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Do you lend your honey money?

Dating relationships can sometimes take on marital-type roles.  Whether it’s making joint decisions about where to live, vacation, or even spending money.  A lot of couples figure out that they have some major differences when money becomes an issue.

When a guy I had just started seeing asked to borrow money, I can remember my opinion of him changing a little. I  don’t know if it was the sign of things to come, but his attitude about repaying me didn’t sit well with me at all.  I don’t think it is why we broke up, but it definitely was an eye-opening experience about compatibility.

Money and relationships can be tough for women but I can’t imagine what it’s like for men.  Generally men have a natural desire to provide and protect, but does this apply in dating?  Do men mind loaning money to the women they date? If so, would men raise their gold-digger threat level to green?

Have you ever loaned money to someone you dated? Have you ever asked someone you were seeing for financial support?

Do you think there are a few tips or guidelines for loaning your honey money?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

Would you lend money to someone you are dating?

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COME ON NOW

March 14th, 2011
7:37 am

Good morning,

This is interesting because my first reaction is to say no, simply because i’ve done it before and it left a SUPER sour taste in my mouth because of my ex’s attitude about the whole thing. But I guess it depends on the situation. I’ve never asked any man I’ve dated for a loan so I expect them to do the same. Plus, I honestly think I would probably look at my man differently. I personally don’t know any man who would even feel comfortable asking their chick for money. But if I were ever going to do it again, it better be a DIRE situation. Literally like life or death.

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
7:46 am

Good Morning,

A lesson I learned long ago don’t LOAN what you can’t afford to GIVE, now of course that goes for money to significant others, and anybody else. Now as far as the topic I won’t say I would NEVER do it, but it is VERY highly unlikely, especially if it is someone that we haven’t been dating all that long. I personally will go to family first if there is a situation that I need to borrow money, and even then it would have to be something major.

Chink

March 14th, 2011
8:05 am

I don’t like saying never so the probability of that happening is zilch. If I need money I borrow it from the bank/credit card…I dont ask folks for money so anyone asking me better have a heck of reason. And I have a limit usually so if I don’t get it back its ok but don’t ever ask me again!

Whenever you mix money and family/personal it gets messy…why not just get a loan if you can’t get one than you have more problems than needing money ..usually its “easier” to ask family/friends because you don’t have major consequences for not paying back.

precious rambo

March 14th, 2011
8:06 am

Will make a secured loan, and charge interest,just like the pawn shop. Documented and witnessed too!

the easter bunny

March 14th, 2011
8:19 am

There is absolutely nothing wrong in lending your honey money. A much larger detrimental situation is your honey having humongus bills that you are unaware of until the relationship is far along. There are some people that will spend everything in sight. I am careful with money, I like to spend on what is needed, I got into dental work at one of those chain dental clinics, they can lift the money out of a wallet quicker than a flim, flam, thank you mam gold digger.

LL411

March 14th, 2011
8:40 am

My honey and I have never “had to” borrower from each other, but each knows the other has their back. The good news is we both are fiscally responsible, so asking to borrower to pay a light bill would be looked at sideways…in our world. If we see/sense the other is in real need it’s given without anyone having to ask.

Simple Man!!!!

March 14th, 2011
8:50 am

Hmmmmm…Interesting topic as just this weekend, a “friend” asked to borrow $1800.00 to repalce a transmission in her car…. Kinda torn as to if I want do it…Her need is legit, but DAMN!!!!!

COME ON NOW

March 14th, 2011
8:56 am

I have a real issue asking for ANYTHING let alone money. And I don’t know how someone is going to “sense” that I’m low on funds unless I’m hinting around to it which seems a lil sneaky to me. I think I just have too much pride. But to each his own. I just can’t do it.

Simple Man- $1800.00….Double DAMN!!

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
8:56 am

Simple Man

:shock: whoa

Simple Man!!!!

March 14th, 2011
8:59 am

And the sad part is, we are cool. but not nearly like that!!! In fact we are not even on a “spend the night after the deed” level!!!

COME ON NOW

March 14th, 2011
9:02 am

Simple Man—so then why are you hesitating? That would be a NO

Chink

March 14th, 2011
9:05 am

Boils down to being responsible with your money and having savings for emergencies such as “replace transmission”…and if you dont usually you can do a payment plan with the auto shop/etc.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
9:06 am

Good morning. No matter the circumstance, I couldn’t bring myself to ask ANYONE for $1800.

Depending on the circumstances, I will lend my honey $$.

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
9:09 am

C.O.N, your 8:56 that is so me also! I don’t like to ask anyone for anything and try to keep my fiscal issues to myself, be it plenty to spare or just enough to make it.

COME ON NOW

March 14th, 2011
9:13 am

PrincessNik-Yeah, I don’t discuss my financial issues with anyone. Plus, that’s why I have a savings…so that when things come up I don’t even have to flinch, I can pay for it myself. I guess it makes me feel weak if I have to ask someone for money. My exes have always said that they got me if I need it but I don’t like the feeling of oweing anyone ANYTHING.

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
9:19 am

Morning all -

Dating relationships can sometimes take on marital-type roles.

Well, I guess that’s why my relationships never go too long or too deep because I refuse to live the married life while just dating.

I have never ever ever loaned or given a guy money and no guy has ever asked. Nor have I ever asked for any money from a guy. I can’t even imagine how something like that would go!

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
9:27 am

Good morning,

I have lent money to an SO in the past when I had it to give. However, I would not want to get in the habit of them always asking…

Simple – Maybe you can just give her some of the cash but not necessarily the whole $1800. Tell her that’s all you have to spare and let her figure out the rest..

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
9:31 am

Morning,

Would I loan my honey money? Absolutely NOT. Sorry but that’s just point blank. I don’t borrow from a honey and I don’t loan. I’ve cohabitated but even then we worked out household finances and sometimes that’s hard to separate but even so, there was never hey babe can you loan me such and such. Now I’ve had a honey that would say won’t you stop and pick this or that up for me. Something of that nature is not a problem.

Simple Man!!!!

March 14th, 2011
9:33 am

Morning ARed!!

“I can’t even imagine how something like that would go!”

Goes something like this:

Chick: Can I talk to you about something?
Simple: Yeah whats up…..
Chick: I took my car to get serviced a couple days ago and they told me That I needed to get my Tranny rebuilt…
Simple : Wow! How long is that gonna take?
Chick: They said a new one would take a couple of weeks because It would need to be ordered, but that could rebuild to old one in about 4 or 5 days…..
Simple: Are you gonna be ok with that??? Will you be able to get to work?
Chick: Thats not the problem…The new one is close to 3 grand, but They came do the rebuild for about 1800….
Simple: Really????
Chick: I hate to ask you this, but do you think you can help me out with that????
Simple: with WHAT???
Chick: The 1800????

