my wife and me taking turns holding the camera where the worst ones, she knew it was an honest mistake. I just feel like an idiot.

Raqi V

April 13th, 2011
4:48 pm

PurpleR, did you wife really call you an idiot? Or was it someone else?

Other news: Liz just asked me “what you doing?” LOL

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2011
4:48 pm

Raqi – really, you are tying together dating generalizations between Men and Women with the generalization of Murderers you made about an entire Religion. How is that even on the same thought process.

Raqi V

April 13th, 2011
4:49 pm

I am cooking. LOL Really I am.

Willie Dynamite

April 13th, 2011
4:49 pm

Leggs – care to share that blunder?

Purple Rain

April 13th, 2011
4:52 pm

Nobody called me an idiot, I said I realized today that I am an idiot. I am calling myself an idiot. My wife laughed about it and said that we just need to get another memory card that stay out of the camera for our activities.

Raqi V

April 13th, 2011
4:52 pm

How is that even on the same thought process

WillieD, my point is we all generalize. Sometimes wrongly and sometimes right on point. Whether it’s dating, cooking or cultural noting we all do it. How is what you all do here every day any less wrong than the experienced that I have shared?

We point out the fact all the time that you have not dated ALL women so stop generalizing but that doesn’t seem to stop yall. How is it different?

Leggs

April 13th, 2011
4:53 pm

I shared it before (I think). I’ll share it tomorrow. It’s a doosey. I thought it was an April Fool’s joke since it happened on April Fool’s day. I shared my blunder with a few friends. It is what it is. Remind me tomorrow.

Leggs

April 13th, 2011
5:00 pm

In regard to the topic of communication that turned to why get married:

Marriage is not a reaction to a relationship, but rather the evolution of it.

PEACE!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 13th, 2011
5:04 pm

“I’d like to see a nude opera, because when they hit those high notes, I bet you can really see it in those genitals” — Jack Handy

Purple Rain

April 13th, 2011
5:05 pm

Swiss, so you want to see the fat lady sing?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 13th, 2011
5:08 pm

Purple — Only if she’s nekkid.

Geechee

April 13th, 2011
5:37 pm

Swiss, For Real & Purple: You guys were really on fire this afternoon. Thanks