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Dating dilemma: What if they have a mean streak?

Everyone knows that the first 90 days is the honeymoon phase in dating.  You don’t usually meet the “real” person until you’ve seen them in different environments and/or handling a variety of circumstances.  What happens when you are seeing someone new and you see their nasty side  (read: Not the good kind. The Ms. Jackson, If you’re ‘nasty’ kind)?

Obviously, you don’t want to dump someone for having a normal, human emotion, do you? Would it bother you if someone you were seeing revealed a pretty mean streak? What do you do when you have seen them react to something in a way that doesn’t really sit well with you?

What are you willing to overlook and what classifies as a deal-breaking mean streak?

Have you ever been on a date and the person had a seemingly random outburst of anger or mean behavior?

Happy Monday! I hope you all enjoyed that beautiful weather this weekend!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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DMV

February 28th, 2011
8:23 am

While emotions are fine and today we have to be able to express your “sensitive” side, according to the new socialogical standard, I was always taught that it was very unmanly to lose control and go off on an uncontrolled rant. You can be firm and put an exclamation point on something without showing your a$$ and being counterproductive. This would also apply to the other gender, as well.

SugarHillDawg

February 28th, 2011
8:26 am

In this day and age when metrosexuals are depicted in EVERY commercial where “men” are involved and the total immasculation of the American male, you would think that a “mean streak” would be welcome in this day and age but I guess I would be wrong huh? Well I guess I’ll just take my club and go back to my cave.

Tim

February 28th, 2011
8:49 am

If’n she’s mean, I let Cletus date her. He likes that.

Eldridge

February 28th, 2011
8:55 am

I’ve about had it with mean women, but I’m learning to filter them out. Here’s what to watch for.

1. Self centered.
2. No sense of humor.
3. Insecure.
4. No life aside from work and gossip about work.
5. Expect to be entertained at all times.
6. Easily bored.
7. Materialistic.
8. Hyper critical.
9. Constantly making comparisons.
10. Vain
11. Controlling
12. Shoes are too tight.

If your date fits three of more of the above, she’s likely to have a mean streak.

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
9:03 am

Good morning. I definitely enjoyed the beautiful weather.

There really is no need to be mean on a date. If things are a little haywire, communicate the problem in a rationale manner. If this doesn’t work, end the evening and part ways. But, I don’t understand those who go out on a date knowing they’re in a foul mood. It’s best to simply ask for a raincheck.

mark

February 28th, 2011
9:04 am

i had a lady totaly flip out on a server at dinner . on our first date is like WTF! heifer you crazy!

David

February 28th, 2011
9:07 am

Women can be just as mean as men can be and neither gender can own up to it. Women that constantly tell the men what they are doing too much of, not doing enough of, comparing their SO to “Lisa’s man”, never having a positive thing to say about anything, or getting their feelings hurt every time the wind changes direction. Women critcize men, but to criticize a woman is bound to get you a trip to the Arctic Circle indefinately.Sometimes I think if men reacted to women in the way women react to men, there would be a third world war and it wouldn’t be the political differences that started it.

Nestor

February 28th, 2011
9:11 am

Do not to confuse hedonism with malice when she bites the head off a kitten.

Heifer Eater

February 28th, 2011
9:12 am

My g/f is obviously going through menapause, because her mood swings, temper and just complaining about everything under the sun has hit an all time high the past seven months. Even mentioning “Why in the world is this bothing you so much?” is just the lead in to yet a new argument. Might be time to cash in on my lease and get a new model…

Dan - Simply....Superior

February 28th, 2011
9:13 am

Mean is relative.

What I tend to look at is how people treat service workers. Do you leave a mess, are you rude (to the people bringing you your food nonetheless), do you treat the lady cleaning the bathroom with respect?

These interactions tell me so much more about a person than anything she could say otherwise. In part, because having served in those capacities, it hurts to see just how badly some people treat you.

