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Dating: Do you breakup when it gets boring?

I tend to get on my guy friends who bounce around from women to women, then whine about not having a special woman in their lives.  I can understand not staying with someone they have no future with, especially when it’s obvious they are not compatible.  I am bothered when they say that things got dull or boring.  Did they ever stop to think that women get bored too?

When you decide to become exclusive and only date each other, that oh so thrilling roller coaster ride that is dating stops. Oddly enough, some of us miss that dizzying ride and yearn to have that same kind of uncertainty in relationships.  By definition, that is the opposite of what we say we want!

Do you think that it’s a good idea to dump someone when things get dull? Do you expect your dating relationship to always entertain you?

What  kind of excitement would keep a man interested in a woman? How should a man broach this subject with someone he is dating, or should he?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

400 comments Add your comment

Yes She Is Cute

March 24th, 2011
9:02 am

Yes She Is Cute

March 24th, 2011
9:04 am

Nope I try to ride out that boring wave and make it work. But if I can’t revive the relationship then yeah its a goner. I think every relationship hits a plateau and that’s normal. But if you are dumping someone every time it gets “boring” you are a serial dater. It has nothing to do with “dull” or “boring”. Anyone who has had long term relationships would know what to expect……

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
9:06 am

cba did a great assessment of this topic the other day…………..going back to find it and post…..lol

Good Beautiful Morning!

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
9:13 am

Via cba- ” If the relationship is a springtime fling or microwave relationship”….. which is what “most” of the new dating is considered you have both parties jumping in and out of flings when the fire dies………instant gratification type of world…….lust is ruling the scenes which creates such….also as many get older they get set in their ways and also less likely to be exclusive after dealing with it prior………This is not an assessment for all bc trust there are great dating relationships that move forward with the same goal…….majority is just ruling currently……my $.03 lol

MC Hammock

March 24th, 2011
9:20 am

I think you may be off in your deductions. Women want the security of the relationship. Men want the excitement that comes from them wanting to please the oman, and succeeding as well as the woman wanting to please the man. I’m not saying that women don’t want the excitement or don’t become bored. It’s just the way the two genders are wired. Women want the connection along with the security that they have someone that wants them and needs them. Men want the connection, but also that excitement, the passion and the sponteneity. Just my two cents..

If I weren’t married to that person, would I leave if it became boring, routine and little excitement? In a heart beat. But when you’re married, you can’t, so it sorta comes with the territory. I saw a study done in Germany that a woman’s testoterone level and thus libido, take a drastic hit after the fourth year in a secure relationship. Men, on the other hand, may decide that there’s no need for the special things that they did while they dated because, after all, they are married. BOTH genders contribute massively to this situation and to deny this is putting your head in the sand. Basically the study stated that what women crave in a relationship (security)is what also makes the man want to move on(routineness). Their words, not mine.

Sweet Pea

March 24th, 2011
9:23 am

Good Morning!

No, I don’t break up when I’m bored as there will always be highs and lows in any relationship whether you’re exclusive or married. It takes both parties to participate in keeping the fire burning…maybe that is why some say opposites attract, however I will venture to say if a person is always laxidasical and NEVER takes the initiative to make things interesting then perhaps they need a reality check instead of blaming another for their humdrum personality.

If a relationship seems to be stagnant, and you’re with someone you love then communicating to them your concerns would be the right thing to do instead getting ghost!

Spontaneity is the key!!

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
9:26 am

Spontaneity is the key!! Sweet Pea soooooo true!!!!!!

Sweet Pea

March 24th, 2011
9:30 am

meant to say communicating to them about your concerns

COME ON NOW

March 24th, 2011
9:32 am

Well I got extremely BORED in my last relationship. My ex decided he didn’t want to do any of the things he did when we first started dating. Then when I brought it up to him he said that it is what it is…that things change once you become exclusive. I tried for a couple more months and then I gave him the two fingers. If I’m going to keep doing the same things I did when we first started dating I need you to do the same. I want to have fun, go out, be social…not everyday but at least once in awhile. Sitting on the couch all the time is not my idea of fun. I’m not into waiting around wishing and hoping someone is going to change. I realized that who he portrayed himself to be in the beginning is not who he really was at heart. So when I made that discovery I bounced.

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
9:33 am

Silence is golden and doing thing with a compatilbe mate speaks volumes………………the like factor comes into to play…………a thought…..

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
9:34 am

meant and doing nothing with a compatiable mate speakes volumes……..

LJones

March 24th, 2011
9:35 am

I realized that who he portrayed himself to be in the beginning is not who he really was at heart. So when I made that discovery I bounced.

C.O.N. you dated his representative

Sweet Pea

March 24th, 2011
9:37 am

Lady~Gotta keep it poppin’ :)

It’s certainly a two-way street..It’s take two to make a thing go right! It’s take two to make it out of sight!!!

COME ON NOW

March 24th, 2011
9:40 am

C.O.N. you dated his representative

LJones–I surely did

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
9:40 am

yes honey!!!!!! turly out the box activities and thrills……being creative in your space…………the small things are priceless trust! It can happen in a down time to enjoy just as much if we just hit the lottery! Its on the mates to re-create what brought them together…..That is staying power to me! ;)

MC Hammock

March 24th, 2011
9:40 am

COME ON, you hit the nail on the head. You can only do so much to intigate sponteneity, but if they simply refuse or use the “well, we’re married”, schtick, is it any wonder that one of you wants to be released? I agree that people change when they get married, but to go to the complete other side of the spectrum? Nope, it’s fourth and twenty five. Time to punt….

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
9:41 am

alrighty catch y’all later!

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
9:45 am

Good morning!

Do you think that it’s a good idea to dump someone when things get dull? NOPE! You have to continuously work at keeping the relationship vibrant and exciting. Tune up your relationship like you tune up your car!

Do you expect your dating relationship to always entertain you? Hell no! It’s a two-way street.

chink

March 24th, 2011
9:46 am

This reminds me of teenagers…always bored because they can’t do what they want to do.

As a grown up how can you be bored if you have resources and time…there is nothing wrong with doing nothing and if you have a need for excitement go ahead! But your partner should not be a form of entertainment …

MC Hammock

March 24th, 2011
9:48 am

Leggs, I think that’s a great point. It shouldn’t always fall on one person to do the entertaining while the other is the only one that gets entertained.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
9:48 am

Awww Sweat Pea, I see you said it’s a two-way street too.

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪I found love on a two-way street, and lost it on a lonely highway….♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
9:50 am

Morning Gang!

I chalk it up to maturity. It’s not my job to keep you entertained or yours to entertain me. There will be highs & lulls. If you’re constantly chasing the highs, you’re probably used to drama.

It is on each of us to stay interesting. The only way that can continue is if you actually have something about you that is interesting to the other person. That’s where having some things in common and being compatible come in to play. And you have to actually like each other.

When your relationship hits one of those lulls and the silence is deafening for an extended period of time, to me that is usually a sign that you’ve crashed and burned. It was fun and sexy while it lasted. But you see the only thing you two had going for you was the sex. While that’s important, it won’t sustain a relationship over the long haul. Now everything is out in the open and you see what you really have – nothing.

I realized I really had something with my fiance’ was when we could have nothing going on, just hanging out, reading, watching something mindless on tv or tinkering with something – and we both were okay with that. It was just nice being together. The silence/minimal conversation was not uncomfortable.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
9:51 am

♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪
True love will never die, so I’ve been told, but now I must cry
It’s finally goodbye, I know

With music softly playing, his lips were gently saying : “I love you”

He held me in desperation, I thought it was a revelation
And then he walked out

How could I be so blind, to give up love for the very first time
To be fooled is a hurting pain, to be loved and fooled
Is a crying shame, while I bear the blame as he laughs my name

With music softly playing, his lips were gently saying: “Honey, I love you.”

He held me in desperation, I thought it was a revelation,
And then he walked out

I found love on a two-way street and lost it on a lonely highway
Love on a two-way street and lost it on a lonely highway

I found love on a two-way street and lost it on a lonely highway!♪♫•*¨*•.¸¸♥¸¸.•*¨*•♫♪

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
9:52 am

Love that song! I know we aren’t suppose to post the entire song, but it was so short I thought it would be OK.

chink

March 24th, 2011
9:53 am

Kimmie …you are so right.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
9:54 am

Co-sign, kimmie.

Randyt (aka I'm bored at work...so a relationship would be an improvement over this...)

March 24th, 2011
9:55 am

I have a hard time identifying with this topic. If someone is going to be boring, they are almost always going to show that in four or five dates. If I am not interested after this period, I would leave.

What I personally like/seek is someone that I find interesting and stimulating…not someone to entertain me. i want that someone to be someone I am comfortable around and is comfortable with me. By definition, I want someone with whom I can build a solid trust relationship with, and can take off my “man armor” with, without feeling too vulnerable…and I want her to feel the same way with me. Comfort, trust, and passion…not entertainment.

MC Hammock

March 24th, 2011
9:55 am

What happens when the thinks that are “entertaining” or “exciting” to the two parties have suddenly become very and distinctly different. What is when you suggest something she says “Not really” and when she suggest something, you think “I’d rather watch paint dry”? She thinks that you are boring because you don’t share her enthusiasm and you thing she’s become boring because she has some reason for saying “Nope” to yours. You were doing the same things when you dated, but now after marriage, they are very different. What then?

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
9:55 am

The silence/minimal conversation was not uncomfortable. Vital to the survival of any relationship.

Good for you, kimmie!

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
9:56 am

Incidentally, I just told TheDude yesterday that when I see him my heart still goes pitter-patter. LOL – Yep….I’m corny like that.

MC Hammock

March 24th, 2011
9:57 am

I know that you have to do some things you don’t want to, but what if that, too, is a one way street? You decide to company her on her excurssions, but she doesn’t on yours. What then?

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
10:01 am

Morning -

Good topic. I hate hate hate people who leave for reasons such as being bored. Look, your life is not going to be exciting 24 hours of the day. Find ways to keep things exciting on your own.

I have a friend who got divorced because of being bored. She figured there was something better for her out there. Fast forward 10 years and now she has a baby by a deadbeat and starting to realize her married life wasn’t so bad. Now her days are filled with petitions of support, court dates, and trying to make ends meet while raising a kid on her own. Now she says she regrets getting divorced everyday of her life.

Sweet Pea

March 24th, 2011
10:02 am

CON~ I feel ya :) I too briefly dated a guy that brought the rep w/ his A game on and the real slim shady showed up. After making a few attempts to hang in there, I realized this was the real him so I exited gracefully! After being married for 16 years to someone that didn’t wake up until after I left, I knew I didn’t want to hit the repeat button.

However, I am a true believer of however you start out you need to continue it to keep it going. Consistency is a must!

See ya later…gotta get back to work :)

Randyt (aka I'm bored at work...so a relationship would be an improvement over this...)

