Dating: Mixed messages turn you on?
According to a recent study, He loves me, he loves me not: Uncertainty and Attraction, mixed messages can intensify attraction in some people. That’s odd because it sort of makes me stabby and annoyed. I end up wishing I never met the ambiguous lad because I’m generally not a fan of he loves me, he loves me not.
It’s possible that I’m just a lazy dater and don’t want to do any work to figure out how a guy feels about me. I remember a time when that is all I ever did, though. I can’t even count the hours spent deciphering behavior of the men I dated. That was pretty draining so I’m basically not willing to go back to that.
What sort of masochist do you have to be to fall for someone who doesn’t care enough to show you how they feel about you? Maybe that is a little harsh but what pleasure is there in uncertainty?
How sexy is the cat and mouse game, really? When does it stop being fun and starts becoming a colossal waste of time?
Would you be willing to play the cat and mouse game for someone who just blew you away? Are there rare occasions that you meet someone you feel is worth deciphering mixed messages? Has that ever happened to you?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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249 comments Add your comment
Kat
March 29th, 2011
8:05 am
Soooo glad to be a “real” adult and be past the “does he/doesn’t he” love me game? Happily married and proud of it!
MC Hammock
March 29th, 2011
8:27 am
I think if a guy does that, he may be into you but waiting to see if anything “better” comes along. Guys are pretty straight forward when it comes to a woman they REALLY like. Women can be much harder to pick up on because of the constant mood swings and trying not to appear too enthusiastic. But then again, other jump in with both feet after the first date.
Personally, I like the cat and mouse game, but just for a small while. if it persists, I’m off to greener pastures. But there’s nothing wrong with doing it for a small period of time. The thrill is in the chase! I enjoy seeing if I can get you to like me, but it better not take an awfully long time.
Melania
March 29th, 2011
8:29 am
Good Morning and Agreed Wise Diva…I’m not a fan of cat and mouse when it comes to love. Attempting to play with my heart or my time will get you deleted…from everything!
JASon
March 29th, 2011
8:30 am
“Mixed messages turn you on?”
I suppose if you’re not having much success then any message is a turn-on
knockoutblonde
March 29th, 2011
8:35 am
Oh, I LOVE the cat and mouse game! It keeps both me and him on our toes and adds a sense of excitment. You really can tell if a guy is into you, but still trying to keep playing that “keep ‘em guessing” game. That part isn’t too hard. Just pull away and watch them come running. It involes the wooing, seduction and all the stuff that good relationships involve. It doesn’t have to stop just because you are in a secure relationship or married. I know too many married people that have really stale relationships because they stop all of that and just sit there and stare at each other with the TV on. Liven up and live a little bit. Ever go out with your SO and play the “pick up” game with them? If not, then you should. Talk about HOT!
knockoutblonde
March 29th, 2011
8:39 am
And to add to my post, complaciency and indifference is a dagger straight to the heart of a relationship. Those that just wait for something or someone to come to them easily, won’t have the best match. They’ll just have what’s LEFT.
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 29th, 2011
8:46 am
Yeah, you can one: keep playing games and end up playing with yourself; or two: keep trying to get me to chase you until we’re playing “hide and seek” and I stop looking for you.
MikeB
March 29th, 2011
9:06 am
The big misconseption in the world today, is that everything needs to be a game……. And somehow this “game” will insulate a person if things don’t turn out as desired…….
Why do people feel the need to be so manipulative. Why do people get off on the “orchestration” of relationships? All this playa playa bs……. All these people looking for “meal tickets”. People need to quit looking for the free ride, and the completion of their superficial punch lists.
Reggie
March 29th, 2011
9:10 am
I co-sign with MCH, I like it to a point. I don’t like women that just jump in after a couple of dates and declare to you that you are forever for her. Had that happen a couple of times….creepy. But if this goes on for a month or longer, I’m out. You should know something by then.
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
9:13 am
I am sorry, isn’t that what “dating” is??? When did it go form dating and going thru the learning and deciding process to meeting strait to commited???? I completely understand that the process cant go on forever, but DAMN!!!!!
knockoutblonde
March 29th, 2011
9:16 am
Sorry, the best things are worth working for. If it comes to you after one or two dates, then they weren’t in very much demand to begin with and for good reason. I, for one, want a little more out of life than peace and quiet(and predictability). Like I said, if you are just wanting someone to fall for you right out of the gate, good luck. You won’t have the keepers, you’ll just have what’s left in the bowl.
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
9:18 am
Morning KOB…..
knockoutblonde
March 29th, 2011
9:19 am
@Simple. Finally, someone that sees it for what it is. It doesn’t have to go on forever, but c’mon, people. Nothing is for sure, whether it’s business, life or love. It’s a learn about each other process, what you/they like and don’t like. It’s an adventure!
knockoutblonde
March 29th, 2011
9:20 am
morning to you, Simple!
Lady
March 29th, 2011
9:23 am
interesting…..morning!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
9:24 am
Good morning!
Would you be willing to play the cat and mouse game for someone who just blew you away? Two words – HELL NO!
The cat and mouse game is probably front and center when first meeting a person. Some know right off the bat that this is the person they want to get to know and concentrate on doing just that. Others play around trying to decide if this is the one and cut all others, or keep playing the field until the heart and desire to only be with that person sets in. Intrigue is good in a relationship but the back and forth on deciding whether you want to be with a person is a waste of time if done for too long.
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
9:26 am
How are you doing this morning Ms. Leggs????
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 29th, 2011
9:27 am
@Simp(le) and KOB
No one is saying on date 1 for there to be a committment. However, by date 2 or 3, you should know if you want to continue to see the person; and be able to express that.
I guess my reading of the post is that you’ve been dating for a while and still playing the “cat and mouse game”.
CoolShadow
March 29th, 2011
9:28 am
Cat & mouse games are great– for romantic comedies; not so much for men dealing in reality. Men let you know where they stand, feelings of ambiguity aren’t usually the issue.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
9:32 am
@SimpleM ~ I am well this morning. Thanks for asking. As a matter of fact, I’m cute today, ready for just about anything, and excited to see what the day unfolds.