So yeah, mean to me could be a symptom of a bad day; but showing no respect to strangers means I might not need to be talking to you.

‘Morning

Heart&Soul

February 28th, 2011
9:13 am

Good Morning!!

If someone is easily rattled about EVERYTHING then they aren’t in control of their emotions. It’s obvious an underlying sign of what to expect in any other dates ahead….If the quiet voice within you is not telling you to KIM or the red neon DANGER sign isn’t illuminating in their eyes then consider yourself prone to such behavior! Going from being calm into a rage that is faster than a speeding bullet will urge me to gracefully make an exit.

I’d rather have a peace of mind than to rationalize with a neurotic individual whose richter scale is off the charts….there is no prediction of when their earthquake will occur!

MC Hammock

February 28th, 2011
9:21 am

G’mornin all!

Julie

February 28th, 2011
9:27 am

Here’s what I watch for when dating men to filter them out:

1) They don’t like animals.
2) They don’t like children. (I don’t have any, nor am I interested in having any.)
3) They’re possessive.
4) They like porn.
5) They don’t pay their child support, if they have children.
6) Fall in love by the third date.
7) Play one-up-manship.
8) Your opinion doesn’t matter, but theirs does.
9) Belittles others.

6)

Sebastian

February 28th, 2011
9:28 am

Morning to you all. I got married in fall-ish time of year and around Christmas my wife showed me her evil side. I’m not trying to air my laundry but I had never seen that side and in that situation I could only WOO-SAH!!!!

MC Hammock

February 28th, 2011
9:36 am

Julie wants a man that doesn’t like porn? I can understand being addicted to it….but doesn’t like it? Man, you’re whittling down the selection pool…lol. OK, I’m making a funny here….put the frying pans down….

Julie

February 28th, 2011
9:38 am

10) Men who make sexist comments.

kimmie

February 28th, 2011
9:39 am

Morning Gang!

Dan, I like your post and agree with it so I am going to cosign it. It reminds me of what my mom used to tell me, about treating EVERYONE no matter their position or station in life, with respect and kindness.

Looks like a lot of trolls are in here today so I’ll lurk for awhile.

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
9:41 am

Agree with Dan 100%. The real person will always be demonstrated by how he/she treats others when she does not HAVE to be nice. Cop and attitude with servers, cashiers, bagboys, etc., and I don’t care if you can do the golf ball thru a water hose thing…you’re out of here.

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
9:49 am

…continued. I guess I should expand by saying that Kimmie hits it on the head…treating others with respect. I might let it slide once or twice if the person on the other end has been rude, but if it is a pattern that suggests that the lady thinks it is all about her, then I’d rather be home with a beer and a good book.

A lady I knew, had a banner running across her computer screen. It said “Being alone is much better than being wioth the wrong person”. I agree.

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
9:50 am

How do I make so many typos and don’t catch them…sorry.

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
9:54 am

I get the point about the treatment of service people. However, common sense would dictate that politeness and a measure of respect for the person that is handling your food is a no brainer.

So, if I see a person mistreating a server in a restaurant, I am going to immediately question their level of intelligence.

kimmie

February 28th, 2011
10:04 am

SCool – That same thought occurred to me.

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
10:05 am

If you’re nice to everyone you encounter you don’t have to worry about being selective. Just be cordial and respectful.

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
10:06 am

Very good point, Leggs.

Dan - Simply....Superior

February 28th, 2011
10:11 am

@SC

You’d be surprised at how often people don’t practice common sense in that situation.

Talking on the phone while ordering, acting as if the person is interrupting them by asking for their order, just all manner of foolishness.

I think back to sliding burgers across the kitchen floor behind some rude arse people and put the phone/text/newpaper/etc. down..

