Dating: Mixed messages turn you on?
According to a recent study, He loves me, he loves me not: Uncertainty and Attraction, mixed messages can intensify attraction in some people. That’s odd because it sort of makes me stabby and annoyed. I end up wishing I never met the ambiguous lad because I’m generally not a fan of he loves me, he loves me not.
It’s possible that I’m just a lazy dater and don’t want to do any work to figure out how a guy feels about me. I remember a time when that is all I ever did, though. I can’t even count the hours spent deciphering behavior of the men I dated. That was pretty draining so I’m basically not willing to go back to that.
What sort of masochist do you have to be to fall for someone who doesn’t care enough to show you how they feel about you? Maybe that is a little harsh but what pleasure is there in uncertainty?
How sexy is the cat and mouse game, really? When does it stop being fun and starts becoming a colossal waste of time?
Would you be willing to play the cat and mouse game for someone who just blew you away? Are there rare occasions that you meet someone you feel is worth deciphering mixed messages? Has that ever happened to you?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Celisea
March 29th, 2011
11:11 am
Maybe Policia is a police woman and the one hit on
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:14 am
It feels like Policia has a vested interested in married dude. Perhaps she’s the sister of the wife being cheated on, or she’s the mistress and plum tuckered out over all the cat and mouse games???
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
11:15 am
ForReal – will label you as irrational and lacking in accountability for even suggesting him as the culprit. Is he trying to deter all women from wanting to marry him because he already is? Hmmmm…
Purple – Has 27 blog wives. A virtual front…I wonderrrrrr
SimpleMan – The ultimate dater…or an alter ego for his humdrum married life. You be the judge.
2CPTG – Nah, he’s married to the “ism”.
Swiss – Claimed the other day that he was a mormon. This could be right up his alley. Who knows…
Randyt – Well he has the t-shirts for everything else, why not this.
StanleyP – To our amazement his Female Feline Acquisition theory has convinced those with low self esteem that a married man is all they’re worthy of or entitled to.
abc – his rigid demeanor is a cover-up for for a wild, sex thirsty predator who uses low grade slang and questionable character to lure women trashy women into his web. Far-fetched? Only time will tell.
WillieD – the popcon man who
allegedlyhas fully embraced the “Huxtable Lifestyle.” Yeah we all know Bill ended up having a secret daughter come forward a few years ago. Who are you really, Willie?Dan – likely to present an alibi you can’t decipher. We’ll come back to him.
Dreams – I the 1, 2, 3, 4, FIZIFTH!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:16 am
sheesh, a vested “interest”….
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
11:17 am
Kimmie, as it pertains to sex, it depends….I believe Adults should go with what is good for them. I have never pressured a woman to do the in a predetermined time period…that being said, if a daes takes us from dinner to dancing to toe curling and Eye rolling, then its all good, but if we are flowing and we dont get to that point for however many dates, then thats cool too… the caveat being that teh outcomes are not defined by some preset standard….and for the record, two dates are not enough to determine if there is a future, but 15 bad minutes can bring everything to a screeching halt!!!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:20 am
I just guessed Carol Blackmon’s “Cold Cut Artist” of the day and won, but I gave the prize back for the next caller because I have a track meet this weekend!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:21 am
BTW, the answer is Brian McKnight (404) 741-1075.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
11:23 am
I so not feeling the chicken salad I have for lunch.
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
11:24 am
Leggs – What was the prize???
(I probably would have guessed him, I loves me some Brian McKnight)
MC Hammock
March 29th, 2011
11:24 am
Perverted mind……..is that bad? Dayum….foiled again…..
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 29th, 2011
11:25 am
This whole blog is a cover up for a swinger’s group.
hmmmmm, that may explain the recent spike in blogger getting married. lol
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
11:27 am
and for the record, two dates are not enough to determine if there is a future, but 15 bad minutes can bring everything to a screeching halt!!!
Simple – You are right 15 bad minutes can change things. But I don’t agree, while 2 dates are not enough to determine if there is a future as in a committed relationship or marriage, its plenty enough to decide if I want to see you again. I thought that’s what we’re trying to determine – do I want to date and get to know, not commitment.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:29 am
Tickets to Car*nival for 4 at Turner Field. I had yesterday’s answer too, but gave the wrong one out of the two I thought about. Those tickets were to see Mel*onie Fi*ona in concert.
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
11:29 am
Dreams – I like that list of suspects, Mr. CSI!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:30 am
@ARed ~ she gives a list of clues starting around 11:15. It was the first clue. She usually goes through 3-4 before someone gets the answer.
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
11:31 am
Leggs – Yeah, I know the contest. I’m just not listening to her show at work today. Half the time I can’t guess them right, but i’m a big BMcKnight fan, so I probably would have figured this one out!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:34 am
I gotcha!