Simple did not answer because First of all I was naked, and secondly, Her ability / willingness to ask such a thing took my breath away!!!!

Simple Man!!!!

March 14th, 2011
9:36 am

Slim..The way I figure it, It would have to be all or none….I would be the same sucker for 900 as I would for 1800…..

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
9:38 am

OMG, SimpleM, I just choked on my Frosted Flakes spilling milk from my mouth onto my keyboard!

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
9:38 am

LOL @ Simple Man…I’m more talking about a dude asking me for some cash. I think it would be a while before I snapped out of the —-> :| face.

COME ON NOW

March 14th, 2011
9:40 am

Simple–That’s a straight up sucka move. Problem #1: Asking for that amount of money. Problem #2: The fact that she did while y’all were doing the “do” (unless I have misinterpreted this part). She obviously thinks your relationship has evolved to the point that she could ask you such a question. Does this make you look at her differently? Does it make you reevaluate the status of your “friendship”?

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
9:49 am

The one time I took money from a dude was on a date to an Indian Casino. I was a broke intern and had no intention of parting with my paltry salary to gamble! So I was cool with watching and taking in the sites. He gave me $200 and told me just to enjoy myself.

Well, I lost his $200 in about 30 minutes. I felt TERRIBLE and was intent to at least win his money back somehow. So I withdrew $40 of my own and hit the slots. God took pity on me and I won $750!

So I happily skipped back to where dude was and gave him half of my winnings. He was thrilled! He didn’t expect me to share any of my winnings with him (nice guy! :lol: ). Heck, we were gambling seperately, so I could have told him I lost it all and kept the winnings for myself! :lol: I was just glad I was able to give him my money back, plus interest. He said he’d knew I’d be lucky. Good gamble. :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
9:50 am

*give him HIS money back, plus interest.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
9:53 am

Good for you, ARed. I would have done the same thing.

Fion

March 14th, 2011
9:53 am

It’s a sure sign of the apocalypse, I actually agree with something AmazonR said.
“I refuse to live the married life while just dating”.

“Do men mind loaning money to the women they date?” Absolutely! This one does.

Ay, we are dating, I’m not looking for obligation and responsibility for ya.
That’s territory reserved for a WIFE.

I’m responsible for me, you be responsible for you.

I have to go lay down now!

Lady J

March 14th, 2011
9:54 am

WOW~!

Morning!

Simple Man!!!!

March 14th, 2011
9:54 am

C.O.N., The truth is there is NO chance that I would ever give HER that or any amount of money… She is cool and everything, but she is also the type that we view and sort of assistance as cart blanche’ to put her hand out all day every day!!! But also in the spirit of complete honesty, If she would have asked about 15 to 20 minutes earlier, she may have been able to get something on it!!! LOL

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
9:55 am

It’s a sure sign of the apocalypse, I actually agree with something AmazonR said

:?

Sounds to me you finally wised up then.

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
9:55 am

I’m responsible for me, you be responsible for you

@ Fion, this reminds me of something I just told my sister last week, there is no community property outside of marriage.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
9:58 am

Still laughing at her asking why you two were dancing between the sheets. Why she thought that was a good time to ask is comical at best!

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
9:58 am

Ared – Dayum chica…Um…I have this nice crisp $5 bill. You think you can flip that for me because mama needs a tune-up? lol

Simple – So how did you get around not giving her an answer at all? She didn’t come back like, Well, can you hook a sistah in need up?

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
9:59 am

Ared – Dayum chica…Um…I have this nice crisp $5 bill. You think you can flip that for me because mama needs a tune-up? lol

I wish! I haven’t been that lucky since! I went to Vegas back in October and lost my damn shirt! (almost literally :lol: )

Lady J

March 14th, 2011
10:00 am

right Leggs! LMBAO @ that too funny! the game is fierce!

Safer Dates

March 14th, 2011
10:01 am

Loaning your honey money usually depends on the situation. That said, it’s a HUGE red flag if your honey asks to borrow money in the beginning of your relationship.

kellibean

March 14th, 2011
10:04 am

This can be a very touchy thing. My SO and I borrow small amounts from each other, but pay it back within a few days. It’s no big deal to us because it usually is anywhere from $5 to $20.

A few years ago, I was dating a guy for about 2.5 years when we picked up a stray cat that got really sick. I was not living with my BF and he was adament about the cat living with him. She ended up in the hospital for 6 weeks. The vet split the bill in half and I was able to raise $800 from organizations online to help with the bill, but there was still $1000 left. I went ahead a paid it with my credit card, but I drew up a repayment plan and had him sign it and had it notarized. After we broke up, he still sent me monthly payments until it was done.

I have more of a problem lending money to a friend than a SO…I lost a dear friend due to loaning her money and her lying to me about pay back. Now, she’s trying to get back into my good graces, but that’s not gonna happen.

COME ON NOW

March 14th, 2011
10:04 am

Simple-That’s why I said it was a sucka move on her part. Using sex as a way to get money out of someone. I know people do it everyday but it’s sooooo low class.

Simple Man!!!!

March 14th, 2011
10:04 am

Slim, I told her that was not the time for that….We got dressed And went to the IHOP…( I drove and I paid) I droped her back at home and told the I would call later…Needless to say……

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
10:04 am

Simple Man – That’s the oldest profession. Don’t do it.

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
10:05 am

Of course though, most that roll that way see it as you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours…quid pro quo

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
10:07 am

I’ll loan to my sister but that’s about it…

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
10:07 am

@C.O.N ~ she’s probably thinking his blood flow is still mostly down below and not flowing to his brain.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
10:10 am

@SimpleM ~ why not suggest she take out a PayDay Loan. Heck, she’s has to pay someone back. This way, she won’t lose your friendship. Well, she may think of you differently by not helping her out.

COME ON NOW

March 14th, 2011
10:10 am

Leggs–LOL. Well for most men that’s when you have the best chance of getting anything out of them. They can’t think straight when the blood if flowing down there. That’s why women keep doing that ish

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
10:11 am

‘I haven’t been that lucky since! I went to Vegas back in October and lost my damn shirt!’

Ared – There must be something to the whole “Beginners Luck” thing because I went to visit a dude I was dating, some years back, up in Indy. We went to the casino there and he showed me how to play Roulette for the first time and he gave me some money to try it out with. It was sooooo exciting because everything I betted on came up and I was on a roooll. He was like Daannngg Slim, I can’t believe you’re winning like that. So the next day we went back up there and boy was that a buzzkill. I don’t think I wont ANYTHING. :cry: Damn Beginners luck had turned back into a pumpkin after midnight the previous day I suppose. lol

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
10:13 am

Simple – Your situation went right along with the song that was just playing on the radio

Sweet dreams are made of this
Who am I to disagree?
I travel the world
And the seven seas
Everybody’s looking for something.

