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Dating outside the box

A friend of mine wanted to know if I had any tips for meeting and dating white guys.  I’ve been known to date men from many different ethnic backgrounds, while she has recently decided to date “other.” I honestly don’t do anything differently, though. I generally meet and date them the same as I do other men.

I have found that when you find people who share the same interests, you are likely to meet someone that sparks an interest, regardless of their background. That is when you sort of let things happen naturally.  I did encourage her to venture to different “scenes” and add some variety to her social calendar.

Do you find it hard to date outside your box? Do you think we should meet and date people from different backgrounds to increase our dating options?

When it comes to race, religion, or political beliefs, how different are you willing to date?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

347 comments Add your comment

Leggs

April 11th, 2011
10:53 am

@SassyMe ~ do your thang, girl! Do Your Thang! :lol: :lol: :lol: Umm, he’s here “for another 2 weeks.” Sounds like you’re going to be walking like a cowgirl who rode her horse too long! :lol: :lol:

@swiss ~ you are funny, as usual.

Leggs

April 11th, 2011
10:54 am

@Letitia ~ do we know which one is your husband???

latoya

April 11th, 2011
10:55 am

say it ain’t so………..

Fion

April 11th, 2011
10:55 am

@ kimmie
“Fion – Why didn’t you marry her?”

Patriarchal culture. Her father had passed before they came to America.

Well, she had two brothers, her Older brother did not approve of her dating me at all. Her younger brother was happy for her.
I hadn’t asked, but she had expressed to her family that she wanted to marry me. Her older brother pulled his trump card her money. Her money was tied to her family in a Trust. After all of that came out it was too much strife for me.
Her mother is old and it was too much of a family dynamic for me.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 11th, 2011
10:55 am

“My husband is hanging out here.”

Oh snap! :lol:

Sassy Me...Exhaling :-)

April 11th, 2011
10:56 am

I believe Sassy was gonna get her back blown out this weekend…

Yeah and by now I’m sure the neighbors know his name. Good thing I went grocery shopping :-)

On topic: I’ve been curious about dating outside of my race for some time but haven’t had the opportunity. I’m sure the opportunity will present itself but I’m going to go out of my way to make it happen. It either will or it won’t.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 11th, 2011
10:57 am

Honey, if that’s you… just ask any of the blog regulars how whipped I am… :lol:

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
10:57 am

How ironic

Some troll comes on here trying to call a married guy out. Now we have a wife popping in.

I guess it’s slow enough around here to entertain us for a while…

Now watch the dogding of answers… :?

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
10:58 am

Honey, if that’s you…

:lol:

She’ll have to weed through your posts of picturing half of the blog ladies nekkid first, swiss. :lol:

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
10:59 am

If anyone’s wife came lurking here, it be Purple Rain’s as he once told her about it and she posted for a brief moment. :lol:

kimmie

April 11th, 2011
11:00 am

Fion – Sounds like there are “issues” whichever way you go. Just depends on what you want to deal with.

Which is why everyone should do what makes them happy. Just not put down their own in the process.

Sassy Me...Exhaling :-)

April 11th, 2011
11:00 am

You shopping for a headboard this week, or are you gonna wait til Ole boy is on his way back home???

:lol:

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 11th, 2011
11:00 am

ARed — Shhhhhh! Ixnay on the ekkidnay, got ammitday! :lol:

kimmie

April 11th, 2011
11:01 am

Amred – Purple was the first one that came to my mind!LOL!!!

Fion

April 11th, 2011
11:02 am

…….@ you lost me.

Fion

April 11th, 2011
11:03 am

@kimmie

you lost me.

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
11:06 am

MCH, perhaps?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 11th, 2011
11:08 am

Actually, Mrs. Swiss knows all about my blog shenanigans… Besides, what would the ol’ blog be without it’s Court Jester? ;-) (I mean somebody’s got to talk about CTs and titTAYs, right?)

kimmie

April 11th, 2011
11:08 am

Fion – You said you don’t have to deal with the bull and gameplaying from non-American women. But there are cultural differences with the non-Americans you’d rather not deal with.

It’s always something!

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
11:08 am

Actually, MCH is who came to my mind on both occasions.

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
11:09 am

titTAYs?

I’m so done. :lol: !

Leggs

April 11th, 2011
11:09 am

@Letitia~ aren’t you the one who lurked for about 2 weeks before podting? A blog vest still needs to be issued to you sometime in the future. Also, did you give your husband your real moniker…just curious.

Letitia

April 11th, 2011
11:10 am

I wondered if he’s pee’d in his pants? Tee hee hee. He knows who he is.

Leggs

April 11th, 2011
11:12 am

before posting….

kimmie

April 11th, 2011
11:12 am

Letitia – Is he a “Libertarian with conservative leanings”?

Sweet Pea

April 11th, 2011
11:13 am

Good Morning!

