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How do you pull off going Dutch?

I received an email from one of our male readers seeking some advice.  He wants to know if it’s possible to go Dutch on a date without sending the wrong message.  Is there a way to successfully ask someone out, plan an outing, and go on a date paying your own way or splitting the costs?

Do you think it can be done if you pick the right person and circumstances?

In my experience, going Dutch was only bad because of the “caught off guard” situations.  You know, that time when someone asks you out and don’t mention that they have no intentions of paying your way.  If you know beforehand that you wanted the date to be Dutch, you should say so. Give the person the opportunity to make a fully informed decision before agreeing to it.

What do you think? Does going Dutch automatically mean it’s a “bad” date?  When was the last time you paid your own way on a date?  What did you and how did it come to be a “Dutch” date?

It you had to pick between no date and going Dutch, which would you pick?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

345 comments Add your comment

Leggs

March 9th, 2011
2:16 pm

:lol: :lol: {cough, cough}. ARed, please stop! I can’t continue laughing like this at my desk!

SexyCool

March 9th, 2011
2:17 pm

Big Poppa was sexy? Really? I didn’t get that memo.

Randyt (aka "Been There, Done That, Got a Closet Full of T-shirts))

March 9th, 2011
2:18 pm

Wow…gone for a couple of hours and go straight to the end to find “rectum licking”. I guess I had better go back and see how this developed.

Referee

March 9th, 2011
2:18 pm

Rectums are acceptable!

AmazonRed™ - I love LA (LAKERS)

March 9th, 2011
2:19 pm

PR – You already did answer it. Assuming you know where hemorroids grow.

Leggs

March 9th, 2011
2:19 pm

@ForReal ~ I’m in no mood to suffer a brain aneurysm, therefore, I cannot answer your queston regarding Flava Flav.

Leggs

March 9th, 2011
2:20 pm

I’m saying his money made him sexy.

Leggs

March 9th, 2011
2:21 pm

Oh goodness, we now have a Referee officiating what’s acceptable and what’s not. We’ve reached a new high, or a new low depending on how you lick it.

Leggs

March 9th, 2011
2:22 pm

Dam@mit! How you look at it….how you look at it. Perhaps I am suffering from an aneurysm.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 9th, 2011
2:25 pm

We know what Leggs is thinking about… :lol:

Blackfoote

March 9th, 2011
2:26 pm

I thought walking away for a minute would help but then Swiss comes along and send me back out…….LOL

Purple Rain

March 9th, 2011
2:26 pm

Thanks Ref!

LOL@For Real

Amazon you started the hemorroids conversation.

Purple Rain

March 9th, 2011
2:27 pm

Leggs, you typed lick on purpose. LOL

Randyt that guy had to know it was not her tongue.

AmazonRed™ - I love LA (LAKERS)

March 9th, 2011
2:29 pm

Naw…the rectal discomfort discussion was started by For Real!

Purple Rain

March 9th, 2011
2:32 pm

Yes true but you brought up the speed bumps. LOL

Leggs

March 9th, 2011
2:32 pm

@PR ~ no, I didn’t, but was thinking it!

AmazonRed™ - I love LA (LAKERS)

March 9th, 2011
2:36 pm

Ared started the rectal discussion when she stated that’s how she got ole boy to pay for her parking.

You wish! :P

SexyCool

March 9th, 2011
2:37 pm

Leggs – there ain’t that much money in all the world….for me. (lol)

Randyt (aka "Been There, Done That, Got a Closet Full of T-shirts))

March 9th, 2011
2:37 pm

Not totally timely, but an expression by a country philopher I knew went something like this…

“Show me a man who won’t go down on his wife, and I’ll show you a woman I can HAVE”!!!.

Somehow this conversation seems to be pointed that way.

Purple Rain

March 9th, 2011
2:38 pm

For Real !!!!! LOL yep that’s what I read too

Purple Rain

March 9th, 2011
2:39 pm

randyt, that is true and you might as well flip her over or slide a few more inches south while you are down there.

Randyt (aka "Been There, Done That, Got a Closet Full of T-shirts))

March 9th, 2011
2:39 pm

Randyt (aka "Been There, Done That, Got a Closet Full of T-shirts))

March 9th, 2011
2:41 pm

PR …as the man said, “I ain’t admitting nuttin”.

For Real

March 9th, 2011
2:41 pm

“Show me a man who won’t go down on his wife, and I’ll show you a woman I can HAVE”!!!.” – Or Show me a man that can’t tell the difference between a tongue and a fanga, and I’ll show you a man on vacation in Europe.

Randyt (aka "Been There, Done That, Got a Closet Full of T-shirts))

March 9th, 2011
2:42 pm

Was that Amsterdam?

Fion

March 9th, 2011
2:45 pm

@ For Real
“Show me a man who won’t go down on his wife, and I’ll show you a woman I can HAVE”!!!.”

Like they say, 90,000 Frenchman can’t be wrong!

