Single and sexless
Whether you are going through a serious dating drought or celibate for personal reasons, you’ve probably become accustomed to your single and sexless status. Quiet as its kept, there are many single people who go for long, long periods of time without hooking up with anyone.
Do you think that being single and sexless is the reason why so many of us jump into less then ideal relationships? I’m talking about when we start dating inappropriate people simply because we crave that connection with someone. Does that cloud our dating judgment? It would explain a lot, don’t you think?
How do you handle your single status when it comes to living without sex? Does it become a problem for you when you try to date someone?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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255 comments Add your comment
What?
March 30th, 2011
6:44 am
How much does the AJC pay you to come up with this junk?
Name (required)
March 30th, 2011
6:54 am
Masturbation is the key. The cavemen did it…..Jesus did it….the Pope does it…..even animals do it. Why? Because it works.
Montana Slim
March 30th, 2011
7:13 am
To “What?”-Why are you reading this “junk”? The question is a reasonable one and, in the thoughtful persons may trigger meaningful discussion.
Greg Oden's Hog
March 30th, 2011
7:17 am
Nothing an Arby’s Big Montana can’t cure. With horse radish of course.
What?
March 30th, 2011
7:17 am
Anyone giving thought to these type of discussions has way too much time on their hands.
str8
March 30th, 2011
7:19 am
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Str8 from back in the day!
Geechee
March 30th, 2011
7:34 am
During the break up of my marriage and then moving out, I went around ten or so months without having sex. It wasn’t easy, but it wasn’t the end of the world either. I had other priorities and things on my mind. When it was all over, I didn’t use it as an opportunity to jump into a less than ideal relationship though. I picked up what I could and waited for the right person to come along.
Lum
March 30th, 2011
7:54 am
So we’ve come to this, have we?
Tired Out
March 30th, 2011
8:04 am
My theory would be that, if you are in a serious dating drought (including lack of sex) and going on one date solves both your problems, then you probably should’ve gone out with someone else. I’ve never understood people who “go all the way” on the first date…
Simple Man!!!!
March 30th, 2011
8:29 am
Morning Peeps….
(Now waiting for the real converstion to start)
MC Hammock
March 30th, 2011
8:39 am
I once went almost a whole year without sex, but that was just after college, but it wasn’t intended. I was overseas and working my a$$ off. Since then, I was a regular dater and sometimes just hooked up or went out with her because of her looks and sexuality. Made for some incredible times meeting new people without having to deal with the negatives. Actually, my sex life when I was single was light years better than my sex life after marriage. And that includes with my wife. Now, I have a regular date with Rosie and her five sisters to keep me sane and focused.
Reggie
March 30th, 2011
8:41 am
If you are afraid of lonliness and lack of regular sex, you’d better not get married. I feel ya, MCH.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 30th, 2011
8:44 am
Whatever the reason may be for me to stop having sex, that same reason would probably compel me to not date at that time as well. If I’m dating, then I’m having sex.
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 30th, 2011
8:47 am
I marveled (still do) at people that can go more than six months without some form of sex. It truly baffles me.
That stated, when those droughts hit, you gotta ride them out and focus on other things. The single easiest was to stay dry is to get thirsty.
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 30th, 2011
8:47 am
easiest *way
Simple Man!!!!
March 30th, 2011
8:49 am
I fully respect anyone who Chooses to forgo sex for whatever reason they attach…But for the life of me, I can not understand how anyone that wants to have sex isn’t doing it….I todays world, in this city, anyone that is looking to have sex should be able to do it pretty easily…..
knockoutblonde
March 30th, 2011
8:51 am
No, no, no….it’s easier for women to avoid the “sexless” period, because men flock like sharks to blood. I don’t have regular one night stands (but I have before), but the sexual part of my life is WAY too important to me. Yes, sometimes I could use just a reasonably attractive male body to get rid of the stress, but I usually have a least a “friend” that I will occassionally fool around with. Have I ever thought “I just need to be ******”? Yep, absolutely. If you are just looking for the coveted “connection”, then that dramatically drains to pool. I can’t see me going a couple of months without it. I might hit some man over the head with a club and drag him back to my place.
Sorry, if I offend some of the regulars here, but sometimes the need over-rides the connection. Is it any wonder that the #1 fantasy among women is the “Anonymous Sex” fantasy? There is something to be said for that. Sex may not be #1 or #2 on my list of important things, but it sure is way ahead of #4 and #5.
Midwife
March 30th, 2011
8:59 am
I think sex is very overrated and the mdia and entertainment presents it as something as necessary as food and water. I’ve gone long periods without it and I didn’t die. It’s nice with a trusted partner, but it’s not something I think about every day.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
9:01 am
Good morning.
Of course, you know I had to truly chuckle at the topic.
Single and sexless is not a death sentence. Be happy with yourself, as well as with your circumstances. If you think sex defines who you are, then you will no doubt hook up for the sake of hooking up. When you value yourself and your contributions to a relationship you simply will not settle for the “wangs” that are offered to you in the hopes of making you feel wanted/needed/appreciated. It’s easier for some to go “through it” than others. For those in relationships just to be in one to avoid “lonlieness” are pitiful. They’re lowering their self-worth. Being alone is not the same as being lonely.
knockoutblonde
March 30th, 2011
9:06 am
@Dan & Dreams, I agree with you. Why would someone with a stable mind set WANT to go that long without it. SIX MONTHS??? You gotta be kidding me. I can’t imagine someone CHOOSING to do that. If you can do that, more power to you, but I wasn’t cut from that same sheet of cloth. I work hard, take care of my responsibilities and lead a very productive life. But when the need hits, it just hits…sometimes harder than others. Maybe I’m just a man’s mind set trapped in a woman’s body….lol
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
9:06 am
“In [sic} todays world,” is precisely why people aren’t jumping bones for the sheer hell of it. If a person cannot control their horniness, a bigger problem exists. Just because one is horny doesn’t mean they should always act on it. That’s my perspective, but I’m a woman!
knockoutblonde
March 30th, 2011
9:11 am
Leggs, I would NEVER do that just to feel “wanted/needed/appreciated”. That’s crazy. If I do it, it’s because I want to, because I need the release, because I weel….well…..horny (to be blunt). If you engage because you:
1) Don’t want him/her to cheat
2) Doing it just to keep him/her quiet
3) So you will feel needed/wanted/appreciated
4) Just to fill the expected “quota”
Then you are WAY off base and maybe need to be checked for some mental barrier that hampers you from fully enjoying it. I honestly don’t get it.
Simple Man!!!!
March 30th, 2011
9:13 am
Morning Leggs, Morning KOB!!!
Leggs, I don’t think its a matter of not being able to control ones hormones, but just as some choose to abstain, some choose not to….If a person is responsible and decides to have a happy,and active sex life, whats wrong with that???
Simple Man!!!!