MC Hammock

February 28th, 2011
10:12 am

I’va always thought that if you use “Please”, “Thank you”, “You’re welcome” and “Please excuse me”, those are building blocks for a decent person. But then again, I’m from south georgia and my mother would have put boot to behind if I didn’t use those phrases every day. She and my Dad were REAL big on manners….and they still are. If you don’t use manners, that’s a sign of poor breeding….lol

TenderRoni

February 28th, 2011
10:17 am

@Eldridge, the same can be said about men, with slight variations. Haha
1. Self centered.
2. No sense of humor sarcastic
3. Insecure.
4. No life aside from work and gossip about work sports
5. Expect to be entertained at all times sex without a commitment
6. Easily bored complacent
7. Materialistic Cheap
8. Hyper critical.
9. Constantly making comparisons.
10. Vain
11. Controlling
12. Shoes are too tight Has given up on losing the belly fat

Patches

February 28th, 2011
10:18 am

White Men beat their women 8 times the rate of black men. In fact, the top 2 killers of young white women in America are AIDS, and Femicide *murder.

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
10:20 am

I will admit I have a mean streak. But you have to really push me to it. Granted I can be pessimistic and dismal…but I am a really nice person. Sometimes too nice where my kindness gets mistaken for weakness. Then that other side comes out that guys claim they never knew I had. Hell, I tell you up front that I am the “Sweetest b*tch you’ll ever know”! :lol:

I recently started dealing with this guy and usually I run straight for the hills when a man says he’s a Gemini. Now don’t get me wrong…I am not one of those astro-nuts who consults the stars on everything. But every Gemini man if friggin’ nuts! They are more moody that a pregnant or menopausal woman. I wonder is there an astro-bipolarness (yeah I made that word up) in them. Well he caught a ‘tude with me beacuse I reminded him I am celibate when he started suggesting that I stay over, etc. Now this was all via text. Sometimes it’s a curse and bleesing because you can say go back and read what you said jerk0ff! Well anyway that was on Wednesday and we were supposed to see each other on Friday. I heard nothign from him so I just assumed we had nothing else to say to each other. Well Saturday I get a text asking me what’s up and I say I am getting dressed to go out. He said that he thought we where seeing each other. I kindly reminded him of his b*tch-a-tude and that I will not stand for it. He said he was over it. I was ok….and left it alone. I refuse to deal with ‘tudes of a grown man. And sense I am seeing this now…it’s my red flag. So it may be harsh but I think I am done with dude. It’s only been a month and half. I don’t want to waste time only to find out I should have taken my exit stage left a long time ago!

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 28th, 2011
10:20 am

Morning
I hope everyone enjoyed the weekend.

On topic: I’m an easy-going guy, so I like someone who is also easy to get along with.

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
10:21 am

Hot dayum TENDERONI….your 10:17 is on point! :lol:

TenderRoni

February 28th, 2011
10:25 am

@BMW,thanks..I had to do it, I couldn’t let him get away with his post without representing the other side!

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
10:26 am

@MC H ~ that’s exactly how I feel. Manners are very, very important to me, and when I come across someone who doesn’t use them I cringe (esp. with children).

Damn BMW ~ to get an attitude becuase you’re celibate and stated such upfront is a punk move. Much like what some women do. Once I get him I can change him. He probably thought he could manipulate your emotions into dropping the drawers. I was invited over this weekend for a few glasses of wine to share in something he was celebrating. I declined simply because I didn’t feel like being around an octupus after a few drinks. Know your limits and you won’t get stung or punched!

For Real

February 28th, 2011
10:26 am

Why all the hate for Gemini’s?

kimmie

February 28th, 2011
10:27 am

Dreams – Same with me – I don’t deal with moody well because I’m not. Heck, I don’t even like going out with friends that complain & stress over everything too much.

Yes, if I get a glimpse that a guy has a mean streak that he can’t seem to keep under control, that’s a sign I take very seriously. All women should. And some guys think that “mean” woman is sexy, spicy. They ignore the signs or think that mess is cute. It’s not, and it gets very old down the line, so think long and hard about dealing with someone like that.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
10:31 am

All comments are good but we live in a world where some will be vile and mean spirited because it’s who they are. Common sense and politeness isn’t a given and you can see that on your own when you’re driving to work on any given day. I will put a lid on people with Eldridge’s 1,2,10, and 11 for both sexes.