March 24th, 2011
10:02 am

@ MCH re: “What then”…good question. It takes more inspiration, innovation, and just swallowing one’s pride and taking one for the team…and most, me included, struggle with working that hard. Not easy.

COME ON NOW

March 24th, 2011
10:03 am

Well in my case, I wasn’t bored just because we didn’t go out. There were plenty other things that contributed to the demise of the relationship. But when you voice your concerns to someone who says they care about you and they pretty much tell you they don’t care and don’t do anything to make things better, there is nothing you can do. Yeah, it’s nice to say just to keep working on it but it is definitely a 2-way street.

M. (pronouced M dot)

March 24th, 2011
10:04 am

Good day..

” Do you expect your dating relationship to always entertain you?”

I don’t think your dating relationship should be your sole source of entertainment. What were you doing for entertainment before you met them? The problem is most people drop everything when they meet someone they like and they end up suffocating their relationship. We must remember balance and space. That’s how you keep things from getting boring. We don’t have to see each other everyday. We have separate lives and some areas are together. Now if you genuinely aren’t happy, then feel free to leave.

The kind of excitement a guy wants is just a good interaction with not a lot of drama. Everytime I talk to you, I dont want to hear about how much you hate your job or other miscellanous details. I just want a cool vibe and interaction between us. I will support you but I am not your therapist.

chink

March 24th, 2011
10:06 am

As a single parent …instead of doing all that nonsense maybe your friend should do something to raise her salary and start enjoying her child.

Having a deadbeat is no excuse she got to do something for herself ..her life should not be boring anymore that’s for sure!

Randyt (aka I'm bored at work...so a relationship would be an improvement over this...)

March 24th, 2011
10:11 am

I do think, having known many, many divorcees, that this is not just a male thing for sure. There seems to often be an ‘unspecified unhappiness’ in ladies taht have been married for ahile. They are unhappy, can’t define where it is coming from but they know something isn’t right, so it must be their partner. I can’t begin to tell you how many ladies I have heard that from…and that is when they chose to leave…only to find that the feeling stayed long after the partner left.

Thus the term “desperate housewives”. By the way, that term has been around long before the show was. It is that unfocussed, unspecified, undefined “I’m not HAPPY. I don’t FEEL the way I should feel. I shouuld feel CONTENTMENT. Seen a bunch of marriages end because of this…not because husband was a jerk, but because of a feeling of discontent.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
10:11 am

@ARed ~ it’s amazing how many think the grass is greener on the other side only to find out it’s never been mowed.

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
10:15 am

SCool – I am corny like that too! Sometimes I look at him and say to myself “Dang, he’s fine!” My heart pitter-patters too! :)

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
10:19 am

M dot – Cool post. Balance is definitely key.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
10:20 am

instead of doing all that nonsense maybe your friend should do something to raise her salary and start enjoying her child.

chink – She does enjoy her child. She’s always wanted to be a mom (more than a wife apparently :lol: ). She does what she can to enrich her child’s life.

But the daycare bill and being a sole provider is a real and serious thing.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
10:25 am

And even if she were making a great salary, would her easy ability to be the sole provider excuse him from his fiscal responsibility as a parent?

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
10:27 am

@SCool – Right. :lol:

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
10:28 am

You have to hang in there and spice things up if it starts to get boring. And let’s face it only boring people get bored.

chink

March 24th, 2011
10:28 am

Sexy

No but even though he is responsible doesnt mean he is going to pay….in the post it states he is a deadbeat. Either he doesnt/cant pay.

I am not for putting deadbeats in prison.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
10:29 am

Daycare expenses almost did me in. I feel her.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
10:30 am

The part that strikes me too is that if she had found someone better, than she wouldn’t have regretted getting a divorce. That says to me that it wasn’t a wise decision because it was contengent on getting something out of that decision.

If you’re gonna make a decision like leaving someone, do it because it’s the best thing for you EITHER WAY. Whether you’re happily married 10 years later, or still single.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
10:31 am

I’m not either. It really doesn’t solve the problem.

That being said – how would you propose that deadbeats be *encouraged* to step up to their responsibilities?

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
10:31 am

Daycare expenses almost did me in. I feel her.

When she told me wha the bill was…for that ALONE…I just couldn’t. And you have to come up with it every month, without fail. It’s not even a great daycare, it’s good, but not great.

chink

March 24th, 2011
10:33 am

SCool

I don’t know …that’s why I advised on what she could do to ease her financial burden!

If I had the answer I bet alot of Single Parents would be Happy!!

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
10:38 am

Yet another reason we moved back home. My child will not be going to a daycare($$$ and I don’t know the caregivers), the baby will stay on the farm with family members

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
10:39 am

Yeah…no…we’re looking at this from two different angles. But I get what you’re saying.

And since I’m really not trying to have a child support discussion today, I will leave it at that.

In other news, I’m beginning to think I should be able to close on my house….say…..sometime before Christmas. Sheesh….

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
10:40 am

Purple Olive – When is the little olive due?

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
10:41 am

There was a very good daycare by my job Cobb County. All my coworkers sent their kids there. There was a waiting list and everything. Cost: $1200 per month for one child.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
10:42 am

May 12th!!!!!!

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
10:44 am

@ARed ~ a co-worker was telling me her daycare woes. That same afternoon V103 was having a contest to pay people’s daycare expenses that month. I entered with a little essay re: my co-worker. Her name was called the next day. She tried to hug me each time she saw me in the hallway. Ater the 3rd one, I had to ask her to stop. We both laughed. Yeah, I don’t only enter contests for myself.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
10:44 am

I want to have fun, go out, be social…not everyday but at least once in awhile. Sitting on the couch all the time is not my idea of fun.

So why didn’t you do that anyway? Why did your man have to do all that with you?

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
10:45 am

$1200 per month – highway robbery!!! They better feed, cloth, potty train and wake up in the middle of night with that child!

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
10:45 am

Yet another reason people should be more responsible…having kids without thinking of all the costs.

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
10:45 am

Dang Leggs, you are a lucky lady!

Sweet Pea

March 24th, 2011
10:46 am

Awww Sweat Pea, I see you said it’s a two-way street too.

Pulling the curtains open to take a peek…Leggs, it’s a two-way street most definitely and finding a happy medium to maintain a relationship is what creates staying power. Love that song too! :)

You decide to company her on her excurssions, but she doesn’t on yours. What then?

MCH~ Have you expressed your feelings about this to her? I’ve found that my parents do things separately at times and it works for them…My dad loves to go to movies while my mom loves concerts. If the other half still refuses to participate after much effort on your behalf then I’d say go solo! Personally, I became single by default after much counseling and endless attempts to communicate. Of course, I am an advocate of marriage I wish you well.

Shutting the curtains w/ my two fanga in the air!

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
10:46 am

Is an orgasm worth all of that are her breast really that nice butt really that fine, personality really that great? Think before you Stick!

Sweet Pea

March 24th, 2011
10:47 am

oops…fangas

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
10:47 am

Yeah, if I had a $1200 a month childcare bill, it would be more financially beneficial to quit my job, take care of my kid myself an live off the county. :?

chink

March 24th, 2011
10:48 am

$300 a week seems a little excessive for a baby…

But some parents can get assistance from the state for child care.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
10:48 am

Yet another reason people should be more responsible…having kids without thinking of all the costs.

Absolutely. I pay more than I want to for my bc pills every month…but it shooooole is cheaper than the alternative if I don’t pay. :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
10:48 am

chink – Mind you that is a very good child care. Most aren’t that expensive, but not as good either.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
10:49 am

Celisea

March 24th, 2011
10:51 am

I am not for putting deadbeats in prison.

I’m not either but allowing them to remain deadbeats with no accountability won’t exactly help. I’m so happy that I’m beyond the daycare years. You definitely need to think about expenses involved when having kids. Because once you move from diapers and milk and baby food and daycare, it’s on to things like making sure they’re well kept once they attend school (i.e. afterschool programs, ms jane that keeps kids, the kid’s grandmother, etc). From there it’s on the paying as much for their clothes and upkeep as yours. From there it’s on to attitudes and keeping ‘em in check because they know absolutely NOTHING about live and living, although they believe they do. And against society and how it dictates you should rear your child and making them aware that it’s your dang house and it’s your rules….or else….raising kids ain’t no joke. I will say though, the baby/toddler/younger years are the more expensive years. If you can weather that part, you’ll do just fine…..and that’s my .02 cents for tday :)

Celisea

March 24th, 2011
10:52 am

I’m actually enjoying these years with my kid…16 in 2 weeks :)

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
10:53 am

@kimmie ~ so I’ve been told. I’ve won lots of things. My first win started with V103 with this clue: I sit in a nook, what am I? Back then everyone had microwaves in a nook in the kitchen (LOL). I won and mailed it to Mama.

Still waiting to win a car (lol). Now I’m playing “cold cut artist” of the day to try to win Prince tickets.

chink

March 24th, 2011
10:55 am

Celisea

I know very well …I have a 10 year old.

I didnt say don’t file for c.support etc…just don’t make it the only way to get more money.

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
10:55 am

My beau and I do things seperately all the time. We both bring different interests and friends to the table. We also do quite a bit together. And quite a lot with the kids. There is a whole lot between the two of us to keep things interesting. We actually would welcome a lull every now and then. Like M dot said, balance. Too much of anything is not always good.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
10:56 am

I read this quote on one of the (single) mom blogs I read:

“I love my kid to death, but I don’t like being a mom.”

As someone who is still on the fence about having kids, this scared the wits out of me.

COME ON NOW

March 24th, 2011
10:57 am

“So why didn’t you do that anyway? Why did your man have to do all that with you?”

ARed-I wasn’t looking at him as my sole source of fun or entertainment. As I also stated, that wasn’t the only reason why our relationship fell apart. I have girlfriends and we like to go out, and I have a life outside of my relationships. I am perfectly content chilling at the house with my SO. But let’s be real, everyone wants to do things with their SO. Yes you may not NEED to go out but experiencing different things with your SO is something that everyone wants. But when someone puts forth NO effort in a relationship, when they completely become something other than whay they portrayed themself to be, who is going to stay around for that? I know that relationships have ebbs and flows, but like I said, it takes 2.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
11:01 am

So…she should work a part time job? Resulting in:

a. Being away from her child and having less time to actively parent
b. Increasing her child care costs

Or..perhaps she should go back to school and “degree up”? Which, in the long term, will result in some benefit. However, in the short term, it results in….See a. and b. above.

I know that there are no easy answers/resolutions in this matter.

chink

March 24th, 2011
11:02 am

ARed

Thats absolutely terrible!! I feel blessed to have a child …nothing like being a Parent but its not for everyone its work but oh so sentimental. Most resentment comes from doing it alone not the kids…I think that applies to both single and married folks…the constant theme is the lack of support…

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
11:03 am

That is why I don’t understand those with meager salaries having 2-4 children. Raising one child is no joke. It’s a little easier after they get out of daycare, but man there are so many other expenses in raising one crumbsnatcher. If you can barely feed yourself, what makes you think you take on the responsibilities of raising a child.

