Dating: Do you breakup when it gets boring?
I tend to get on my guy friends who bounce around from women to women, then whine about not having a special woman in their lives. I can understand not staying with someone they have no future with, especially when it’s obvious they are not compatible. I am bothered when they say that things got dull or boring. Did they ever stop to think that women get bored too?
When you decide to become exclusive and only date each other, that oh so thrilling roller coaster ride that is dating stops. Oddly enough, some of us miss that dizzying ride and yearn to have that same kind of uncertainty in relationships. By definition, that is the opposite of what we say we want!
Do you think that it’s a good idea to dump someone when things get dull? Do you expect your dating relationship to always entertain you?
What kind of excitement would keep a man interested in a woman? How should a man broach this subject with someone he is dating, or should he?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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SexyCool
March 24th, 2011
12:10 pm
Yeah…no…I am bowing out of this one.
Both sides of this conversation has merit. Make the best decision for you and what works with your situations and preferences.
But please, just because what’s right for you is not right for me, it does not make me wrong or even irrational, it just makes us different.
For Real
March 24th, 2011
12:11 pm
No parenting is NOT a verb it’s a noun. Like I said raising and parenting are interchangeable.
Leggs
March 24th, 2011
12:12 pm
@ForReal ~ stay at home parents can definitely give that benefit to their children. Children can hone their socialization skills on the playground, sleepovers, etc. There are many ways a child can learn to socialize. It’s not only learned at daycare!
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:12 pm
Most stay at home parents are very involved with other stay at home parents and their kids. i.e. Park days, museum visits, play dates, library time. So imo the kids get pretty socialized.
One Love
March 24th, 2011
12:12 pm
If I am bored with them…what is the point of continuing…dump but with respect…
Willie Dynamite
March 24th, 2011
12:13 pm
SC – don’t know if this helps but i use to have that problem. What worked for me was taking a hard look atr exactly what you have in that bag. I found that besides my laptop I could either pull up and/or duplicate 98% of the extra things I carried around. What drove the point home was me accidentally leaving some papers/folders out and realizing that hey i really don’t need them all the time. My drive now is to become truly paperless.
Leggs
March 24th, 2011
12:13 pm
My point, PR.
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:13 pm
Now those parents who are stay at home parents as a way to be cheap and not put anything effort into the kid besides turning the tv on and microwaving chickenfingers and hotdogs…those kids won’t be socialized except by the cartoon network
kimmie
March 24th, 2011
12:14 pm
Purple – Naw, save your energy for Lil Oliver/Olivette! LOL!!
AmazonRed™
March 24th, 2011
12:14 pm
For Real – Are you seriously that short sighted.
Do you really think stay at home parents just stay at home? That there are no play dates, parent meet ups, classes, Gymboree and things they do for their kids? Heck, I was in swimming classes at 6 months with other kids whose moms stayed at home. So not only was I “socializing” I could actually swim too.
It can be better actually, because the kid can socialize with more than the kids they’re stuck at daycare with! And come on, lets not act like some daycares are anything more that glorified baby jails.
AmazonRed™
March 24th, 2011
12:15 pm
Most stay at home parents are very involved with other stay at home parents and their kids. i.e. Park days, museum visits, play dates, library time. So imo the kids get pretty socialized.
Willie Dynamite
March 24th, 2011
12:15 pm
unless of course you are a bag lady and/or pack rat. Then again you could just want another Bag. typical woman. LOL!!!!
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:16 pm
kimmie
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:17 pm
Stay at home parenting is not “Be quiet and don’t you come out that room!”
chink
March 24th, 2011
12:17 pm
Hmm Willie I was thinking about that not carrying around files but a usb drive (that contains files) and all you need to carry is laptop…
Leggs
March 24th, 2011
12:18 pm
@ARed ~ “short sighted” (good). I could only come up with “are you kidding?”
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:18 pm
Stay at home parenting is “Now that’s your Uncle Bob, but DO NOT tell your daddy that he comes over and helps mommy make up the bed every day”
LOL
For Real
March 24th, 2011
12:18 pm
“Most stay at home parents are very involved with other stay at home parents and their kids. i.e. Park days, museum visits, play dates, library time. So imo the kids get pretty socialized.” – Yeah but that’s NOT the parent giving it to the child, that the parent taking their child to a location for them to get the socialization that they need (i.e. Daycare)
SexyCool
March 24th, 2011
12:18 pm
Actually WD – I have already done that. And have taken out a LOT of what was in there.
Another part of what is weighing me down is that I want something that can carry some of my purse items so that I’m not carrying a bag and a purse.
Usually what I am taking home are documents to code for accounting to process for payment. Or training records to review….things that are not going to come to me electronically.
kimmie
March 24th, 2011
12:20 pm
SCool – I know your dilemma. I am trying my best to carry smaller purses. I converted to a very nice medium sized one the other day. I had to eliminate some things in order to carry it. It is stuffed to capacity. I am determined though!