Some of them want to use you
Some of them want to get used by you
Some of them want to abuse you
Some of them want to be abused

:lol:

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
10:14 am

Slim – Absolutely. I remember going skiing in Tahoe and going to Reno for the first time. A friend was playing roulette and told me to pick a number. I had never played and looked at the wheel and saw the #29. So I picked it and it hit. I’ve NEVER been that lucky on my own. Dammit!!!!

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
10:15 am

Simple Man – She is cool and everything, but she is also the type that we view and sort of assistance as cart blanche’ to put her hand out all day every day!!!

If you know this, it seems to me you shouldn’t be surprised at her asking and (forgive me) but that you’ve been entertaining this sort of mentality prior to now….which IMO creates a comfortable opening to ask for favors….at least bigger ones anyway.

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
10:16 am

So where are the posters who DO loan money to folks? We know they’re out there…. :lol:

Simple Man!!!!

March 14th, 2011
10:16 am

Leggs, Like I said, She is cool, but If she gets sideways over my unwillingness to give up the loot, it won’t be the end of the world…

Fion

March 14th, 2011
10:16 am

@Simple Man!!!!

Straight up Cat! man to man, you know the deal. Loan that, (Give) cause IMHO it ain’t a loan, money at your own peril. When it get’s sideways with Ol’ girl, cause it will,
don’t get ya MOUF all Crooked.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
10:19 am

The more they have sex, the more she may feel he should help her in such a trying time.

Lady J

March 14th, 2011
10:21 am

what about half simple man lol did she say will pay back?!?

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
10:22 am

Leggs – The more they have sex, the more she may feel he should help her in such a trying time.

Don’t shoot me (not you in particular Leggs), why shouldn’t she expect a favor? She’s granting him favors. He said that’s they kind of relationship they have. There’s a price to pay for good times :)

Lady J

March 14th, 2011
10:22 am

but when you loan as PK stated give what you know you live without in a sense……

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
10:23 am

That’s what I’m saying, Celisea.

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
10:23 am

Didn’t I see Sassy post a week or so ago from Africa? Don’t know why I thought about that. Sassy did you go to Africa?

Simple Man!!!!

March 14th, 2011
10:24 am

Fion…Like I said..Not goona happen with her….I still see the humor in the way she played her hand, but the bank is closed for her…And truth is, its not really about the money….She and I are just not like that…I am surprised and tickled that she thought that little of me…

Lady J

March 14th, 2011
10:25 am

interesting……lol

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
10:25 am

Leggs – Exactly…lol Now why is he posting as if it’s a thing strange to ask for money. She’s giving him fun ass…lol We’re grown and know chicks that hand out all willy nilly, no solid relationship tied usually have invisable strings attached

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
10:28 am

@SimpleM ~ really, man! She thought that little of you because you’re sticking it to her, literally. Of course she’s going to ask that person she thinks has the dough. Heck, most of us on this blog know you have the dough. It’s only natural for her to ask the person she’s sexing and sharing bodily fluids with.

Simple Man!!!!

March 14th, 2011
10:30 am

Celisea,
” why shouldn’t she expect a favor? She’s granting him favors. He said that’s they kind of relationship they have. There’s a price to pay for good times ”

LOL!!! She got as good or better than she gave!!! Besides, If I was into paying for puddy, I would go to the Bunny Ranch and get Me a bonefied Professional!!! :D :) :D

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
10:33 am

Simple Man – C’mon man, it’s not really reading like she’s way up on your list of most valued either.. :)

She got as good or better than she gave!!

Alrighty then…on that note I’m done with this one :)

SexyCool

March 14th, 2011
10:33 am

I have loaned in the past. And TheDude knows that he “can get anything I’ve got.”

We don’t do the loan thing. We just give to each other.

He is more likely to give me cash for gas in my truck or to get my hair done or for no reason at all – not because I have asked or because I *need* it, but because he wants to do those kinds of things for me.

I am more likely to do things like pick up some toiletries or socks for him and not expect the money back.

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
10:37 am

SexyCool

Your 10:33 that’s a whole other story than some dude/chick you just really got involved with asking to borrow money. Those things you speak of are done out of love and consideration, at least that’s my opinion.

Fion

March 14th, 2011
10:39 am

@ PrincessNik

“Those things you speak of are done out of love and consideration”

Say it again Sista.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 14th, 2011
10:40 am

Morning
I’ve never asked any chick for money. I find a way to make it happen myself or I just go without. If I find myself in a situation where it’s just do or die, then I have a couple go-to folks for that. Of course those same folks know they can have anything from me if they needed it.

Lady J

March 14th, 2011
10:45 am

that is the only time money is an option for discussion PK lol….I was thinking of formers and that desciption fits your point…..I can’t recall random attempts to early asking……reminds me though when I was down and out and came through with what I had and now flourishing………that chic will get through this difficutl time with her car…it will past one way or another…..

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
10:45 am

@PrincessNik – I agree!

I think we’re more talking about times when folks loan out $100+ for some chicken and don’t get it back! :P

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
10:50 am

‘She’s granting him favors. He said that’s they kind of relationship they have’

Seems to me if they have “that kind of relationship” then it’s purely physical…hell, he even said they don’t even do the spend the night thing. lol

Lady J

March 14th, 2011
10:51 am

so true slim…….

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 14th, 2011
10:53 am

The more they have sex, the more she may feel he should help her in such a trying time.
Leggs Why would she feel this? She gave him some a$$, he gave her some dizzle…fair exchange. Nothing else is owed.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
10:56 am

@SimpleM ~ don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying just because you have you should lend it. Just saying she’s going to the person she feels can spare it, especially if she’s sexing him! That’s all.

@DreamsM ~ Nothing said about what’s “owed.” She’s probably thinking a along the lines of “if you like my puddy like I think you do (since we’ve been at this for a minute), can you help a sister out.”