It’s Monday and It’s Good:

Fion

February 28th, 2011
10:31 am

“What do you do when you have seen them react to something in a way that doesn’t really sit well with you?”

Look, let’s face it team, there are some sociologically and emotionally bruised folks out here. Those bruises manifest themselves in a multiplicity of ways. Angry behavior, selfishness, detachment and the like.
Man, all I can say is this, when that stuff shows up stick around for the second Act at your own peril.
It’s kinda like that Hwy. sign that says, “ Bridge out ahead 500ft.”

For Real

February 28th, 2011
10:31 am

On topic: I don’t associate with people that will not control their emotions. For the record everyone has a mean streak and it ain’t cute period. You control your emotions and I will control my emotions. No excuses for you and no excuses for me.

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
10:35 am

Yeah…no…I don’t do mean dudes. Because dealing with the ups and downs of a relationship and its inevitable disagreements are trying enough without having to be faced with someone who has the capacity to be mean, spiteful and say hateful things intended to injure me.

I realize that unintentional injury sometimes occurs in relationships. A person can do or say something that hurts when that was not their INTENT. But if you willingly strike out at me with the INTENT to hurt my feelings, make me angry, make me cry or harm me in any manner….then you are not the person that I need in my life.

For Real

February 28th, 2011
10:36 am

And why is so hard for people to be nice. I mean how hard is it to say please, thank you or excuse me? I believe the “I deserve” mentality has ruined this country.

Youwantsome?

February 28th, 2011
10:38 am

I am mean yes, but only because my dude makes me that way!!! He is a total slob! Doesn’t pick up after himself, scratches his booty in my presence and wants to cook dinner, can’t afford a simple engagement ring, and he wants loving all the time. I just can’t help but, to yell at him. Have told him many times I want to be single but, he is not getting the point. Our apartment lease is up soon and I am moving to a 1 bedroom. Maybe he will get the hint then. Men… Hmmph!!! In any other situation I am a sweet loving person…

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
10:40 am

YWS – Sounds like your dude is trying to make you break up with him…..and succeeding….and probably thankful.

Youwantsome?

February 28th, 2011
10:41 am

No, he wants to marry me and talks about our future everyday. I have given him lots of outs but, he doesn’t want to take them.

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
10:48 am

He doesn’t want to take them because he knows he’s not going to find another woman to deal with his BS. If he can’t afford an engagement ring, may mean his finances aren’t in order or he doesn’t have the greatest paying job on top of everything else he has to do with his funds. He knows you’ve been tolerant of his behavior because you’re still with him. If you really want out, you’ll get out without yelling at him like he’s a child.

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
10:50 am

Yeah…I can see how being yelled at really makes a man want to get married.

Youwantsome?

February 28th, 2011
10:51 am

You are right Leggs. Instead of yelling I should start packing. You are also right about putting up with his BS. No other woman would do it….

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
10:51 am

” I declined simply because I didn’t feel like being around an octupus after a few drinks. ”

LEGGS…I can NOT stand Mr. Gropy Hands, drunk or sober. Dudes act as if personal space limits do not include them. That is the right path to being cut or tazered man! Don’t *&%$ with me! :lol:
But yeah I guess he thought he could talk me out of my knickers. The joke was on him. :lol:

YOUWANTSOME…dayum girl…wooosaaaa! :lol: Yeah he sounds like a prince (insert sarcasm here)! :lol:

MC Hammock

February 28th, 2011
10:51 am

I think that the way society is and it’s “entitlement” attitude sums it up best in the “It’s all about me”. You do have to look out for yourself, but if you take it to the extreme, you will be the ONLY person looking out for you whether you planned it that way or not. Don’t be surprised if you wind up a loneley man/woman and you’ll only have yourself to blame. It doesn’t cost anything to be nice and others will notice and reply back in kind. If they don’t then you’ve just had your encounter with the “It’s all about me” person.