March 30th, 2011
9:15 am
And “self love” is just as important!!! In fact I “love” myself EVERYDAY!!!!
knockoutblonde
March 30th, 2011
9:17 am
morning Simple!
I heard this joke once “You know what some people’s idea of a sex maniac is? Anyone that enjoys sex or has more sex then they do.” Truth is, it’s not just a joke.
knockoutblonde
March 30th, 2011
9:22 am
OK, that’s it for me. Gotta hit the bricks. Have a great day everyone!
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
9:22 am
Morning,
So is Diva asking if your judgement is clouded because you haven’t had a good release? That you’re picking the wrong person because you miss the presence of a physical body? Well what about folks that are getting it on the regular with jacked up mates? What’s their reason? All excuses IMO. You’re in a bad relationship because you lack judgement…period. Nothing to do with the lack of sex. Too, IMO…you have to go be grown (fully) to understand abstinence. If you’re looking around wondering “how they do that” and you’re over 35 well you probably got some growing up to do. Not saying you have to refrain but you shouldn’t be asking or trying to understand why folks don’t or ain’t having sex. Many many reasons.
NY state of mind
March 30th, 2011
9:30 am
Morn Fam-
@Midwife- sex is only overrated when you have fallen in love with a grown man who can still wear pull-ups.
People go long periods w/o sex as I have after my divorce. I went an entire year w/o dating or having sex. When I finally checked back in to the dating scene, I was really selective as to who can get it. The pain I experienced after my divorce could have turned me into a complete whore but instead I took a break -made some assessments- reinvented myself- slowly began to trust and jumped back in. That 12 month period really helped me to understand my worth and I’m glad I used it as a healing period.
It may not work for everyone but it did for me. I’m not saying I wasn’t hungry for sex or thirsty for that matter however at that point in my life I needed to digest and eradicate all of my pain and having sex with casual hook ups wasn’t an option.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
9:34 am
See, the answers is about the same for most that’s practiced abstinence at some point. Not that hard to understand. I’ve done it so I get it.
You know, what comes to mind when I read grown person asking 50 different ways “how they do that”, being abstinence that is, the dog chasing the dog in heat. Hump hump hump hump…not even rhyme or reason….just humping. Humping cause you getting the scent, humping cause you found a hole, humping you wanna stick it….no rhyme or reason or feelings nor precautions, no judgement, no boundaries…just humping.
MC Hammock
March 30th, 2011
9:34 am
@Celisea, I agree. To say that someone is a “prude” or is a “sexual deviant” because of their sex life (or lack thereof), shows a very opinionated attitude and an idea that only “their way” is the correct or normal way. Some people enjoy it more than others and others don’t. It has very little to do with the person going into or staying in a bad relationship. That’s just poor judgement. It has nothing to do with your intimate practices.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
9:34 am
answers are..not answers is
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
9:35 am
Exactly MC Hammock…maybe they should refrain for a while…lol There’s such a feeling of coming out of something and pulling back awhile. Sometimes you just need to let the smoke clear.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
9:39 am
@KOB ~ I never said YOU would, just that there are women out there that do exactly that!
@SimpleM ~ sorry, but some can’t control. Guess that’s why there’s something called sex addicts. But I digress. Let me get this straight. I’m not talking about those with active sex lives. Everyone should have one. I’m talking about those having sex for the wrong reasons simply because they don’t have a man/woman in their lives.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
9:40 am
Sorry, Morning SimpleM!
Reggie
March 30th, 2011
9:40 am
If I’m on a date, it’s going fine, she is attracted to me and I to her and she gives me the que, you bet your bottom dollar that there WILL be some sex going on that night. If I’m not into you or vice versa, then we won’t. It’s nobody’s business. Some people swing, enjoy S/M and groups. I don’t. But it doesn’t lead me to say their “sick”. Others only like it one way, in the bed, for five minutes and don’t want any talking during it. It just means they’re different and different things turn them on. If it’s you….it’s you.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
9:41 am
Leggs – I’m talking about those having sex for the wrong reasons simply because they don’t have a man/woman in their lives.
What about folks that have someone in the lives and still looking around for more folks to hump…lol
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
9:41 am
“That you’re picking the wrong person because you miss the presence of a physical body?”
@Celisea ~ that’s what I thought she was referring to with the topic. I’m speaking on that premise alone.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
9:41 am
life not lives….I’m off today
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
9:42 am
I see our posts bumped into each other, Celisea.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
9:43 am
Leggs – Yes, I saw that too…but I got what you was saying
MC Hammock
March 30th, 2011
9:47 am
I’m not a big believer in the whole “Sex Addict” tag. I just think those people CHOOSE not to say no. Some people feels that they NEED the “O” or the release, but I don’t buy the “I can’t help it” excuse. Anyone on here think that Tiger Woods or that Jesse James dude are sex addicts? Didn’t think so. That’s just a label that the shrink business has created to explain their behavior so they don’t have to accept responsibility.
Tone Loc
March 30th, 2011
9:50 am
“And I looked up and it was her mutha. She said hey you two I was once like you and I liked to do da wild thang.”
NY state of mind
March 30th, 2011
9:51 am
@Leggs..I totally get your point
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
9:51 am
@MC H ~ that’s why I said “sex addicts. I digress.” Exactly, just a label that helps one justify why they choose not to control their own actions!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
March 30th, 2011
9:57 am
How do you handle your single status when it comes to living without sex?
Interesting topic for a rainy day..this should be good. Two objects cannot occupy the same space at the same time…that being said,I feel that I’m not going to find/have/be with who I’m suppposed to if there is some random guy/cut buddy/friend w/benefits in his place. Knowing that I made the conscious decision to forego sex until I was in a meaningful relationship. So far it’s been six months and I’m really proud of myself. Don’t get me wrong days like today make me want to reach out and touch someone but I’ve resisted the urges. It’s also allowed me to look at men differently(most times) and not like a piece of meat. Luckily when I’ve wanted trouble I haven’t found any and I’m good with that.
I know the real test will come when the weather breaks and it gets warm….man oh man…
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
10:03 am
@SassyMe ~ kudos. Nice post and I have to concur with every single word! I see nothing wrong with foregoing sex until in a meaningful relationship if that’s the outcome you’re looking for. I have people STDH (shaking their dayum heads) at me but I don’t care. Who really cares what someone on the outside looking feels about your own core belief system??? Who does that?
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
10:09 am
“Luckily when I’ve wanted trouble I haven’t found any and I’m good with that.” Truer words have never been spoken. I feel ya!