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
10:56 am

She gave him some a$$, he gave her some dizzle…fair exchange

you know what they say “fair exchange is no robbery”

Lady J

March 14th, 2011
10:57 am

hmmmm logic over emotions huh dreamsM and BTW hello :) ….venus and mars aon why and how folks do it differently for different reasons…….hmmmmm

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
10:59 am

Slim – I agree it’s purely physical but it seems to me because they’re granting each other “favors” she’s now feeling comfortable enough to ask. Probably in a true relationship she wouldn’t have asked. That’s just what I’m thinking though. Purely physical relationships IMO breeds this sort of mentality.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
11:01 am

Apparently, it’s not a fair exchange since he said he put out more than she. Perhaps he should ask her for a loan?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
11:03 am

I must either be extremely lucky, or I must look like I’m broke (could be the latter — I do have that sort of beach bum look going for me), but I’ve fortunately never been put in that position. Now, Mrs. Swiss, on the other hand has folks try her all the time — probably because she comes across as being so sweet and gullible… if they only knew:lol:

I don’t see how I could avoid viewing the chick (or anyone, for that matter) differently if she was asking for $$, however. I know personally, I would be too embarrassed to ever ask for anything, from anyone. I’d have to be in pretty dire straits before I’d be willing to live with the humiliation of asking for $$.

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
11:03 am

‘I am more likely to do things like pick up some toiletries or socks for him and not expect the money back’

Sexycool – I don’t know what the urge or desire is but I have a hard time walking past the Men’s Boxer Brief section of a store and not feel compelled to want to pick him up some. lol Is that a women thing or something? :???:

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
11:04 am

Leggs – SimpleM ~ don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying just because you have you should lend it. Just saying she’s going to the person she feels can spare it, especially if she’s sexing him! That’s all.

Leggs I agree. Nobody is saying he “owes” her a thing. But as evidenced she’s sexing him and now she feeling comfy in asking for favors…..in return

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
11:04 am

Simple Man!!!!

March 14th, 2011
11:04 am

Leggs, So are you saying I should charge her for access to all ot this goodness!!!LOL :) :D :)

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
11:05 am

I know personally, I would be too embarrassed to ever ask for anything, from anyone. I’d have to be in pretty dire straits before I’d be willing to live with the humiliation of asking for $$.

Me too….I would be embarrassed.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
11:07 am

“…live with the humiliation of asking for $$.” Wow! That’s a pretty strong way to look at it. Hmmm, don’t know about humiliation. Sometimes, given the situation, you have to put pride to the side and handle your business best way possible. Not saying this is that time, but if I had to ask, I wouldn’t necessary look at it as being humiliated. Yes, we all have our own take on things. Ain’t life grand!
However, by the Grace of God, I’ve been able to maintain and handle mine.

Lady J

March 14th, 2011
11:09 am

grown woman ms leggs! good post! alrighty back to work…. :)

Fion

March 14th, 2011
11:09 am

“Do men mind loaning money to the women they date? If so, would men raise their gold-digger threat level to green?”

Not necessarily, but it’s a clear indication of what she is all about.

The Necked City (ATL) is littered with stories of women playin the Financial Game.
As Celisea said on the last page the “quid pro quo”.

Game, always recognizes Game.

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
11:09 am

However, by the Grace of God, I’ve been able to maintain and handle mine

Leggs, I so gotta agree wit you here…….

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
11:09 am

I’m so weird about asking for money which is probably not necessarily ALWAYS a good idea. Like right now I need to get my MRI done to figure out what’s up with my bouts of dizziness or whatever. So the SO was like, do you need some $$ (since I must reach my deductible) and I didn’t say yes or no, I just said I need to figure something out in order to get it done, knowing darn well I could use a few dollas…oh well

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
11:11 am

Leggs — I’m looking at it more from my own perspective… I don’t think that badly about others who are asking for $$, depending on the situation, but for myself, yes, I would feel humiliated at that point.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
11:13 am

@SimpleM ~ :lol: No, that’s not what I’m saying. But, you can flip the script and ask for some favors too. That’s one thing about sexing, most believe favors come with the territory outside the sex den!

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
11:14 am

As I typed that, i’m swiss, I said you’re looking at from your perspective. Had to laugh at your analysis of looking like a beach bum and one may think you’re broke as all get out. Very funny!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
11:14 am

On a (not really) related note — it was a good weekend for my tennis game. I beat 2 different dudes like they owed me money:-D :lol:

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
11:14 am

Slim – It was nice of him to offer at least. But yeah, in such situation, I’d say no too.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
11:15 am

@SlimNU ~ that’s a great example of Pride.

kimmie

March 14th, 2011
11:16 am

Morning Gang!!

I’m on cloud 9 this morning! Just got tix to the John Legend/Sade concert thru the Amex presale!!!!

On topic – I’ve never really had a guy I was dating to ask to borrow money. I guess they all knew I was broke!LOL!! But seriously, other that a $5 or a $20 here or there, after we’ve been dating awhile and just in a case where they didn’t have any cash at the minute, paid right back. I’ve never felt comfortable asking for any either. My fiance’ loaned me $100 once until payday and I paid him right back, though he told me I didn’t have to. I don’t take advantage that way. But putting money in the mix of a relationship can create problems if one feels they are being taken advantage of. And I don’t look too highly on a man that has his hand out to a lady all the time, but it’s not a good look for a true lady either, especially if she wants to be taken seriously and not as a gold-digger.

I actually am more comfortable loaning friends money. First of all, never more than I can afford to lose. MOST have always paid me back. Those that did not – well their credit is no good with me now and again it was an amount I could afford to lose. They can’t borrow anymore from me, but I won’t treat them badly. I actually loaned a good friend $1800 so she could keep her house. She paid me back a few months later in 2 payments of $900. I did not think twice loaning it to her. I had recently come into some money so I had it and was happy to be a blessing to her.

Again, don’t loan more than you can afford to lose. That way bad feelings are kept to a minimum if they can’t pay it back.

Simple – Do you think your friend may see that you are doing well for yourself and assume it’s okay “cause you got it like that?” I know a lot of people that way – they see a person has a nice home, car & job and suddenly think they are a bank!

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
11:16 am

I say that because he did offer, you didn’t ask and you can use the $$…it’s not like this is an every day occurrence. Why not let him assist you. Men like that. Well, SimpleM doesn’t. :wink: :wink:

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
11:17 am

I’m on cloud 9 this morning! Just got tix to the John Legend/Sade concert thru the Amex presale!!!!

:shock: Come up off that code, kimmie and no one will get hurt!!!

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
11:20 am

More so when my kid was smaller I struggled and was in a fix a time or two but I tell you, I’m always amazed at the power of prayer and the good Lord sending relief always right in a time of need. I can say (and thank the Lord), I don’t have those struggles now but I look back over my past years and am ever grateful how at the right time, something would come through. When I realized the kid’s dad was gonna be one of those “gotta make ‘em pay”, I was done with that and moved on. If it wasn’t a promotion, it was a huge raise. If not a raise something unforeseen in the mailbox. I was determined not to “make” a grown man do what should have been natural. He never ever got over how much better I excelled over him once I put all of that behind me.

