Dating on the other side of the tracks?
There was a time when you wouldn’t think of dating outside your socioeconomic class. According to a lot of people, this is still an issue in modern day dating. There are still mothers that ask their sons, “Who are her people? What do they do?, ” and if he doesn’t respond with an acceptable profession that signifies affluent wealthy family? Well, that is where things get a little tricky.
Whether you are from a modest, working class family or a wealthy, powerful one, when you make a decision to break from tradition, you have to be prepared for the backlash. A lot of couples realize they are not built for this and others become closer because of it. Do you think our upbringing and our socioeconomic status is an issue in your dating life?
Have you ever dated someone that seemed to come from a completely different world than you? Perhaps you are used to down home, unpretentious surroundings (like me!) and you met someone who spent their childhood in boarding schools and mansions. Do you think it could work?
When we talked about family disapproving of the person you were dating, I wondered how this situation would play out once things got to be serious. Once the family has come to accept your mate, how do you think the cultural and social differences would impact your relationship?
Do you think single people still have to contend with “dating from the wrong side of the track” or has society moved beyond that school of thought?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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361 comments Add your comment
kimmie
March 28th, 2011
3:09 pm
Men stick to what works and some woman ruined for some others.
Purple – I disagree. Men do what works as the situation calls. The approach to someone they respect is very different from the ones they don’t. A true man of character treats ALL with respect and doesn’t just do what he think he can get away with, but that’s another subject. And every tub sits on it’s own bottom – those women that fell for the okie doke ruined things FOR THEMSELVES!
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got THIS T-Shirt and Many More)
March 28th, 2011
3:10 pm
honestly Swiss, I agree that corporate ‘officers, CEOs etc.) salaries have gotten obscene. I don’t think that is fair to the shareholders or the public who are absorbing this. I also agree that bailing out corporations (and states, and frankly darn near anyone) is BS. But for corporate taxes, I would comment though that sometimes corporations get an unfair shot from the Michael Moore’s of this world because of the one question they never seem to ask…”who is Exxon” (for example) is ‘he’ some evil rich ba$tard that screws everyone”? Frankly ‘he’ is most of us who have a 401K, he is the shareholders who want to profit in some way from the risk taken with their investments, ‘he’ is a ‘union’ of investors that includes most people.
Just one caveat…when your politicians talk about taxing those obscene profits of these evil large corporations, who is really getting taxed? I’ll give you a hint, expenses get passed through, and tax is an expense just like any other expense. It is that poor working stiff that is getting nailed at the gas pump…not big bad Exxon. (and for the record, I am no fan of Exxon…just using them as an example). Don’t believe all you hear on MSNBC (or Fox)…they have an agenda.
kimmie
March 28th, 2011
3:10 pm
Neal, can you take that over to one of the political blogs please. This is a dating blog.
Blackfoote
March 28th, 2011
3:11 pm
Hello Ms. NY former For Real For Real.
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:15 pm
Kimmie – Men do what works as the situation calls. The approach to someone they respect is very different from the ones they don’t. A true man of character treats ALL with respect and doesn’t just do what he think he can get away with, but that’s another subject.
Applaud applaud applaud….
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 28th, 2011
3:15 pm
I’ll say this,
Anybody that uses the phrase “free market” without using the “invisible hand” hasn’t read Smith and that person is merely parroting a phrase they’ve heard from someone else
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:18 pm
SexyCool, are you ignoring my hello’s to you? Hello again! lol
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 28th, 2011
3:18 pm
Anybody that uses the phrase “free market”
Dan Free Market is an illusion.
SexyCool
March 28th, 2011
3:18 pm
Hey, BigHeadDude….my bad. (lol)
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:20 pm
kimmie, as a man I am saying men do what works to get their desired results and if it worked before they will stick to it. If his result was a one night slump and bump he will do what worked to get it the first time. I am saying some woman messed it up for others to mean that some woman fell for the slum and bump spill now said guys is trying it on other women until he finds one that it will work on again.
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:20 pm
My coworker just told me she’s lost 20 pounds and asked if I could tell……
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 28th, 2011
3:21 pm
Randy — I agree with you there… when I’m referring to tax rates, I’m specifically referring to the individual tax rate — and the inability to raise the top rate by 3% (GASP! Socialism!), also known as the same rate as we had pre-W. For corporate tax rates, I’m fine with offering incentives for those that actually create jobs here as opposed to India, etc.
Neal You’re right about one thing, corporations are all about profit. But capitalism doesn’t mean the complete lack of regulation. The corporate motivation is purely profit. That’s it. If it will increase the bottom line, they’ll do it (if allowed), no matter who or how many they have to f__k to do so. That’s why there has to be a good balance between free enterprise & reasonable regulation.
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:21 pm
SexyCool, aww shucks you always know just what to say
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:22 pm
Is there still operators, as in BellSouth/AT&T operators?
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 28th, 2011
3:22 pm
Oops… more bold than I intended there
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:22 pm
Celisea and you said?
SexyCool
March 28th, 2011
3:23 pm
Cel – if she had to ask…..
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:23 pm
PR – I hesitated…and then told the truth, of course I was soft with it and encouraging…lol
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:24 pm
Me thinks Celisea got into my private stash
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:24 pm
SexyC – Cel – if she had to ask…..
lolol..I know right. I just said something like well usually you can tell (close lose, feel better) before it becomes apparent to others.
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:25 pm
LOL maybe women can tell women the truth about weight…but men sure can’t
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:25 pm
PR – Me thinks Celisea got into my private stash
You’re a nut
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:26 pm
clothes not close…what was I thinking
Blackfoote
March 28th, 2011
3:26 pm
Obama been called lots of names. The man just wants to level the playing field.