Lady J-Love Zone
March 30th, 2011
10:09 am
music has been a good escape for me………it gets me through…..lol
OMG
March 30th, 2011
10:14 am
While I guess it’s different for each person, as a divorced woman of 41, there are times when I can’t get to sleep without “taking care of business” one way or another. I don’t bed hop, but when I am with a person and feel the vibe (not to be confused with connection), there is nothing wrong as long as you be smart about it. I do have a regular dating partner and we went bonkers on our first date and have dated ever since. We aren’t going to get married or move in together, but to go without is just not in my makeup. Ever since I hit 35, my hormones are on overload and both of us are reaping the benefits. If we part ways, that doesn’t mean I’ll just sulk and go without for 6 months. Just not gonna happen. Those that think you have to be in love, have a connection with or even date him steadily in order to have SPECTACULAR times, you are incredibly incorrect.
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
10:17 am
“Being alone doesn’t relate to loneliness” now that “the smoke has cleared” women are seen as sex objects trophies if you will and some women will submit to it blindly or otherwise and others will see themselves in a different way. MCHammock if they’re not sex addicts I will call them predators cause there’s nothing meaningful in having multiple sex partners.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
10:18 am
OMG, um, not incredibly incorrect just because it works for you. It doesn’t work for everyone and it doesn’t make them wrong.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
10:21 am
Absolutely Blackfoote…absolutely.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 30th, 2011
10:21 am
I’m guessing today is not the day to be inside and sexless. The wet, dewey, moistness seems barely able to hold back the pent up floodgates of…rain. The aqueous fluids need to be released to calm the turbulent palpitations of…the atmosphere. So we wait, anxiously and enthusiastically anticipating the intense howls and moans of…wind. Now I’ll get you a towel so you can wipe…the water you tracked on the floor when you walked in.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
10:23 am
OMG – Those that think you have to be in love, have a connection with or even date him steadily in order to have SPECTACULAR times, you are incredibly incorrect.
We’re not saying you HAVE to be in love. We get sex, we love sex but if we’re going through a time of abstinence it’s because it becomes a mental choice. We’re not saying we don’t understand when it comes down on you, there’s just a time and place to evaluate is it REALLY worth it. Do what works for you.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
10:23 am
@DreamsM ~ you are a hot mess, but that was cute!
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
10:24 am
Dreams – You should have done a dedication….lol
Lady J-Love Zone
March 30th, 2011
10:24 am
dreamsM-lmbao!
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
10:27 am
For a time, when outside of a relationship, I never had a problem calling on a reliable party to spend time with me *when* that was what I desired.
It wasn’t until I realized that the in-between times were taking energy away from what I really wanted that I stopped relying on a bed buddy just because.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
10:30 am
“Those that think you have to be in love, have a connection with or even date him steadily….
Perhaps it’s just my take on things, but if you don’t even have a connection, you’re simply whor*ing around. IMO.
Unfrozen Caveman Lawyer (not swiss -- oh, and "FREE ME-LO")
March 30th, 2011
10:33 am
Who…? Wha…? Single and sexless? Your strange words frighten and confuse me. After all, I am only a cave man.
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
10:35 am
I’m not one but I know many men that’s abstaining from sex for various reasons and they’re not homosexual it could be religious, physical whatever so whoever is pitching the notion that it’s abnormal BS.
kimmie
March 30th, 2011
10:41 am
Good rainy morning all!
I’ve gone thru droughts before. All of my own choosing, because even when I was between relationships, I knew guys I could call. But the last time I did that I just felt very empty afterward. That’s when I decided to just wait until I at least had a meaningful connection with someone. I understand when you just have a need though, really I do. But what I learned about MYSELF is that alot of that need is mental for me. I had to do what works for me. And others do what works for them.
I don’t knock or judge anyone else and what they choose to do. They have nothing to do with me. I don’t know what you do or don’t do behind closed doors and frankly don’t care.
SPF15
March 30th, 2011
10:44 am
You can sit here talking about your mental issues, evaluating and thinking deep, deep thoughts all you want to. As for me, I’m hitting the Hideaway tonight. It’s ladies night and there WILL be some humpity dump tonight. I’m thinking tsunami.
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
10:47 am
LOL…..@Kimmie
Kimmie not twisting your words but your last sentence could have read “Frankly I Don’t Give A Damn My Dear”….LOL
Simple Man!!!!
March 30th, 2011
10:54 am
“cause there’s nothing meaningful in having multiple sex partners.”
Says who???? People make choices and sometimes that choice is to engage with multiple partners is a RESPONSIBLE, ADULT manner….Thats does not equate to being a whore or easy or anything of that sort…people find meaning where they find it…Besides I know of Plenty of folks that are married and teh connection and meaning in their relationship is non exisistant!!!
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
10:57 am
“…engage with multiple partners is a RESPONSIBLE, ADULT manner….Thats does not equate to being a whore or easy….”
There was a time when that’s exactly what it equated to. Just goes to show how relaxed we have become on the subject of intercourse. How accepting society has become. No matter what, do you because only you can live your life.
kimmie
March 30th, 2011
10:58 am
Blackfoote – LOL!!! I don’t mean to be funny, but folks need to quit! So you can’t go 5 minutes without it. Okay, do what you need to do. Don’t trip cause other folks don’t have the same appetite as you!
Plus, I find the ones doing the most talk….well alot of times it’s just that – talk.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
11:05 am
On topic: Um, not much to say… If you choose not to sling it around, that’s cool. If you want to sling it around all over the place, hello there… how *you* doin’?
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
11:06 am
Besides I know of Plenty of folks that are married and teh connection and meaning in their relationship is non exisistant!!!
That’s not an excuse to ho around. That means do something about it to make it meaningful. Sticking random women/men sure ain’t gonna help the void that’s there.
abc
March 30th, 2011
11:07 am
I only had droughts of this sort while married, in my previous marriage. It’d be 2 years of nothing, then another year after that, then another 18 months. From this I learned that sex is not an essential activity, especially between a couple of people that don’t care much about each other.
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
11:10 am
Your assessment of people choices can be right but ME there’s nothing meaningful in having multiple sex partners. I’m NOT judging anybody on how they want live but I can and will be RESPONSIBLE for MY OWN choices.
Simple Man!!!!
March 30th, 2011
11:13 am
Celisea, My point is not that sleeping around is an option for married / commited folks… My point was just as some choose to abstain for whatever reason some choose to engage for the number of reasons. In either case, there is no room to judge beacuse as adults I we have to assume that they are doing or not doing whatever beacuse its good for them. Just as a person that decides that they will hold out until they are in a commited realtionship should be commended for their resolve, a person that chooses to have a couple of FWBs should be respected for their choice as well….
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
11:13 am
@abc ~ may I pose a question to you? During your drought with your first wife, did you seek comfort elsewhere or did you literally muddle through?
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
11:13 am
Oh, and if that’s too personal, skip over my post…thank you.
Reggie
March 30th, 2011
11:14 am
^5’s Simple. Preach it, btutha. Usually, the ones that don’t have a satisfactory sex life, can’t (fugly, fat, prude, frigid) or they are married. I had a GREAT sex life with my fiance until she became my wife. Then I made ammends to THAT little contract.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
11:28 am
Simple – Man do what makes you happy.
