Bad boy attraction, when does it end?
I can’t recall the age when bad boys stop getting so much attention from me. I’d just take a guess and say it was late 20s, after a restraining order and complete exhaustion from the roller coaster ride that comes with dating the bad boys. Now, I’m all about the “good dudes” and they are just as sexy.
I think men and women go through phases when we are easily swayed by the hot looks, edgy personality, with a little bit of crazy. At some point, the appeal starts to wane. My guy friends say the older they get and the more they stand to lose, the less appealing a “wild” bad girl becomes.
I just believe that as our maturity level goes up, the less tolerant we become. We want sexy, stable dates! Do you think that we all have a little bit of edge to us though? Do you think you have a bad boy/edgy girl vibe? Has it worked for you on the dating scene?
I’m sure the bad boy/girl can still turn heads and get your attention, but when does your “moth to a flame” attraction for that type go away? When do we start preferring the potential wife/husband candidates and stop dealing with the unstable creatures?
When did you stop being the bad boy/unstable creature and become someone that appeared safe and, you know sane.
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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346 comments Add your comment
Jerome
March 10th, 2011
2:45 pm
Stedman aint stupid. He plays a good husband but believe you me, he gets more than his share on the side
Purple Rain
March 10th, 2011
2:46 pm
Leggs, a real man would never ever fear a woman of any sort and just deal with her however she needs to be dealt with.
MCH, this to shall pass. She just has to deal with it lol easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission
Celisea
March 10th, 2011
2:46 pm
Why do people change their monikers when you can play grown up and just say what you have to say?
Celisea
March 10th, 2011
2:47 pm
PR – easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission
You ain’t right man.
Once a bad boy always a bad boy
March 10th, 2011
2:48 pm
get it from a good boy weekly, but dont deny you wouldn’t want your good boy to give it to you like a bad boy once or twice a quarter.
Blackfoote
March 10th, 2011
2:48 pm
Celisea:
You liked them in past that was normal for a young lady I wouldn’t think you would now.
Guess he knows all women need a bad boy once a month why not a decent man every night.
For Real
March 10th, 2011
2:48 pm
“It’s not the first words spoken that starting the argument. Usually it’s an actionable thing that causes us to speak out….first. However, the action that caused us to speak out is technically what started the whole thing. So, technically and most times ya’ll start.” – See that is some pure grade A irrationality right there….. Completely skip over the FACT that you don’t have to say a dayum thing at all.
Purp: Men are taught at a very young age by their fathers how to ignore a chick successfully and we practice on our mothers.
I best remain anonymous…: That’s a classic line right there and sooooooooooo true.
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
March 10th, 2011
2:49 pm
My “transition lady” said she only needed it every couple of months…HOWEVER she apparently WANTED IT about three times a week (or four, or five).
MC Hammock
March 10th, 2011
2:49 pm
Hell, I can tell SexyCool and Celsea ain’t married. Ain’t a married woman alive that wants it every week, let alone daily. Now if your single, that’s a different story. It’s on the couch, on the table, on the stairs in the kitchen and on the living room rug. Hell I’d kill for once a week.
Why do I open my mouth and entice the fire storm I’m about to receive…..*sigh
Randyt (aka Been There, Done That, Got a Closet FULL of T-Shirts)
March 10th, 2011
2:52 pm
Okay, I’ll way in on the arguement issue.
The hardest thing for a man to learn is that what a woman is arguing about is almost never what she is pizzed off about. What she is mad about is something the guy did two or three or four weeks before and it has been stewing there under the surface the whole time. While the guy is shaking his head wondering where the hellz did that come from, he is getting beaten up for something he already forgot he did.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 10th, 2011
2:52 pm
Why do I open my mouth and entice the fire storm I’m about to receive…..*sigh
MCH Come on man. We almost went a whole day without the “if your wife ain’t giving you none, then you ain’t doing something right.” What you tryna do bruh?
Celisea
March 10th, 2011
2:53 pm
Blackfoote – I can’t even entertaining doing anything with “a boy” I don’t mean that sexually. I mean literally “anything”…I got a kid at home for that. I think bad boy is looking for Romper Room…bad kids playing grown up.