Blackfoote

March 9th, 2011
2:48 pm

Randyt on vacation in Europe going south on somebody’s wife…….LOL
Where have y’all gone with this damaged rectum thing……LOL

Leggs

March 9th, 2011
2:48 pm

@SexyC ~ not thinking of it being done to me (which it has been), but was just thinking of the act itself and what makes a man want to go there. I was stunned and surprised, but didn’t stop him (LOL). Just being honest.

Purple Rain

March 9th, 2011
2:49 pm

You all are crazy, LOL For Real and Randyt have me trying to contain my laughs

Purple Rain

March 9th, 2011
2:50 pm

Leggs, he just wants to please you. No holds barred. There is nothing wrong with a little booty licking, especially when it’s reciprocated

AmazonRed™ - I love LA (LAKERS)

March 9th, 2011
2:51 pm

Ladies, you haven’t really c#m until you’ve had your c!it sucked, your g-spot rubbed and your booty fangered all at the same time…

As a man, you’d never know for sure. But I’ll take your word for it I guess.

Purple Rain

March 9th, 2011
2:52 pm

For Real, LOL

Fion

March 9th, 2011
2:54 pm

For Real on that Cholly Sheen!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 9th, 2011
2:54 pm

“As a man, you’d never know for sure. But I’ll take your word for it I guess.”

ARed:lol: True… I’m basing that solely on the PSI of the thigh-clamps that get put on my skull… :lol:

Purple Rain

March 9th, 2011
2:56 pm

Swiss I am sure you have this tshirt. Blackfoote try these

http://thevinylvillage.files.wordpress.com/2009/12/shocker_tshirt.jpg

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 9th, 2011
2:57 pm

“Somebody has an extra phalange!”

For Real — 2 words: Opposable thumbs. :lol: Evolution at its best… :lol:

Blackfoote

March 9th, 2011
2:59 pm

Purple I like that show stopper looks like it will get the job done well……LOL

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

March 9th, 2011
2:59 pm

:lol: @ Purple — Yeah, I’ve seen that — but it’s never not funny…. :lol:

Purple Rain

March 9th, 2011
3:02 pm

Blackfoote, you are aiming for the fence…the show stopper is 3 fingers in the stink and one in the pink. LOL

AmazonRed™ - I love LA (LAKERS)

March 9th, 2011
3:02 pm

I’m basing that solely on the PSI of the thigh-clamps that get put on my skull…

:lol: the visual :lol:

Purple Rain

March 9th, 2011
3:04 pm

Ladies do have some strong thighs.

Blackfoote

March 9th, 2011
3:07 pm

LOL…….@Purple

Strong thighs they do have can actually break a mans neck if they wanted to.

SlimNumeroUno

March 9th, 2011
3:08 pm

‘“Ladies, you haven’t really c#m until you’ve had your c!it sucked, your g-spot rubbed and your booty fangered all at the same time” – Somebody has an extra phalange!’

For Real – I have a migraine coming on but lawd knows after reading this, the laugh I just had was worth the pain. :lol:

Leggs

March 9th, 2011
3:14 pm

“Blackfoote, you are aiming for the fence…the show stopper is 3 fingers in the stink and one in the pink. LOL”

DAMN, PR, you are crazy!!

Blackfoote

March 9th, 2011
3:15 pm

Leggs what you got was dude feeling you you didn’t kiss him afterwards did you?……….LOL

Women do it too but they want to kiss when finished I play like I’m sleep until she brushes and use scope……..LOL

Leggs

March 9th, 2011
3:16 pm

@WD ~ you think it’s time to rein in your children? :lol:

TPain

March 9th, 2011
3:16 pm

I have a dating misadventure:
I have been dating a guy for about six months, we have been getting to know each other fairly well. I did like him. Well yesterday he calls me and tells me he id really wants to be in committed relationship, he proceeds to ask me a bunch of questions (felt like I was on an interview). At first I was like cool, we are having this conversation I like him lets make some serious decisions. Then goes on after the questions, to tell me I am a women he can be in a relationship with. I’m like ooook, then he says “i have an option either you (me) or can go with this other chick”. I was so shocked he really had the nerve to mention his other options, I had to get off the phone with him.
Today he text me (which made him look even lamer), “did I say something wrong yesterday”. I replied, (in a text) I’m glad you felt the need to share with me you have other options, but I’m no longer an option. I hope for the best if you decide to committ to her. Better her than me. Take care!

Men I don’t understand the aroggance.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

March 9th, 2011
3:18 pm

Dang ya’ll done went from how much to spend to diving for the chocolate surprise. lol

Leggs

March 9th, 2011
3:20 pm

@Blackfoot ~ no kissing afterwards. When we finished, I gave him mouthwash and a brand new toothbrush.

“Women do it too but they want to kiss when finished I play like I’m sleep” Goodness, you fall asleep that fast that after she comes up from there, you’re acting like you’re sleeping. Shameful! :lol:

Blackfoote

March 9th, 2011
3:23 pm

LOL………@Leggs