Reggie – Before you go to high fiving, please get it right and make sure you know. Not having sex has nothing to do with having the fats or the uglies…I know nothing about either….ain’t that right….???
No one shouldn feel the need to justify making sound decisions and not precurse with “I’m not judging….”because really you’re not. I don’t hear anybody saying “hey I’m not judging you but you should have all the sex you want.” If you decide to live a certain way, you can say it without worry about somebody else’s feelings about it. Now…don’t judge me.
MC Hammock
March 30th, 2011
11:29 am
If you are single and “up to the challenge”, there isn’t anything wrong with FWB’s as long as everyone knows what’s up. In fact, it may be the perfect situation.
kimmie
March 30th, 2011
11:35 am
MCH – Perfect temporarily in my opinion. Until someone catches feelings and wants more and the other doesn’t.
Derby
March 30th, 2011
11:40 am
Enter your comments here
I've got a secret...shhhhh
March 30th, 2011
11:41 am
I’VE GOT A SECREEET, I’VE GOT A SECREEET. HOPE I CAN KEEEEP IT, HOPE I CAN KEEEP IT.
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
11:44 am
The rain today makes it a great day to stay in and get sexed up all day though. I’m too old to be criss crossing around town as I did when I was younger so I understand where the younger brothers are coming from it’s just at some point in life there will be an adjustment that will put you in your place without thought belive me on this I was one who thought differently.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
11:45 am
Dang, Blackfoote, not one comma is used (LOL).
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
11:49 am
“If you are single and “up to the challenge”, there isn’t anything wrong with FWB’s as long as everyone knows what’s up.”
MC H — For a while after my ex & I split, we had a little EWB arrangement (Enemies With Benefits). We couldn’t stand each other, but the f__king was still good….
Don’t judge me! 
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
11:49 am
LOL…..@Leggs
I see you can tell I didn’t do too well in english classes……LOL
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
11:51 am
@swiss ~ there are a lot of people like that. Don’t like each other, but the sex is off the chain! It’s called “transitional sex.”
@Blackfoote ~
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
11:52 am
And spelling too…..LOL
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
11:54 am
It’s called “transitional sex.”
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
11:56 am
Leggs — I beat on that puddy like it owed me money — because it did, literally.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
11:56 am
Been there, done that…got the tshirt…don’t judge me
Derby
March 30th, 2011
11:57 am
That was a accident, I hate that! I have not commented in awhile, but I had to say something today…. First, Hola! Everyone
When I was single…I never did get the concept of giving my “cookie” away just for the sake of giving it away. My mother and granny always told me that the person that gives their cookie to everyone will eventually have a cookie that no one wants….. If I did not have someone in my life that I could connect with on more than just a sexual level, then it did not happen. I could live without the stress that FWB can bring….that was/is just my view. If people are mature and can deal with the situation, do yo thang. But for folk to act like going without sex is some kind of weirdness is crazy to me. Sex can cloud your view of a lot things in your life.
Derby
March 30th, 2011
11:59 am
*It should say could not connect with
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
11:59 am
LOL…..@Swiss
Amen brother!
MC Hammock
March 30th, 2011
12:00 pm
And if you haven’t “tangoed” with a 40 year old woman, you’re STILL a virgin. Talk about the different between T-Ball (20somethings) and the Major Leagues (40+). One will leave you happy. The other will make you limp for a week, but with a big effin grin.
Simple Man!!!!
March 30th, 2011
12:02 pm
“The other will make you limp for a week,”
HUH?????
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
March 30th, 2011
12:04 pm
The other will make you limp for a week, but with a big effin grin.
Tell it like it is….
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
12:06 pm
MCHammock:……LOL
I haven’t dealt with the 20 somethings but I can vouch for the 40+.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
12:08 pm
B.A.B.
MC Hammock
March 30th, 2011
12:12 pm
When I was in my 30’s, I met a really pretty lady who was right around 50 years old. We made a date for that Friday and she cooked me dinner. The next 48 hours resembles a car that had flipped over, rolling down an embankment and I vaguely remember breaking glass and screams for help. Monday morning, I got up to take a shower and go back to work. I was in the shower, I heard the door open and arms wrapped around be from behind. The only thought I had was “Someone, please shoot me.” That’s about the only time I thought “OK, OK….Uncle…I can’t keep up”. LMAO
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
12:15 pm
Lets see Kimmie selling t-shirts for $20.00, Leggs has them for 5.99, and Celisea are free I think I’ll try to get one off Celisea you know that been there done t-shirt. Not the B.A.B shirts…….LOL
kimmie
March 30th, 2011
12:21 pm
Blackfoote – But I throw in a free bootleg dvd of my escapades!
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
12:22 pm
Blackfoote – LOL..those B.A.B. t-shirts should be equivalent for “sitting in the corner” when there’s a major faux pas blogged. I don’t think you qualify for the B.A.B. t-shirt. What’s size please for the Been There Done That? LOLOLOLOL
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
12:24 pm
LOL……@Kimmie
Kimmie I would be wary you don’t to get Swiss and possible Purple started again…..LOL
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
12:29 pm
Celisea I’m a big boy so a XL will do me fine. I better go to lunch before 3pm gets here and I’m gone.
kimmie
March 30th, 2011
12:31 pm
Blackfoote – Yea, that’s always the danger on here!!LOL!!
Simple Man!!!!
March 30th, 2011
12:36 pm
hey kimmie, What field do you work in???
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
12:37 pm
@MC H ~ I am grinning from ear to ear…that was a funny read, but the visual was even funnier!
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
12:43 pm
@Blackfoote ~ rememeber my t-shirts say “…ain’t no fun when the rabbit got the gun.” Wear that if you like.
wRENN
March 30th, 2011
12:49 pm
@MC HAMMOCK: LMAO…i’m in the 40 crowd and i’m tangoing with a younger man MY SO and his knees sometimes literally shake afterwards…he told me the other day i’ve taught him some new tricks and it makes him want to scream like a woman…
On topic: I’ve gone 4 years without it and i lived also…Abstinence is sometimes easier than some of the hassles that come along with S.E.X.
Lady ~Rockin' It~
March 30th, 2011
12:56 pm
so is it fair to assess you reach your sexual peak in your ealry to mid 40s?!? just asking….
wRENN
March 30th, 2011
12:59 pm
@ Lady ~Rockin’ it~ -I have always known that men usually reach their sexual peaks in their 20’s to 30’s and women reach their sexual peaks in the 30’s to 40’s…Of course there is the exception but i think alot of the reason women become so sexual at these ages and especially in the 40’s is because of all the hormone changing going on…
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 30th, 2011
1:00 pm
Dang must be alot of money in the t-shirt gig. I need a cool t-shirt to sell. Maybe “I Love Having Sweet Dreams.” for the ladies, and “I Sleep with my Game Face On.” for the fellas.