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
11:21 am

He’s not he

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
11:21 am

@Celisea ~ you and I must be living the same life! I have the exact same story.

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
11:24 am

Celisea

I cosign your 11:20 wholeheartedly

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

March 14th, 2011
11:26 am

I haven’t been in this situation, but I do know that loaning money to relatives is almost always a bad idea so the dynamics are the same. Usually people borrow money because they can’t get it any other way, credit card, bank, etc. If they can’t get it another way it is usually because they can’t get credit, i.e. not enough income, bad payment history, etc. If they can’t get credit, that usually means they will not have the means to pay it back when they say they will and are just getting deeper in the hole.

If/when they don’t pay it back, it ruins the relationship. Just NOT a good idea if you value the relationship. As someone suggested early in the conversation, consider it a gift and that keeps you from getting hurt.

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
11:29 am

Leggs – Celisea ~ you and I must be living the same life! I have the exact same story.

And just getting off a path to nowhere to doing your own thing is just so much more enlighting and such an easier walk. :) No drama, no mess, no begging, borrowing or stealing…lol And, the satisfaction of doing VERY well, I might add. He always seems jealous at my 2 houses to his none and my benz to his bus ticket. Ha ha ha..ain’t life grand :)

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
11:29 am

PrincessNik – :)

kimmie

March 14th, 2011
11:30 am

Celisea – You are right, God is always right on time!!! I was not a single mother, but I recall how I’ve made it thru 3 downsizing/outsourcing situations and have not missed a beat! Was always able to come up with a way to pay my rent or mortgage and have transportation!

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
11:32 am

Kimmie – You are right, God is always right on time!!! I was not a single mother, but I recall how I’ve made it thru 3 downsizing/outsourcing situations and have not missed a beat! Was always able to come up with a way to pay my rent or mortgage and have transportation!

Exactly…”not missing a beat” always seemed to amaze me!! Girl, out of nowhere, here it comes :)

abc

March 14th, 2011
11:42 am

I’m not a bank, I don’t make loans. I will, however, give gifts of money to loved ones in need, if I can afford it.

SexyCool

March 14th, 2011
11:45 am

Oh…and for the most part, I have learned to not borrow money from anybody.

I have learned that it is best to go without than to incur a personal debt. (They are not really good for friendships….especially when the loaning party can’t afford to have you not pay them back.)

Besides, like kimmie and Cel said, God *ALWAYS* makes a way….ALWAYS.

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
11:46 am

‘I say that because he did offer, you didn’t ask and you can use the $$…it’s not like this is an every day occurrence. Why not let him assist you. Men like that’

Leggs – You’re right…I don’t know it is necessarily pride or a slight level of embarrassment…I like to be able to do for myself but I too realize we all have to lean on someone for something at some point, whether it’s money or just a shoulder…

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 14th, 2011
11:46 am

“if you like my puddy like I think you do (since we’ve been at this for a minute), can you help a sister out.”
Leggs Yeah she’s thinking like that because a lot of women don’t usually see sex as an even exchange. They feel like they GAVE him some and that was it. When is comes to sex, women feel like they lost (gave) something, and men treat it like they gained (got) something. Really the giving and the getting go both ways though.

you know what they say “fair exchange is no robbery”
Princess You know it.

hmmmm logic over emotions huh dreamsM and BTW hello
Lady Naw, emotions within the constraints of logic. The two can work together. ;-) How you doing this morning?

she’s sexing him and now she feeling comfy in asking for favors…..in return
Celisea She favored him with some a$$, and he paid her back in d!ck. Nothin else to return…unless she feels like she gave more than she got. Well, then I don’t know what to say… lol

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
11:51 am

@SexyC ~ I’m with you too. I’d rather go without than incur an unncessary personal debt. God has always been on time! Looking back, I can only marvel at how I got through the things I got through.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
11:56 am

@SlimNU ~ and, nothing wrong with going back to him asking if his offer is still good!

Dan - Simply....Superior

March 14th, 2011
11:59 am

What’s that line from the Bronx Tale: “eh, so you lost $5 to figure out he’s a deadbeat.”

In that vein, I never give more than I’m willing to lose; and if you’re willing to play me for it then we both win.

For Real

March 14th, 2011
12:24 pm

What up Blog Fam!!!

On topic: I haven’t read any of the post but I’m going to go out on a limb and say most folks said no to lending money to someone they are dating. Now, lets change up the question a bit: Do you lend money to your SO?

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

March 14th, 2011
12:50 pm

I would say that just asking for a loan would be a deal killer for me. A guy I was working with in England got engaged, spent 40k on her (she needed a car, etc). Four months later, no puddsy, no 40K. She took one look at Cumbria, England (he was committed to staying there for a two year stretch) and said FU, and was gone. Don’t think he acts like a banker for women anymore.

SexyCool

March 14th, 2011
1:02 pm

If someone that I am just dating asked me for a loan, it would not be a deal killer for me.

If a guy’s finances are such that he would *need* a loan from me, I’m sure I would have already seen some evidence of his financial situation being shaky. And it would be his overall financial situation that would kill the deal. And I now know that would happen long before he is comfortable enough to split his lips and ask for my money.

I have gotten burned on the “just until Friday when I get paid” line. Lessoned learned. And much like Dan said earlier, I just considered it the cost of buying that person out of my life.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

March 14th, 2011
1:04 pm

@ Celisea

Interesting story. I am always intrigued when I see a woman with a lot going for her, marry/have children with someone who everyone but her knows is beneath her and will only hold her back. Although one thing I am convinced of is that everything happens for a reason. My ex-wife and I were so wrong for each other…but the three children we had together was worth every minute of the hurt, anger, and frustration. We may not love each other, but we both love our children very much…and she will always be the one who gave me the greatest gift of all (although now the best of all worlds…have the children in my life and don’t have to put up with her $hyte).

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

March 14th, 2011
1:07 pm

@ Sexy Cool re: “I just considered it the cost of buying that person out of my life”…this is good and my take on dates and the cost of dating too. Its all good.

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
1:14 pm

Randy – I am always intrigued when I see a woman with a lot going for her, marry/have children with someone who everyone but her knows is beneath her and will only hold her back. Although one thing I am convinced of is that everything happens for a reason.

LOL…exactly. Let me tell you, that dude was so pretty that I was gone from the jump, on top of other not so important (now) qualities. It’s funny too because we moved into an apartment where we shared the responsibilities and never seemed to have problem with. For one thing, it was up in Marietta during the time you could get a spot for next to nothing. So, pretty much we a sweet set up…so I thought. Paid rent, shut down clubs Thursdays – Sundays, I didn’t bother him with his weed habit and he didn’t bother me with my shopping addiction. That is until the baby came. Let me tell you. He was all about a “good time.” And as long as that’s what our lives called for he was good. I guess it sort of like not knowing what a person is cut from until they’re put to a test. But I’m woman enough to admit those qualities or the lack thereof was there all along.