“I just need some sex”

Simp~No Trapeze escapade this weekend???? LOL

Sassy~I see you didn’t have to go in-cog-kneegrow cause the excitement was at your own place! :)

If happenstance occur and there is chemistry on both parts then I say, let the dating begin BUT you certainly won’t find me exerting myself in a social setting where it’s obvious I don’t fit to make it happen.

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
11:13 am

LOL, kimmie….to funny…you really must always be careful. You never know who’s watching/reading.

kimmie

April 11th, 2011
11:15 am

SCool – Absolutely! :lol:

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 11th, 2011
11:15 am

Obviously…but for the record, not it

Fion

April 11th, 2011
11:19 am

@kimmie

My intial response to you was “Don’t try and delegitimize the comment, just accept it.”

…..anywho
That is a real life un-fabricated circumstance. In my experience with American women a lot of the dating drama is self induced by the woman. It is as predictable as reading a script.
Given the choice, give me the un-fabricated circumstance all day long.

Sassy Me...Exhaling :-)

April 11th, 2011
11:19 am

I see you didn’t have to go in-cog-kneegrow cause the excitement was at your own place!

Chile I had my own Trapeze action. going on…WITH the wig,too….but I digress.

Ditto on the last part of your post Sweet Pea. If the feeling is mutual then cool but I’m not about to jump through hoops to make it happen.

Alright who’s here and ain’t s’posed to be?!…we got a couple on here?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 11th, 2011
11:20 am

Oh, and I suppose I should have offered earlier, but if any of the lovely blog sistahs are interested in tips on dating whiteboys, I’m available for tutorial sessions… :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

April 11th, 2011
11:20 am

‘I mean somebody’s got to talk about CTs and titTAYs, right?’

Did someone summon me? :lol:

mark

April 11th, 2011
11:20 am

@lasha i dont have a chip on my shouldar im just saying that i love black women only! and would not date one that would lower herself to date a whiteman.. its people like you and others on here that say things like you would date any man regaurdless of race just as long as he treats you right then you have a low sense of self and need to look in the mirror sista! because your confused.

Dan - Simply....Superior

April 11th, 2011
11:22 am

@Fion

I think Kimmie has a point, every woman (and man too) has their own “issues”; this fact transcends race, creed, socioeconomics, and yes citizenship.

Pick your poison and roll with it

mark

April 11th, 2011
11:24 am

@simple man Bro i keep the Bow Tie on! and my woman Black! all im saying is that i love black women and would be hard pressed to date outside the box. im really surprise by all the sistas on here that call me simple minded because all i want to date are blackwomen. and instead of giving me praise they call me narrow mined:(

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 11th, 2011
11:24 am

Slim — I thought that might coax you out of lurking… :lol:

kimmie

April 11th, 2011
11:29 am

Fion – Do you by all means, because that’s what I do.

It’s actually been my real life experience too, that those who generalize or stereotype an entire race, creed, nationality, etc, are really doing those people a favor by avoiding them. For example, AA men that don’t want to deal with me, an AA woman – by all means keep it moving!

Fion

April 11th, 2011
11:31 am

@Dan
“Pick your poison and roll with it”

Bingo my man, Bingo!!!
Given the choice, give me the un-fabricated circumstance all day long.

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
11:33 am

mark – Don’t know how old you are, but you should have learned by now it’s not always what you say, but how you say it.

You had to knock down black women to make your point. So yeah, you gets no praise. :lol:

kimmie

April 11th, 2011
11:35 am

Amred – High 5.

Nope, no praise at all. Don’t do us any favors.

mark

April 11th, 2011
11:36 am

@amazon how did i knock down black women i love you all!

For Real

April 11th, 2011
11:40 am

For those women interested in dating a white man or latino man or any other, other man you can think of I’m free.

The only problem I have with people that want to date other is when their whole rationale for dating other is “Because of _______”. Date what you are attracted to because when you rationalize your reason for dating someone it’s a disservice to the both of you.

SexyCool

April 11th, 2011
11:42 am

“you would date any man regaurdless of race just as long as he treats you right”

Well, hell…I thought that was the point of being in a relationship with someone…to be treated right.

Sweet Pea

April 11th, 2011
11:42 am

Mark~ black women i love you all!

Apparently not when you seem to berate women that date outside their race.

For Real

April 11th, 2011
11:43 am

Fion: I understand what you are saying. Foreign women are more upfront and you know right away whether or not she likes you or if she is having a good time with you.

SlimNumeroUno

April 11th, 2011
11:43 am

‘I thought that might coax you out of lurking’

swiss – it’s sort of like signing the bat signal up into the air. lol

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
11:44 am

mark – By calling us confused and making it seem like inter racial love can not be genuine.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

April 11th, 2011
11:44 am

“it’s sort of like signing the bat signal up into the air. lol”

Except that it makes your CT tingle, right? ;-) :lol:

AmazonRed™

April 11th, 2011
11:44 am

And by the way, while I have never dated a white man, it’s beside the point. If I wanted to, I’d do it because it’s a good fit for me and not because I’m confused or given up or anything. :D