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
9:34 am
Dan, You go out on two dates that last say…2 hrs each…You mean to tell me that you know if you want to become involved with a woman after four hours???? I am a well traveled 40+ year old guy…There is no way a woman can learn enough about me to make that kind of decision unless she is jsut bucking to be involved…….
knockoutblonde
March 29th, 2011
9:34 am
@Leggs and Dan, I was taking this as you JUST MET the person. After a few dates, you should know, but some don’t even know then. I have many female friends that think people that jump in after a few dates are out of their minds. They think you should date them (and others) many times before you make a commitmemnt. You simply don’t know anyone well enough after just two or three dates.
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
9:35 am
But Leggs, I happen to know for a fact that you are cute EVERYDAY!!!!
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
9:36 am
Why are The KOB and me in such sync today…….
Tired Out
March 29th, 2011
9:37 am
“What sort of masochist do you have to be to fall for someone who doesn’t care enough to show you how they feel about you?”
____
I suppose it’s better than those who fall for someone who treats them horribly, both physically and emotionally.
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 29th, 2011
9:38 am
@SM
Yeap. At less than 40, I tend to make decisions about how I spend my time effciently. If, after those 4 hours, there is something that I want to know about the lady (or her to know about me), then I continue; if not, why waste her or my time?
knockoutblonde
March 29th, 2011
9:39 am
lol@Simple, must be the planets lining up perfectly….ha ha
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
9:42 am
What a nice compliment. Thank you, SimpleM.
@KOB ~ basically I’m on some of the page with you. I’m just saying not done for too long a time. I agree, you dong know enough about a person in 2-3 dates.
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
9:44 am
Dan, you do you brother, but I gotta ask, whats the rush???
knockoutblonde
March 29th, 2011
9:54 am
I’m out. Work summons me. Have a great day everyone!
DJ Sniper
March 29th, 2011
9:54 am
The cat and mouse thing ain’t my cup of tea either. When I was single, I didn’t deal with that nonsense. That whole “keep em guessing” will cause me to go in the other direction and deal with a woman that is more straightforward. Grown folks ain’t got time for that.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
9:56 am
Thanks to all who contributed to the E.O.D yesterday.
@kimmie ~ you had the men squirming in delight yesterday.
La Policia
March 29th, 2011
9:58 am
THERE’S A FUNGUS AMONG US. GET OFF THE CHASE MARRIED MAN.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
10:00 am
Morning
Yeah I don’t mind a little cat and mouse. I like a witty woman who can go blow for blow with me. Of course, I eventually want to see my work pay off, just as she does. I think where you have a problem is when you’re playing with someone who ONLY enjoys the cat and mouse part of it and never has any intention of giving the game direction or a destination.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
10:02 am
Cat and Mouse – not for adults.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
10:02 am
Mixed messages are never welcomed. Give it to me straight.
MC Hammock
March 29th, 2011
10:03 am
Whut da hayell is La Policia talking about? Did I miss something?
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
10:05 am
The ScoutMob for today is 50% off at Cafe Circa
MC Hammock
March 29th, 2011
10:06 am
Are there some ladies in here chasing married men? Hmmmm…there are some very profitable websites for that sorta thing, ya know….
DJ Sniper
March 29th, 2011
10:07 am
I’m going to assume LaPolicia is talking about me and the fact that I’m married. I could be wrong though.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
10:08 am
La Policia The defendent has a right to know his accuser. Plus we’re just nosy. lol
AmazonRed™
March 29th, 2011
10:10 am
Morning all -
Mixed messages are frustrating. And I stopped overthinking it long ago. Bottom line is this, when the person is feeling you, they’ll let you know in no uncertain terms. They don’t want to risk losing a good thing.
So, with that being said, if he’s hot and cold, if he relies more on texts or passive communication, if he’s unable to make confirmed plans…he’s just not that into me and I’ll respond accordingly.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
10:13 am
Do tell. I’m nosey too.
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
10:15 am
Get yer popcorn ova here! Freshly popped popco’n!!!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
10:16 am
La Policia is talking about the first poster!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
10:16 am
Hmmmm, perhaps not?
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
10:17 am
DJ Sniper, why do you think you’re the only married man posting on here…
Unless you’re guilty….
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
10:18 am
Good morning All!
Leggs – Make a simple comment and all of a sudden there’s a video out!LOL!!! Hey, may as well make it work for me!
On topic – I dated a man once that played the “keep her guessing” game for most of the 2 years we dated. Yes, 2 years, with some long breaks in between. Why I put myself thru that torture I don’t know, and yes I take responsibility for staying around that long! When I finally told him to take a hike it was like Stone Mountain had been lifted off of my shoulders! I mean, thinking back on it, it really was sick, the games I allowed him to play on me. I didn’t know when he was going to call, if we were going to see each other, if he was even in town most times. That mess was not worth the stress.
Never again, I vowed. And I have not. It doesn’t take game-playing to get to know someone. My man let me know up front that he was interested in getting to know me after many phone convos and about 2 dates. It didn’t mean he was ready to be committed. It meant we were going to see each other on the regular so we could get to know each other. Nobody had professed their love. Just decided we interested each other and wanted to see where it lead. Don’t see the issue.
Grow up, people. Those who profess to love such game-playing are into drama. Cool, do you, but won’t work for me.
DJ Sniper
March 29th, 2011
10:22 am
LOL@ Amazon! I know there are plenty of other married dudes on here. I thought LaPolicia saw my sentence about “When I was single” and decided to post that. I didn’t even notice that the first poster said he was married.
APD
March 29th, 2011
10:23 am
NOT YOU DJ SNIPER. HE KNOWS. SHAME ON YOU.
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 29th, 2011
10:24 am
@SM
I’m not rushing; never was.
I just don’t see the benefit of spending my precious free time with someone that I frankly don’t like. For what?
Allow me to ask you: why would it take you a while to know?
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
10:24 am
Get yer popcorn ova here! Freshly popped popco’n!!!
ARed lemme get a bag, extra butter.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
10:24 am
Curiouser and curiouser.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
10:25 am
Hot diggity.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
10:28 am
Don’t forget the cokes….gotta have a coke with popcorn.