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
1:14 pm

Alright…it’s bracket time. Who you got.

Maybe Steve Fisher can take San Diego State to the title game like he did the Fab Five. (great special last night by the way!)

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
1:16 pm

It’s not so much not willing to loan SO money, there just seem to be a greater issue if he’s gotta ask. Not a good look.

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
1:16 pm

ARed

I started watching the Fab Five last night but had to give in to sleep and set the DVR to record the 11pm showing. What i did see was good though, can’t wait to watch the rest.

Fion

March 14th, 2011
1:22 pm

@ For Real a.k.a. (Dr. Bushkin)

“Now, lets change up the question a bit: Do you lend money to your SO?”

If she is not my Wife? The answer is NO!

This is just me, if we are dating. Long before I get to you, there are Friends, Contemporaries, and others within my circle (resources) that I would go to if I needed someone to float me a loan.

just sayin

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

March 14th, 2011
1:36 pm

Off topic…AJC has slides of people with sex tapes out on the Internet. One of them was that midget MiniMe. I am now concerned with the mindset of people if that is popular for some reason. If people that want to see that are mainstream then I am really concerned about the people around me. Why am I conjuring up visions of the sudience for Jerry Springer for some reason.

Swiss, I’m concerned that you and I are the only sane people left (and frankly am a little concerned about you too).

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
1:41 pm

Randy — I am perfectly sane; however everyone else is insane and trying to steal my magic bag.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
1:46 pm

You should be concerned about anyone walking around like a beach bum in GA carrying a magic bag!!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
1:49 pm

See what I mean? I’m watching you, Leggs:lol:

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

March 14th, 2011
1:52 pm

The Truth-Whatever the fellas said must be right

March 14th, 2011
1:58 pm

On topic: I used to lend money to the shadiest chick atlanta could produce. Thing was she would always make sure she paid me back, prolly cause she knew she’d need me in the future. I remember the last time we spoke for a while she wanted to clarify that she had paid me back every penny. It was never really that much, maybe $500-1500, but you could expect that pretty much every few months. After that I altered my policy to exclude sig others from loans, unless they have some real fire booty, then they can work the money off.

Really, separating money and love is a good policy unless you really know how that chick rolls. If she’s good with money and gets caught up I’ll help. If she’s bad with cash and thinks I’m her out thats a problem. Family is the same way. I have blood relatives that know they couldn’t borrow my old socks.

Whats up blogsville? For Real, Amred, Kimmie, Leggs Swiss Slim and the rest of the gang.

If anyone wants to buy my internet sex tape drop me $29.95+shipping. I can tell you I was having a bad day which caused the short duration and quick deflation. Had a lot on my mind. :(

kimmie

March 14th, 2011
1:59 pm

4 Real – To answer your question, I would have no qualms about loaning THIS significant other, my fiance’, money. That’s because I know his spending habits. I’m more apt to need to get a loan from him than him me, so if he did, I know it’s either really something serious or extremely minor. Either way, we are in this together now.

With SO’s in the past, large sums of money, no. It’s a pride thing with me and I’ve always liked guys with that same amount of pride about borrowing money.

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
2:02 pm

After that I altered my policy to exclude sig others from loans, unless they have some real fire booty, then they can work the money off.

:lol:

What’s up Truth!

Did you see that Dan joined you in the engaged man’s club. Yeah, the end is near! :lol:

kimmie

March 14th, 2011
2:02 pm

Hey Truth!

Did you get married yet? Isn’t/wasn’t the wedding in March?

kimmie

March 14th, 2011
2:04 pm

“work the money off”

Classic Truth!! :lol:

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
2:05 pm

Hey Truth…good to read you. All’s well here.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
2:05 pm

@i’m swiss ~ {{muah}}

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
2:05 pm

Wzuppppppp Truthie

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
2:10 pm

@ARed ~ yes ma’am. Truth and Dan engaged! Probably what caused the devastation in Japan. Truth started the rumblings and Dan stepped on the Richter Scale.

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
2:12 pm

Not to be a drag but I found out my mom’s brother (my uncle) was beat to death Friday. We still aren’t sure of all the details but apparently he came home to find 8 dudes in his crib. He lived with his 23 year old gf so not sure if they were friends of hers or not but something popped off and he ended up getting jumped by them. From what I’ve heard, the gf was detained by police and she was supposedly being cooperative with them. :-(

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
2:14 pm

OMG! So sorry to hear that Slim. May he RIP

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
2:15 pm

Oh no, sorry to hear that SlimNU.

kimmie

March 14th, 2011
2:15 pm

So sorry Slim!

SexyCool

March 14th, 2011
2:16 pm

My condolences…

The Truth-Whatever the fellas said must be right

March 14th, 2011
2:17 pm

Slim, I thought we agreed Truthie was only to be used when you’re spooning me.

Dan, congrats bro, Where the hell are you?

Kimmie, been trying to get married but not that easy in a muslim country. We got the med checks and everything but they want statements from our fathers and the judge wants to sleep with one of us, and he doesnt care which. Nah, its been a big headache. We’re considering going to vegas and letting elvis do the thing. When are you scheduled?

Amred, you still in here raising hell? LOL

Hey Leggs

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

March 14th, 2011
2:19 pm

I could probably sell my sex tapes at a discount because of my not so great celebrity status. Also, with the Batman cape and mask, somehow Christian Bale keeps getting all the credit.

The Truth-Whatever the fellas said must be right

March 14th, 2011
2:21 pm

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
2:23 pm

Wassup, Truth? You still holding down the desert?

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
2:23 pm

Amred, you still in here raising hell? LOL

Trying too…it’s been real quiet on the blog and a lot of my favorite targets don’t post here anymore. Even me.lo has been MIA

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
2:25 pm

Hey Truth. Since you were my original benefactor, Let me tell you she finished first with a 1.00 in the 400 Meter! It was a beautiful sight!

@SlimNU ~ funny Truth says that because I’m over here thinking “Truthie” should be reserved for some other thangs and places! :lol:

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
2:26 pm

Sorry to hear that, Slim

Dan - Simply....Superior

March 14th, 2011
2:29 pm

My prayers to you and yours Slim

kimmie

March 14th, 2011
2:30 pm

Truth – June 4 at Caesars!! I am so excited! They have some fantastic wedding packages!