You’re right, PR, think before you let yourself be sticked!!!

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
11:05 am

@ARed ~ don’t let that scare you. Sure, many moms may think that after the child arrives. Pay attention to only the positive.

I love being a Mom! The job is exhausting, and not always rewarded, but the benefits are beyond anything you can ever imagine!

chink

March 24th, 2011
11:05 am

SCool

There are no easy answers ..theres just sacrifice and you have to choose.

PrincessNik

March 24th, 2011
11:09 am

“But the daycare bill and being a sole provider is a real and serious thing”

I know i’m all late, but CO-SIGN!

Like Fantasia’s song said:
I see you get that support check in the mail lookin like WTH, this aint even half of daycare….

However, I do what i Have to do to get it taken care of, but I can’t wait til I no longer have to worry about that.

chink

March 24th, 2011
11:10 am

Leggs

Lets not forget there are plenty of successful woman who want children …don’t have a man ..and have procedures / adopt and are happy!

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
11:11 am

Yeah…we had that whole sacrifice versus responsibility conversation last week as well.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
11:13 am

Thats absolutely terrible!!

I don’t think it’s terrible, I think it’s honest. Everyone says parenting is the hardest job out there. Well, if we complain about our easier jobs, it shouldn’t be so taboo to say, it’s not so much fun all the time.

I understand the reward is greater.

There is an infamous “Dear Abby” column where many readers wrote back in response saying that if they had to do it all over again, they wouldn’t have had kids. It’s just taboo to actually admit such a thing.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
11:17 am

Well….I am going to bow out of this conversation now. Toodle Lou ladies. LOL

chink

March 24th, 2011
11:17 am

Nobody said it was fun all the time…too me you are just looking at the surface…it is so much more.

How would you feel if your mother said she wish she never had children…its a terrible thing to say.

Thats not honestly to me thats selfishness if that was the case give your child up for adoption someone will appreciate them if not you.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
11:17 am

Just realized I was the only guy in here during this women talk so I have to go. LOL

chink

March 24th, 2011
11:18 am

PR

I think the topic of c.support ran them off….

PrincessNik

March 24th, 2011
11:19 am

Leggs, I have to agree with your 11:03, when i pull up to pick up lil mama, and i see parents with multiple kids in daycare like under age 4 driving big fancy SUV’s i’m always like :shock: especially in this economy.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
11:20 am

How would you feel if your mother said she wish she never had children…

Uh…she didn’t say it to her kid.

But i’m grown and realize it’s not so easy and sometimes you raise your kids and they aren’t really about ish. That’s a lot of sacrifice for that result. :lol:

But if my mom were bold enough to say it to me, I’d live. I’d realize it’s not really about ME anyway.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
11:21 am

I tell you…just having a four month old puppy is enough to make me *and* TheDude give some real thought to the kid thing.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
11:21 am

I’m really happy to be home and I rally hope we have a boy so that I can get him dirty and he can just ride with me as I work the fields. Life is great! My wife works outside of the home I work “at home” If it’s a girl I would still get that quality time but she would me more around my mama and aunts as I worked outside. But if it’s a boy he will attached to me at all possible times..learning and living the country way! I am so excited, I try and play it down around my wife but I can not wait. It’s like I have a brand new best bud on the way who likes everything I like.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
11:22 am

Thats not honestly to me thats selfishness if that was the case give your child up for adoption someone will appreciate them if not you.

chink – Are you actually reading what was said? Or are you just on your emotional soapbox?

What she said is she LOVES HER CHILD to death. But she doesn’t like being a mom.

Adoption? Like the foster system isn’t filled with kids who can’t get adopted? How bout you made em, you raise em. Take responsibility for the choice you make. She is.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
11:23 am

@SexyC ~ it was only a matter of time before you would say something along those lines (lol).

@PR ~ you’re free to change the topic, remember this is Throwdown Thursday not Freakum Friday!!!!

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
11:23 am

SexyCool, that’s why I got two pups at once. They keep each other busy! Won’t do that with kids though. LOL Daycare for the dogs is letting them run the fields all day until chow time or just looking them in a cage. PRICELESS!

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
11:24 am

Morning All,

Good topic, The concept of boredom in a relationship can either be very complex or very simple. Some people have no problem with it and some have HUGE problems with it. The crux of the matter IMO comes in the choosing/Dating stage. Of course you have some people that will pull the old bait and switch on you but thats part of the deal. Before you enter into that LTR or marriage for that matter take a look at the things that genuinely make you happy. If those things are superficial and and/or dependant upon short term circumstances then chances are you’ll have problems down the road. Your mate is not obligated to provide entertainment for you, BUT your Mate should be entertaining to you. Be realistic in your expectations as well as flexible. Take it upon yourself to be entertaining. Be open to communication (talk with not AT when sharing your thoughts). Some of us are not selfless enough to understand the concept of give to get.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
11:24 am

Leggs, first off I have toned down my freaky convo tons. Secondly who made you the rule maker. Third and not the least…I don’t follow rules…especially from Ms New Booooty

PrincessNik

March 24th, 2011
11:24 am

I am so excited, I try and play it down around my wife but I can not wait. It’s like I have a brand new best bud on the way who likes everything I like.

awwww, thats so cute. C-Lo you seem to have done a big change from your first days around blogsville :)

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
11:25 am

poppin’ back in…..briefly…

PrincessNik

March 24th, 2011
11:25 am

How bout you made em, you raise em

:idea:

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
11:25 am

If it’s a girl I think that will be th eonly woman who is more beautiful than my wife in my eyes. I don’t want a girl because I know I will be overly protective and she will probably rebel once she got older and tired of it.

For Real

March 24th, 2011
11:26 am

“What she said is she LOVES HER CHILD to death. But she doesn’t like being a mom.” – An irrational mind at work.

Celisea

March 24th, 2011
11:27 am

If you can barely feed yourself, what makes you think you take on the responsibilities of raising a child.

Many many days I had to toss it up and go with the child’s need first…food, gas, groceries…what to do what to do…that’s why I don’t understand men that complain overall about the process and the court system because no matter what any man’s soapbox (unless you’re doing it as a full time dad), paying a few nickels still won’t compare. Real women don’t go playing “bonquesha” getting all dudded and studded up with child support money. Real woman try to incorporate whatever support awared into what they’re working with because typically that money is a drop in the bucket so REALLY men that are not doing it full time are usually passing opinions and judgements on what they have absolutely no clue about when it comes to rearing and expenses. But I won’t go there because that’s not today’s topic nor am I in that place anymore nor am I on the soapbox…I’m good, yes it’s allll good.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
11:28 am

Imagine if For Real and ABC had a talk show. That would be great TV

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
11:29 am

For Real – Not really

You can love your boss, but not like your job
You can love your house, but not like your neighborhood
You can love your preacher, but not like the church he preacher
You can love your kid, but not love all the stuff that it takes to raise one.

For Real

March 24th, 2011
11:30 am

Celisea: One question: Why are you doing “it” fultime?

chink

March 24th, 2011
11:30 am

But i’m grown and realize it’s not so easy and sometimes you raise your kids and they aren’t really about ish

And thats not the parents fault unless they really aint ish either …

So you try and pray and hope that you are doing a good job to raise a good human being…but somethings you just can’t control!!

Its disheartening to hear this …woman always complaining about no good men have you all stopped dating …but woman complaining about being a mother and its like oh its got to be terrible to take care of someone else other than yourself…

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
11:30 am

ARed – >>>here<<<

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
11:32 am

Congrats PR!!!!

PrincessNik

March 24th, 2011
11:32 am

Real woman try to incorporate whatever support awared into what they’re working with because typically that money is a drop in the bucket so REALLY men that are not doing it full time are usually passing opinions and judgements on what they have absolutely no clue about when it comes to rearing and expenses

Celisea, you said that! I’ve also tried to explain to my daughters father sometimes its not about the money you contribute, heck help save some money, they type of work he does typically requires him to work overnight. Move closer to your child, take her to school and pick her up, cut out the daycare expense. You kill two birds one stone, you get one on one time with your child and you ease some of the expense related to child rearing.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
11:32 am

I just don’t understand parents. Mother or Father who do not take care of their kids or get into stuff that would cause their kids to be taken from them. Some of my family members run a foster home out of their house out here on the farm. I love the kids some stay their whole childhood here some come and leave very soon because they are adopted..others leave and come back. If you produce a child you should be there for that child and I personally think if you can’t you need to be in prison and not doing anything else. I don’t care if it’s the mother or the father. What the states pays them to take care of the does not amount to much and you can not put a price on the emotional toll that is placed on these kids. Or for the emotional toll taken on my family when all this kids wants is their parents and we try and stand it.

chink

March 24th, 2011
11:33 am

What she said is she LOVES HER CHILD to death. But she doesn’t like being a mom

That doesnt make sense…OXYMORON

For Real

March 24th, 2011
11:33 am

You can love your boss, but not like your job – Your Boss is your job so you must love the job.
You can love your house, but not like your neighborhood – irrational, great house except for gunfire. Yeah right.
You can love your preacher, but not like the church he preacher – Preacher is the church so if the church is bad it’s because the preacher is bad.
You can love your kid, but not love all the stuff that it takes to raise one. You love your kid but LIKE all the stuff it takes to raise one. Don’t confuse LIKE for LOVE.

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
11:33 am

I cant understand the concept of Loving your Kid but hating being a Parent. They are absolutely not like Pastor/Church, Boss/Job. All of those things are replaceable. Too me thats the same arguement that the Dog and Cat lovers try to make when comparing pets to kids.

Celisea

March 24th, 2011
11:33 am

For Real – My kid’s dad couldn’t keep up. Once the kid came, shutting down bars and screwing every other second of the day and living like it’s was still “just us two” didn’t fit into the scenario of baby on board. So, I (yep….made the choice), I moved on. Either he was gonna keep up or hold me back. Take this for what it is. That’s all Imma say to this. Too, when you won’t make right decisions for building roots and you look up 15 years later to see me and even the kid so far ahead of you….don’t be bitter. Okay gon’ head and have your say but I’m done on this one :) :)

For Real

March 24th, 2011
11:35 am

Oh and Ared look at her statement “I love my child but she doesn’t like being a mother” Can you explain to me how a chick can have a child and be a mother? You having a child is being a parent. That’s why I said an irrational mind at work.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
11:35 am

What she said is she LOVES HER CHILD to death. But she doesn’t like being a mom

This is why I am a GREAT babysitter….and why TheDude and I are seriously discussing whether or not to remain childless and just volunteer with or mentor children instead.