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
10:29 am
Well, DJ Sniper has been cleared.
APD…you know you’re like pretty much annoymous right? So you might as well just state who the person is. It’s not like we know your gov’t name or anything…
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
10:30 am
I’m working to get down to goal weight. Is it no butter popcorn, lightly salted? Oh…and I’ll have water with my popcorn.
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
10:30 am
Celisea – I’m just the popco’n lady. Someone else should be attending to the blog bar.
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
10:31 am
SCool – You can have it with butter or no butter. I don’t salt and butter it til it comes out the popper.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
10:31 am
Because you don’t pay attention like I do (LOLOLOL), DJ Sniper. Every time I read your moniker I think of the DC Sniper!
TenderRoni
March 29th, 2011
10:31 am
‘How sexy is the cat and mouse game, really? When does it stop being fun and starts becoming a colossal waste of time?’—It’s fun when I was in my 20’s for the challenge, and just to be a witty and flirt and was living that carefree lifestyle.
The cat and mouse becomes a waste of time when you know what your intentions are before you begin dating and you know what you want.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
10:31 am
ARed – I think Dreams is handling drinks.
Dreams – Nonalcholic beverage for me please, if no cokes are available. I take a VIRGIN anything
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
10:32 am
I’ll take…not I take
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
10:32 am
And after *years* of resisting the virtual food convo….I get sucked in.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
10:34 am
“I take a VIRGIN anything” – don’t think you want a Virgin man!!!
I know, I know, I’m silly!
@ARed ~ I don’t really do popcorn so give me half a bag. Watching my cholesterol so no butter or salt. Hell, just keep the bag!
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
10:35 am
Leggs – Ha ha….noooo ma’am….drinks only
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
10:35 am
I think we have a false alarm on the fireworks show today… the police ain’t talking.
Back to your regulary scheduled blog topic.
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
10:36 am
Leggs – That’s funny, I think DC sniper too!! Man, I remember that, because my family was scared. We have a lot that reside in the DC/MD area. That Home Depot in Siler Spring, where one of the killings took place, is literally right up the street from one of my aunts. We were so glad when he was caught.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
10:36 am
Dang “married dude” got La Policia and APD after him. Who’s next? Canadian Mounty and Saddam’s Republican Guard? “married dude” on the run like Fugitive. Tommy Lee Jones after ya a$$. lol
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
10:37 am
Dan..Its not a matter of seeing someone I don’t like….More along the line of taking time to decide if this is someone that I want to invest in long term. I know people that spend more time researching washing machines than they do gettin to know the person that they are involved with. Now I don’t advocate foolishness like delaying calls, the three day rule for a woman to call a guy after a date, or ish like that, but for me, I like to date..really date a person before I decide If there is a chance for something long term….
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
10:37 am
Silver Spring MD, not Siler
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
10:41 am
Simple – To your 10:37, I’d like to know where today we decided not to “date” and get to know someone before making a long-term commitment? Some prefer to actually DATE without the GAMES! Are the GAMES really necessary to dating and getting to know someone?
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
10:42 am
Watching my cholesterol so no butter or salt.
Shyyyyt ARed just give her a rice cake. lol
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
10:43 am
The police ain’t talking now but I bet the married dude is sweating bullets.
Sweet Pea
March 29th, 2011
10:45 am
Good Morning!!
The cat and mouse game may be quite interesting for some, however it will certainly warrant my exit especially when you’re 40 and above. I’d rather cut to the chase instead of wrecking my brain trying to figure out if it’s a go or not after spending much time with you. There’s nothing sexy about mixed messages when feelings are caught up, and you’re playing peek-a-boo….Damage Control will be enforced on my behalf!
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
10:46 am
That’s how to po-po do ya’….knows that there is a crime scene, got that bright yellow tape up everywhere, but giving not details.
“Move along. Nothing to see here.”
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
10:47 am
@DreamsM ~ funny. Please no dry a$$ rice cake. I’ll sit over here munching on cantalope and apples!
MC Hammock
March 29th, 2011
10:48 am
I thought he was talking about a woman chasing a married man instead of the opposite? Where is this guy?
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
10:49 am
MC Hammock – Where is this guy?
Buttchecks and elbows right about now…lol
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
10:52 am
I bet the married dude is sweating bullets.
I think the opposite. Say his (screen?) name gets called out. Okay…not like we can go to his house and brand a scarlet letter on his forehead.
Not much can happen on here, other than the entertainment factor.
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
10:52 am
Kimmie, earlier, Dan stated that after one or two dates, he decides whethr to move on or not. That fine for him, but generally speaking, I dont think that I could learn enough about a person to make a long term dating choice after two dates. I know that I dont disclose everything about me on the first or second date, And i dont expect a woman to do the same. Extending the dating process is not the same as playing by the Steve Harvey rules or the like…I just believe that slowing the process leads to better choices in teh dating world….
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
10:54 am
That’s how to po-po do ya’….knows that there is a crime scene, got that bright yellow tape up everywhere, but giving not details.
Dang this like a blog Who Done It mystery. Hmmmmmm…married guy could be any of us. Raahahahahahaha
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
10:55 am
I know, Dreams, right? Hell, I wanna know who the undercover officer is. (lol)
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
10:56 am
@MC H ~ I’m taking La Policia to be a female. And, she states “get off the chase married MAN!”
La Policia's assistant
March 29th, 2011
10:57 am
We have everything on video. This whole blog is a cover up for a swinger’s group. Veddy, veddy bad! You are veddy, veddy bad people!
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
10:58 am
ARed – Not much can happen on here, other than the entertainment factor.
You could be right…althooough, back in the day folks got put on the front page, evidence and all. Maybe they have evidence..lol But yeah for today I don’t think much will happen.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
10:59 am
If Me.lo antics weren’t put on front street, this person has nothing to worry about.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
10:59 am
“We have everything on video. This whole blog is a cover up for a swinger’s group. Veddy, veddy bad! You are veddy, veddy bad people!”
GOT D@MMIT! And you all didn’t invite me?!?!? Mother f@#$ers!!