MC Hammock
March 30th, 2011
1:02 pm
LOL@wRENN…I can relate
Lady, in my experience, it ain’t even close, end of discussion.
wRENN
March 30th, 2011
1:03 pm
@ MC HAMMOCK 1:02 post…lol – i always enjoy your post, even though i lurk alot, very entertaining to say the least.
Lady ~Rockin' It~
March 30th, 2011
1:04 pm
thanks wRENN!!!
hmmmm OK, MCH…….
wRENN
March 30th, 2011
1:05 pm
@ LEGGS…How are you today…very off topic but i know you enjoy your shoes…Macy’s has the great shoe sale going on and if you buy one pair you get 15%, 2 pair 20% off each and 3 or more 30% off of each to include the clearance shoes…By the way Lenox Macy’s has the best clearance shoes from what i hear from customers…
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
1:07 pm
How old are you, Lady…? Lemme mark my calendar here….
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 30th, 2011
1:10 pm
@Lady
Yes, that’s why I dated older women almost exclusively.
Not only the sexual peak, but the don’tgiveafuggness peak is reached along then too
Lady ~Rockin' It~
March 30th, 2011
1:12 pm
cool Dan…..
Swiss still a baby #humbly
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
1:17 pm
@wRENN ~ I’m well. Always good when you come on…thank you. I am in need of some new shoes anyway. Thanks for the tip! Hope you’re doing well too!
wRENN
March 30th, 2011
1:24 pm
@ LEGGS…no rush to get in, the sale will go on for 2 weeks…it just started…and i am doing good, thanks for asking…Oh and don’t forget the late nights are Thurs-Sat…open til 10pm instead of 9pm.
@ Dan -Simply Superior…you said that right, at this age, there is no need to hold back, just enjoy the ride and shoot for the moon, hoping it last more than 15 minutes…lol
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
1:26 pm
Definitely will keep that in mind..no doubt there are some shoes there with my name on them.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 30th, 2011
1:32 pm
The 30+ women do seem to be more sexually aggressive. Ya’ll be on it…not complaining of course.
kimmie
March 30th, 2011
1:36 pm
Simple – Accounting/Finance Mgmt
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
1:41 pm
Some 20+ are just getting into the groove, but still learning the technique. 30+ are willing to be try just about anything once (some 20+ also fall in this category), and are pretty adept with their skills. 40+ are prime and ready to be plucked where they can show off their skills leaving their men truly weak at the knees. 50+ are freaky and so comfortable in their own skin nothing shocks them. Experimentation puts a twinkle in their eye. Just a quick thought.
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 30th, 2011
1:42 pm
Dan co-signs Leggs 1:41
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
1:53 pm
Leggs: (1:41)
If you feel like giving me a life time of devotion……….I second that emotion……..LOL
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
1:57 pm
I’m agreeing about women truly coming into their own and not giving a happy who likes what you like and do….or not. I LOVE this place. Yep yep yeppers.
AmazonRed™ -
March 30th, 2011
1:59 pm
My my my…it’s crickets in here.
I’m actually better off when I’m single and sexless. Sooooo much less to have to worry about.
And it definitely makes me LESS likely to jump into something with someone. After holding out for X amount of time, it becomes “what’s one more day?”
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
2:00 pm
I think that sexual maturation is less to do about development of skills over years and years as it is more about developing a level of self-knowledge, self-acceptance and learning to better be in tune with the needs of their partner.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
2:02 pm
I think that sexual maturation is less to do about development of skills over years and years as it is more about developing a level of self-knowledge, self-acceptance and learning to better be in tune with the needs of their partner.
IGG ZACKLY
Lady ~Rockin' It~
March 30th, 2011
2:02 pm
@ARed I am so ready to go!
Lady ~Rockin' It~
March 30th, 2011
2:04 pm
great assessments blog crew……it does get better with time……..my world is interesting to say the least…..
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 30th, 2011
2:05 pm
ok just one more meeting to go…
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
March 30th, 2011
2:12 pm
After holding out for X amount of time, it becomes “what’s one more day?”
ditto….
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
2:14 pm
@SexyC ~ here’s $30 for the collection plate, and $30 for your collection plate, ARed! Before you know it, time keeps on slipping into the future…. (this is a song).
@Blackfoote ~ hmmmmm, but do you have the stamina???
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
2:14 pm
My guilty pleasure for today (at work) is 2 bags of candy to fill up my candy dish. How’s that for hawt?
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
2:15 pm
Funny Ared that “what’s one more day”…..I’ve been really trying baby trying to hold back this feeling for so long and if you feel what I feel baby come on oh come on oooh LETS GET ON.
I’m just trying to clear out the crickets believe me if they heard my singing they prolly would die……LOL
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
2:16 pm
And I do realize that typically, it is with years of living and getting older that brings about the higher levels of all those “self” words. However, there are instances where life will teach some of us the really tough lessons that bring us to greater awareness earlier than most.
On the other side of that are folks who live their entire lives never growing past a certain point, intellectually, mentally or sexually.
MC Hammock
March 30th, 2011
2:17 pm
Leggs, you have the ages and sexual prowess at 100%
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
2:17 pm
Excellent song choice, Blackfoote!
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
2:19 pm
@McH ~ Of course I do, I’ve lived though all the phases.
AmazonRed™ -
March 30th, 2011
2:20 pm
ARed! Before you know it, time keeps on slipping into the future….
Making sure the next one counts is a great motivational tool. It would be a pity to abstain for X amount of time, and then end up with a random fling or one night stand.
It’s like if you’re gonna fall of the wagon, make sure you’re at least doing it for Cristal and not some Mad Dog 20/20.
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
2:22 pm
LOL…..@Leggs
I drink milk for strong bones, I had a rib-eye for muscle protein and I’m not a five minute man or what we term a “jiffy lube guy” so yeah my stamina is good…..LOL
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
2:27 pm
@Blackfoote ~ Okey dokey, if you say so!
@ARed ~ exactly. If you find yourself falling of the band wagon, take TLC’s advice and don’t do it for no S.C.R.U.B!!!!!!
Blackfoote
March 30th, 2011
2:27 pm
LETS GET “IT” ON…….I told them not to fire it up when at lunch…..LOL
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
March 30th, 2011
2:30 pm
It would be a pity to abstain for X amount of time, and then end up with a random fling or one night stand.
Get outta my head because I’ve been in that situation a few times recently and it was very hard to say no(the first time)…thankfully it got easier as time went on but at one point I thought about that and I know I wouldn’t want to waste my hard work on a fleeting moment. I know I would’ve felt bad afterwards….I know it.
All I can say is whenever it does happen….well….
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
2:33 pm
“It would be a pity to abstain for X amount of time, and then end up with a random fling or one night stand.”
I agree with everything up until the comma.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
2:41 pm
Lord Velonese
March 30th, 2011
2:45 pm
“How do you handle your single status when it comes to living without sex?”
