Dating debate: Give up guilty pleasures?
As much as I want a guy to call my own right now, I can definitely appreciate the art of being single. That’s right, the art. When you are perpetually single as long as I have been, you get kind of good at it…fortunately or unfortunately, if that makes sense!
One of the first things you have to do when you get coupled up is curb your crazy weird habits as not to scare off your potential Mr./Miss. Right. Yeah, I know it brings you immense pleasure watching adult entertainment for countless hours, but can that guilty pleasure stick around when you are coupled up?
Should we have to give up our guilty pleasures when we get in a relationship? What about all those fun (naughty?) things that made single life so great?
One of my friends told me that her new man has a problem with her collection of “toys.” He doesn’t like it for a variety of reasons and he basically said it was disrespectful for her to disregard his request to throw them away.
This made me think about when you draw the line in relationships. I know women often worry about losing their identity in a relationship. Is that ever an issue for men?
Do you think that relationship compromise includes changing who you are and what you enjoy to please someone else?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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SlimNumeroUno
March 18th, 2011
11:57 am
I think BOB’s do cause a chick to get desensitized but reality is, I highly doubt there is a man that can make his tongue vibrate that fast and in multiple settings…i.e Pulse, Throbbing, Gentle Vibrations, Hammer Jack Fast, and Strap Yourself To the Bed Lightning Speed.
I sort of got weened off the BOB after I got a short in my cord and just haven’t been up to buying another one so now I can’t say I really even crave it anymore. I like that one-on-one bodies bumping kinda action whenever I can get it
Blackfoote
March 18th, 2011
12:02 pm
Oh yeah Leggs if I fall asleep and as long as she don’t try to act like my doctor by poking around my prostate I’m cool. I get that done once and only once a year during my physical exam……..LOL
Lady
March 18th, 2011
12:02 pm
slim I never was a fan and can’t even find mine I am sure it has been trown away totally only used it twice……a couple of years back……..lol
MC Hammock
March 18th, 2011
12:02 pm
@Blackfoote, Well it was a life sized woman with hair and all of the necessary anatomy. It was in some sort of crate, so I didn’t touch it. They said that the mouth area had a motor and the nether regions had a motor. It also would warm those areas up for you. Looked like it was done pretty detail oriented with eyes, hair, etc.You gotta be pretty fugly or you don’t want any lip from a female to spend $1,500 on something like that. But then again, you can call her any name you want and she never has a headache….lol. I’ve only seen one, but I’m sure there are other versions out there.
Leggs
March 18th, 2011
12:02 pm
First off, if her B.O.B is buzzing loud enough for you to hear through the door, she needs to throw away that 1G toy and get a 4G toy (lol).
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 18th, 2011
12:03 pm
“I highly doubt there is a man that can make his tongue vibrate that fast and in multiple settings…i.e Pulse, Throbbing, Gentle Vibrations, Hammer Jack Fast, and Strap Yourself To the Bed Lightning Speed.”
Slim — This is true… Although, it’s also true that no artificial material ever feels quite like the real thing. My ex (the one that went lesbo) had some toys, but always preferred the feel of real. So much so, that even after we split up I would still fill in for her “toys” on occasion whenever she had a hankering for penetration…
Leggs
March 18th, 2011
12:04 pm
@MC H ~ but for $1500 can she give you a BJ???
Leggs
March 18th, 2011
12:05 pm
Oh, the mouth area had a motor…okey dokey!
Simple Man!!!!
March 18th, 2011
12:05 pm
Lady, Riiiiiiiight!!!!!!! LOL
Leggs
March 18th, 2011
12:05 pm
Even so, nothing like the feel of human skin and not plastic. I can’t even imagine!
Simple Man!!!!
March 18th, 2011
12:06 pm
Leggs, For $1500.00, I know real live women that will give ON call BJ’s for at least 3 months!!!
MC Hammock
March 18th, 2011
12:07 pm
I did know a lady that showed off those things like they were trophies or conversation material. Some of them were BIG (and I mean over 8 inches at least) and I guess there were 8-10 of them. I’d hate to bed her down and have her say “You mean, that’s IT?” LOL
MC Hammock
March 18th, 2011
12:09 pm
@Leggs, According to the guy, this thing could give you anything that any real woman could do except kiss back.
Leggs
March 18th, 2011
12:11 pm
WOW!
Blackfoote
March 18th, 2011
12:12 pm
LOL…..Leggs, Simple Man & MC Hammock
Y’all got laughs today.
Lady
March 18th, 2011
12:12 pm
seriouly simple my 1st and only was was my 30th bday gift from a girlfriend who loves them it just doesn’t do it for me trust and believe lol
Simple Man!!!!
March 18th, 2011
12:12 pm
MC Hammock, be careful, the $1500.00 Plastigirl might not like Chain restuarants….
Lady
March 18th, 2011
12:13 pm
I’m def not going to buy one never….well no time soon in a sense maybe later in life its just not priority in my world….lol
AmazonRed™ - pure sunshine
March 18th, 2011
12:15 pm
seriouly simple my 1st and only was was my 30th bday gift from a girlfriend who loves them it just doesn’t do it for me trust and believe lol
Purple Rain
March 18th, 2011
12:16 pm
Hello everyone, nothing to add on today’s topic from me. Odd huh?