Celisea

March 24th, 2011
11:36 am

Celisea, you said that! I’ve also tried to explain to my daughters father sometimes its not about the money you contribute, heck help save some money, they type of work he does typically requires him to work overnight. Move closer to your child, take her to school and pick her up, cut out the daycare expense. You kill two birds one stone, you get one on one time with your child and you ease some of the expense related to child rearing.

PrincessNik….why is that mother’s ALWAYS “get it?” Not that some dad’s don’t…can’t say there. There are some good fathers out there but there are more bad than good. And bad is not limited to “not paying money” Your presence is needed as much as if not more than any amount of money you could ever pay.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
11:37 am

Naw….having a child does not make you a parent.

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
11:37 am

I’ve heard plenty people say “If I could pick up this house and set it in a different neighborhood/state/country etc.”

Not a hard thing to imagine.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
11:38 am

Or…more accurately…it does NOT make you a good one.

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
11:39 am

Naw….having a child does not make you a parent.

yeah it does, but it doesn’t make you a MOM or DAD.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
11:42 am

Can you explain to me how a chick can have a child and be a mother? You having a child is being a parent. That’s why I said an irrational mind at work.

SCool already said it. But having a child does not make you a parent!

It takes active, engaging work to BE a parent. There are things you have to DO to be a parent. And some of those things may not be easy.

If you want to have a beautiful garden, you can’t just plant seeds and have one. You have to mow, rake, water, fertilize, etc. You can love the results, but not like all the work it takes to get there.

For Real

March 24th, 2011
11:42 am

“So, I (yep….made the choice)” – That’s what I thought. You decided he could not do it. That’s what a lot women do and they (not you specifically) complain they are not getting any help. In many of the cases I participated in the father has spent years trying to get more time with child(ren) and the mother blocks every attempt as punishment and to prove they are superwomen(i.e Real Women). The social science is out and it is overwhelmingly clear that when men spend time with their children child support is not a problem. So my suggestion to the single moms that dads that are not insane, stop blocking their time with the children. No they will not raise them exactly like you do. That’s because they are not suppose to. Children need what their mothers give them just as much as they need what their fathers give them.

chink

March 24th, 2011
11:42 am

So very true Celisea 11:36

chink

March 24th, 2011
11:43 am

4Real I agree!!

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
11:44 am

This is why I am a GREAT babysitter….

:lol:

That and a great aunt!

SCool, glad you and your guy are discussing upfront. Because a lot of my 35+ year old friends are finding that it’s not coming so easy to conceive naturally. Some of their husbands are not doing well with the thought of not having biological kids. I’m not sure they discussed that possibility upfront. You see everyone getting pregnant, you think it will be just as easy for you.

Celisea

March 24th, 2011
11:47 am

For Real – You decided he could not do it.

Not true. I gave EVERY opportunity to bond, get together, spend time…all of it. However, getting together (post relationship) to visit and bond and build that relationship does not include us having sex and “going out.” It does not negate monies still due. It is not the opportunity to question my child of “who comes over to see your mama.” It is not the window to go through my stuff “looking” to see what I’m doing. That’s why I said I went ahead and moved on. He couldn’t wrap his mind around the seriousness of, if you will….becoming a family or at least being the upstanding father that you can be. He kept think “we’re back together” if we took the kid out together. Even to some of the child support court visits, EVERYTIME the Sheriff would ask (while sitting in the court room), “are you okay” because instead of the issue at hand, I was having to keep taking his hands off me or tune out the speech of “we need to talk.” What he failed to realize is that had he gone ahead and performed like the dad he should have been, I might would have sealed the dang deal with him.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
11:50 am

@PR ~ I’m not the rule maker. But someone once told me if you don’t like the topic, change it! :wink:

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
11:51 am

If people loved being parents so much, they wouldn’t be so grateful to drop their kids off at daycare or continuing to work. :lol:

Most people I know, men and women, would never consider staying at home to raise their kids full time, even if they had the money.

That right there shows you that parenting isn’t as easy as folks try to make it. Doesn’t mean you love your kid any less that you’re grateful you don’t have to see him for 8 hours a day. :lol:

For Real

March 24th, 2011
11:51 am

“There are some good fathers out there but there are more bad than good.” – More bad than good huh? How do you know or are you just projecting your own situation on the world?

Ared: Having a child DOES make you a parent is kinda been that way since the being of time. And before we get on “Good vs Bad” parent, just because you do it your way doesn’t necessarily makes good or bad. We get the parents we are suppose to have whether they are good or bad in not relevant.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
11:52 am

Being a parent does make you a father or mother but it does not make you a mom or dad. You have to work to become the latter IMO

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
11:53 am

Because a lot of my 35+ year old friends are finding that it’s not coming so easy to conceive naturally. Some of their husbands are not doing well with the thought of not having biological kids. I’m not sure they discussed that possibility upfront.

Amred – You don’t know how much I see this! You are so right too, that from the husbands reactions, it’s obvious the possibility was not discussed. I have one friend whose husband kept wanting to put off having kids, kept saying “hey, there’s technology” when she brought up the ticking bio-clock. Luckily they had the money to do IVF and have one child. They wanted 3 or 4 but the other IVF’s did not work. She said she’s grateful for the child they have, but she’s disappointed.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
11:53 am

Having a child DOES make you a parent is kinda been that way since the being of time.

Disagree – My mother gave birth to me. But my grandmother parented/raised me.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
11:57 am

Being a parent does make you a father or mother but it does not make you a mom or dad. You have to work to become the latter IMO

The conversation is going in circles. But the fact is this: Parenting requires MORE than donating sperm or pushing a child out between your legs. It takes WORK…so it’s not so hard (for me) to fathom that someone can love the result (their child) but not love all the WORK it takes to be an active parent.

chink

March 24th, 2011
11:58 am

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
11:59 am

Having a child makes you a birth parent. It’s biology, nothing more. Being a real “mama” or “daddy”, now that’s different.

And that’s all I have to add to this.

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:00 pm

“I gave EVERY opportunity to bond, get together, spend time…all of it. However, getting together (post relationship) to visit and bond and build that relationship does not include us having sex and “going out.” – I’m not understanding what this has to do with him watching and taking care of his child without you being present? Did I miss something?

“Most people I know, men and women, would never consider staying at home to raise their kids full time, even if they had the money. That right there shows you that parenting isn’t as easy as folks try to make it. Doesn’t mean you love your kid any less that you’re grateful you don’t have to see him for 8 hours a day.” – Dayum you made a long azz leap of logic right there. There is a down side to being a stay at home parent to your kids. Daycare helps the child learn social skills they would get at home.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:02 pm

kimmie, did you read my 1152 and try and remix it? That is such a Legs move

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
12:03 pm

Daycare helps the child learn social skills they would get at home.

There are plenty of ways to do that without sticking your kid in daycare.

You think stay at home parents don’t get that benefit to their child?

Celisea

March 24th, 2011
12:05 pm

I’m not understanding what this has to do with him watching and taking care of his child without you being present? Did I miss something?

THAT’S MY POINT…he wasn’t interested in being a dad, he wanted to hook up. So like I said, I moved on. Any woman (or man) that believe entertaining that sort of behavior in lieu of stepping up to be a parent, won’t get it. Gotta run

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
12:05 pm

Purple – I read yours after I had posted mine. But see how in sync we are? :lol:

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
12:06 pm

Sooo O/T – can anybody recommend a LIGHTWEIGHT, professional looking bag to carry my *work stuff* and occasionally my laptop? I have a really nice Wenger Swiss Gear bag that I carry, but the truth is that the bag is pretty heavy all on it’s on. By the time I put a couple of file folders and a few other items in it, the damn thing weighs a ton.

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:06 pm

“Disagree – My mother gave birth to me. But my grandmother parented/raised me.” – The key word is “MY MOTHER” and “GRANDMOTHER”. I never said anything about raising a child. Hell the state raise children all the time are they a parent?

“Parenting requires MORE than donating sperm or pushing a child out between your legs.” – No that’s all that is required to be a parent. You are equating parent and raising as equal when they are not. Like I said above the state raises children all the time but their parents are not the state.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:08 pm

The meaning of the word parent=origin or source.

Kimmie :) still need me to do my private dance for you before you get married?

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
12:08 pm

@ARed – hmmmm, I loved being a parent when I dropped mine off at daycare so I can work and get $$ to take better care of my child and her needs.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
12:09 pm

No that’s all that is required to be a parent. You are equating parent and raising as equal when they are not. Like I said above the state raises children all the time but their parents are not the state.

Parenting is a verb. Raising is a verb. They require action. So my point to YOU is that it can absolutely make sense that you love your child but not like being a parent. You said such a sentence was “irrational.” And I disagree. Makes sense to me.

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:09 pm

“There are plenty of ways to do that without sticking your kid in daycare.” – Such as?

You think stay at home parents don’t get that benefit to their child? – No because the child doesn’t learn how to share with another child that is being raised in a different manner. We live in a multi-cultured world how can a parent duplicate that at home?

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
12:09 pm

@ARed ~ that was light humor, but left off (lol)

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
12:10 pm

Yeah…no…I am bowing out of this one.

Both sides of this conversation has merit. Make the best decision for you and what works with your situations and preferences.

But please, just because what’s right for you is not right for me, it does not make me wrong or even irrational, it just makes us different.

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:11 pm

No parenting is NOT a verb it’s a noun. Like I said raising and parenting are interchangeable.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
12:12 pm

@ForReal ~ stay at home parents can definitely give that benefit to their children. Children can hone their socialization skills on the playground, sleepovers, etc. There are many ways a child can learn to socialize. It’s not only learned at daycare!

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:12 pm

Most stay at home parents are very involved with other stay at home parents and their kids. i.e. Park days, museum visits, play dates, library time. So imo the kids get pretty socialized.

One Love

March 24th, 2011
12:12 pm

If I am bored with them…what is the point of continuing…dump but with respect…

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
12:13 pm

SC – don’t know if this helps but i use to have that problem. What worked for me was taking a hard look atr exactly what you have in that bag. I found that besides my laptop I could either pull up and/or duplicate 98% of the extra things I carried around. What drove the point home was me accidentally leaving some papers/folders out and realizing that hey i really don’t need them all the time. My drive now is to become truly paperless.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
12:13 pm

My point, PR.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:13 pm

Now those parents who are stay at home parents as a way to be cheap and not put anything effort into the kid besides turning the tv on and microwaving chickenfingers and hotdogs…those kids won’t be socialized except by the cartoon network

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
12:14 pm

Purple – Naw, save your energy for Lil Oliver/Olivette! LOL!!

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
12:14 pm

For Real – Are you seriously that short sighted.

