So I have this ongoing “flirtatious dance” in the elevator situation going on with one of my neighbors.  We’ve lived in the same building for five years now and somehow we don’t go beyond a twenty minute conversation.  He’s invited me over for dinner but we never set a date.  I’ve asked him for a ride on his bike but we never got around to it.

He is painfully shy and not at all a “slick” player from what I can tell.  At this point, I’ve long given up on moving things from the elevator!  I was asking my “male decoder” how much reassurance men really needed. How many ways can a woman indicate to men that they  have the green light and can proceed!?

He told me that it could be a matter of shyness or maybe he is just playing hard to get. I’m stunned.

Wait a minute! Do men even play hard to get? Why? Why would they do that?  I need answers! I don’t think I’d have a clue of what a guy playing  hard to get even acts like.  To me it’s either full court press or I’m traded in …

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I admire couples who seem to be totally in sync with one another.  It just seems as if these are the relationships have the most longevity.  You can’t always tell if your new relationship will end up in sync.  However, I think a good early indication is how well you resolve conflict and how considerate you are of one another.

This is especially true when it comes to sex and intimacy. If you find out that the person you are dating is not respectful and considerate of your needs and wishes in the bedroom, you should think long and hard about whether you have a future with them.

Whether it is about respecting your desire to abstain, or understanding your boundaries, getting in sync with your partner should be a common goal.  Obviously it takes some work to get there. I believe this is one of the reasons why it’s important not to rush into anything when you want something meaningful.

The more time and effort that is put into learning the person, the better you come to know and …

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I am your fellow soldier on the love battlefield, so I feel compelled to send you this warning: Beware of returning exes.  I’ve noticed  “returning ex” season kicks off in March and I’m expecting a random visit, text message, or Facebook poke from one of my exes.  It’s so funny because they usually find a way to work in:  “So, are you seeing anyone?” or “Are you married yet?”

Does it ever bother you when your ex pops up in your life? Are you happy to hear from them or annoyed that they are still keeping tabs on you?

Why does it seem that our exes wait until we are over them, completely happy, and moved on to a new romance to show up?

Are you in need of an ex flame repellent? What do you do to keep unwelcome ex boyfriends/girlfriends from ruining your new romance?

If your ex is still able to garner some kind of reaction from you, does that mean you aren’t really over them yet?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating …

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