You know, I must have thought you up. I went to a former coworker friends’ bridal shower this past Saturday. She will be moving to Kuwait for a year in June with her new husband.

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
2:33 pm

Truth – My bad, I just go so excited sort of like a dog that ends up peeing everywhere every time you come home. :lol:

Thanks for the condolences yall…It’s just a dayum shame. My unc was only 56

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
2:35 pm

That is a shame.

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
2:37 pm

Uncle was 56 with a 23 year old girlfriend… go head Unc…

SexyCool

March 14th, 2011
2:38 pm

Red – you are reading my mind….stop it….(lol)

The Truth-Whatever the fellas said must be right

March 14th, 2011
2:39 pm

Slim, glad I have that affect on you. I think.

Kimmie, she’s going to hate Kuwait. Everybody does. Tell her to visit the malls because thats all there is to do. Which company will he be working for?

Swiss, hows the fam?

Leggs, congrats to little leggs.

For Real

March 14th, 2011
2:40 pm

Sorry to hear that Slim. I just can’t stand a fuggin thief!!!

Truth: What up bruh. You haven’t got married yet huh…. What’s that ole church song “God is trying to tell you something” and if things keep going this way I’m going to be the only single dude on the blog.

Simple: I read you story about ole girl and if I was you I would have put $20 on nightstand and said now all you have to do is come back 107 more times.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
2:41 pm

@ARed ~ I wrote almost the same thing and deleted it. Thought I already cracked on Japan’s devastation in bad taste, didn’t want to crack on someone’s death and his young gf!

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
2:41 pm

But, I knew if I didn’t make the comment, you would. :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
2:43 pm

‘Uncle was 56 with a 23 year old girlfriend’

Ared – That’s what all of my cousins and aunts were saying when we were talking over the weekend. They also have a 1 year old together so that young tender roni will be raising the child without the father. He had no business trying to have a kid but to each his own.

kimmie

March 14th, 2011
2:45 pm

Truth – She didn’t say what company, just that it was a govt contractor. She did say she was going to give it a year but that was it. They are waiting until her son gets out of school to go. They are keeping their house here. That’s a shame about there being nothing to do. She’ll probably adapt better than most because at least she’s been in the military before.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 14th, 2011
2:49 pm

Hey slim sorry to hear about your unc.

Truth what’s good man? Haven’t you heard this blog is in the process of changing to a married blog? Almost everyone is married or on the fast track to it. Me, ForReal, and ARed holdin it down…barely.

The Truth-Whatever the fellas said must be right

March 14th, 2011
2:50 pm

For Real, get on the train. The pool of good ones is drying up fast. How have things been going?

Kimmie, I may try to do one more year but I need a break. I was truly burnt out.

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
2:53 pm

The pool of good ones is drying up fast.

Hey… :(

For Real

March 14th, 2011
2:53 pm

Legg: That a good time in the 400. Especially for her age. I wasn’t strong enough to run the 400. I had to stick with the 100 and 200 and truth be told the 200 wore me out. Lil Leggs go be the next Flojo minus the drugs.

When I hit 56 Imma get me a 23 yo too. Imma take em like a pill once a day by mouth with food.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
2:55 pm

“The pool of good ones is drying up fast.”

And before long, the ones that are left will just be dried up.

:lol:

Truth — All’s well on the home front. Can’t complain one bit…

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
2:55 pm

Almost everyone is married or on the fast track to it. Me, ForReal, and ARed holdin it down…barely.

AHEM ! ! ! ;)

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
2:56 pm

@ForReal ~ Thanks, it was a beautiful race. I’m surprised I didn’t fall down the bleachers all the jumping, hooping and hollering I was doing! Mind you, she came in 5th in 300 Hurdles, but that’s a marked improvement from coming in deadlast last year!

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
2:57 pm

LOL at PrincessNik!

For Real

March 14th, 2011
2:58 pm

Truth: “The pool of good ones is drying up fast.” – Imma wait until that light in their eyes dies then Imm strike.

Dead Eye Chick: For Real where are you going?

ForReal: To the moon bytch!

DEC: Okay, well you be careful and bring back some milk if you remember.

For Real

March 14th, 2011
2:59 pm

DM: I’m first in line to hold Ared and PrincessNik down.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
2:59 pm

“And before long, the ones that are left will just be dried up.” Funny, and then again not so funny! :wink:

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
3:02 pm

DM: I’m first in line to hold Ared and PrincessNik down.

:twisted:

For Real

March 14th, 2011
3:06 pm

Dayum and I Ared likes to wear mask too!!!

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
3:07 pm

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
3:09 pm

For Real – Looks like someone caught that old Robin Harris stand-up comedy show this weekend. :lol:

I’m not on a fast track to marriage so I’m still hanging in there with the MISADVENTURES of dating. ;-)

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
3:12 pm

I’m not on a fast track to marriage so I’m still hanging in there with the MISADVENTURES of dating

Everytime i try to leave, they pull me back in :lol: :lol: :lol:

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
3:15 pm

Totally off topic:

Sitting here watching a women’s tennis match, and this one chick has got a mustache like a 70’s Yosemite Sam. I mean this b!tch could have handle bars! :lol: Somebody get this chick some Nair….

Dan - Simply....Superior

March 14th, 2011
3:15 pm

@Swiss – hahahahaha

@Truth – hadn’t heard but congratulations!!

As always, I am where they pay me to be.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
3:16 pm

Oops… Should have just been “Yosemite Sam” — I couldn’t decide between that or “a 70’s p0rn star” :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
3:16 pm

PN – Well what can we say, we’re just a barrel full of crabs…well…cough cough…maybe I should rethink that comment…we don’t have crabs, we just act like crabs…ya know, like pull each other back in…Okay, I’m going to just quit blogging about this for now. :lol:

PrincessNik

March 14th, 2011
3:19 pm

Slim

ha ha ha, you are a mess

SexyCool

March 14th, 2011
3:19 pm

Dan – you set a date yet?

kellibean

March 14th, 2011
3:20 pm

I hate boring days at work. The boss is out, which is a nice break, but it’s so dead here!!!

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
3:21 pm

so I’m still hanging in there with the MISADVENTURES of dating

I don’t think you count Slim. You’re exclusive so you can only date the same dude all the time. Much different than what us truly single folks got going on over here. :lol:

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 14th, 2011
3:27 pm

Much different than what us truly single folks got going on over here.
Tell her ARed. So what’s up? With the way things are going, we might need to start our own blog. We can do like a good cop, bad cop thing. I’ll lure em in with the “hey relax. we respect everyone’s situation and opinion.” Then when they completely expose themselves, you hit em with the verbal lashing. ;-)

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
3:32 pm

:lol: @ Dreams….works for me!