Do you really think stay at home parents just stay at home? That there are no play dates, parent meet ups, classes, Gymboree and things they do for their kids? Heck, I was in swimming classes at 6 months with other kids whose moms stayed at home. So not only was I “socializing” I could actually swim too. ;)

It can be better actually, because the kid can socialize with more than the kids they’re stuck at daycare with! And come on, lets not act like some daycares are anything more that glorified baby jails.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
12:15 pm

Most stay at home parents are very involved with other stay at home parents and their kids. i.e. Park days, museum visits, play dates, library time. So imo the kids get pretty socialized.

:idea:

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
12:15 pm

unless of course you are a bag lady and/or pack rat. Then again you could just want another Bag. typical woman. LOL!!!!

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:16 pm

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:17 pm

Stay at home parenting is not “Be quiet and don’t you come out that room!”

chink

March 24th, 2011
12:17 pm

Hmm Willie I was thinking about that not carrying around files but a usb drive (that contains files) and all you need to carry is laptop…

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
12:18 pm

@ARed ~ “short sighted” (good). I could only come up with “are you kidding?”

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:18 pm

Stay at home parenting is “Now that’s your Uncle Bob, but DO NOT tell your daddy that he comes over and helps mommy make up the bed every day”

LOL

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:18 pm

“Most stay at home parents are very involved with other stay at home parents and their kids. i.e. Park days, museum visits, play dates, library time. So imo the kids get pretty socialized.” – Yeah but that’s NOT the parent giving it to the child, that the parent taking their child to a location for them to get the socialization that they need (i.e. Daycare)

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
12:18 pm

Actually WD – I have already done that. And have taken out a LOT of what was in there.

Another part of what is weighing me down is that I want something that can carry some of my purse items so that I’m not carrying a bag and a purse.

Usually what I am taking home are documents to code for accounting to process for payment. Or training records to review….things that are not going to come to me electronically.

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
12:20 pm

SCool – I know your dilemma. I am trying my best to carry smaller purses. I converted to a very nice medium sized one the other day. I had to eliminate some things in order to carry it. It is stuffed to capacity. I am determined though!

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
12:20 pm

How did kids get socialized before daycares existed?

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:20 pm

Leggs/Ared: I have two kids so no I’m not short sighted. See my 12:18 again.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:21 pm

For Real, How do you surmise that those both are the same?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 24th, 2011
12:21 pm

“There are many ways a child can learn to socialize. It’s not only learned at daycare!”

This is true. I grew up w/ a stay-at-home mom, about 10 miles outside of West Bumblef__k, GA, where the only other humans within about an 8-mile radius were my grandparents next door. And since my brother & sister were 10 & 14 years older than me, respectively, I was essentially the only kid anywhere around, but I learned how not to be a sociopath (no comments from the peanut gallery, please). :lol: Daycare definitely isn’t a must for that.

chink

March 24th, 2011
12:22 pm

But I thought day care was so expensive…now we bare the expense so we can get them in a baby jail??

Do you realize how many mothers worry about their kids at work?? Shoot even when they with a nanny!!

But I digress Everyone has a different perspective about life.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:23 pm

Swiss, when did you start to love to swirl? LOL

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:23 pm

chink what’s your nationality if you don’t mind me asking? If you do I apologize.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
12:24 pm

Yeah but that’s NOT the parent giving it to the child, that the parent taking their child to a location for them to get the socialization that they need (i.e. Daycare)

Huh? Giving what to the child?

The point is…your options from being at home are much more diverse than your typical day care. Heck bring other kids/experiences into your home then.

And you have the added bonus of THE PARENT being more involved in socialization aspects. And not just the daycare provider.

chink

March 24th, 2011
12:25 pm

PR why its not obvious??

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:25 pm

Scool: “How did kids get socialized before daycares existed?” – See this is typical a question is asked and then answer is given. If the answer doesn’t fit then change the context of the question until it fits what you want. But to answer your question, daycare’s have always existed in some form or fashion. The question was can a parent give the benefit that a daycare does? The answer is NO.

chink

March 24th, 2011
12:25 pm

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
12:25 pm

Your 12:18 isn’t helping you For Real. :lol:

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
12:25 pm

SC – oh I see, sorry bout that. I don’t have the purse problem. I can see how that would be somewhat of a dilemma. Good luck with that one.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:26 pm

Because I was wondering if a Chinese or East Asian person was actually calling themselves a “chink”

chink

March 24th, 2011
12:26 pm

LOL 4Real I like that 12:25

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
12:27 pm

LOL @ “I have two kids so I’m not short sighted”

What does that have to do with anything. Unless you tried another option OTHER than daycare, you absoulutely can be short sighted. It’s all you know right?

chink

March 24th, 2011
12:27 pm

PR Oh yeah it would be a little offensive huh

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
12:28 pm

Because I was wondering if a Chinese or East Asian person was actually calling themselves a “chink”

I was sooooo staying away from that one myself. Not that it matters anyway.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:28 pm

Hey we had a woman on here whose name was “slut” so nothing surprises me. LOL

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
12:28 pm

The question was can a parent give the benefit that a daycare does?

The answer is “absolutely.”

Socialization is not daycare dependent. Society is larger than 10 other babies in your day care class.

chink

March 24th, 2011
12:29 pm

No I am not but I bear some resemblance

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:29 pm

Willie, it just been in my mind for a bit…And plus when I type on here I try to address the person I am speaking to by typing their name first and I just would not be that rude to a person

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
12:29 pm

don’t forget about White Man or whatever his name was

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:30 pm

Purp: “For Real, How do you surmise that those both are the same?” – I don’t because the are two completely different things. You for the okie-doke

Swiss: “Daycare definitely isn’t a must for that.” – I never said that and you fell for the okie-doke too.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:30 pm

So are you cute? LOL

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:31 pm

For Real, don’t look now but there is a sticker on your bumper…I didn’t do it. LOL

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:31 pm

“Socialization is not daycare dependent. Society is larger than 10 other babies in your day care class.” – Again, I never said that…. You made that leap.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:31 pm

Willie, yeah I forgot about him

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
12:32 pm

So…Jesus got dropped of at Jerusalem’s Just for Kids Academy?

Yeah…they used to have daycares…they were called factories, mills, mines, fields and so on. Hence the Child Labor Act that wasn’t enacted until the early 1900’s.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:32 pm

I mean if he is a White Man he is a White Man..now if he called himself “cracker” that would raise an eyebrow.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:33 pm

OK SexyCool that was funny…LOL

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
12:33 pm

yeah i was thinking bout time to get the towel ready to throw in.
Fellas – We need a rescue team stat. We got a live one, He won’t go down and the ref not giving standing 8 counts today.

chink

March 24th, 2011
12:34 pm

PR Straight to the point huh…lets just say I get my fair share. The chinkiness always through people off…

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:34 pm

LOL, Willie. He is going to fight until his heart gives out. LOL

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
12:35 pm

No For Real you asked for other ways parents can make sure their kids get socialized OTHER then daycare and when you got concrete answers you leaned on the “parents can’t give that to their child” which they can.

And they have more options than the parent that sits in a cube for 8 hours a day and pays someone else to (hopefully) do more than stick their kid in a room with other kids.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:35 pm

So, I imagine it’s the eyes. What are you other fine points. Yes darling I am straight to the point I would hate to send mixed signals. LOL

chink

March 24th, 2011
12:36 pm

Hey 4real I got yo back ..ahem.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:36 pm

LOL and I just realized that For Real is on a ploy to expose how women are irrational but yet the women keep entertaining his conversation. LOL

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:36 pm

Check your tractor too.

“Yeah…they used to have daycares…they were called factories, mills, mines, fields and so on. Hence the Child Labor Act that wasn’t enacted until the early 1900’s” – Got Dayum!!! From stay at home parent socializing their kids, to daycare’s socializing your kids, to child working in factories, mills, mines and fields. And y’all wonder why men say women are irrational.

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:38 pm

Told ya! LOL

chink

March 24th, 2011
12:39 pm

LOL round face ..long hair…slim ..还有什么

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:39 pm

Dayum you Purp!!!! Now they are going to engaging me.

Chink: While my back might be nice my front is wayyyyyyyyyyy better. For Real now giving Chink a half of half of Zip.

Mike P

March 24th, 2011
12:39 pm

“I tend to get on my guy friends who bounce around from women to women, then whine about not having a special woman in their lives. I can understand not staying with someone they have no future with, especially when it’s obvious they are not compatible. I am bothered when they say that things got dull or boring.”

I can’t speak for every man, but I know that I cannot and will not take any woman seriously when they don’t hold themselves accountable for their attitudes, actions, and circumstances 100% of the time (western society, peers, and the other men in their lives seem they don’t want to hold these women accountable either). This breeds un-wise attitudes, un-wise behaviors, and un-wise decisions among the majority of women. These women are like little children or play things… so that’s how they are treated, things to have fun with and to play around with, but never taken seriously. So when the new-ness wears out, so does my patience. And I’m on to the next one, until I can finally meet the one special woman who is worth all the trouble.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
12:40 pm

Fellas – We need a rescue team stat. We got a live one, He won’t go down and the ref not giving standing 8 counts today.

:lol:

Pride/ego is a hellava drug.

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
12:40 pm

Dynamite – Get out the corner champ they killin you

4Real – I’m alright I’m alright I’m winning on points

Dynamite – Dumbazz the judges are Women

4Real – oh shyyyyt

Dynamite: Dan distract Scool with some whimsical hyperbola.

Swiss: Hyperbola????

Dynamite: jibber jabber!

Swiss: Oh

Dynamite: Swiss/Purp grab his legs and drag him out of the ring.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
12:41 pm

So…because I am able to put together related facts to support my position, I am irrational?

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:42 pm

I don’t read chinese but it sure sounds sexy!

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:43 pm

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:44 pm

Ared: First you posted a quote from a chick that loves her child but doesn’t like being a mother. Which you totally agreed with. Then you changed Parenting from noun to a verb so that raising a child and being a parent mean the same thing. Now you believe that a parent BY THEMSELVES can teach kids socialization in a multi-cultured world.

chink

March 24th, 2011
12:44 pm

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:44 pm

I think I am going to change my alias to MrBitches!

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
12:45 pm

lol I am still not going to call you chink though. LOL

For Real

March 24th, 2011
12:45 pm

Willie D: I’m going to lunch on that one. It ain’t right using a man’s own ish against him.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
12:47 pm

So…because I am able to put together related facts to support my position, I am irrational?

:lol: :idea: That’s because you’re supposed to flip out and cuzz him out instead or something in response.

What IS irrational is for someone to say some ish like ” the child doesn’t learn how to share with another child that is being raised in a different manner” and think that a parent that is home can’t find ways for their kid to still get that. :lol:

叮当响

March 24th, 2011
12:47 pm

I didnt realize I offended anyone…how is this?

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
12:48 pm

Just because my thought process and level of reasoning does not mirror yours, fall under your definition or meet your approval does not mean that I do not possess the ability to be either logical or rational.