Robbing people blind at poker tables in Vegas. Who says I’m living without sex hmmmm??? I love being single, I do what I want, when I want, and answer to no one, I like keeping my life as close to a Zero stress level as possible. Being in a relationship, I can atuomaticly throw 50 points on the stress level, so that’s a no thanks their.
Lady ~Rockin' It~
March 30th, 2011
2:47 pm
lol LV
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 30th, 2011
2:48 pm
I know I wouldn’t want to waste my hard work on a fleeting moment.
Especially if it was super wack on top of that huh. lol
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
2:51 pm
Hey LV…come by more often…I know you’re lurking
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
March 30th, 2011
2:53 pm
Especially if it was super wack on top of that huh.
If?… puhleaze…we might go to blows after that.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 30th, 2011
2:56 pm
If?… puhleaze…we might go to blows after that.
HAHAHA
Dude: o…o…Ooooooooooooooo. dang my bad. that don’t usually happen.
Sassy: he!!!!!!!! naw. you gon’ taste my machete, seen.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
2:57 pm
Hence your moniker, “SassyMe..Juicy Fruit” and he’s spilling the juices instead of licking it up…sorry, it was right there (LOLOL).
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
2:59 pm
@DreamsM ~ are we on the same page?
Simple Man!!!!
March 30th, 2011
3:10 pm
“SassyMe..Juicy Fruit” and he’s spilling the juices instead of licking it up…”
Suddenly I am very interested in this conversation…..
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
March 30th, 2011
3:12 pm
you gon’ taste my machete, seen.
he’s spilling the juices instead of licking it up…
That right there is a capitol offense punishable by harsh law…
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
3:13 pm
I have the opposite situation of the neighbor thing that Wise posted about a few weeks ago.
I have a neighbor – that I call “old ass Darrell” – like my daddy’s age – who, for the last two and a half years, every time he sees me, he is always trying to invite me into his apartment for a glass of wine or out for a drink (cause he swears he is sexy).
I have said “No”, “No thank you.” “I appreciate the invitation, but no.” and all manner of blow-offs countless times. I have been trying to not be rude because I see no need in creating a more uncomfortable situation than is necessary. Besides, my grandmama raised me to be nice to my elders.
However, now that I am getting ready to move, if he pulls up on me one-mo-gin…I’ma have to let him have it.
kimmie
March 30th, 2011
3:16 pm
I agree with some of you that when you’re not in a relationship, trying to maintain these little FWB and other psuedo matchups can be more trouble than they are worth.
And yes, I wouldn’t trade the confidence I have at this stage in my life for anything in the world. It’s a lot of stuff I just say “whatever” to!
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
March 30th, 2011
3:18 pm
like my daddy’s age – who, for the last two and a half years, every time he sees me, he is always trying to invite me into his apartment for a glass of wine or out for a drink
Eeeeewww…..I just got a visual of a shirt(unbuttoned down to his navel) with expsed taco meat and gold chains…with sandals n black dress socks…stop it I say.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
March 30th, 2011
3:19 pm
*exposed*
kimmie
March 30th, 2011
3:22 pm
SCool – Dudes like that creep me out so much! Actually it’s nothing sadder. An old man still chasing skirts to the point that he’s disgusting. Not saying an older gentleman or lady can’t date, but don’t make an as- out of yourself!
Letitia
March 30th, 2011
3:28 pm
Hi I’m new here, been lurking for a while.
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
3:29 pm
Fortunately, I don’t see him that often. Apparently, he travels a lot for his job. But…when he is home and almost everytime I see him, he has on a robe – like his ass is Hugh Hefner.
And yes….”Eeeeewww” and that mess is creepy.
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
3:34 pm
howDEE!!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
3:37 pm
GOT D@MMIT
kimmie
March 30th, 2011
3:38 pm
No, not a ROBE!!! Yuck!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
3:38 pm
Unbelievable….
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
3:39 pm
Swizzie – I’m really *gone* need you to attempt to get through one day of blogging without any reference to the “Matterhorn.” (lol)
Mike P
March 30th, 2011
3:40 pm
Good Afternoon blog folks,
Here’s my two pennies…
For women: It’s important to wait for the right man that you can connect with; each time you have sex with a different man, he takes a little something from you… eventually you’ll be left empty, dry, and worth-less. But when you have sex with one man that you have a connection with, he doesn’t “take away” from you.
For men, we like it that you women “give it” up, because we’re not really losing anything per se… Except maybe the respect (as a woman) that we should have for you.
I will not speak badly or judge anyone, but I will say this… I was raised to recognized the difference between a real lady and a (w)hore. Just because the mass media, hip-hop subculture, TV, Hollywood, modern culture, your peer group, or any other excuse you want to add here says it now okay to be overly promiscuous, doesn’t make it right, nor does it change biology/nature.
A (w)hore cannot be possessed by a man because she belongs to the whole city; therefore, not marriage worthy.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
3:43 pm
Oops… “gets” not “get’s”
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
3:43 pm
@Letitia ~ come from behind that curtain and say a little more. We know the newbies when we see them…WELCOME.
You have anything to add or do you just want us to know you’ve been lurking.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
3:45 pm
@MikeP ~ your two cents hit the jackpot…nice post!!
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
3:46 pm
Let me try this again…
A’ight, you gone get “me-lo’d” up in this camp.
(But I know…you know 513 ways around it.)
Letitia
March 30th, 2011
3:46 pm
Hi Leggs! Thanks for the welcome. Sometimes I can be shy but I’ll try to stop by often and blend.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
3:47 pm
Swiss, I’m afraid for you…of getting banned
NY state of mind
March 30th, 2011
3:47 pm
@Sexy- Please offer me a nice way to tell him “No”. As I type this I’m clearing my phone line because the mailroom associate has been asking me out for 4yrs now (no lie) and I try to be as friendly as possible. He just left my desk for the third time and called me as soon as he returned to his desk asking me if there is anything that I like about him. I’m so annoyed..not because he works in the mailroom …simply because I’m not interested at ALL…you would think he knew that if I keep saying “i’m busy” for the last 4yrs.
I dont want to hurt his feelings however how long is way too long to pursue a person????????????
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
3:49 pm
“Swiss, I’m afraid for you…of getting banned “
C — They’ve tried that several times before. You see I’m still here…
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
3:50 pm
Well…the nice way is “While you seem like a really nice person, I would think that it’s become apparent that I’ve continually turned down your advances and now it’s to the point that I’m started to feel harassed. Please let’s just be friendly at work and leave it at that.” If you have his email, I would actually email that to him.
And you’re absolutely right – you would think after continued and extended refusals, the blockhead would get the hint. But no, just because you are nice and offer him a bit of polite conversation, he thinks “Yeah…I’m wearing her down.”
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
3:51 pm
SexyC — If you want to get ol’ dude off your back, just tell him you’ve got herpes. Problem solved.
