According to a recent study, He loves me, he loves me not: Uncertainty and Attraction, mixed messages can intensify attraction in some people. That’s odd because it sort of makes me stabby and annoyed. I end up wishing I never met the ambiguous lad because I’m generally not a fan of he loves me, he loves me not.
It’s possible that I’m just a lazy dater and don’t want to do any work to figure out how a guy feels about me. I remember a time when that is all I ever did, though. I can’t even count the hours spent deciphering behavior of the men I dated. That was pretty draining so I’m basically not willing to go back to that.
What sort of masochist do you have to be to fall for someone who doesn’t care enough to show you how they feel about you? Maybe that is a little harsh but what pleasure is there in uncertainty?
How sexy is the cat and mouse game, really? When does it stop being fun and starts becoming a colossal waste of time?
Would you be willing to play the cat and mouse game for someone who just blew you away? Are there rare occasions that you meet someone you feel is worth deciphering mixed messages? Has that ever happened to you?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog