Dating outside the box
A friend of mine wanted to know if I had any tips for meeting and dating white guys. I’ve been known to date men from many different ethnic backgrounds, while she has recently decided to date “other.” I honestly don’t do anything differently, though. I generally meet and date them the same as I do other men.
I have found that when you find people who share the same interests, you are likely to meet someone that sparks an interest, regardless of their background. That is when you sort of let things happen naturally. I did encourage her to venture to different “scenes” and add some variety to her social calendar.
Do you find it hard to date outside your box? Do you think we should meet and date people from different backgrounds to increase our dating options?
When it comes to race, religion, or political beliefs, how different are you willing to date?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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For Real
April 11th, 2011
11:46 am
‘I thought that might coax you out of lurking’ – Swiss rubbing my life size replica of Slim’s CT works too!
Fion
April 11th, 2011
11:46 am
@ For Real
That’s all I’m saying.
Sweet Pea
April 11th, 2011
11:46 am
ARed~I co-sign your 11:44
kimmie
April 11th, 2011
11:48 am
Date what you are attracted to because when you rationalize your reason for dating someone it’s a disservice to the both of you.
4 Real – Well said.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
April 11th, 2011
11:49 am
“Swiss rubbing my life size replica of Slim’s CT works too!”
D@mn, For Real — Life-sized? How do you fit that in your house?
For Real
April 11th, 2011
11:49 am
Nice posts Ared. There is so much hardship in the world that it baffles my mind why someone would limit their opportunity for happiness.
For Real
April 11th, 2011
11:50 am
“How do you fit that in your house?” – Lots of lubrication and wang power!
SlimNumeroUno
April 11th, 2011
11:51 am
‘Swiss rubbing my life size replica of Slim’s CT works too!’
For Real – And how did you manage to get your hands on that mold? Hmmmm…
AmazonRed™
April 11th, 2011
11:51 am
Don’t get me wrong tho. I do have an ex who thinks every black man should be able to screw a white woman in order to get their “reparations”
(he was joking folks)
SlimNumeroUno
April 11th, 2011
11:52 am
‘How do you fit that in your house?’
Swiss – It really isn’t that big…anymore. You know how they say, the older you get the more you begin to shrink. So um…you may wanna measure yourself there tanto, and see how much slack you’ve lost
AmazonRed™
April 11th, 2011
11:53 am
One of my friends heard this “joke” go down in his office last week:
Scenario: Black guy and white girl cracking jokes at the office.
Black guy says: “you know they say once you go black, you never go back”.
Her response- “noooo once you go black you become a single mom”.
Wow!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
April 11th, 2011
11:53 am
Slim — Ouch! Low blow… literally…
SexyCool
April 11th, 2011
11:54 am
My issue with mark’s delivery is that it is racist and divisive. A sure sign of the low sense of self of which he speaks is the need to attempt to build himself up by putting other’s down.
To stand on simply being a black man, you do not have to consider one who makes another choice as lowering herself, unless you have somehow placed yourself above another race.
SlimNumeroUno
April 11th, 2011
11:57 am
swiss – Well if its a blow then you’re still good. If it was a high blow, then you might be in trouble
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
April 11th, 2011
11:59 am
Slim — I’m sorry, did you say something? I was too busy consoling myself on your vulva…
For Real
April 11th, 2011
12:04 pm
“For Real – And how did you manage to get your hands on that mold?” – A winning personality, good looks, charm and narcotics. Well it was mostly the narcotics but I had to carry you up a flight a stairs and remove your clothes tho.
Simple Man!!!!
April 11th, 2011
12:05 pm
Afternoon Ared….
“Scenario: Black guy and white girl cracking jokes at the office.
Black guy says: “you know they say once you go black, you never go back”.
Her response- “noooo once you go black you become a single mom”.
Wow!”
Well Damn….How does one follow that???
SlimNumeroUno
April 11th, 2011
12:07 pm
‘I was too busy consoling myself on your vulva…’
Swiss – Tu shae my nizzle, toooo shay
AmazonRed™
April 11th, 2011
12:13 pm
Well Damn….How does one follow that???
He didn’t! He just said “damn, that’s messed up” and slinked away!
SlimNumeroUno
April 11th, 2011
12:21 pm
For Real – Sort of reminds of that movie Hall Pass when the guy asked the chick if that napkin smelled like Chloraform lol
Sassy Me...Exhaling :-)
April 11th, 2011
12:24 pm
He just said “damn, that’s messed up” and slinked away!
with tail tucked between the legs no doubt….
Sweet Pea
April 11th, 2011
12:35 pm
@ARed~ A visual of his exit has me cracking up! That response was enough to never revisit that kind of joke! OUCH!
Dan - Simply....Superior
April 11th, 2011
12:36 pm
And if there were ever an opportunity rife for the defense of Black men and women…
Sweet Pea
April 11th, 2011
12:38 pm
May I also add a Homer Simpson quote: D’oh!! for that one!
SlimNumeroUno
April 11th, 2011
12:44 pm
True conversation at work last week
White chick: Dang, seems like black guys have nice lips, nice skin tone, tight azzez and from what I hear, big wangs…Why they gotta get it all?