For Real – You know I’m right. Admit it.
Leggs
March 10th, 2011
2:53 pm
@PR ~ never said anything about “fear”. You have no idea the fury that meek, little quiet woman is carrying around. That’s all I’m saying. Don’t get too coc*ky is all I’m saying!
MC Hammock
March 10th, 2011
2:53 pm
When we dated, I could BE a bad boy and DO it like bad boy with her 5-6 times a week. Now we’re married and we only “make love”…..*finger down the throat BLAAAAAHHHHKK……
SexyCool
March 10th, 2011
2:53 pm
MCH – Whatever, dude. I am so over you folks that continually paint all chicks with the same brush. I ain’t ya’, chick and it ain’t my fault she don’t want you “doing yo business on her” (gratuitous Color Purple reference) regularly.
Leggs
March 10th, 2011
2:55 pm
@ForReal ~ seems like you’re not getting it today due to your lack of sleep. Sometimes it is an “action” that starts a heavy argument with no words being said. Stop acting brand new. You know what that means!
MC Hammock
March 10th, 2011
2:56 pm
Dreams…I stand here chastized. I’m going to my corner and sitting the rest out. My bad, bro….
Once a bad boy always a bad boy
March 10th, 2011
2:56 pm
Me believes that SexyCool needs to stick wid toys and things that can’t talk.
Purple Rain
March 10th, 2011
2:56 pm
Every other time is the model I follow on readjusting my wifes spine and uterus. So its a minimum of two times a week that she gets the “I am man” treatment from me lol
Celisea
March 10th, 2011
2:57 pm
Randy – Thank you for admitting that it’s usually something the man has done that causes us to speak. Now, I can’t always say he’ll know what the problem is but usually he started it.
MCH – I don’t want it everyday myself but I was speaking to the little man that referenced getting it good 6 times a year. Why wait every other month when you can find a good guy to give it on a regular…better?
Once a bad boy always a bad boy
March 10th, 2011
2:58 pm
Celisea too
Purple Rain
March 10th, 2011
2:58 pm
I think SexyCool will give any man a run for his money in the bedroom
SexyCool
March 10th, 2011
2:58 pm
And I believe that you should be able to get it up more often than once every eight weeks.
Purple Rain
March 10th, 2011
2:59 pm
SexyCool, that was a compliment and not an insinuation of activities for money
SexyCool
March 10th, 2011
2:59 pm
Naw, P-Lito – not any man – just the one that left home with a smile and an empty sac this morning.
Blackfoote
March 10th, 2011
3:00 pm
“Why do people change their monikers”
They want to say something annonymously like we aint already.
Once a bad boy always a bad boy
March 10th, 2011
3:00 pm
SC, hahahaha. Who said that?
For Real
March 10th, 2011
3:01 pm
“For Real – You know I’m right. Admit it.” – I’m sorry I wasn’t listening. What are you right about?
Leggs: You can’t have it both ways, you can’t expect a man to be a man and then be scared of the so-called fury a women has and for the record lets put this fury out there so everyone can see it. If a chick’s fury is sooooooo great why is only used in a surprise attack on a man? If a chick’s fury is sooooooo great why is it only used when the man is sleep? If a chick’s fury is sooooooo great why is it only used when a man is at work? If a chick’s fury is sooooooooooo great why not come right at dude with it?
For Real now Fedexing MCH half of 117oz bottle of vanilla scented lotion and some midget porn.
Celisea
March 10th, 2011
3:01 pm
MC Hammock – Too bad so sad for you. Oh and since you didn’t do right by the recliner, you probably pushed youself out another 8 weeks. Don’t blame the marriage, blame yourself and the laptop YOU purchased. LOLOLOL
Leggs – Thank you…your 2:55
Purple Rain
March 10th, 2011
3:02 pm
Celisea, Randyt is just the peacemaker with you women on here. In reality he knows what’s up.
cba
March 10th, 2011
3:03 pm
PR, listen to Leggs 2:53. I’ve been there. Instead of meek and quiet, I used Poly-Anna. It’s kind of funny now but she said, YOU DON’T KNOW ME. I’ve been married 30 yrs…….just sayin
Celisea
March 10th, 2011
3:03 pm
PR – And where not debating with Randy, we’re all in harmony with him. See? Get it?