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
11:00 am
Me.lo had antics? Really?
That is funny to me.
MC Hammock
March 29th, 2011
11:00 am
Well just dayum, I know tow married guys that are seeing two married women right here in my office. *cocks his head….is that a bad thing? I thought as long as you were married you could do anything. Oh….wait….you have to be married to EACH OTHER. Technicalities…..
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
11:00 am
Yeah, I don’t think MMEELLOO had too much he was tyrna hide…HEEEY MMEELLOO (waving)
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
11:01 am
Simple – Interesting. I agree folks should slow down and get to know each other. Does that extend to sex too – do you believe in delaying that beyond 1 or 2 dates? Because for me personally, I don’t know enough about a guy to want to share myself physically after such a short period of time.
But I do believe you can know if you want to continue to see someone or not after a few dates. Some don’t make it past the first date, because they showed me enough that I don’t care to see any more. And it’s not necessary to play these games or send mixed-messages, like the topic says, to find that out. How do you really get to know someone if the 2 of you are playing games with each other?
MC Hammock
March 29th, 2011
11:01 am
LOL@Swiss….same here. I miss out on EVERYTHING…..
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
11:02 am
@Legg, Hammock and Amazon…I totally agree with you. Tricks are kids and why would anyone play not knowing if it would be received as a cat and mouse game. I for one don’t play those games. I’m straight forward as I don’t want there to be any misunderstandings or to be misleading or mislead. I may not always verbalize my feelings but my actions speak just as clear.
Life is about taking risks…but I’m not going to play a cat and mouse game when it concerns love. I’m a big girl and can accept rejection. While most can agree that written communication is the first thing that can be misconstrued but our feelings for one another shouldn’t be.
When did we start this cat and mouse game or should I say at what age? Even in grade school I could remember a classmate giving me a note that says do you like me yes or no..please check a box..even at that age there wasn’t a chase….it was a straight forward question that required a simple answer- Which has lead me to believe if a man is really interested he will tell you or simply show you.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
11:02 am
Cel – exactly…everybody knows that Me.lo is the blog collector of photos and king of behind the scenes emailing.
Hey my African buddy.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:07 am
Ok, good point, Celisea ~ he wasn’t hiding much.
@SexyC ~ ok, not so much “antics” just down and out speak his sexually perverted mind (LOL). Better?
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
11:07 am
Oops my bad…Good Morn Fam!
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
11:07 am
Policia – Last time I checked, all of us are supposedly adults. While cheating is bad, it’s not against the law. And nothing needs to be “covered up”. People can live whatever lifestyle they want. Unless you have some personal interest, unless you are “married man’s” wife, what’s it to you?
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 29th, 2011
11:10 am
@Simple
Yeah, I’m quite upfront about a lot. That’s because I believe in informed consent. I want her to know what she is signing up for, and I want to know as well.
I’m with you on “slowing the process” if you’re just dating to spend time with various people. I wasn’t (after a time). And once I decided that I wasn’t interested in simply spending time, I exerted my efforts toward that goal.
But it’s what you do too.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
11:11 am
Policia: Sir, we have you on video.
MarriedDude (ala Marion Berry): This btch set me up.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
11:11 am
Maybe Policia is a police woman and the one hit on
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:14 am
It feels like Policia has a vested interested in married dude. Perhaps she’s the sister of the wife being cheated on, or she’s the mistress and plum tuckered out over all the cat and mouse games???
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
11:15 am
ForReal – will label you as irrational and lacking in accountability for even suggesting him as the culprit. Is he trying to deter all women from wanting to marry him because he already is? Hmmmm…
Purple – Has 27 blog wives. A virtual front…I wonderrrrrr
SimpleMan – The ultimate dater…or an alter ego for his humdrum married life. You be the judge.
2CPTG – Nah, he’s married to the “ism”.
Swiss – Claimed the other day that he was a mormon. This could be right up his alley. Who knows…
Randyt – Well he has the t-shirts for everything else, why not this.
StanleyP – To our amazement his Female Feline Acquisition theory has convinced those with low self esteem that a married man is all they’re worthy of or entitled to.
abc – his rigid demeanor is a cover-up for for a wild, sex thirsty predator who uses low grade slang and questionable character to lure women trashy women into his web. Far-fetched? Only time will tell.
WillieD – the popcon man who
allegedlyhas fully embraced the “Huxtable Lifestyle.” Yeah we all know Bill ended up having a secret daughter come forward a few years ago. Who are you really, Willie?Dan – likely to present an alibi you can’t decipher. We’ll come back to him.
Dreams – I the 1, 2, 3, 4, FIZIFTH!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:16 am
sheesh, a vested “interest”….
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
11:17 am
Kimmie, as it pertains to sex, it depends….I believe Adults should go with what is good for them. I have never pressured a woman to do the in a predetermined time period…that being said, if a daes takes us from dinner to dancing to toe curling and Eye rolling, then its all good, but if we are flowing and we dont get to that point for however many dates, then thats cool too… the caveat being that teh outcomes are not defined by some preset standard….and for the record, two dates are not enough to determine if there is a future, but 15 bad minutes can bring everything to a screeching halt!!!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:20 am
I just guessed Carol Blackmon’s “Cold Cut Artist” of the day and won, but I gave the prize back for the next caller because I have a track meet this weekend!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:21 am
BTW, the answer is Brian McKnight (404) 741-1075.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
11:23 am
I so not feeling the chicken salad I have for lunch.
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
11:24 am
Leggs – What was the prize???
(I probably would have guessed him, I loves me some Brian McKnight)
MC Hammock
March 29th, 2011
11:24 am
Perverted mind……..is that bad? Dayum….foiled again…..
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
11:25 am
This whole blog is a cover up for a swinger’s group.
hmmmmm, that may explain the recent spike in blogger getting married. lol
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
11:27 am
and for the record, two dates are not enough to determine if there is a future, but 15 bad minutes can bring everything to a screeching halt!!!