Why is everyone praying for Raqi? I will send up a generic prayer for her, I hope she is well.
MC Hammock
March 18th, 2011
12:19 pm
@Simple, maybe I could dress her up and speak for her like a ventriloquist..LOL. Just sit her on my knee when we are at the table….”Mr. Waiter, guess what I will do if you comp this bill?” Nothing tried, nothing got away with….
cba
March 18th, 2011
12:20 pm
That’s a good one Simple @ 12:12
My question is, can she sweat/persprise ?? I need to know I’m not the only one burning calories
Lady
March 18th, 2011
12:21 pm
ARed what is that for?!?
Simple Man!!!!
March 18th, 2011
12:21 pm
Lady, if you like, I am sure the blog fella’s would be ok with taking up a collection to get you one of the 4G IBOBs Leggs was talking about if we can see the DEMO….
AmazonRed™ - pure sunshine
March 18th, 2011
12:22 pm
ARed what is that for?!?
Blackfoote
March 18th, 2011
12:22 pm
Hey Purple whats up did Raqi V have her baby? I hope things are well for her and family.
Lady
March 18th, 2011
12:23 pm
alrighty guess I will digress bc clearly I have nothing to add
yall got it! lol
AmazonRed™ - pure sunshine
March 18th, 2011
12:24 pm
PR – Her lil guy just couldn’t wait to get here. She’s okay and the baby is a fighter. But please pray that all turns out for the best.
MC Hammock
March 18th, 2011
12:25 pm
If there is a blog meetngreet, let me know where it is. I’m up in Gwinnett county living on my 70 acre lot, 10 room mansion with a variety of butlers and assorted cleaning ladies (one even cost me $1,500). I could shoot on down to where the regular people are and mingle…lol
Leggs
March 18th, 2011
12:26 pm
I am laughing at SimpleM and ARed’s facial expressions!
AmazonRed™ - pure sunshine
March 18th, 2011
12:26 pm
MC Hammock – Why not just invite all of use to your palatial estate.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 18th, 2011
12:26 pm
“my 1st and only was was my 30th bday gift from a girlfriend who loves them”
So, um, Lady… did your friend just give it to you, or did she give it to you…?
AmazonRed™ - pure sunshine
March 18th, 2011
12:26 pm
*us
Leggs
March 18th, 2011
12:28 pm
@MC H ~ perhaps you might want to turn one of those cleaning ladies into the Cleanup Woman. I don’t really mean that. I’m not advocating infidelity, just couldn’t resist you having cleaning ladies and a poorly sexed marriage.
Blackfoote
March 18th, 2011
12:30 pm
LOL…….@Swiss
MC Hammock
March 18th, 2011
12:31 pm
LOL@Leggs….naawww. It ain’t infidelity. It’s part of the job description and compensation. You should see the standard uniform…..WEG
Leggs
March 18th, 2011
12:33 pm
@MC H ~ you definitely talk a good game. All talk. You don’t have a mansion. You probably live in a bubble house like Spongebob Square Pants.
SlimNumeroUno
March 18th, 2011
12:33 pm
‘even after we split up I would still fill in for her “toys” on occasion whenever she had a hankering for penetration…’
Swiss – My, do you have a way with words. I’ve heard of a person expressing a desire for some guud guuud aka H orny but never heard it put quite like, “Dang I shole am hankering for some penetration right about now”
MC Hammock
March 18th, 2011
12:34 pm
Amazon, it could be a regular Hue Hefner throwdown with volleyball and assorted “contests”, huh? I’ll even wear my velvet smoking jacket…
Leggs
March 18th, 2011
12:35 pm
Don’t forget the ascot so you’ll stand out even more!!
MC Hammock
March 18th, 2011
12:35 pm
@Leggs….you know….you’re probably right. One of the cleaning ladies actually DIDN’T cost $1,500. Just let me live in my dream world, OK? LMAO
MC Hammock
March 18th, 2011
12:36 pm
About the only truth is that I do live and work in Gwinnett County. Busted, busted, busted….
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 18th, 2011
12:39 pm
“My, do you have a way with words.”
Slim — Well, I was debating whether to go with “she had a hankering for a heaping hunk of cheese” (you know, since i’m swiss & all…), but I wasn’t sure the connection would be apparent…
SlimNumeroUno
March 18th, 2011
1:01 pm
swiss – Without a doubt you are the biggest nut in here today. I’m sure you keep Mrs. Swiss in stitches.
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 18th, 2011
1:02 pm
“Without a doubt you are the biggest nut in here today”
Thanks for noticing, Slim. It is pretty hefty, isn’t it?
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 18th, 2011
1:06 pm
It gets quite a workout, since it’s pulling the load for two…
SlimNumeroUno
March 18th, 2011
1:19 pm
swiss – Aw mayne, I forgot all about that but way to make light of the siteeeachion. lol But the way you be talking, I would think it was fairly depleted. lol
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 18th, 2011
1:21 pm
Slim — It’s just like any other body part — the more you use it, the stronger it gets…
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
March 18th, 2011
1:28 pm
Well d@mn, has all this “lone nut” talk shut down blogsville?
SlimNumeroUno
March 18th, 2011
1:28 pm
I think i’ll start my kegel training then.