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
3:39 pm

Dreams/Ared – I think we need to take a moment for this new 1st on the blog…..drumrolll….You two have just formed the 1st Blog Gang. Blogsville Jigga What what!! lol

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
3:41 pm

Well one plue one equals two…..Ared and Dreams come together as a couple and…… :) :)

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
3:42 pm

plus not plue

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
3:42 pm

Celisea – The whole point is we’re holding on to our singleness!!!

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
3:44 pm

Ared – The whole point is we’re holding on to our singleness!!!

Just thought I’d try….hey you never know :)

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
3:50 pm

I think we need to take a moment for this new 1st on the blog…..drumrolll….You two have just formed the 1st Blog Gang.

Yeah, and you can’t get jumped in. I mean, you probably haven’t even exchanged numbers with a new dude in over a year now. :lol:

For Real

March 14th, 2011
3:53 pm

Slim: You know I love me some Robin Harris but until you and ole boy call it quits all I can give you is some hard dry humping and some likka and some spicy cheese but that it….

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
4:00 pm

‘Yeah, and you can’t get jumped in. I mean, you probably haven’t even exchanged numbers with a new dude in over a year now’

Ared – I plead da one, two, thee, foe…FIF. Sounds like you’re trying to entrap me so to those accusations, I cannot comment. :lol:

For Real – I’m down for some likka, hold the spicy cheese and replace with a can of Fish Steaks in Hot Sauce and I’ll let you dry hump my pinky toe…two pumps to each one.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
4:00 pm

Remember when JLo said she never heard of Ryan Adams, well neither did I, but it’s ok w/me since I’m not in the music industry. Anyway, I didn’t go to church this Sunday and instead watched Sunday morning in bed. Ryan Adams was the featured artist. Nice interview on him.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
4:01 pm

Wait a cotton picking minute. This Ryan Adams was 51. Is that who Carrie Underwood is married to????

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
4:02 pm

Please disregard the last two rants. Wrong forum!

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
4:04 pm

Well, Carrie Underwood is married to Mike Fisher who plays hockey. She got married here in GA on Reynolds Plantation

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
4:06 pm

Ared – I plead da one, two, thee, foe…FIF. Sounds like you’re trying to entrap me so to those accusations, I cannot comment.

:lol: Hey, sometimes it’s like that when you’re in that limbo stage…. :lol: Well, not really limbo, but you know what I mean. Dangit can y’all just define it already? :lol:

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
4:06 pm

“This Ryan Adams was 51.”

Are you thinking of Bryan Adams? Of “Summer of ‘69″ fame?

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 14th, 2011
4:06 pm

Just thought I’d try….hey you never know
Celisea ha don’t play. you in the group too. So, now the couple becomes a threesome, I mean…um…you know what I mean. ;-)

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
4:09 pm

So, now the couple becomes a threesome, I mean…um…you know what I mean

Naaaw, not included…and don’t try the 3some thingy…you ain’t slick

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
4:09 pm

In your dreams, Dreams!

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
4:14 pm

Thanks ARed.

@i’m swiss ~ I think so. He’s from Canada and had a lot of pop #1 songs.

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
4:15 pm

Dreams – Can you send me something on Heliocentric Universe?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
4:16 pm

Got my first real 6 string

Bought it at the five and dime

Played ’til my fingers bled

It was the summer of ‘69…

Whiteboys all over this blog (uh, me) are now playing air guitar… :lol:

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 14th, 2011
4:18 pm

Naaaw, not included…and don’t try the 3some thingy…you ain’t slick
Celisea I have no idea what you’re talking about. lol

In your dreams, Dreams!
ARed (sigh) that’s nothing new…lots of things only happen in my dreams. ;-) Although you forget that there is the second part of my blog name. haha

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
4:19 pm

SexyCool

March 14th, 2011
4:21 pm

Swizzie – now you’ve got me playing this and Jack and Diane on grooveshark.

AmazonRed™

March 14th, 2011
4:21 pm

Although you forget that there is the second part of my blog name. haha

Yeah, a black eye and a knot on your forehead will also materialize :lol:

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
4:24 pm

SexyC — Ah, see that… It’s blog-gentrification… ;-) :lol:

SexyCool

March 14th, 2011
4:25 pm

Oh…and of course, let me not forget Bob Seger and Old Time Rock and Roll.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
4:28 pm

You dancing around in you underwear & socks, too, SexyC? :lol:

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
4:28 pm

SexyCool

March 14th, 2011
4:28 pm

Old Time Rock and Roll always makes me wanna slide across the floor in some socks.

And don’t let me start talking about how I wish that I could dance like James Brown.
(lmao)

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 14th, 2011
4:29 pm

Dreams – Can you send me something on Heliocentric Universe?
Celisea you got it.

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
4:31 pm

Thanks Dreams!!!

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 14th, 2011
4:35 pm

Yeah, a black eye and a knot on your forehead will also materialize
ARed Yeah that’s not quite the idea of getting physical that I had in mind. See, dreaming again. Sorry. ;-)

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 14th, 2011
4:36 pm

Thanks Dreams!!!
Celisea not a problem at all

Celisea

March 14th, 2011
4:45 pm

Dreams – You got mail.

SexyCool

March 14th, 2011
4:50 pm

Dwayne Wade was awarded full custody of both of his sons.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
4:53 pm

Yes, I read that…he’s so happy. He never gave up although she did everything in her power to make this one messy custody fight.

Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)

March 14th, 2011
4:56 pm

@ swiss re:”this one chick has got a mustache like a 70’s Yosemite Sam”

Is she Greek? Most Greek woman have ’staches’…and pretty hairy other places too…which is fine, very comfortable with their bodies usually.

SlimNumeroUno

March 14th, 2011
4:57 pm

Imma holler at chall guud folks on the flip side….Peace, love and hair grease

SexyCool

March 14th, 2011
4:59 pm

Exactly, Leggs. And it seems as if it was all of those things that she tried to do to make him look bad that worked out in his favor.

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
5:01 pm

“Before borrowing money from a friend, decide which you need more.”

Peace!

Leggs

March 14th, 2011
5:02 pm

Exactly, SexyC! It all worked in his favor. Nothing like throwing your ownself under the bus!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
5:23 pm

Randy — Not Greek. Spanish, perhaps? Last name was Garcia-Sanchez.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 14th, 2011
5:29 pm

Correction: Martinez-Sanchez. Don’t want to besmirch any non-hairy Garcia-Sanchez’s out there… :lol:

Lord Velonese

March 14th, 2011
7:22 pm

HA I am glad I missed out on this one, but my answer would be not a chance.