Dating on the other side of the tracks?
There was a time when you wouldn’t think of dating outside your socioeconomic class. According to a lot of people, this is still an issue in modern day dating. There are still mothers that ask their sons, “Who are her people? What do they do?, ” and if he doesn’t respond with an acceptable profession that signifies affluent wealthy family? Well, that is where things get a little tricky.
Whether you are from a modest, working class family or a wealthy, powerful one, when you make a decision to break from tradition, you have to be prepared for the backlash. A lot of couples realize they are not built for this and others become closer because of it. Do you think our upbringing and our socioeconomic status is an issue in your dating life?
Have you ever dated someone that seemed to come from a completely different world than you? Perhaps you are used to down home, unpretentious surroundings (like me!) and you met someone who spent their childhood in boarding schools and mansions. Do you think it could work?
When we talked about family disapproving of the person you were dating, I wondered how this situation would play out once things got to be serious. Once the family has come to accept your mate, how do you think the cultural and social differences would impact your relationship?
Do you think single people still have to contend with “dating from the wrong side of the track” or has society moved beyond that school of thought?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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361 comments Add your comment
Leggs
March 28th, 2011
2:35 pm
SHET UP, PR!
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:35 pm
Celisea, what in the world are you talking about?
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:35 pm
Leggs, Mike Tyson said it best. “Everyone has a plan until they get hit!”
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:36 pm
LOL
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
2:36 pm
Dontcha ya just love a place where several conversations can take place with missing a beat
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
2:38 pm
PR – Celisea, what in the world are you talking about?
I could ask you the same. What world are you from where a dude walks in with is wang out and hollering at whatever woman in the room will open up (pun intended). In my world, women have a very small level of tolerance for bullcrappery. I say this in love blogmate.
Blackfoote
March 28th, 2011
2:38 pm
Leggs that is funny but it is gauranteed he has done it before on some other woman who fell for it.
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 28th, 2011
2:39 pm
@Randy T/PR
If economic success is tied to production, then the corrollary would be that their needs to be demand.
If there is no demand, there is no need for production.
And, if the majority of the people that create the demand have no jobs, there is no need for production.
And you all say……?
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 28th, 2011
2:41 pm
Randy — I’m not even talking about government programs… just revising the tax code would be a nice start. There’s all this wailing & gnashing of teeth over our deficit (rightly so), but we’re arguing over slashing $$ for education, housing grants, etc. — all of which make up a miniscule fraction of our budget — but nobody will touch defense spending or social security and most annoyingly we still insist on giving away billions by refusing to take the highest tax rate back to the 1990’s level (a mere 3% increase on people who won’t feel it). And I seem to recall that higher rate didn’t cause the world to end in the 90s…
My take… but I still love ya, too, bro…
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:42 pm
Celisea, did you read where I said don’t take the wang out literally?
Dan I say choose the right industry or choose where there is a necessity for said demand…or just be able to reinvent yourself. If people want it they will find a way to buy it. Plenty of broke people who are leaving above their means and spending utility bill, diaper and food monies on stuff that they do not need. That is not the providers fault but the consumers.
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
2:42 pm
Celisea, what in the world are you talking about?
PR – I just went back to reread…I’m waaay off
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 28th, 2011
2:43 pm
There are plenty of dudes that moved on from relationships without formal “closure”
Celisea I agree. I moved on from all my relationships without “closure.” Closure and respect are mutually exclusive though. One has nothing to do with the other. People get closure however they get it. Some will get it disrespectfully, some will be noble, and others won’t care either way.
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:43 pm
Randyt, Swiss that is enough man on man love
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:44 pm
Celisea, you are just upset that you called off 2038 and you know that you really should not have. LOL
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
2:45 pm
I ain’t retracting my statement about the pulling the wang out
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:47 pm
Celisea, okay then i will retract my wang! :0
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:48 pm
And we are still friends. See Celisea that is closure just like Dreams said. LOL
Neal
March 28th, 2011
2:48 pm
Why all of the class warfare? People get to a position of wealth through long hours and busting their rear end. People that get rich through a fund or trust happens LESS than 1% of the time. Many of the wealthy have put in YEARS of school and accumulated thousands of debt from loans to pay for that schooling. Then some group comes whining as to why they aren’t given the same perks and why they don’t make the same money. You have no right to anyone ele’s money…period. Wealthy people get and stay that way because they keep doing what got them there. The poor, well same thing. You can change your economic position with hard work and changing your habits. Don’t whine about how it isn’t fair, because in the real world, it is. There is room for ANYONE at the top, but there isn’t room for EVERYONE. The wealthy produce jobs, purchase extravagancies that create jobs and if you just tax them out, those jobs leave. I am so sick of people complaining about this. It’s the real world. Lead, follow or get out of the way.
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:49 pm
Am I the only person who thinks being wealthy and rich are two different things? I just jumped into the conversation today without reading all of the comments.
Blackfoote
March 28th, 2011
2:50 pm
Randyt I saw it last night 60 minutes all the American Co abroad want to come home but the 35% tax brackett they’er in is preventing them to do so Cisco Sytems CEO says they have 40 billion just sitting there in Zug Switzerland not mention Google, GE, Westinghouse.