NY state of mind
March 30th, 2011
3:52 pm
@Letitia- here’s my “pay it forward” WELCOME..I’m also new and had a very nice welcome from the fam.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
3:52 pm
Unless, of course, he does, too…
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
3:52 pm
Swiss – They’ve tried that several times before. You see I’m still here…
That’s because you have talent
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
3:52 pm
Sending the email would actually do two things – put him on notice, legally, and should the harassment continue…because really…that’s what it is at this point, then you have something to take to HR and show that you have asked that he stop and have them get involved. Which I know you REALLY don’t want to do that…but…some mphckas won’t learn.
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
3:52 pm
Swiss – I hate you so much right now. (lol)
Letitia
March 30th, 2011
3:53 pm
Thanks NY State of Mind, I’ll remember to do that once I’m passed being a newbie. I plan to stick around.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
3:55 pm
@Letitia ~ no need to waste emotion being shy behind a computer screen. Speak you mind and stand by your convictions..that’s all it takes!
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
3:56 pm
It’s attention like that that really burns my butt. It’s like, “Dude, I’m just trying to come to work and do my damn job everyday – not get bothered by yo’ aggravating ass everyday.” and like with old ass Darrell, “Dude, I don’t want to be looking in yo’ phckng face every time I come out my damn door. Leave me alone. Mattafact – kill yo’self TWICE.”
NY state of mind
March 30th, 2011
3:58 pm
Thanks I’ll do just that. I thought by me sitting here reading this blog as he stood at my desk talking away he would have picked up on the hint. I have several screens at my desk- I looked at all of them and NEVER looked up to say a single word..which is why he went back to his desk and called. This fool had the nerve to sing me song while I was at the fax machine one day..I cant!
lets just say he is no Luther..
knockoutblonde
March 30th, 2011
3:59 pm
Howdy, howdy, everyone! Really an awfully depressing day today!
NY state of mind
March 30th, 2011
4:01 pm
Mattafact – kill yo’self TWICE.”
Throwing up with laughter at my desk….Hilarious x10!!
knockoutblonde
March 30th, 2011
4:01 pm
I’m sure thet the topic has traveled far from where it started. Gimme a few seconds to catch up on the last two pages. BRB
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:01 pm
@NY ~ you didn’t ask me, but it’s time to go into detail. Tell him although you’re flattered by his interest, you do not date co-workers. Handshake (no wait, he may grab you into his chest and hug you), and that you wish him luck in dating, but you’re not in the market.
@SexyC ~ “And you’re absolutely right – you would think after continued and extended refusals, the blockhead would get the hint.”
I have a term for men like this. They’re called “die hards” Like the Diehard Battery. They never die. They don’t hear the word no, they don’t hear the phone being hung up, they don’t see you zoning out when they’re talking to you, etc. They keep coming back for more. Even if you get to the point that you feel you need to blast them back into reality, they don’t take offense. They think you care enough to take the time to blast. It’s a no win situation for you, NY.
On this one, been there, done that, have plenty of t-shirts!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:05 pm
Welcome, Letitia. Pleasure to have you join us. Make yourself at home. Can I get you anything? Coffee? Cocktail? Are you getting all comfy & settled in this brave new world of non-lurking?
Good… Now, show us your CT & your orientation will be complete…
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:07 pm
Interesting… So, I can say “cocktail” — which means I can say “cock” and “tail” — but I can’t say “ridicu.lous” because it contains “cu-lo”…
Ahhhhh stupidity…
knockoutblonde
March 30th, 2011
4:07 pm
Hmmm…basically the same thing. Sq what was the declared verdict?
Simple Man!!!!
March 30th, 2011
4:07 pm
NY….So fella is singing love songs at the Fax machine….I hope it was not one of those Stalker Ray Parker Jr. songs…. LOL
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:09 pm
@swiss ~ I was just about to say, “cocktail” got through how come cock can’t?
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:09 pm
Ummmm, swiss, I think the Wizard has been listening to your vents and has altered the filter. WOW
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:10 pm
Leggs — Obviously, a cock can get up in here…
Letitia
March 30th, 2011
4:10 pm
Hi I’m Swiss. Yes I was not sure if I should just jump in. I’ll have to get acquainted with the names, that may take some time. Thank you for the welcome. What’s a CT?
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:11 pm
He’s sing Mr. Telephone Man to her at the fax machine…twirling and all!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:12 pm
Actually, Leggs, I think “cock” could always get through, we just assumed it couldn’t. Hey, look at that… assumed…
See, it’s not just the censorship that bugs me. It’s the fact that whoever wrote that filter is too stupid to get it right! 
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:13 pm
@Letitia ~ if you want to know anything right off the bat, direct your inquiry to one of the WLB’s (Women)not a MLB (men). Some may not stir you in the right direction. You may find yourself gag and tied to a 4-poster bed. Be careful where you thread (LOLOLOL).
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
4:13 pm
Good luck with that, NYSM!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:13 pm
“What’s a CT?”
Letitia — How long have you been lurking? Just ask Slim to show you.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
4:15 pm
Alrighty then…lol
Letitia
March 30th, 2011
4:18 pm
Thanks for the warning Leggs. I could potentially walk into a dangerous situation and be none the wiser LOL Direct all questions to the WLB? Got it. I definitely wouldn’t want to be found tied and gagged
Letitia
March 30th, 2011
4:20 pm
Good bye all. Have a great evening
NY state of mind
March 30th, 2011
4:20 pm
@Leggs…many apologies for not asking..I put the question out to Sexy because she mentioned her neighbor.
I thought about an email but the outcome would really be a “been there, done that” moment.
I used to live in Atlanta and worked for a well known finance company and mentioned to my boss that I wanted a male co-worker to stop his advances…long story short, we ended up at an employee hearing and I the “victim” believe it or not was transferred to a downtown Atlanta location and I lived in Alpharetta on exit 10. ..dude got to keep his job and I was looked at as a trouble maker because he worked there for 15+ yrs.
I decided to tell my boss because I came in one morn and ole boy left a cat one piece suit ( tail attached) in my chair along with a Lexus car key and a note that said “my wife is on vacation in the Netherlands” I was humiliated to say the least.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:22 pm
@Letita ~ however, if you’ve been lurking you should know where the live grenades are hidden! I’m just saying….
Test: Do you know what an E.O.D is????
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:22 pm
NYSoM — That is terrible… Everybody know the 2-piece cat suit is the way to go…
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
4:23 pm
Leggs – She checked out….reckon she got scared? Talking about gagged and tied?? lol
Letitia
March 30th, 2011
4:24 pm
Hi Celisea. I’m still here. Not THAT scary. LOL
Leggs what’s EOD?
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
4:24 pm
You should have sued your company for retaliation.
I still say go with the simple email directly to dude. (My HR hat keeps whispering documentation.) Hopefully, that will be enough to get him to just chunk your mail in your general direction and keep it moving, if nothing else.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:24 pm
@NY, no need for an apologize. I’m the one who jumped on your question to another poster.