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
11:35 am
I like the list of suspects as well.
AmazonRed™ - "Say Yes..."
March 29th, 2011
11:35 am
Tickets to Car*nival for 4 at Turner Field
That bootleg carnival? Those rides look like death traps.
It must make some money tho. 
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
11:38 am
Claimed the other day that he was a mormon. This could be right up his alley. Who knows…
Heyal naw! Mormons don’t drink, so that rules me out off the bat. Plus, they have that “magic underwear” and I prefer to free-ball it….
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:38 am
I’m feeling you, ARed! Not only that, I don’t get on rides that leave the ground (lol) so no need for me to go.
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
11:41 am
That bootleg carnival? Those rides look like death traps.
Amred – LOL!! I was thinking the same thing! In the salon on Saturday, my stylist was talking about about “the carnival is in town”! I was confused until I asked was he talking about the Turner Field thing! You could not pay me to get on any of those rides! There are plenty of nicer fairs across the state, and amusement parks I would go to before I go or would take the kids to that mess!
Charlie's Sheen
March 29th, 2011
11:41 am
My angels said they just LOVE married men. They just send them home before sun up.
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:44 am
To come think about it, perhaps it’s not the same carnival you find at SouthDeKalb/Northlake Mall? I would hope it’s not the same one. Why do a contest for those tickets?
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
11:44 am
“Not only that, I don’t get on rides that leave the ground”
Are you forgetting about last night, Leggs?
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:46 am
Lawdy, lawdy, lawdy…that was quick thinking and funny, swiss!
Simple Man!!!!
March 29th, 2011
11:49 am
“Are you forgetting about last night, Leggs?”
(Explains why Leggs was so “chipper” this morning):)
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
11:49 am
Swiss – That does it, you are the PRIME SUSPECT!!
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
11:50 am
Another good one, SimpleM!
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
11:51 am
@Charlie- Those are not “Angels” what you have are side piece’s and jump off’s
Charlie's Sheen
March 29th, 2011
11:56 am
NY, well they do do a lot of “jumping” around here and have been known to be on their “side”. There’s so much love here….
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
11:57 am
kimmie
March 29th, 2011
11:58 am
Says the rock star from Mars……
NY state of mind
March 29th, 2011
12:17 pm
@Charlie- Yes lots of love here. If your angels like (being the a la carte ish) I love it!
SlimNumeroUno
March 29th, 2011
12:20 pm
Well Helloooooooooooo peeps…
What’s this I hear about swiss giving “carnivalinngus rides”?
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
12:32 pm
Slim — I’ve got all sorts of rides for ya:
The Tongue-Lasher
Mount (my) Matterhorn
The Flugelhorn
and The Yodeler
Would you like a season pass?
SlimNumeroUno
March 29th, 2011
12:35 pm
swiss – How much for a simple Day Pass? Not sure I want to commit to having to ride the same ole azz rides every visit. Heyal, even Flix Flags gets a ride almost every 2 years lol
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
12:38 pm
Slim — For you, on the house. And be sure to visit the concession stand for a tasty treat, like the Swiss Mocha Swirl.
HotMess
March 29th, 2011
12:44 pm
Those all the rides you just need a half-day pass…bhawwwww
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
12:47 pm
Each rides lasts exactly 7.82 seconds, but you can enjoy it again in about 20 minutes…
HotMess
March 29th, 2011
12:51 pm
Lol, then just walk in stay for one-hour and walk right back out.
Forget a lame city carnival…come over to the CircOLadies enjoy an all day eating event
SlimNumeroUno
March 29th, 2011
12:57 pm
‘Each rides lasts exactly 7.82 seconds, but you can enjoy it again in about 20 minutes’
swiss – A technician by the name of Tekky For Real wouldn’t happen to work for you does he?
Creepy Married Dude
March 29th, 2011
1:07 pm
Hey…Heard this was a good place to meet unsuspecting single ladies….
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
1:12 pm
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 29th, 2011
1:19 pm
Slim — You’ll have to check with HR on that one… If you hear a loud ZIIIIIIIIIIIIPing sound, don’t be alarmed…
Leggs
March 29th, 2011
1:21 pm
It happens everyday, swiss!
Simple Man!!!
March 29th, 2011
1:29 pm
Well damn! where did everybody go?????
SlimNumeroUno
March 29th, 2011
1:33 pm
‘Heard this was a good place to meet UNsuspecting single ladies’
CMD – Um…well with a moniker like that, you can throw that Unsuspecting part out the window.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
1:33 pm
Sounds like somebody got hoodwinked by a married dude…
Given it ain’t “front page news”, I’m going to gamble that there was an attempt and old married dude either got caught or called out BEFORE the festivities.
Celisea
March 29th, 2011
1:34 pm
Remember W8?