SlimNumeroUno

February 28th, 2011
10:54 am

For Real – Who said summin bout us Geminis? :roll:

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
10:55 am

Any man who scratches himself in the kitchen and tries to cook needs to live alone in a cave.

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
10:56 am

Morning,

I see things are rolling…

Real quick – No meanies here. Other disqualifiers are dudes that are on the extreme other end of the spectrum. IMO, that in and of itself will cause too much conflict.

Well can’t blog today. My new manager just arrived. She’s taking five minutes to get set up in an empty office. She looks every bit of 10 years old…lol I kid. She’s REALLY young. Anyway, I’m not feeling hanging out with the boss for 2 days but hey you do whatcha gotta :)

For Real

February 28th, 2011
10:57 am

I’m calling BS on YWS’s post. Again, the “I deserve” and the “It ain’t my fault ever” mentality rears its head.

Dan - Simply....Superior

February 28th, 2011
11:02 am

@For Real

And the “he can’t afford a decent engagement ring” is more of that “fantasy” vs “reality” right there.

If you want to marry him, or him you, he’d put down what he felt comfortable with and you’d take it. Why worry about the engagement ring when y’all have to provide for the rest of life?

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
11:04 am

I wouldn’t really call BS on YWS post but I will say if being there makes you that unhappy and everything is at a point where he’s irked the bejesus out of you…it’s time to go

Youwantsome?

February 28th, 2011
11:04 am

LOL@Blackfoote
@ForReal why you calling BS? I deserve a good man… I am a good person… What’s BS about it? I have put up with his crap for 2 years. Now I am tired and ready to move on. No BS about it. When I yell at him he yell right back. It’s not like he takes it… I do take blame for staying with him for so long and moving in with him. Big mistake but, we all learn from our mistakes… Well hopefully.

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
11:06 am

Heck I’ve been told the pawn shops have very nice rings! If he really wants to marry you he would make it happen. Much like dating. If you want to see and be with this person there are no barriers! Have you come out and told him you don’t want to marry him? Or, did you say you would consider if A, B and C were taken care of. Because if that’s the case, he’ll take care of your stipulations only to go right back to being that person after you said “I DO!”

For Real

February 28th, 2011
11:06 am

Leggs: You took her side and called what she described as BS without knowing the other side. What if she has OCD? In addition, what about her finances? She doesn’t have enough money to break a lease? And your last sentence should read like this: “If you really want out, you’ll get out without yelling at him like a child.” -

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
11:07 am

In my opinion, there is no reason to ever yell at anybody for any reason….unless they are hard of hearing.

I can say what needs to be said in a calm and rational manner without raising my voice.

Youwantsome?

February 28th, 2011
11:09 am

I ain’t asking for a 11k ring. The ring I liked is 1600. I have come down from a 4k ring to a 1600K ring. I ain’t coming down further. I did tell him if he did A, B, and C then I would marry him. I said we could be engaged until he cleans his act up. I am now finding out that people don’t change so I am ready to cut my losses and move on. I have just noticed that I have turned mean in the last 6 months and I don’t like it.

For Real

February 28th, 2011
11:12 am

“I deserve a good man” – Why? What have you done to earn a good man? The world don’t owe you one single thing. Get what you earn.

“I have put up with his crap for 2 years.” – Said as if you are devoid of crap.

“Now I am tired and ready to move on.” – Means he didn’t marry you when you wanted him to marry you.

“I do take blame for staying with him for so long and moving in with him.” – So you knew exactly what you were getting into when you moved into HIS PLACE but for some reason now don’t like it but you loved it 2yrs ago.

That’s why I called BS.