Logic and rationality are subject to belief systems, perception, societal and personal influences and sometimes environmental influences. They are not absolutes. What may be illogical and/or irrational to you will make perfect sense to me.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 24th, 2011
12:49 pm

“Swiss, when did you start to love to swirl?”

:lol: Purple — I’m pretty sure I was born to swirl… I’ve always had an eye for dark skin, dark hair & curves… :lol:

叮当响

March 24th, 2011
12:49 pm

chink – a small narrow opening

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
12:50 pm

First you posted a quote from a chick that loves her child but doesn’t like being a mother. Which you totally agreed with. Then you changed Parenting from noun to a verb so that raising a child and being a parent mean the same thing. Now you believe that a parent BY THEMSELVES can teach kids socialization in a multi-cultured world.

Wrong, Right, and Wrong…and you want to talk about someone else leaping.

I didn’t “agree” with the “chick” I said I understand. And I also said such a thought was not “irrational” — that’s your cop out word for things you can’t understand.

I didn’t say a parent by themselves could teach socialization. I SAID a parent at home has WAY more opportunities than a working parent that writes and check and drops their child off everyday.

Get it right if you’re gonna argue.

kimmie

March 24th, 2011
12:51 pm

ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE!

Getting out of here early today – getting the A/C fixed!

Tootles!

GoldPig

March 24th, 2011
12:57 pm

Women get bored and bail out when the man runs out of money. So if you want a girl long-term don’t run out of money.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 24th, 2011
12:59 pm

“chink – a small narrow opening”

or: 2. chink (noun) — the opposite of Slim’s CT

Purple Rain

March 24th, 2011
1:00 pm

Hmm, a small and narrow opening..LOL

SlimOne

March 24th, 2011
1:02 pm

Dang, it is on and popping in here. I hope I’m just in on an intermission and didn’t miss the whole match. Now where is that dayum Beer vendor?

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
1:03 pm

Dang, it is on and popping in here. I hope I’m just in on an intermission and didn’t miss the whole match. Now where is that dayum Beer vendor?

:lol: I think the guys convinced For Real to tap out. He’s in the corner getting fixed up by the cut man. :lol:

SlimOne

March 24th, 2011
1:06 pm

Swiss – Dannnnnng dawg, why you gotta do me like that? My CT got hot so I KNEW somebody was tombout me. You get the gas face for that

(Blogging from the herrrr salon) ;-)

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 24th, 2011
1:08 pm

Slim — If I didn’t love your CT, I wouldn’t lick pick on it… :lol:

SlimOne

March 24th, 2011
1:09 pm

Ared – You ever considered going pro? I think you done went up against almost everybody in the joint. Lmao

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
1:11 pm

Slim – Have you and I battled yet? :D

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
1:12 pm

In other news:

Lindsey Lohan azz going to jail. She should hook up with Charlie Sheen

Chris Brown is either very naive or a dumbazz or both.

Dude that shot that cop in Athens better turn himself in on live TV like Brian Nichols or he gon get so many holes shot through him. Them Cops pissed and are gonna shoot on site.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
1:13 pm

Glad you tackled it, ARed is all I can say.

@WillieD ~ you funny, but you’re right. Unreal.

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
1:13 pm

willie d you think he has a living chance?!?

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
1:14 pm

you see Ared walking round don took her shirt off talking bout “Now who else wanna fugg with Hollywood cote”

Randyt (aka I'm bored at work...so a relationship would be an improvement over this...)

March 24th, 2011
1:17 pm

Daycare…fathers rather than sperm donors…touchy subjects.

Two of my children stayed at home with their Mom. Third child went to a daycare with wonderfully loving lady who ran it with her daughters. I would have to say that my children’s parents screwed them up more than the daycare. Fortunately they have all done well, but I am sure that the divorce screwed them up some…actually I know it did. I truly hope that they don’t use my marriage to understand what love is, because it could and should be so much better.

Re child support, I paid around $1000/month in child support for one child alone, for many years. Boys were grown. I never argued about a penny of it, even when I was laid off for months at a time. If I was out of work, I borrowed the money. Took me years of doing without, building up a ton of debt, and always putting them first…but they come see me now that they are grown, and are my best friends still.

All in all, I won. Lousy dads have no idea of how much they LOSE by being deadbeat azzholes. I wouldn’t dream of losing my children to save money…not gonna happen. My children are so far ahead of any house, any car, any hootchie mama that there is no second place.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
1:18 pm

@ForReal ~ I sure wish you could see the folliness in some of your statements today. But like ARed, said earlier, pride/ego is a hella drug.

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
1:19 pm

Lady – if you talking bout Athens dude then He done. Jus depends on if he wanna be a psuedo hood star then he’ll go out in a blaze of glory. If not he’ll live a few more yrs before they fry hi

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

March 24th, 2011
1:19 pm

don took her shirt off talking bout “Now who else wanna fugg with Hollywood cote”

:lol:

Classic….

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
1:21 pm

you see Ared walking round don took her shirt off talking bout “Now who else wanna fugg with Hollywood cote”

:lol:

Aw come on… give SCool her props too…

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
1:22 pm

@WillieD ~ I think the guy that shot that cop shot himself dead!

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
1:22 pm

Chris Brown is either very naive or a dumbazz or both.

That remains to be seen. I heard after his GMA stunt, his album was the #1 seller on iTunes. :?

It’s good to have dumb clucks as fans. :arrows:

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
1:24 pm

hi there yep willie I share your thoughts……wow

on another note….chris brown needs another PR rep some counseling and prayer to his God for inner peace…he wants a quick instant gratification deal where noone asks him about the drama it will never work that way…his has to deal with reality and move forward in a healthy manner…..

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
1:25 pm

meant he has to*

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
1:26 pm

Ared – She’s an Habitual offender, she don’t need nomo press after yesterday. Plus we got the DA looking into filing charges. You been out the game so its refreshing kinda to see you knock the rust off. BUT dayum, my boy went to lunch you aint gotta C-walk at the press conference.

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
1:27 pm

correct ared I heard that too! smh lol

SlimOne

March 24th, 2011
1:29 pm

Ared – Um…I’m not sure if we have or not. If so, it was nothing major or I got knocked the eff out so bad that I’ve chosen not to remember it lol

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
1:31 pm

Good one, SlimOne!

cba

March 24th, 2011
1:31 pm

WD, your 1:12, I have been thinking along the same line. Personally, I don’t think this is going to end like Nichols. The media interviewed one gentleman yesterday and he said, if they(cops) don’t kill him, he sure as hell will kill you. This guy has no intention of going back to Reidsville, of Jackson GA.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
1:34 pm

I ain’t did nothin’….looks around innocently….

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
1:34 pm

You been out the game so its refreshing kinda to see you knock the rust off. BUT dayum, my boy went to lunch you aint gotta C-walk at the press conference.

*hollers* :lol: :lol: :lol:

Y’all are the ones giving me shine! I didn’t even get to get snarky and talk about his mama! :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
1:35 pm

Ared – Um…I’m not sure if we have or not. If so, it was nothing major or I got knocked the eff out so bad that I’ve chosen not to remember it lol

:lol: :lol: :lol: What a terrible rep I have.

We have NOT tangled Ms. Slim!!!

cba

March 24th, 2011
1:38 pm

It was heart-felt to hear that guy’s mother to send her condolences to the cop’s family.
She came across as a beaten down, but very caring black woman. She had no control over her son’s actions / behavior. I have respect for those type women any day of the week.

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
1:41 pm

cba the male family history for them is down right criminal from the father on down….. ;(

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
1:42 pm

ARed – I don’t know if you remember, but I was your first *tangle* on your first day on the blog. (lol)

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
1:42 pm

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
1:43 pm

SCool – How come you remember that?

I was trying to remember when I joined this daggone thing and what the topic was. What did we tangle about? And should I apologize? :oops:

Sweet Pea

March 24th, 2011
1:45 pm

Running back in holding up a flashing neon sign illuminating VKO… another virtual knockout on Day 2!!

NO smelling salts could revive em and no stitches could mend dem blows taken to the chin! It’s a wrap!!!!

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
1:46 pm

:lol: What happened yesterday? Looks like SCool was involved.

I’m old, too many blows to the head. I’m foggy.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

March 24th, 2011
1:47 pm

It’s a wrap!!!!

code 10!….man dooooown

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
1:48 pm

Hollllllaaaaa! :lol:

Sweet Pea

March 24th, 2011
1:50 pm

Lady~ The Athen Outlaws would be befitting for that fam :( I can’t even imagine have an entire family that way. My grandmother would say you may at least one wayward child, however to have most of them alike would be disheartening.

Live by the sword die by the sword is what may unfold before our eyes. It’s a lot going on and it’s doesn’t seem to be getting any better either! Every time I turn around…gas station, restaurant, etc…folks appearing out of nowhere asking for change. I don’t mind helping, however I care not to have you all up in my personal space as Cleopatra Jones will certainly go into defense mode on that arse… geesh

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
1:51 pm

SC/Ared – Awwww look at yall bonding like Lionessess after a kill. Stop it I say, its downright sickening. Now yall got the Peanut gallery involved, piling on and giving high fives and ish.

As a Man I will say this. We aint gon take too many more L’s like this. I can tell you that. Have your day (ok two days) but We’ll be back.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
1:53 pm

LMAO….naw…I can’t remember when it was.

I just remember that I seriously mis-read what you had written and not having any points of reference regarding you, thought that it sounded like you had some sort of esteem issue. It was something about you not approaching a certain kind of guy.

And I, in a very misguided way, was trying to encourage you. You very quickly made it plain that you needed no such encouragement.

And although we have butted heads on an occasion or five since then, that is the only one that I remember it being about.

And with that being said, I truly appreciate the fact that you and I can go back and forth and all that, then…let it lie where it falls and move on. Because like my momma says…”If you can’t fuss, fight and argue with friends and family, who can ya’ fuss, fight and argue with?” :)

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
1:53 pm

Oh…and naw…no apology necessary. I didn’t take it personally.

Sweet Pea

March 24th, 2011
1:54 pm

ARED~She took down MCH without a wince!!!!

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
1:56 pm

via AJC: @SweetPea Hood is a convicted felon. He was released from prison in 2009 after serving more than 11 years for an armed robbery conviction in Clarke County, according to the Georgia Department of Corrections. The agency said he had several distinguishing tattoos, including the word “job” with a female on his chest, the words “Robert/dad” on his right arm and the words “mom Azale” with a heart on his left arm. He also had scars on the back of his head and chest.

Hood’s family, including his six brothers and their father, are no strangers to violence, according to a September 2004 article from the Athens Banner-Herald.

Timothy Hood, 22, was shot and killed by an Athens-Clarke police officer on Nov. 6, 2001, after he allegedly held a gun to the officer’s head, the Banner-Herald said.