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:27 pm
PR – maybe women can tell women the truth about weight…but men sure can’t
As much as you may believe and have been convinced, lying IS NOT in your DNA.
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:27 pm
Yeah and Leggs wants to crack me with her thighs.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 28th, 2011
3:28 pm
C’s coworker: Hey, C! Guuuuuuurl, you know I done lost 20 pounds from watching those P90X commercials. Can you tell?
C — Oh no, honey, you didn’t lose it — it’s right there on your azz….
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:29 pm
Celisea, neither is being stupid.
Hey what did you do this weekend? You seem way off today, some guy piss you off?
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:29 pm
Swiss, LOL
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:31 pm
Aspirin is perfectly legal, but if you take 13 of them motherf***ers, it’ll be your last headache.
Leggs
March 28th, 2011
3:32 pm
“…as a man I am saying men do what works to get their desired results and if it worked before they will stick to it. If his result was a one night slump and bump he will do what worked to get it the first time.”
And, my stance is if you’re grimy like that then approach likewise grimy women. And, if you didn’t know if I’m grimy or not why take the chance in me finding out you are only to definitely not give you the time of day. Step respectfully at all times. Low lifes should seek other low lifes. Another one bites the dust….
kimmie
March 28th, 2011
3:32 pm
Purple – You pretty much said what I said, but okay. That’s just life though. A few slimy dudes going around saying stupid stuff to find someone desperate enough to take up time with them – hadn’t ruined a thing for anyone. Just a fact of life.
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:32 pm
Some of yall ladies is looking for an 100% good man, and I had a meeting with all these men in attendance and established that there is no such a man. So stop looking for him. Some of yall had a 98% man and yall got rid of him for 2% now you siting next to a 71% man hoping he upgrade.
Leggs
March 28th, 2011
3:33 pm
Celisea ~ I got the impression you couldn’t tell.
Bet you wish you had a Kit Kat! 
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:34 pm
Leggs, is there a lowlife outfit he won’t know until he asks. LOL
kimmie, I just like talking to you because you are cute and smell good So I will flip remix and retype whatever you say with yo sexyself!
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:34 pm
Swiss – She came to my floor to visit for a sec and it was just thrown out there midconvo…lol I was taken aback at first and then gave her a look over and was like, (slowly hesitated with), noooo I can’t tell…YET…but you know how it it girl, sometimes it just takes a minute.
Actually, Swiss, I’m good…had a GREEEEEEAT (as in Tony the Tiga) weekend
SexyCool
March 28th, 2011
3:34 pm
Purp – I’m good with my 80% man. The other 20% is all smoke and mirrors anyway.
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:34 pm
Celisea, smells like she is high today
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:34 pm
Not Swiss (on the great comment) but PR…
Yeah I am off a bit today.
kimmie
March 28th, 2011
3:35 pm
Purple – And none of these ladies want anything to do with those men that actually listened to anything you had to say!
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:36 pm
“If your puddy was so good, you would drive a better car.”
Katt Williams
SexyCool you are on lock. I ain’t even much gon try and flirt with you. LOL
Celisea, pothead I asked you about your weekend not Swiss. LOL
kimmie
March 28th, 2011
3:36 pm
Purple – Thanks, flattery will get you nowhere!LOL!!
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:37 pm
kimmie, whatever you say is nothing but the truth baby!
Leggs
March 28th, 2011
3:37 pm
Well he never asked, PR. And you can definitely tell how someone carries themselves.
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:38 pm
Leggs – Celisea ~ I got the impression you couldn’t tell.
I couldn’t…lol She was cool though about my answer
PR – Not high dude…probably blog overkill.
Blackfoote
March 28th, 2011
3:38 pm
“Low lifes should seek other low lifes”
LOL…..@Leggs
You’re calling out mostly the whole world…….LOL
Leggs
March 28th, 2011
3:38 pm
And, for the record, I would like to think one can look at me and not even think “grimy.”
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:39 pm
Gas is so high. Hot Damn gas. Sh!!t!! You are not supposed to be at the gas station making life decisions. You just at the pump, “Did I eat today?” – Katt Williams
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got THIS T-Shirt and Many More)
March 28th, 2011
3:40 pm
Last comment, then back to dating, only to answer CBA.
Wages are usually lower or equal, but the people keep much less of what they make because most of what is paid as income goes back to social programs.
People have smaller, older ‘row houses’ that sometimes stay in families for generations, new housing is seldom noted and very expensive.
They have medical programs that pay for all services but that is somewhat different over there from the granite and ornate offices filled with millions of dollars of medical equipment we are used to. There are occasionally treatments that are withheld because someone in government deems it “experimental” and not “in the budget”. Most is “triage”, you wait in line (not in the offices although that too…I mean it is often a long wait until services are “approved”, and you are behind anyone who is perceieved to have a more urgent need, meaning you can wait from months to years for “non life-threatening” services or operations.
Doctors are somewhat limited because their earnings potential is contained so it is not as exciting a profession as here.
Dentists have mostly opted for ‘private practice’ because the national program pays so poorly, so one can wait a year and a half for basic dental services often (one of the reasons other than genetic for a lot of poor teeth there).
Is there an advantage to national healthcare…no question. One can argue that their ‘preventive medicine’ might be better because there are no financial barriers. The problem is that it isn’t the healthcare we know. It is, instead, long waits, probably less diagnostic services, more “pedestrian” care… A trade off, certainly, but would be a rude awakening for those of us who have good insurance.
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:42 pm
The little book reading, plainly dressed nerd will be the woman to rock your world. You can not read a book by it’s cover..The woman wearing hoochie momma clothes and has a nice booty pop on the dance floor only does missionary.