SexyCool
March 24th, 2011
12:20 pm
How did kids get socialized before daycares existed?
For Real
March 24th, 2011
12:20 pm
Leggs/Ared: I have two kids so no I’m not short sighted. See my 12:18 again.
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:21 pm
For Real, How do you surmise that those both are the same?
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 24th, 2011
12:21 pm
“There are many ways a child can learn to socialize. It’s not only learned at daycare!”
This is true. I grew up w/ a stay-at-home mom, about 10 miles outside of West Bumblef__k, GA, where the only other humans within about an 8-mile radius were my grandparents next door. And since my brother & sister were 10 & 14 years older than me, respectively, I was essentially the only kid anywhere around, but I learned how not to be a sociopath (no comments from the peanut gallery, please).
Daycare definitely isn’t a must for that.
chink
March 24th, 2011
12:22 pm
But I thought day care was so expensive…now we bare the expense so we can get them in a baby jail??
Do you realize how many mothers worry about their kids at work?? Shoot even when they with a nanny!!
But I digress Everyone has a different perspective about life.
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:23 pm
Swiss, when did you start to love to swirl? LOL
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:23 pm
chink what’s your nationality if you don’t mind me asking? If you do I apologize.
AmazonRed™
March 24th, 2011
12:24 pm
Yeah but that’s NOT the parent giving it to the child, that the parent taking their child to a location for them to get the socialization that they need (i.e. Daycare)
Huh? Giving what to the child?
The point is…your options from being at home are much more diverse than your typical day care. Heck bring other kids/experiences into your home then.
And you have the added bonus of THE PARENT being more involved in socialization aspects. And not just the daycare provider.
chink
March 24th, 2011
12:25 pm
PR why its not obvious??
For Real
March 24th, 2011
12:25 pm
Scool: “How did kids get socialized before daycares existed?” – See this is typical a question is asked and then answer is given. If the answer doesn’t fit then change the context of the question until it fits what you want. But to answer your question, daycare’s have always existed in some form or fashion. The question was can a parent give the benefit that a daycare does? The answer is NO.
chink
March 24th, 2011
12:25 pm
Chink
AmazonRed™
March 24th, 2011
12:25 pm
Your 12:18 isn’t helping you For Real.
Willie Dynamite
March 24th, 2011
12:25 pm
SC – oh I see, sorry bout that. I don’t have the purse problem. I can see how that would be somewhat of a dilemma. Good luck with that one.
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:26 pm
Because I was wondering if a Chinese or East Asian person was actually calling themselves a “chink”
chink
March 24th, 2011
12:26 pm
LOL 4Real I like that 12:25
AmazonRed™
March 24th, 2011
12:27 pm
LOL @ “I have two kids so I’m not short sighted”
What does that have to do with anything. Unless you tried another option OTHER than daycare, you absoulutely can be short sighted. It’s all you know right?
chink
March 24th, 2011
12:27 pm
PR Oh yeah it would be a little offensive huh
Willie Dynamite
March 24th, 2011
12:28 pm
Because I was wondering if a Chinese or East Asian person was actually calling themselves a “chink”
I was sooooo staying away from that one myself. Not that it matters anyway.
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:28 pm
Hey we had a woman on here whose name was “slut” so nothing surprises me. LOL
AmazonRed™
March 24th, 2011
12:28 pm
The question was can a parent give the benefit that a daycare does?
The answer is “absolutely.”
Socialization is not daycare dependent. Society is larger than 10 other babies in your day care class.
chink
March 24th, 2011
12:29 pm
No I am not but I bear some resemblance
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:29 pm
Willie, it just been in my mind for a bit…And plus when I type on here I try to address the person I am speaking to by typing their name first and I just would not be that rude to a person
Willie Dynamite
March 24th, 2011
12:29 pm
don’t forget about White Man or whatever his name was
For Real
March 24th, 2011
12:30 pm
Purp: “For Real, How do you surmise that those both are the same?” – I don’t because the are two completely different things. You for the okie-doke
Swiss: “Daycare definitely isn’t a must for that.” – I never said that and you fell for the okie-doke too.
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:30 pm
So are you cute? LOL
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:31 pm
For Real, don’t look now but there is a sticker on your bumper…I didn’t do it. LOL
For Real
March 24th, 2011
12:31 pm
“Socialization is not daycare dependent. Society is larger than 10 other babies in your day care class.” – Again, I never said that…. You made that leap.
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:31 pm
Willie, yeah I forgot about him
SexyCool
March 24th, 2011
12:32 pm
So…Jesus got dropped of at Jerusalem’s Just for Kids Academy?
Yeah…they used to have daycares…they were called factories, mills, mines, fields and so on. Hence the Child Labor Act that wasn’t enacted until the early 1900’s.
Purple Rain
March 24th, 2011
12:32 pm
I mean if he is a White Man he is a White Man..now if he called himself “cracker” that would raise an eyebrow.