Simple – You are right 15 bad minutes can change things. But I don’t agree, while 2 dates are not enough to determine if there is a future as in a committed relationship or marriage, its plenty enough to decide if I want to see you again. I thought that’s what we’re trying to determine – do I want to date and get to know, not commitment.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:29 am
Tickets to Car*nival for 4 at Turner Field. I had yesterday’s answer too, but gave the wrong one out of the two I thought about. Those tickets were to see Mel*onie Fi*ona in concert.
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
11:29 am
Dreams – I like that list of suspects, Mr. CSI!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:30 am
@ARed ~ she gives a list of clues starting around 11:15. It was the first clue. She usually goes through 3-4 before someone gets the answer.
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
11:31 am
Leggs – Yeah, I know the contest. I’m just not listening to her show at work today. Half the time I can’t guess them right, but i’m a big BMcKnight fan, so I probably would have figured this one out!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:34 am
I gotcha!
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
11:35 am
I like the list of suspects as well.
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
11:35 am
Tickets to Car*nival for 4 at Turner Field
That bootleg carnival? Those rides look like death traps.
It must make some money tho. 
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
11:38 am
Claimed the other day that he was a mormon. This could be right up his alley. Who knows…
Heyal naw! Mormons don’t drink, so that rules me out off the bat. Plus, they have that “magic underwear” and I prefer to free-ball it….
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:38 am
I’m feeling you, ARed! Not only that, I don’t get on rides that leave the ground (lol) so no need for me to go.
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
11:41 am
That bootleg carnival? Those rides look like death traps.
Amred – LOL!! I was thinking the same thing! In the salon on Saturday, my stylist was talking about about “the carnival is in town”! I was confused until I asked was he talking about the Turner Field thing! You could not pay me to get on any of those rides! There are plenty of nicer fairs across the state, and amusement parks I would go to before I go or would take the kids to that mess!
Charlie's Sheen
March 29th, 2011
11:41 am
My angels said they just LOVE married men. They just send them home before sun up.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:44 am
To come think about it, perhaps it’s not the same carnival you find at SouthDeKalb/Northlake Mall? I would hope it’s not the same one. Why do a contest for those tickets?
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
11:44 am
“Not only that, I don’t get on rides that leave the ground”
Are you forgetting about last night, Leggs?
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:46 am
Lawdy, lawdy, lawdy…that was quick thinking and funny, swiss!
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
11:49 am
“Are you forgetting about last night, Leggs?”
(Explains why Leggs was so “chipper” this morning):)
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
11:49 am
Swiss – That does it, you are the PRIME SUSPECT!!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:50 am
Another good one, SimpleM!
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
11:51 am
@Charlie- Those are not “Angels” what you have are side piece’s and jump off’s
Charlie's Sheen
March 29th, 2011
11:56 am
NY, well they do do a lot of “jumping” around here and have been known to be on their “side”. There’s so much love here….
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
11:57 am
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
11:58 am
Says the rock star from Mars……
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
12:17 pm
@Charlie- Yes lots of love here. If your angels like (being the a la carte ish) I love it!
SlimNumeroUno
March 29th, 2011
12:20 pm
Well Helloooooooooooo peeps…
What’s this I hear about swiss giving “carnivalinngus rides”?
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
12:32 pm
Slim — I’ve got all sorts of rides for ya:
The Tongue-Lasher
Mount (my) Matterhorn
The Flugelhorn
and The Yodeler
Would you like a season pass?
SlimNumeroUno
March 29th, 2011
12:35 pm
swiss – How much for a simple Day Pass? Not sure I want to commit to having to ride the same ole azz rides every visit. Heyal, even Flix Flags gets a ride almost every 2 years lol
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
12:38 pm
Slim — For you, on the house. And be sure to visit the concession stand for a tasty treat, like the Swiss Mocha Swirl.
HotMess
March 29th, 2011
12:44 pm
Those all the rides you just need a half-day pass…bhawwwww
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
12:47 pm
Each rides lasts exactly 7.82 seconds, but you can enjoy it again in about 20 minutes…
HotMess
March 29th, 2011
12:51 pm
Lol, then just walk in stay for one-hour and walk right back out.
Forget a lame city carnival…come over to the CircOLadies enjoy an all day eating event
SlimNumeroUno
March 29th, 2011
12:57 pm
‘Each rides lasts exactly 7.82 seconds, but you can enjoy it again in about 20 minutes’
swiss – A technician by the name of Tekky For Real wouldn’t happen to work for you does he?
Creepy Married Dude
March 29th, 2011
1:07 pm
Hey…Heard this was a good place to meet unsuspecting single ladies….
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
1:12 pm
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
1:19 pm
Slim — You’ll have to check with HR on that one… If you hear a loud ZIIIIIIIIIIIIPing sound, don’t be alarmed…
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
1:21 pm
It happens everyday, swiss!
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
1:29 pm
Well damn! where did everybody go?????
SlimNumeroUno
March 29th, 2011
1:33 pm
‘Heard this was a good place to meet UNsuspecting single ladies’
CMD – Um…well with a moniker like that, you can throw that Unsuspecting part out the window.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
1:33 pm
Sounds like somebody got hoodwinked by a married dude…
Given it ain’t “front page news”, I’m going to gamble that there was an attempt and old married dude either got caught or called out BEFORE the festivities.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
1:34 pm
Remember W8?
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
1:37 pm
Heyal naw! Mormons don’t drink, so that rules me out off the bat. Plus, they have that “magic underwear” and I prefer to free-ball it…
Watson, as the first suspect to refute his status as the accused, it appears as though we have our first lead. In the absence of a response this may even be concluded prima facie. swiss what say you my friend? Hurry now before this spot of Earl Grey loses it’s aromatic fortitude.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
1:41 pm
@Celisa ~ sssshhhh, he will never be forgotten (lol).
Willie Dynamite
March 29th, 2011
2:04 pm
Afternoon All
Dayum I need an Alibi to get in the blog now? For the record I was with my Wife Claire on the night in question officer.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
2:08 pm
Leggs – I know right…LOL
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
2:13 pm
Dayum I need an Alibi to get in the blog now?
WillieD Maybe not. Seems the blog done cleared out. Maybe everyone was involved in this. How did I not see it?
For Real
March 29th, 2011
2:17 pm
Hey, I didn’t know she was married. What’s a brother to do? I’m I suppose to ASSUME that ring is a wedding ring? Or am I to ASSUME that family in the picture frame did not come with frame? And I know I am not the ONLY one that get Mrs. and Ms. confused!!!
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 29th, 2011
2:18 pm
For the record, my alibi’s make complete sense….in historical context; if you can remember Hannibal through the Pyrenees and Alps
Lady
March 29th, 2011
2:19 pm
wow…….
For Real
March 29th, 2011
2:20 pm
On topic: Chick like to say they don’t like games when they are the queens of games. What chicks should say is I don’t like for men to play games. If you can determine within 30 minutes whether or not you like a person then something is really, really wrong with YOU!!! It doesn’t take 30 days.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
2:27 pm
@Dan ~ we don’t need to remember your alibis by referring to historical context. It is your job to state your alibi as clearly and concise as possible, no jibber jabbering!
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
2:27 pm
If you can determine within 30 minutes whether or not you like a person then something is really, really wrong with YOU!!! It doesn’t take 30 days.
4 Real – Tell that to Simple Man. He seems to think it take a long time, beyond 2 dates, to decide if you like someone!
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
2:28 pm
@For Real…you do see the MR. before the S..right?
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 29th, 2011
2:30 pm
@Leggs
Actually, it ain’t. If I feel the need for an alibi (read: guilty) then it’s on you to disprove my alibi (be it the logic, location, or legality).
Otherwise, I don’t owe nobody an alibi or explanation; I’m Dan.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
2:31 pm
No doubt it’s on me to disprove your alibi, but first I have to know what it is. Yep you’re ______________________
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
2:32 pm
And, the need for an alibi doesn’t necessarily mean you’re guilty. It helps to remove guilt away from you!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
2:33 pm
Alright… Sorry, I had to step away for a bit to set some of my hometown idiots straight on FB…
Is this investigation wrapped up yet? Am I free to
go mack on unsuspecting single blogettesgo yet?Leggs
March 29th, 2011
2:35 pm
Blackfoote
March 29th, 2011
2:39 pm
Cat and mice reminds me of the cartoon Tom and Jerry which is hillarious but in real life just don’t jibe. I’ts almost time for me to get off. I missed practically the whole day with y’all today.
How Y’all Doing:
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
2:39 pm
Swiss – You were always free to mack as you wish. Like I told Policia earlier, it’s a free country, we’re all grown and doing nothing illegal! LOL!! Now what Mrs. Swiss has to say about that is on you! LOL!!
For Real
March 29th, 2011
2:39 pm
“Tell that to Simple Man. He seems to think it take a long time, beyond 2 dates, to decide if you like someone!” – Simple Kimmie told me to tell you “it don’t take that long to determine if you like someone. Also, it don’t take 30 days or 4 days to determine if you want to have sex with someone. Kimmie didn’t tell me tell you that tho.
“For Real…you do see the MR. before the S..right?” – Yes but I get confused on is Ms. married and Mrs. is single. Don’t judge me!
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
2:47 pm
4 Real –
Blackfoote
March 29th, 2011
2:47 pm
Talking alibi’s somebody must be in trouble.
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
2:48 pm
Come on Kimmie…what I said was I can tell in very short period of time whether I like a person or not, but It takes more than a couple of dates to decide If I want to invest in a person long term…Case in point, how many times has EVERYONE on this blog gone out with someone and on the first date the person appeared to be all together…fast forward 4 or five dates and you figure out the car belonged to his brother, and he used his tax money to take you to that concert or she cant get away for the weekend because Squirt has to do community service and all five of the kids stuck at home with her….
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
2:54 pm
So, should they have put all her cards on the table upfront and let you know all this. That way, you can make a decision on if you want to get involved. After 4-5 dates, one may be catching feelings by now?
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
2:59 pm
Simple – But that’s just life. You could discover something on the first date or it may be a year later before you find out a dealbreaker. That’s what dating is, getting to know someone. What is all this about long-term investments? Are you talking about deciding if you want to limit yourself to dating just that one person or are you talking shacking/marriage?
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
3:06 pm
@Real..I guess it doesn’t really matter…sometimes the Mr. has a Mistress that the Mrs. didnt know about or the Mrs. pretends she’s a Ms. when a she meets another Mr.
@Simple…Soo funny…I once dated a guy and for two years he told me his car was in the shop…I was young dumb back then.
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
3:11 pm
Kimmie, I guess it comes as no surprise that I enjoy dating…..In my ideal world, I would have a wife, but that not being the case, I like having two or three peolpe that I date on a semi regular basis. This allows me to have some familarity with the person I am seeing but not to the point of being committed. Like I said earlier, I will not do the Rules, or follow the Steve Harvey outline..We date..Multiple dates I hope at some point I move past that, But don’t understand that thought behind making a exclusive dating choice after one or two dates….
Geechee
March 29th, 2011
3:15 pm
Thanks to all of you for making a benign subject fun & entertaining.
@knockoutblonde: I don’t care for games like most here, but I like the way you think.
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
3:16 pm
Simple – Okay. I’m with Leggs though, after 4 or 5 dates it’s possible that someone could catch feelings. If everyone involved knows up front that they are part of the rotation, yall grown do you.
You keep mentioning the Rules & Steve Harvey. Are you running into a lot of women that subscribe to those methods and actually tell you they are?
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
3:18 pm
@KO..I agree w/Geechee
@Real..I look forward to your posts!
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
3:21 pm
LOL…on a couple of occasions, The topic of dating rules has come up in discussion and I was surprised to see how frank they were in just putting it out there…But those books have sold millions of copies, and I would be willing to bet not a single copy has been purchased by a successfully dating guy!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
3:22 pm
@kimmie ~ the same lady who old dude was blowing up her phone while he was trying to talk to me told me last week about a book I needed to read. When she pulled out Steve Harvey’s book, I said he’s not saying anything I don’t already know. Won’t be reading that book.
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
3:22 pm
But those books have sold millions of copies, and I would be willing to bet not a single copy has been purchased by a successfully dating guy!
Simple – Not one that likes women anyway!
