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Dating outside the box

A friend of mine wanted to know if I had any tips for meeting and dating white guys.  I’ve been known to date men from many different ethnic backgrounds, while she has recently decided to date “other.” I honestly don’t do anything differently, though. I generally meet and date them the same as I do other men.

I have found that when you find people who share the same interests, you are likely to meet someone that sparks an interest, regardless of their background. That is when you sort of let things happen naturally.  I did encourage her to venture to different “scenes” and add some variety to her social calendar.

Do you find it hard to date outside your box? Do you think we should meet and date people from different backgrounds to increase our dating options?

When it comes to race, religion, or political beliefs, how different are you willing to date?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

347 comments Add your comment

kimmie

April 11th, 2011
2:34 pm

Congrats Purple and Julia, on your little purple olive! I know you are going to be great parents!

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
2:34 pm

“you’ll figure out pretty much everything I say on here is a joke”

The Matterhorn doesn’t matter after all? The oral skills are silent? Aw..naw…you really do have bad credit?!?!? Stop it, I say.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 11th, 2011
2:34 pm

… Unless we start talking about religion or politics, then I get on my soap box… :lol:

Purple Rain

April 11th, 2011
2:34 pm

I feel “responsible” now, not that I wasn’t before I just feel more responsible. Thank you all, I did not mean to be on this long just wanted to let you all know!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 11th, 2011
2:36 pm

“The Matterhorn doesn’t matter after all? The oral skills are silent? Aw..naw…you really do have bad credit?!?!? Stop it, I say.”

Now, SexyC — You know the thing about comedy: it’s funny ‘cos it’s true:lol:

cba

April 11th, 2011
2:36 pm

Congrats PR…. as long as he’s healthy, nothing else matters. And of course, your wife.

Leggs

April 11th, 2011
2:38 pm

That’s normal, PR. Wished more felt that way. You are the protector of your family! Enjoy! Time does go by fast!

Geechee

April 11th, 2011
2:38 pm

I’ve never dated outside of the box, but it is something I wouldn’t hesitate to do as long as the attraction, intelligence & independence is there.

I have never dated or been with a black girl, but I have always had a desire and curiosity about it. At my high school reunion a few years ago, one of my black classmates privately confided to me that she was attracted to me in high school, but didn’t act on it (societal reasons I’m sure). I had no idea and really felt that I missed out so long ago.

Amazon Red: Once again, I am late to the dance and missed out to Laid Back White Guy. I’m only 6′ by the way.

Willie Dynamite

April 11th, 2011
2:40 pm

Purp – Alright, here’s the part thats not in the manual and no-one told you. You have about 6 weeks (give or take a few) of inactivity, Prepare yourself. Your days of being the errand boy are just beginning, take it in stride. You are officially second fiddle and despite what anyone says you would rather it be that way. Life as you know it between you and Julia will change. Look for your moments to rekindle the good ol days and get in where you fit in. Other than that You now are a Dad/Father/Sperm donor. Up to you to decide which one. Don’t take this the wrong way but Julia may one day be your Ex but That kid is yours Homie.

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
2:41 pm

Amazon Red: Once again, I am late to the dance and missed out to Laid Back White Guy. I’m only 6′ by the way

No worries…everyone knows I can’t keep a man! ;) You’ll get your turn! :lol:

Geechee

April 11th, 2011
2:42 pm

Thanks for the hope! I might not be able to sleep tonight.

Oh, and I have great credit.

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
2:42 pm

“everyone knows I can’t keep a man!

Not so true…you just cut ‘em loose extra quick.

Laid Back White Guy

April 11th, 2011
2:43 pm

When and where you wanna swirl ARed?

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
2:43 pm

Logged onto my checking account today….my mortgage balance showed up….eeeekkk!!! (lol)

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
2:44 pm

Not so true…you just cut ‘em loose extra quick.

That was sweet of you SCool (really). It’s true…but I’m okay with it. Most people can’t…until they do!

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
2:45 pm

Logged onto my checking account today….my mortgage balance showed up….eeeekkk!!! (lol)

:D

I remember the day that happened. I was like “what is the LARGE ass balance… oh… ” :lol:

kimmie

April 11th, 2011
2:45 pm

SCool – I don’t know if this is your first house or not, but don’t you just feel real GROWN now? I know I did!LOL!! Almost like Purple described about feeling more “responsible”, but in a different way.

For Real

April 11th, 2011
2:47 pm

Congrats Purp. I’m going to fedex this half of a half of bottle of Remy to you via grayhound. Just ask for Perm when you get to the bus station. I marked the bottle so if he drank any of it slap the ish out of him. Oh and Perm is going to need to ride too.

Willie: You hit the nail on the head with that 2:40.

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
2:48 pm

kimmie – second house. But yeah…I do feel all growed up this go around. Two reasons – my first house I bought cause my momma told me to. And this house, we are buying together.

Willie Dynamite

April 11th, 2011
2:49 pm

No worries…everyone knows I can’t keep a man! You’ll get your turn!

that didnt sound good. You telling the truth (lol) but at least try to sugarcoat it a lil bit. I know its not in you. But just in case.

Dynamite – excuse me Sir is this where you get the tix for the Amazon ride?

Ticket Hander Outer – Yes sir it is.

Dynamite – ok Thanks, any videos, strings attached, lingering side effects?

TKO – no sir, just a good verbal lashing and some backlash on a blog.

Dynamite – ok thanks, I’ll take 1 please. (Hey Letitia)

j/k bnr

For Real

April 11th, 2011
2:49 pm

“No worries…everyone knows I can’t keep a man! You’ll get your turn!” – Dayum at least you honest….

Leggs

April 11th, 2011
2:52 pm

“everyone knows I can’t keep a man!

Not so true…you just cut ‘em loose extra quick.