Another brother, Robert Hood, was arrested in September 2004 in connection with a retaliatory shooting two hours after his father was badly beaten the day before, the Banner-Herald said. The elder Hood was beaten during an altercation, which started after he confronted a group of men. Hood was armed with a screwdriver, the Banner-Herald said.

Sweet Pea

March 24th, 2011
1:58 pm

WD~I have to sneak a peek as I’m wide open sittin my cube..it won’t be pretty if the boss lady see me tap dancing on the keys and it’s not work!! LOL I truly enjoy everyone’s commentary so I try to get in where I fit in! Until the next day…Have a good one :)

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
1:59 pm

And with that being said, I truly appreciate the fact that you and I can go back and forth and all that, then…let it lie where it falls and move on. Because like my momma says…”If you can’t fuss, fight and argue with friends and family, who can ya’ fuss, fight and argue with?”

SCool – I agree and feel the same about you. We’re different, but have similar values. And at the end of the day, respect is there. I appreciate your ability to check me right back too, especially when I’m being snarky. Not everyone can do it in a way that still leaves their eyebrows intact afterwards. :lol:

Fion

March 24th, 2011
1:59 pm

just checkin’ in for a quick second.
Actually SexyCool jumped MCH before the bell rang wihile he was taking off his robe!

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:00 pm

ARED~She took down MCH without a wince!!!!

:lol: I think I came in right after that died down. I remember MCH being rather apologetic. :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:00 pm

Actually SexyCool jumped MCH before the bell rang wihile he was taking off his robe!

Well, that’s against the rules. Poor dude didn’t even have his bearings. :lol:

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
2:02 pm

Okay…I’ma go sit in the corner and behave for the rest of today.

For Real

March 24th, 2011
2:03 pm

Ared ain’t did ish.. Y’all better stop gas her up before she find herself sitting on a corner nekked and wrapped in a Red Roof Inn housecoat ate out and fugged up.

Willie D: Have the posted a picture of ole boy that killed.. um I mean kilt that cop? Cause for some reason I seem to fit the description of a cop killer every time a cop is killed.

Sassy Me...Juicy Fruit :-)

March 24th, 2011
2:04 pm

Awwww look at yall bonding like Lionessess after a kill. Stop it I say, its downright sickening.

Ain’t it beautiful :-)

Now yall got the Peanut gallery involved, piling on and giving high fives and ish.

So… :lol:

Fion

March 24th, 2011
2:04 pm

Yeah, next time I’m gonna have the Ref check SexyCool’s sox to make sure she ain’t got a razor in there!!!!!

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
2:04 pm

(Y’all know I will go off-topic in a heartbeat, right?)

Anyways…I bought a HRM watch about a month ago. Yesterday, I managed to leave it in my office. Somehow, my workout just didn’t seem like a workout this morning without that watch to gauge my heartrate and tell me my calories burned.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:05 pm

For Real – You’re just mad cuz no one’s gassin you up. :P

Welcome back tho.

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
2:06 pm

Actually SexyCool jumped MCH before the bell rang wihile he was taking off his robe!

Mayne, they hadn’t even done the introductions. Michael Buffer hadn’t even got to the ‘Lets get readddddy’ part. The PPV folks woulda been pissed like a old school Tyson fight. Downright criminal I tell ya.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:06 pm

Is it wrong to dismiss a guy who spells “your” instead of “you’re?” He does is CONSTANTLY trying to sound so profound. :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:07 pm

Aw…SCool, you get a red card for that. :lol:

cba

March 24th, 2011
2:07 pm

Hey Lady, thanks for the reference earlier this morning.
Yes, I heard about the criminal records of his six other brothers and father.
One brother was killed by an Athen cop about ten years ago. The look on
her face, to me, depicted a woman who has been through much hell dealing
with her family. That’s why I only refered to her in the previous post.

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
2:09 pm

See…y’all are making it sound worse than it was.

CommonSenseRules

March 24th, 2011
2:09 pm

Question regarding Randyt’s comment, “can take off my “man armor” with, without feeling too vulnerable…”: If one doesn’t allow himself to feel vulnerable, is his ‘man armor’ really off, or has it simply been put under the cloak of invisibility?

With regard to being someone’s entertainment: Between the over-diagnosis of ADD, Tweeting every 2 minutes, and 24-hour whatever — not to mention students’ expectations that their teachers be ‘entertaining’ — it’s no wonder that so many folks get emotionally ripped off with such frequency. They’re still developmentally behaving as toddlers — I, me, mine — aka, the axis mundi syndrome. This syndrome truly knows no gender!

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
2:10 pm

@SexyC ~ although I do my best not to fight on this blog, I too was encouraging ARed in some fashion and she curtly replied back to me “thanks, Leggs, but I got this!” :lol: :lol:

For Real

March 24th, 2011
2:10 pm

Red Roof Inn Ared

Scool caught MC pulling up his pants after taking a ish. All MC can remember is when Scool said “I got a hard on, that how bad I want to kick yo azz”.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:12 pm

Actually, I just went and skimmed thru the first few pages yesterday and I want to thank SCool for being there since I wasn’t. That “female logic” part would have gotten my dander up too! I can see why it went downhill from there!

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:12 pm

anytime cba!!! :) …..I know you read the paper daily sir! lol

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
2:12 pm

“Not everyone can do it in a way that still leaves their eyebrows intact afterwards” Interesting, well one bodily feature I won’t have to worry about. :lol:

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
2:12 pm

4Real – attaboy, tween me n you we both know Ared bout 1 Real Nukka away from being tamed. Just like Mamba with all that woofing. dayum, did I say that out loud?????

My wife told me I look like that dude. we all look alike. Black male 5 foot 8 inches -6 foot 3 inches tall, dark skin, mustache and tatoos. I told her I aint goin no where near Athens for 6-7 mos.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
2:13 pm

@Fion ~ no need to check the sox, you best check under the tongue!!!

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:13 pm

@SexyC ~ although I do my best not to fight on this blog, I too was encouraging ARed in some fashion and she curtly replied back to me “thanks, Leggs, but I got this!”

:lol: :lol: :oops: :lol: :lol:

I bet y’all were like…who the HELL is this chick?

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:15 pm

“Not everyone can do it in a way that still leaves their eyebrows intact afterwards” Interesting, well one bodily feature I won’t have to worry about.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

I hesistated a bit before posting it too! Thinking about that and my own sparce ones! :lol:

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
2:15 pm

@ARed ~ if I can dismiss a guy because of how he uses the word “is” you can dismiss for the word “you’re” or “your” :lol: :lol:

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
2:16 pm

Yeah…I still say that.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:16 pm

attaboy, tween me n you we both know Ared bout 1 Real Nukka away from being tamed

:lol: I’m so ready for that challenge. I think it will be fun. :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:17 pm

Yeah…I still say that.

:lol:

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
2:20 pm

Yeah…I still say that.

me too, no smiley faces or j/k for real tho

cba

March 24th, 2011
2:22 pm

Lady, you are not suppose to know me. In my early teens, family members and cousins would ask a question about news and they would say, go ask “cba”, he reads the paper. Back then, it was mostly sports, but as I got older, I moved toward the front page. Your comment about reading the paper, took me back a few years :-)

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:22 pm

Fion

March 24th, 2011
2:23 pm

……and she (SexyCool) did all this while wearing Prada!!!! Ain’t that some bull%$#@*>+.

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:23 pm

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
2:25 pm

@ARed ~ by that time, I knew your style and just laughed. You can do a verbal driveby assault with one hand on the wheel while tossing daggers out the window.

Fion

March 24th, 2011
2:25 pm

@ARed
Hold the phone, hold the phone….. Ared what challenge you ready for?????

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:25 pm

Y’all love me dammit. I’m gonna make sure of it too!!!

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:25 pm

Fion – Did you read the quote that was in italics? :lol:

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
2:26 pm

Why you frowning????? Did I miss something????

cba

March 24th, 2011
2:26 pm

Leggs have you heard the title of Jenifer Hudson’s latest single? You know, I thought about you and the infamous “is” :-)

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:26 pm

You can do a verbal driveby assault with one hand on the wheel while tossing daggers out the window.

:lol: @ the visual of that.

For Real

March 24th, 2011
2:27 pm

tween me n you we both know Ared bout 1 Real Nukka away from being tamed. – You ain’t eva lied. Hell Ared don’t even know how close she. Hell right now she thinking about what kind of sandwich to make for fussin so much.

“Black male 5 foot 8 inches -6 foot 3 inches tall, dark skin, mustache and tatoos. I told her I aint goin no where near Athens for 6-7 mos.” – When BN ish was going on I had just arrived by from overseas when a custom agent asked me am I sure I’m not BN.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:28 pm

Why you frowning????? Did I miss something????

SCool and WillieD still ask themselves: “Who the HELL is this chick?” in regards to me.

With no smilie faces either!!! :evil:

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
2:28 pm

Taming of the Shrew…No, No, No, I’m not calling you a shrew. Just that Katherine (in the movie) was as fiesty as you are! Whew, hope I cleaned that up???

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:28 pm

Hell right now she thinking about what kind of sandwich to make for fussin so much.

He can get a booty sammich. :lol:

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
2:29 pm

@cba ~ and you probably guessed I hate the title of her song. Not particulary keen on the song because of that.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:29 pm

Taming of the Shrew…No, No, No, I’m not calling you a shrew.

It’s okay. I was thinking of naming my wedding album on FB that….when it happens of course.

*shrugs* :lol:

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:29 pm

For Real i just SCREAMED my behind off! you stoooopid! LOL LMBAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
2:30 pm

@ARed – I am cracking up. You guys are a riot…each and every one of you.

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
2:32 pm

4Real – send it back the first time jus for GP. Extra cheese and cut off the edges, “Ok baby” hahahaha

no Lie, when I go outta the country every time i get stopped when going through customs. I just ask who do I look like this time. Sometimes they laff but then other times —oh my dayum!!!!

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:32 pm

Leggs i know JH can blow but I am not a fan and this latest one is blah to me…..#sobias lol

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:33 pm

that is one concert I won’t be @…..hmmmmmm has Sade sold out?!?!

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
2:34 pm

LOL – at least once a day I get to point how crazy y’all folks IS is…

Red – I laugh when I say it….most of the time. (lol)

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:34 pm

wow they added a 2nd show for Sade! There is hope! ha!

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
2:37 pm

Whenever I hear the new JH release….in answer to her question…I automatically say, “Behind that preposition.” and yes, I am guilty of butchering the language from time to time, but that…I just cannot listen to without it feeling like fingernails on a chalkboard.

Fion

March 24th, 2011
2:38 pm

that is one concert I won’t be @…..hmmmmmm has Sade sold out?!?!

I’m tellin ya right now, when they hit $400 per ticket i got 2 for sale.