For Real
March 29th, 2011
3:24 pm
“So, should they have put all her cards on the table upfront and let you know all this. That way, you can make a decision on if you want to get involved.” – This is what I do.
Chick: Soooo, For Real tell me something about yourself.
For Real: I ain’t getting married and I ain’t lookin for a SO.
Chick: Welll Dayum!!! Excuse YOU!!! I don’t need a man!!!!
For Real: Cool! What do you want to eat?
Chick: HUH? WHAT? EAT?
For Real: I’m having the garlic lambs. They are really, really good. You should try it. Oh look that chick over there has on the same dress that you do.
Chick: What don’t try and…. Where?
For Real: Ova there next to the couple with the dude wearing a smoking jacket.
Chick: Oh the lady on the date with the dude with Gary Colman part in his hair?
For Real: Close but look to right of the chick with the lil badonkadonk. Well, it’s okay if you don’t see her. But I know for fact she can’t wear it like you are wearing yours.
Chick: Awwww… Thank you For Real. You are so nice.
For Real: Here I ordered you a sex on the beach.
Chick: How did you know that was my favorite drink?
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
3:25 pm
Leggs – I read Steve’s 1st book because a friend gave it to me. It was an entertaining read, but you are right, nothing a woman with common sense shouldn’t already know. I actually skimmed thru much of it, after a point it got boring. I let a lady in the office borrow it and have not seen it since. I definitely won’t be reading the 2nd one.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
3:27 pm
Bait and switch (so to speak)…gullible.
But, I see nothing wrong with you stating up front you don’t want to be married, a sperm donor or wanting a SO! If she can dissect that, it’s on her!
For Real
March 29th, 2011
3:29 pm
“I once dated a guy and for two years he told me his car was in the shop…I was young dumb back then.” – Let’s go on a date and we can pretend to be young again. I’ll pick you on my bike.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
3:29 pm
If she CAN’T dissect that, it’s on her…
Geechee
March 29th, 2011
3:29 pm
Speaking of mistresses and such, have you ever seen the situation where Married Dude has Mistress1 and then sneaks around behind her and gets Misstress2.
Man, hell has no greater fury than when Misstress1 finds out about Misstress2. It’s actually kind of fun to watch from afar.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
3:30 pm
for two years he told me his car was in the shop…
NY state Why you gotta put me on blast in front of the blog like that. My car was in the
impoundshop and I’m stickin to it. Oh and can you bring me a Big Mac when you pick me up from work today?Are you running into a lot of women that subscribe to those methods and actually tell you they are?
kimmie the book sold like 2 million copies, so I’m guessing there are plenty women who subscribe to those rules.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
3:33 pm
There are a lot of women out there that need something/someone to lean on other than themselves and their own instincts. Don’t really know why these women praise SHarvey. He’s ok, but dayum he ain’t Ghandi!
For Real
March 29th, 2011
3:34 pm
“Bait and switch (so to speak)…” – Not quite it’s more like a superior mind guiding a lesser mind or does that just sound better than gullible?
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
3:35 pm
He’s ok, but dayum he ain’t Ghandi!
Yeah I got a book in the making too. Get ready to praise me ladies.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
March 29th, 2011
3:35 pm
He’s ok, but dayum he ain’t Ghandi!
Not by a long shot….it’s not as if he’s saying some new isht but yeah some women need an external source other than common sense and intuition.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
3:36 pm
@Geechee ~ since you seem to like to laugh at bizzare happenings, I have to leave again at 4. Would you be so kind and leave the E.O.D? If not, regulars you know what to do. Thank you.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
3:37 pm
Thanks For Real ~ it just sounds better!
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
3:37 pm
but yeah some women need an external source other than common sense and intuition.
Apparently alot more than “some”, judging from book sales. lol
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
3:37 pm
Yeah…but there are over 150 million women in the United States alone. So…doing the math…well….that’s less than 2% of women in the U.S. (assuming that everyone that bought his book were female and the each book sales represents a single book purchased by a single female – as opposed to a purchase of several copies at one time for gifts and the like) that have Steve Harvey’s book.
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
3:39 pm
@Real..my badonkadonk is way toooooo big for that bike seat. Fall thru w/the Maybach so that I can ride comfy…thanks!
@GeeChee- I used to be a MRS..then my Mr. got a Mistress…then he got a Mistres x2. The first Mistress went in on Mistress X2..while me and Mr. had ring side seats to the show down. The re-match was played out in Divorce court!!
Miss me w/the bull-ish!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
3:41 pm
That’s deep, NY!
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
3:43 pm
I didn’t buy Steve’s book either but a girlfriend emailed the pdf version. So I read. I frankly didn’t care for his nice way of telling women how to “tailor” relationships to fit a man’s need….or else. I have no problem tailoring to man’s need in the form of an ultimatum. Taking care of home is just what you do because you both have love invested and making a go at it. If it’s gotta lean a particular person’s way, you’ll be chasing that chicken until the next of never. All that mess about ladies if you don’t get this that and other other right he’ll leave. BYE then. I think by now all of us know what to do and how to get it done. I’on want him telling me nothing antyway after cheating, running around and then your 3rd marriage you’re a freaking connoissuer.
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
3:43 pm
“used to be a MRS..then my Mr. got a Mistress…then he got a Mistres x2.”
DAYYYYYUUUUMMMMM!!! The former Mr. State of mind got a strong Ass Back!!!
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
3:44 pm
Dreams – I don’t see anything wrong with purchasing the book or reading it. I am intelligent and like politics and science and current events. I also like keeping up with pop culture and the latest whatever – to a certain extent. I read different things for entertainment and stress-relief. Steve’s book would fall under that.
But to announce to a date that I’m running my life and dating by Steve Harvey’s book or anything like it – well that’s just …. laughable…then sad.
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
March 29th, 2011
3:45 pm
while me and Mr. had ring side seats to the show down.
weeellll aaalrighty then….that must’ve been interesting….
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
3:48 pm
How deep was the cut hearing things from the two of them about your husband?
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
3:48 pm
Kimmie, Not all women are as well versed, complete and confident as you are
…. You wanna catch up sometime??? 