Worth repeating because more should be doing this…it’s all good!

cba

April 11th, 2011
2:53 pm

WD, I definitely second your 2:40. Baby was only two months old, and I almost crossed that line.
Thank God, I didn’t.

kimmie

April 11th, 2011
2:56 pm

Leggs – Your 2:52 – I agree.

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
2:57 pm

Well, Red, the other part of that is that you don’t stay where you are not wanted and / or not appreciated.

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
2:59 pm

that didnt sound good. You telling the truth (lol) but at least try to sugarcoat it a lil bit.

Y’all are so sensitive. It be different if I was in denial or didn’t like myself or something. But at the end of the day it’s true and it’s okay. It be different if I were somehow in capable. That part I won’t admit. ;)

Besides, I am catching up on one of my sorority sister’s blogs. And she’s written the story of how she and her husband met. And she was a doctor, that got married after 30 (the horror :lol: ) what excites me is that my story is yet to be written ( or maybe in progress ;) ) and it’s an exciting prospect to know that I’ll have my own story one day. (God willing :D )

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
3:01 pm

Loving the sisterhood today!!! Thank you SCool, Leggs, and kimmie. :D *warm fuzzies*

kimmie

April 11th, 2011
3:06 pm

what excites me is that my story is yet to be written ( or maybe in progress ) and it’s an exciting prospect to know that I’ll have my own story one day. (God willing

Amred – Exciting indeed. That is the attitude I took many years ago and it is a great outlook to have. I’ve had my ups and many downs, but I am really enjoying the journey! Be happy and LIVE!

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
3:09 pm

And let us not forget folks who are staying in bad situations, settling, sharing, unsatisfied and unhappy just to stay they have someone.

Leggs

April 11th, 2011
3:09 pm

@ARed ~ we all have our moments (including me), but believe me, you are a strong woman, you have confidence in yourself and you know what you will and will not settle with. Nothing wrong with that. In time, you’ll find that man that will want to roll with you and not under you. {{muah}}!

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
3:10 pm

Be happy and LIVE!

Absolutely. My only regret would be if I didn’t. If I were sitting at home moping or something.

And it’s truly a blessing to be able to do so as well.

Willie Dynamite

April 11th, 2011
3:10 pm

what excites me is that my story is yet to be written ( or maybe in progress ) and it’s an exciting prospect to know that I’ll have my own story one day. (God willing )

maybe in progress, wait a min did I miss something?

awww to be a footnote in that story.

Dynamite – I think I’ll take two tix
TKO – But sir you haven’t even took your 1st ride.
Dynamite – no worries, I’m sure I’ll enjoy it, even if I don’t look at that line. I can always bootleg the extra tix. Matter o fact Think I’ll charge extra cause this line not gon be open foreva

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
3:10 pm

And let us not forget folks who are staying in bad situations, settling, sharing, unsatisfied and unhappy just to stay they have someone.

Amen.

LOL @ “sharing”

Leggs

April 11th, 2011
3:11 pm

Well, not “solely” under you (lol)!

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
3:11 pm

maybe in progress, wait a min did I miss something?

NO! :lol:

LOL @ your dialogue.

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
3:12 pm

Well, not “solely” under you (lol)!

Leggs :lol:

Willie Dynamite

April 11th, 2011
3:16 pm

see you can be Coy when the situation dictates.

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
3:17 pm

see you can be Coy when the situation dictates.

Shut up. :lol:

Laid Back White Guy

April 11th, 2011
3:20 pm

This relationship has ended before it got started…ARed’s already ignoring me…lol

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
3:21 pm

My bad! I didn’t have an answer for you, White Guy. I’m a tease. :lol:

Laid Back White Guy

April 11th, 2011
3:23 pm

No worries!!…lol…I like to tease too…That’s the fun part of it!!

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
3:24 pm

Oh…y’all should both just happen to show up at the Starbucks on Camp Creek around 8p this evening and order a tall caramel latte, wearing a white ball cap.

Leggs

April 11th, 2011
3:26 pm

kimmie

April 11th, 2011
3:27 pm

SCool – I might show up, to be nosy! LOL!! :lol:

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
3:28 pm

SCool!!! :lol:

I bet ya that white boy doesn’t even know where Camp Creek is!

(when the white folks at my job ask me where I live…I say in the city of Atlanta, but south of I-20… no follow up questions are asked) :lol:

Willie Dynamite

April 11th, 2011
3:28 pm

LBWG – Hold on man, please don’t be swayed by the line. Just understand this is a very long line that you are smack dab in the middle of. Just because you are 6″5 don’t mean she can see you waaaaay back here. psst I happen to know of a way to get you to the front of the line. It’ll take some ingenuity (I’ll handle that part) and plenty o cash (thats where you come in). You can either stand back here and whine or holler at your boy.

Dynamite – SimpMan what up boi? thought you got out of line long time ago.
Simp – Naww just left to go by the bank, what you got for me?
Dynamite – maaaaan how much you got, think i can slide you in.hold up a min,

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
3:29 pm

Me too….but I’d be wearing one of my 8million softball t-shirts with my name on it. (lol)

Letitia

April 11th, 2011
3:31 pm

@Willie Dynamite: Careful Willie, that’s my name legal name. My husband is a regular blogger. How now knows I knows he’s blogging is a mystery to him. An even bigger mystery is if the other shoe will drop or if I’ll do my own thing, never confronting.

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
3:33 pm

Dammit, Letitia. Who is yo husband?

Laid Back White Guy

April 11th, 2011
3:33 pm

@Willie…How do I get to the front of the line?…lol
@ARed…I’m an hour north of the city but I know where Camp Creek is…I fly to Vegas a few times a year…that is the road where you park and catch the shuttles isn’t it?…btw..how tall are you? : ))