Slim: Well, you know everyone doesn’t get it all. God made us that way. So even though you think black men have all that going on, don’t forget that White dudes have something black men don’t.
WC: What could that possibly be?
Slim: Good credit
AmazonRed™
April 11th, 2011
12:47 pm
Dan – has your fiance been married before?
SexyCool
April 11th, 2011
12:47 pm
All white dudes don’t have good credit just like all black dudes ain’t packing. Trust. It’s some broke ass, bad credit, big dizzle white boys running around loose in the A.
Dan - Simply....Superior
April 11th, 2011
12:51 pm
@ARed
yeap
@Slim/SC
But they all do have the presumption of innocence in the eyes of law enforcement – buleeve that
SlimNumeroUno
April 11th, 2011
12:52 pm
Sexycool – I know, i was just acting an azz at the time. I think i really threw her off guard with that. She was crying laughing
Willie Dynamite
April 11th, 2011
12:53 pm
Afternoon All,
I see its after-noon and not on topic. Soooo predictable, but it is a recycled topic that pretty much has a simple response, DO YOU.
AmazonRed™
April 11th, 2011
12:53 pm
Ooh Slim…
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
April 11th, 2011
12:53 pm
“It’s some broke ass, bad credit, big dizzle white boys running around loose in the A.”
You rang?
AmazonRed™
April 11th, 2011
12:56 pm
You know your credit is good…
For Real
April 11th, 2011
12:57 pm
Something off topic to brighten up your Monday.
http://finance.yahoo.com/blogs/daily-ticker/good-king-ceo-pay-big-2010-not-much-20110411-085325-820.html
SexyCool
April 11th, 2011
12:59 pm
Leggs – don’t you just love *our* carpet guy? (lol)
SexyCool
April 11th, 2011
1:01 pm
Appliance shopping su-huuuuxxxx!!!!
NY state of mind
April 11th, 2011
1:04 pm
Hey Fam-
I live in NYC where any and everything goes…nothing is outside the box as its all normal and way over the top in this crazy city.
In my teens I might have said “Yuck” to dating outside of my race, In my 20’s I probably would have found myself attracted to a white or Asian man but kept it a secret from my friends and family..in my 30’s I tried it and at 40…I’m all out in the open with it.
Dan - Simply....Superior
April 11th, 2011
1:05 pm
@SC
Do not. I repeat. Do not get a “store” credit card.
The rates are turrible and they dent your credit by type, usage, and amount.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
April 11th, 2011
1:05 pm
SexyC / Leggs — Hold up, now… Who do you two ladies have steaming your carpet? I can’t believe you didn’t let me put in a quote…
ARed — That is the single biggest advantage of being a whiteboy (particularly a preppy-looking whiteboy)… Folks always assume that (good credit). Who am I to shatter their expectations…?
Of course, many also assume that I’m not bringing much heat from down under — which, ironically, is also an advantage. With the lowered expectations, it makes The Matterhorn all the more impressive by contrast…
SexyCool
April 11th, 2011
1:07 pm
Dan – Paying cash.
Leggs
April 11th, 2011
1:09 pm
@SexyC ~ yes ma’am, I do. The carpet is squeaky clean, vaccummed nicely and smelling fresh (lololol).
SexyCool
April 11th, 2011
1:11 pm
Swizzbeats…side eye…eye roll and rofl…
AmazonRed™
April 11th, 2011
1:13 pm
SCool – Did you really need that piece of advice Dan gave you? Goodness. So patronizing…
NY state of mind
April 11th, 2011
1:14 pm
@Swiss- In my Wendy Williams voice…How you doing?
AmazonRed™
April 11th, 2011
1:15 pm
LOL @ swiss -
Like SCool, I don’t naturally assume all white folks naturally have good credit. For some reason, you seem to be pretty savvy, so I do assume you do.
SexyCool
April 11th, 2011
1:21 pm
ARed…well…LMAO!!! Girl……I am seriously throwing my head back laughing.
What TheDude and I are debating is whether or not to purchase the card on Visa/MC (and immediately pay it off) to get their consumer protections and the points.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
April 11th, 2011
1:25 pm
ARed — Well, I do know how to work the system to my advantage…
Even better, Mrs. Swiss’s credit score is better than mine — I got the trophy wife & the sugar-mama all rolled into one… 
NY state — I’m doin’ aiight… How you doin’?
NY state of mind
April 11th, 2011
1:32 pm
I waited until I was 35yrs get my first credit card. I like paying with cash or debit cards..that way I can avoid over spending or being in debt. However I must admit the points I racked up from my credit card got me a trip to Aruba on Continental Airlines.
AmazonRed™
April 11th, 2011
1:33 pm
SCool – The answer to my question is still “NO.”
But you know I’m laughing while shaking my head. 
swiss – That Matterhorn must be something else! You sure got you a winner of a wife!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
April 11th, 2011
1:35 pm
“I like paying with cash or debit cards..that way I can avoid over spending or being in debt.”
You, and lots of other folks prefer that, too. Banks, on the other hand, not so much…