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
3:52 pm
Simple – Unlike some women I guess, I’m too proud. If I was following The Rules or Steve Harvey, nobody would know about it, especially my man! That’s why I said it’s a little sad.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
3:53 pm
I have no problem tailoring to man’s need in the form of an ultimatum
I have a problem…is what I meant.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
3:54 pm
2% is not “a lot.”
Geechee
March 29th, 2011
3:54 pm
@NY: Sorry for the bad memory.
@Leggs: You’re making me laugh and almost feel like part of the family. I can handle it, but lord I’m feeling a really big burden here.
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
3:55 pm
Seriously..Steve Harvey is the Bait & Switch Master.
@Leggs..yeah I married one of the original Ohio players…LOL
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
3:56 pm
SCool – It’s a lot if you’re selling books though! Just give me a dollar for each of those 2 million sold!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
3:57 pm
Ciao!
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
3:57 pm
I agree, kimmie. However, it is not the “a lot” that it is made out to be. For every 1 chick that read the book, I can name ten to fifteen that didn’t.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
3:59 pm
@Geechee ~ everyone gets a shot (at least I hope so). Anyone on here is family (excluding the noticeable trolls)!!
PEACE!
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
3:59 pm
Geechee – but lord I’m feeling a really big burden here.
Don’t. Just jump in.
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
4:01 pm
I’m cool…the show down was aired on HBO for $49.95
I did mention that I live in NY…and for my northern’ers ..you do know how much real estate is here. I currently own my brownstone and the Range…thanks to my Mr. who I refer to now as Trick daddy..check mate playa!!
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
4:04 pm
@Simple..yes his back was strong as hell…but Alimony/spousal support child support/ pain and suffering and a good old fashion civil suit will cripple a Nucca!!
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
4:08 pm
NYSofM – Careful, some of the male bloggers don’t take to kind to men having to pay alimony/child support. They think that’s the devil
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
March 29th, 2011
4:09 pm
but Alimony/spousal support child support/ pain and suffering and a good old fashion civil suit will cripple a Nucca!!
Superman got his kryptonite all kinda ways….
Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)
March 29th, 2011
4:10 pm
LOL @ They think that’s the devil….
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
4:10 pm
Dayum NY!!! That turned out to really be some high dollar STRANGE…
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
4:10 pm
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
4:11 pm
Xs 2!!!!
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
4:12 pm
It’s looking like I just might close by Thursday. (Keep ya’ fangas crossed and ya’ knees bent.)
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
4:12 pm
NYSoM, Can I ask how he got caught????
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
4:13 pm
Good for you SexyC
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
4:14 pm
Sorry guys..but let that a lesson well learned. The EX NY truly knows what it means when they say “you gotta pay to play” in his case he paid because of his playing. funny but true..dude is currently studying to be a pastor…now all of sudden he found jesus..
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
4:15 pm
NYSofMind – Sounds like the ex got the grits…most times they convert after getting grits tossed on ‘em….lololol
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
4:15 pm
Ask Al Green…ha ha ha
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
4:16 pm
Oh wait, the “Reverend” Al Green. Grits got mo power than Jesus…some say
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
4:16 pm
SCool – I’m so excited for you, I’m claiming it!!
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
4:17 pm
“Everything is gonna be alright”
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
4:17 pm
Yeah…but there are over 150 million women in the United States alone. So…doing the math…well….that’s less than 2% of women in the U.S.
That’s grossly overstating. About 60% of that 150 million aren’t even dating, not including lesbians. That 2 million copies account for more like 10% of the dating female population in the US. That’s sizeable. If you narrow it down by demographic you’re probably looking at much more than 10% of AA women who have read that book.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
4:19 pm
It’s looking like I just might close by Thursday
Congrats. When’s the housewarming?
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
4:22 pm
dude is currently studying to be a pastor…now all of sudden he found jesus.
Nope, he’s just taking what he did to you and applying it on a much larger scale. He’ll use all those tithes to pay your alimony. lol
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
4:22 pm
Goodnight ya’ll.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
4:25 pm
After the painting and the carpeting.
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
4:25 pm
Its all good now..its a story we laugh about. It was part of my past and something I cant change. Mr. and I are still cool parents. I’m not bitter and do not believe all men are created equal. I have no intentions on getting married again…but hey you never know…right For Real…LOL
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
4:26 pm
“dude is currently studying to be a pastor…now all of sudden he found jesus..”
Sounds like buddy Just came up on a quick hustle to get his money back in order….
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
4:27 pm
Everybody that is a pastor ain’t making big bucks.
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
4:28 pm
Ok…But there are a WHOLE BUNCH of them that are…..
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
4:29 pm
@Dreams..too funny but prob true..LOL
@Simple…when Mistress 1 found out about Mistress 2..she starting talking and the show down began. We literally watched it and they we acting like I (the wife) was just a spector who happened to be driving by an saw a fight. No one acknowledged me..soo funny!
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
4:30 pm
You guys and these unspecific, unmeasurable terms. “A lot”, “a WHOLE BUNCH”….um, yeah…okay.
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
4:31 pm
God forgive my tongue..but if that’s what he has to do to pay my property taxes..he better get to church on time each and every sunday…the doors of the church are now open.
SexyCool
March 29th, 2011
4:33 pm
And the church said, “Amen.”
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
4:35 pm
SCool…I can’t name them all, but I can run off a few names…LOL
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
4:41 pm
Sorry guys about the typos…I have three monitors and one keyboard…I’m not even looking at the monitor where I have this blog pulled up…I should prob pay attention while I’m at work.
Geechee
March 29th, 2011
4:45 pm
E.O.D.
“Well, I believe in the soul, …., the small of a woman’s back, the hanging curve ball, high fiber, good scotch, that the novels of Susan Sontag are self-indulgent, overrated crap. I believe Lee Harvey Oswald acted alone. I believe there ought to be a constitutional amendment outlawing Astroturf and the designated hitter. I believe in the sweet spot, soft-core pornography, opening your presents Christmas morning rather than Christmas Eve and I believe in long, slow, deep, soft, wet kisses that last three days.”
Crash Davis (Kevin Costner), Bull Durham