Leggs
March 28th, 2011
2:50 pm
I gotcha, PR/Blackfoote.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 28th, 2011
2:50 pm
And, listen, I’m no fan of government, either. But it seems odd to me that many who are most distrustful of government regulation have seemingly complete confidence in “the free market” (i.e. corporations) Corporations — whose openly stated reason for existence is to f__k you as hard as they can while squeezing ever possible penny out of you to put towards their bottom line. Corporations are all for the “free market” until they f__k up & then it’s all about how bad it would be for the economy if they were allowed to go under…
NY state of mind
March 28th, 2011
2:51 pm
Good Afternoon Fam: PR, Black, For Real, Leggs, Sexy, Swizzy (swiss), Chink, Amazon and MC!
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
2:52 pm
Dreams – I was speaking more so to the “casualness” you displayed if ever someone pulled their wang to get the message across. The rest of what you posted at 2:43 I already know.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 28th, 2011
2:52 pm
Purple — Don’t worry, we didn’t forget about you — there’s enough love to go around…
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
2:52 pm
Sometimes ya’ll some nasty disrespectful bastids.
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:53 pm
Hello NY State of Mind!
SexyCool
March 28th, 2011
2:53 pm
Aw hell…isn’t it obvious? We are all plugged in to The Matrix.
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:54 pm
Celisea, you honestly think that a man has actually walked into a room full of women and pulled his wang out…outside of a photoshoot?
Swiss, I am not down with the swirl. LOL
SexyCool
March 28th, 2011
2:55 pm
Hey NY.
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:55 pm
Who makes you spend you hard earned cash on stuff besides taxes?
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
2:56 pm
Hey SexyCool I am just piggy backing on NY’s hello’s
cba
March 28th, 2011
2:57 pm
Randyt/Swiss, last night, 60 minutes did a story on the number of American Corp moving their headqtrs overseas to avoid the 35% corp tax. Some of the companies only have a PO Box. The CEO from Cisco was the only one to grant an interview. I think it was reported that GE only paid 3% corp tax.
Randyt, since you have been overseas alot. How do salaries compare to the US? I think avoiding the high tax is only part of their decision. Ironically, some of these countries would be considered socialist by the same people who are moving their assets there.
When someone like Kim from the RHOA is making six figures, production as I know it is a thing of the past.
Leggs
March 28th, 2011
2:57 pm
Are you saying we’ve been sucked into a vortex?
Leggs
March 28th, 2011
2:57 pm
Hello NYSoM!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 28th, 2011
2:59 pm
“The wealthy produce jobs, purchase extravagancies that create jobs and if you just tax them out, those jobs leave.”
Actually, they don’t. Or at least not as many as you could produce by spreading that same tax break across many more lower-income people. How many man hours does it take to produce a single $1,000,000 luxury car? How many man hours does it take to produce 66 $15k cars? It’s not about class warfare or what’s philosophically fair — it’s about what actually benefits the overall economy. And, incidentally, the higher demand created by putting more $$ in the hands of a greater number of consumers helps the people at the top of the food chain even more than the higher tax rate would hurt them.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 28th, 2011
2:59 pm
economic success is directly related to production…not government programs.
Randy I think people often present a false dichotomy as if you HAVE to choose between the market or the government. The truth is that you have to find the right balance between the two. Some things need to be regulated, and some probably need to be subsized. The market would still have factories employing and abusing 10 year olds without government regulation. Also, consumers don’t want to ever have to pay the REAL cost of the things they consume. The government subsidizes many industries so as to make it affordable. If people had to pay the true cost of groceries or transportation, they’d probably riot. Shoot they’re almost ready to riot over gas prices. Have people ever actually thought about how gas prices could stay at about $1 for like 30 years, while the cost of everything else went up?
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:00 pm
Swiss, you should be a hippie and a mormon. LOL
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:01 pm
I’m just going to grow some weed smoke a little bit..sell a little bit, stay off the radar of the law and live off of the land..LOL
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:04 pm
Willie Nelson is my hero!
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:04 pm
Dontcha just love this day and age? I couldn’t remember a number I needed to I logged in and looked at last month’s bill.
Blackfoote
March 28th, 2011
3:05 pm
Randyt, Swiss that is enough man on man love
Hey I caught that Purple Swiss and Randyt too much man love pass Swiss a t-shirt Randyt got one.
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:05 pm
Blackfoote, it’s done!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 28th, 2011
3:06 pm
“you should be a hippie and a mormon. “
Purple — Who’s to say I’m not…?
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 28th, 2011
3:07 pm
I was speaking more so to the “casualness” you displayed if ever someone pulled their wang to get the message across.
Celisea Oh, that’s because I didn’t take Purp’s example of pulling out his wang literally. I thought he was using an extreme example to drive home the point that there is value in being direct.
Neal
March 28th, 2011
3:07 pm
I’m Swiss, companies are out to make a profit and not a charity. That’s how they expand, pay employees and keep the business going. If you think they are too expensive, don’t purchase their products. You have no say in how much profit they make. That’s up to the share holders and CEO’s. Only Liberals like to say that a person or company is making TOO MUCH money. What? Are you kidding me? That’s why we have this bozo running the White House that thinks he can spend as much as he wants on anything, regardless of whether or not we have the money. That’s why the House was taken over and the Senate will follow. It’s called Free Enterprise and it’s what rewards the acheivers.
Celisea
March 28th, 2011
3:07 pm
I couldn’t remember a number SOOOO (NOT to) I logged in…correction
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:07 pm
Dreams 3:07, exactly!
Purple Rain
March 28th, 2011
3:08 pm
Celisea, do you need a hug today?
SexyCool
March 28th, 2011
3:08 pm
I’m just saying that most things are not as they seem. Many times there are layers of reality to most any situation. And most of us can’t see that because we are kept busy focusing on the act of simply surviving.