NY, are you freaking kidding me. He actually left you that. WOW, WOW, WOW. In cases like that, you have no choice but to let HR step in. He needs to be medicated. Bet after his wife go to him, he had a stay at Grady!!!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:24 pm
Here’s a bonus E.O.D. link: If you’re ever feeling a little down, just be happy you’re not this guy (or his girlfriend).
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:25 pm
@Letitia ~ you said you’ve been lurking and decided to come out of Lurksville and say hello…how long have you been lurking?
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:25 pm
Note to self: Letitia is not scurrrrrred of a little bondage…
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
4:25 pm
You should have gotten a picture of that…if nothing else.
NY state of mind
March 30th, 2011
4:26 pm
@Simple..someone else walked up and started singing as well. They thought it was a joke–It was very entertaining.
Letitia
March 30th, 2011
4:28 pm
I’d guess maybe a couple of weeks now. Mostly I read in the mornings. Things slowed down a bit here at work and it’s my late day today so I decided to peek in.
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
4:29 pm
I would have boxed it all up and sent it to his wife.
Letitia
March 30th, 2011
4:29 pm
Enter your comments here
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
4:30 pm
Something of the sort….so he would know I ain’t playing.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:32 pm
Well that may explain why you don’t know what an E.O.D is if you don’t read in the afternoons. Ok, for lurking only a couple of weeks, we like to see what type of “mettle” you have. Feel free to jump in any conversation at any time. Remember, just stand by your convictions and beliefs at all times and you won’t be eaten up by the wolves. Naw seriously, everyone here is very friendly.
I have to look at the bylaws, but I believe the new rule is after 2 or 3 weeks you will be issued a blog vest (aww shucks, are you scratching your head yet)?
NY state of mind
March 30th, 2011
4:34 pm
@Leggs..by all means your advice is always welcomed.
@Swiss…I know I felt cheap. I still can’t believe he didnt even get a slap on the wrist. My then boyfriend saw him after the hearing on 285 and tried to run him off the road.
Might I add I was young and dumb at that time (in my 20’s) and if dude wasnt 100yrs he might have gotten more than what he bargained for.
Night Fam..my spin class is about to begin!
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:38 pm
@Letitia ~ blog vests are only issued if you contribute everyday. If you want to pop in like you’re on summer vacation I can issue a vest made out of cardstock. Just let me know.
Geechee
March 30th, 2011
4:39 pm
@Letitia: Welcome. Yesterday, Leggs asked me to perform the very important E.O.D. for the very first time. I had as much performance anxiety as I did that very first night down at the beach that warm spring day with my young high school girlfriend. Well, being my first time, I didn’t get too creative, but I did spend about an hour researching and feeling out the subject. I did the deed and I guess that I performed as well with the E.O.D. as I did many years ago, because not one person responded to how much it stunk or otherwise. I’ll keep working on it.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:39 pm
“If you’re in a war, instead of throwing a hand grenade at the enemy, throw one of those small pumpkins. Maybe it’ll make everyone think how stupid war is, and while they are thinking, you can throw a real grenade at them.” — Jack Handy
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:43 pm
I’m in stitches, Geechee! Next time, all E.O.D. don’t have to coincide wth the topic at hand. It helps, but apparently, it’s not always the case.
@swiss ~ Whatcha doing at 4:39? Huh, whatcha doing!!! Some peopl just insist on breaking the rules!
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:44 pm
I’m still laughing, esp. at me trying to rein swiss in!!!
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:45 pm
Let me go read yesterday’s E.O.D. I forgot to do it earlier. Thanks for the reminder, Geechee!
Letitia
March 30th, 2011
4:45 pm
People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.
– Dalai Lama
Letitia
March 30th, 2011
4:46 pm
Thanks for the welcome Geechee
Geechee
March 30th, 2011
4:46 pm
@Leggs: Did I break the rules yesterday? Now I don’t feel so good.
Celisea
March 30th, 2011
4:48 pm
Letitia – Nice quote…I like
Night folks
Geechee
March 30th, 2011
4:48 pm
Letitia: Outstanding E.O.D. and on subject. You go to the front of the class. I’m still in remedial.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:48 pm
Once when I was in Hawaii, on the island of Kauai, I met a mysterious old stranger. He said he was about to die and wanted to tell someone about the treasure. I said, “Okay, as long as it’s not a long story. Some of us have a plane to catch, you know.” He stared telling his story, about the treasure and his life and all, and I thought: “This story isn’t too long.” But then, he kept going, and I started thinking, “Uh-oh, this story is getting long.” But then the story was over, and I said to myself: “You know, that story wasn’t too long after all.” I forget what the story was about, but there was a good movie on the plane. It was a little long, though. — Jack Handy
SexyCool
March 30th, 2011
4:48 pm
Rule #13 – Ignore all the other rules….unless they get you “me-lo’d.”
Letitia
March 30th, 2011
4:49 pm
Celisea – That one stuck with me.
To the front of the class it is – Geechee
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:49 pm
I’m still laughing!
@Geechee ~ you done good for your first ime. Hint: next time it doesn’t have to be so long. I don’t give any negative criticisms on any newbie’s E.O.D. because it is theirs. Nice job!
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:50 pm
I’m seriously cracking up over here cuz I can see Geechee biting his fingernails. This is hilarious.
Geechee
March 30th, 2011
4:52 pm
@Leggs: I’m feeling like a proud puppy. Hey, I might have to call up my FWB tonight to celebrate.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:52 pm
“The face of a child can say it all, especially the mouth part of the face.” — Jack Handy
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:53 pm
@Letitia ~ excellent E.O.D. I like. What I failed to tell you as an instructor is E.O.D’s are left anytime starting at 4:56. Why you ask. The blog use to close at 5:00 or so I thought, but I believe it now closes at 6:00. Sometimes WD (WiseDiva) leaves the door open or night and we bootleg blog (another story). In any event E.O.D. means End of the Day quote. I just feel it should be left at the end of the day. I’m quirkly like that.
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:54 pm
And for the record, I can’t type (but you’ll soon find that out).
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:57 pm
“If you saw two guys named Hambone and Flippy, which one would you think liked dolphins the most? I’d say Flippy, wouldn’t you? You’d be wrong, though. It’s Hambone.” — Jack Handy
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
4:58 pm
Jack Handy is one
individual!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
4:59 pm
“If I ever get real rich, I hope I’m not real mean to poor people, like I am now” — Jack Handy
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
5:00 pm
Good night!
I thank all of you for playing along!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 30th, 2011
5:00 pm
Leggs — It’s my EOD “shock & awe” campaign…
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
5:05 pm
Well, Captain, keep riding on down dem tracks….
Leggs
March 30th, 2011
5:06 pm
Question: Does the E.O.D. really carry pressure? Not talking to you regulars.