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:40 pm

LMBAO @Fion!!!!! WOOHOO!!!! I am going to see Sade!!!!! YAYAYAY! Now Kem needs to come back for the summer! *crossing fingers* :)

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 24th, 2011
2:40 pm

Hey folks. I KNOW ya’ll not still on topic so I’ll just say, “do what makes you happy. I you need a certain excitement from your relationship and aren’t getting it, decide if it’s worth trying to re-ignite. Otherwise, make an exit.”

So, what’s the haps ya’ll?

Fion

March 24th, 2011
2:41 pm

Gotta dip. “Ciao baby”.

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:42 pm

Fion on the flip side Fantaisa grew on me and i am planing to see her perform @ Essence this year! It took much for her to grow on me but she is aight! lol

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
2:47 pm

@SexyC/Lady ~ I feel the same way about the song. Where you At? UUUGGGHHH.

I was very disappointed with Uncle Charlie when he put “conversate” in one of his songs.

I like Sade, but couldn’t sit through one of her concerts.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:48 pm

I got my tix for the first Sade show….where is the annoucement for the 2nd show. There is no mention on Ticketmaster…

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:48 pm

Leggs you not the 1st to say that! Tazzee Mae told me she would put her to sleep! LOL

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:49 pm

it is the 13th check Philip’s box office Red

For Real

March 24th, 2011
2:50 pm

“He can get a booty sammich.” – (While removing his pants)For Real now wiping a tear away proud of how Ared has grown. Give me that booty sandwich gurlllllllllll.

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:51 pm

Philips Arena Tickets Broker
We proudly offer secondary market tickets. This site is independently owned and operated and is not affiliated with any official box office or official website.
Sade at Philips Arena
Sade & John Legend Philips Arena
Atlanta, GA Tuesday
7/12/2011
7:30 PM
Sade & John Legend Philips Arena
Atlanta, GA Wednesday
7/13/2011
TBD

Sade & John Legend at other venues…

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:52 pm

Thanks Lady.

Shut up For Real! :evil:

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:53 pm

ARed you may have a point but hey the 12th isn’t sold out either so there is still hope…..its not pressing at all lol

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:54 pm

So this is a broker advertising tix to a 2nd show, even tho Philips Arena and Ticketmaster hasn’t annouced yet?

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:54 pm

its just showing on a brooker’s site but not @ the box office but the brooker site is philip’s arena ironically ok that is over….lol

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:55 pm

yep I dug deeper and to no avail sooooooooooooo if i am living to see my check next week I will stick with the 12th lol

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:55 pm

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:57 pm

awwww shucks russell simmons may be chris brown’s life coach the baby needs a support system and base! hell we all do! lol

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:58 pm

Lady – The broker site is not Philips…it’s for Philips Arena events. This site is independently owned and operated and is not affiliated with any official box office or official website.

There very well could be a 2nd show. Sometimes the streets get word before the official folks can officially verify. Perhaps the deal for a 2nd show is in the final stages.

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
2:59 pm

Taylor Swift has two shows at Philips. :|

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
2:59 pm

cool beans! thanks for verifying chic! :)

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
3:01 pm

alrighty folks going to take in some sun and play in the city for a sec……~Peace

cba

March 24th, 2011
3:03 pm

A close friend of mine is a marine and was stationed in Ethiopia. He send me an email and said ” man cba, there are Sades everywhere. He sent me many pics later on to prove his point. His lucky azz :-)

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
3:04 pm

Exactly, Lady. She would put me to sleep. Her last CD made me want to poke my eyes out! But, I do like her (lol).

@SexyC ~ don’t get in habit of dropping that is…you might find yourself accidentally saying it outloud with people looking at you like you just farted.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 24th, 2011
3:05 pm

WTF! I step away for a minute and ARed is giving out booty sammiches???? Where’s the line? :lol:

Lady~Spring is Beautiful!

March 24th, 2011
3:06 pm

cba you wrong for that ok i am gone LOL funny dude

awwwww leggs! I hope I make it my dag on self!

*running out the bulding*

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
3:08 pm

WTF! I step away for a minute and ARed is giving out booty sammiches???? Where’s the line?

:evil:

:lol:

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
3:08 pm

Swiss – and her crazy irrational mind thought that would deter the Wolves.

For Real

March 24th, 2011
3:11 pm

For Real

March 24th, 2011
3:13 pm

Swiss and Ared makes a mean turkey and pepperjack sammich too!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 24th, 2011
3:15 pm

“Ared makes a mean turkey and pepperjack sammich too!”

For Real — Uh, yeah, I’m gonna have to ask that she hold the cheese on that booty sammich… :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 24th, 2011
3:18 pm

You’re swiss and you want to hold the cheese?! :lol:

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 24th, 2011
3:19 pm

I saw Sade in concert and thought she gave a helluva show. No sleepy moments! And she was on for over two hours.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
3:19 pm

Only because of the placement of the cheese, ARed!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 24th, 2011
3:19 pm

When it’s booty cheese, yes ma’am.

:lol:

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
3:20 pm

I hear she gave a good show, but I prefer lively music when going to concert. I fall asleep easily if the music is too slow.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
3:24 pm

livelier music..not lively.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 24th, 2011
3:28 pm

livelier music..not lively.
I’m guessing you hate operas. lol

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 24th, 2011
3:41 pm

From the page count it looks like things were rollin in here earlier. Slowed to a crawl right about now though. Might have to go back and read.

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
3:43 pm

I hear she gave a good show, but I prefer lively music when going to concert. I fall asleep easily if the music is too slow.

Leggs – yeah We know a mini-donk needs feeding. LOL!!!!!

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
3:46 pm

From the page count it looks like things were rollin in here earlier. Slowed to a crawl right about now though. Might have to go back and read.

DreamsMat – We had anotha crime committed today. Get Poppa on the phone asap.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
3:47 pm

@DreamsM ~ can’t hate that which I’ve never experienced.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
3:48 pm

Help me out, WillieD, who did you feed slow music into mini-donk needs feeding???????

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
3:49 pm

not who, but how did you…

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 24th, 2011
3:52 pm

DreamsMat – We had anotha crime committed today. Get Poppa on the phone asap.
WillieD Say it ain’t so. Perp? Victim? Was it a misdemeanor or a felony?

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
3:57 pm

Dreams- Perp – Ared and SC (yep again), then the P-nut gallery added to the mob scene.
Victim – 4Real, but he got a Turkey sammich wit extra cheese out the deal.
definitely a Felony. No remorse, premeditated and aggravated with malice.

Leggs – 1. I know you
2. I know you dont slow dance.
3. I know you got a growing mini-donk.
4. I know you.
5. I know mini-donks only chance of growing is livelier music, your words (and other things but the cobwebs prevent that)
6. I know you.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
4:02 pm

SHET IT UP, WILLIED (lol)…my only words were “livelier music” Didn’t say anything about only chace for it to grow. Here put this pacifier in your mouth!

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
4:04 pm

pacifier, is that what they call them nowadays. BTW, they are growing too. jus saying

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 24th, 2011
4:06 pm

WillieD Damnit man! It was an ambush? That WLB is getting outta control. Might have to put a special task force unit on them. I see how they operate. Peel one cat off from the pack, isolate him, and then pounce. The game done got dirty and PoppaG ain’t been answering my calls. I hope they ain’t got to him too.

Fion

March 24th, 2011
4:07 pm

@ Leggs

Wobble ‘Baby’ Wobble……OH!!!! , OH!!!!

SexyCool

March 24th, 2011
4:08 pm

I am maintaining my innocence….and after the trial, I’m going to write a book entitled “If I Did It” and then go on a promotion tour.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 24th, 2011
4:12 pm

I’m going to write a book entitled “If I Did It” and then go on a promotion tour.
Hmmmmm then we’ll have to have someone steel your puppy, so you can commit armed robbery trying to get it back.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
4:13 pm

OMG! I walked into that one. Wasn’t even thinking that.

Fion

March 24th, 2011
4:15 pm

Yeah Wiile D no doubt about it…….that girl gotta future behind her!!!!!!

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
4:20 pm

@Willie D ~ which only means I’m growing. I see the weight coming on, and I’m not one to just sit back and watch it happen. I know many people who just complain and watch their bodies grow to a size they don’t like. I’m not one of them. I’m in the gym doing my thing. Nothing wrong with toning up what you have.

Fion

March 24th, 2011
4:24 pm

@Leggs

Good for you. I hope you hit your target weight. Get it right, Keep it tight and protect the Franchise.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 24th, 2011
4:28 pm

Leggs — You just need to do plenty of booty-thrusts to tone up that mini-donk. I’m sure any of us blog dudes would be happy to work with you on your technique… :lol:

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
4:28 pm

@Fion ~ don’t know how to do that dance just yet, but I will. And, there will be no loose skin on my body wobbling with me.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
4:32 pm

@i’m swiss ~ thanks for the offer, but not looking for a blog dude. My sights are on a real one, not one in cyberspace. :wink:

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
4:37 pm

DreamsMat – man I’m telling you aint nobody safe. These chicks outta control thinkin they above the law. Bribing judges, showing T&A, dancing in the courtroom and holding press conferences. You shoulda seen it. It was pretty cool, Ared got some nice tatas by the way and Lets jus say Leggs need to change her name cause she way more than just Leggs now. That SexyCool chick is a helluva lot more Sexy than Cool cuz what she been doing to dudes the last few days aint cool but she sho look Sexy doin it. And the Peanut Gallery, mayne ion even know where to begin.

For Real

March 24th, 2011
4:37 pm

“Victim – 4Real, but he got a Turkey sammich wit extra cheese out the deal.” – Correction Willie D I got some booty and a turkey sammich at the Red Roof Inn.

For Real now spotting Leggs on her squat thrust! One, Two, Thr..Three, Fa, Fa, Fa, Fo, Fa, Fa,Fa,Fa Awwwwww My Dayum!!!! Where is my towel?

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
4:41 pm

“…cause she way more than just Leggs”, you make me sound big. I’m not.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
4:46 pm

@ForReal ~ sounds like you’re Quick Draw Mcgraw!

For Real

March 24th, 2011
4:49 pm

“ForReal ~ sounds like you’re Quick Draw Mcgraw!” – No I sound satisfied. Give me 30 mins and we try again to make you satisfied.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
4:50 pm

In 4 seconds…alrighty!

Willie Dynamite

March 24th, 2011
4:57 pm

4 seconds flat, dayum thats a record. What was it the squat or the thrust.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
4:58 pm

Good night!

“If you expect your husband, your wife, or your children to make you happy, it won’t happen. You have to make yourself happy!” ~ Barbara Dooley (wife of Vince Dooley).

PEACE!

For Real

March 24th, 2011
4:58 pm

Actually it was 4.5 second but my personal best was 3.2 second and it involved a chick across the room. If only she knew what I did to her in my mind.

Leggs

March 24th, 2011
5:12 pm

I’m at the bottom of my bag of quotes, that’s why I pulled out that lame one.