Celisea
March 10th, 2011
3:04 pm
For Real – I’m sorry I wasn’t listening. What are you right about?
Now now, let’s not be like that.
For Real
March 10th, 2011
3:06 pm
“Sometimes it is an “action” that starts a heavy argument with no words being said.” – Arguing is not an involuntary bodily function.
Purple Rain
March 10th, 2011
3:06 pm
MCH you can watch free porn on that laptop if she cuts you off…but just remember she’s cutt off too. Stay in the power position.
Leggs
March 10th, 2011
3:07 pm
WTH is the problem…nobody is saying be fearful or scared. I’m just saying be aware that its in all men and women to blow their freaking stack! Sheesh! And, it’s not always used as a surprise attack. Some will do it while both your eyes are wide open. Keep acting brand new if you want!
SlimNumeroUno
March 10th, 2011
3:09 pm
‘Now we’re married and we only “make love”…..*finger down the throat BLAAAAAHHHHKK’
OMG
MCH – You ever thought about throwing on a wife beater, some black sagging jeans, a pair of Chucks, with a skull cap on and act like Jody from Baby Boy? Maybe you need to entice in her that thrill she once had before. It’s sort of like an animal having a choice of eating some meat already dead over the bunny running around not knowing what’s about to hit it.
For Real
March 10th, 2011
3:10 pm
MCH: Just go to a strip club and come with glitter on you and smelling like vaseline.
Purple Rain
March 10th, 2011
3:11 pm
Celisea, because he likes the harmony and getting along with you ladies. Me “I don’t give a fuuuuuuuuuuuuchh”(said like Smokey from Friday)
cba, you and I are two different kind of dudes,lol
Once a bad boy always a bad boy
March 10th, 2011
3:11 pm
I guess I’m not as bad as I thought
Black Butta
March 10th, 2011
3:12 pm
I hate to say it but I just got “played” by a badboy. He said all of the right things and had all of the right moves. He even had a great five year plan. Turns out he was still caught up in “the game” and doesn’t plan on changing anytime soon. I wasted a few months of my life and shed a few tears but I am grown and sexy so I will get over it. Guess I will go back to what I am used to.
Leggs
March 10th, 2011
3:12 pm
I’m done w/you ForReal. You know dam*n well what’s being said. So, I’m going to let you keep scratching your balls acting like I’m speaking Greek. (LOL).
SexyCool
March 10th, 2011
3:13 pm
Leggs – to blow your stack means to lose grasp of reasoning and accountability. And it is obvious by what is posted here today that the common belief amongst some of those posting that men are always reasonable and always accountable.
For Real
March 10th, 2011
3:13 pm
Leggs: If it ain’t about being scared then why do you keep saying thing like this “Keep acting brand new if you want” as if something is going to occur that I for some reason will not be able to respond to?
Slim: Naw maybe he needs to cook breakfast nakked and as her if she wants some eggs.
Purple Rain
March 10th, 2011
3:14 pm
Leggs, what are you talking about woman?
Leggs
March 10th, 2011
3:15 pm
Your answer had me giggling over here, SlimNU (3:09). If his wife saw that, and she’s worth her salt, she would recognize him wanting to change things up and role play along with him!
Dan - Simply....Superior
March 10th, 2011
3:16 pm
@SC
Not always reasonable, but definitely accountable
Purple Rain
March 10th, 2011
3:16 pm
I thought blowing your stack was code word for having an orgasm
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
March 10th, 2011
3:17 pm
The hardest thing for a man to learn is that what a woman is arguing about is almost never what she is pizzed off about.
Randy You know from the beginning something ain’t right when she’s yelling at you for buying Charmin instead of Quilted Northern.
SexyCool
March 10th, 2011
3:18 pm
“Not always reasonable, but definitely accountable.”
Tell that to the chick that just left the Child Support office and who has a kid that hasn’t seen its sperm donor since last Easter.