Youwantsome?

February 28th, 2011
11:14 am

@ForReal Ok I have OCD… I enjoy sitting my booty on a clean toilet and not seeing roaches everywhere… My finances are ok but, I am not buying the ring and we can break the lease without paying since our place would rent out fast. And I feel more like his mother than a child when I yell at him. Don’t do this Don’t do that…. So it’s not BS…

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
11:15 am

No one can make you mean but yourself. We all have free will and free choice. If I get mad because of something someone else says or does or does not do, then he/she may be a jerk but it is not in their power to make me mad, that has to come from me. It is not them making me mad, it is me ALLOWING THEM TO INFLUENCE MY EMOTIONS.

I will not blame someone else for my emotions. If they are stupid or abusive or irresponsible, then that is what the door was invented for…and one of us better use it.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
11:16 am

YWS:

Good for you lady cut your losses, cause what you described of him his act aint clean. Course you’ve given one side too.

Youwantsome?

February 28th, 2011
11:17 am

@Forreal we didn’t move into HIS place. We got a place TOGETHER….. ohhh I feel like yelling now…

For Real

February 28th, 2011
11:17 am

“I ain’t asking for a 11k ring. The ring I liked is 1600. I have come down from a 4k ring to a 1600K ring. I ain’t coming down further.” – Am I to assume that the two of you are paying the bills 50/50? Who is going to pay for the wedding your parents? Also, I was under the impression that the man picks the engagement ring that he wants to give. Your demand for an engagement ring screams red flag to me. You don’t want him you want the ring and the title.

Fion

February 28th, 2011
11:18 am

Side Bar:
Hey fellas, just an observation. Isn’t it amazing. The crazier a chick is the better the cooch!
Think back, ( we all have 2, 3, 10 crazy ones back there) I defy any of you to say it wasn’t mind numbing !
Now if we could just some how get the ‘Vulcan Mind Melt” on the
rest of the sane female population!

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
11:19 am

@ForReal ~ sorry, but I didn’t take her side. I called BS on what I consider to be BS. A grown man throwing his clothes around. That’s BS to ME! Although I realize you love to correct me, my last sentence was written the way I wanted to write it.

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
11:22 am

@ YWS My curiosity is if the dude is such a loser, why have you stayed and what keeps you from leaving? I don’t mean that critically, honestly…just having a hard time understanding why anyone would entertain marriage to someone who pushes their buttons in so many different ways.

I’ve been single again for eleven years now, and have learned how to be my own best friend just for this very reason…so I can walk away.

MC Hammock

February 28th, 2011
11:23 am

Youwantsome? Uh….hell no. Begone with yourself……

Heart&Soul

February 28th, 2011
11:23 am

SC~I agree with your 10:35am post

Anyone who intentionally inflicts mental venom upon another will get the boot with a quickness! It’s intolerable and enough to make the most polite person unravel and show their “other side”.

For Real~ We all have a level of tolerance and when I feel that button being pushed…Lawd I digress! Keeping it under control is my motto for self so I feel ya.

@YWS~ Accepting subpar behavior will not bring happiness especially if it surpasses your standards.

For Real

February 28th, 2011
11:23 am

Leggs: “A grown man throwing his clothes around.” – She didn’t write that you assumed he was throwing his clothes around. She said he doesn’t pickup after himself. And for the record yelling and screaming to get your way is childish.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
11:24 am

Leggs:

There aint nothing but NYC in you…….LOL

Lurking

February 28th, 2011
11:26 am

OK. Judging by the comments/suggestions to YWS, I don’t know if its safe to post my comment on this blog or move along. Anyhow, I met what I assumed was great guy, until he went off the deep end over something trivial. Now I’m torn because I really cared about this individual. Should I brush his flare-up under the rug – hoping it won’t happen again- or take this as a sign for me to run?!/

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
11:26 am

Ok, ForReal, my mistake. I thought she wrote that. I guess I inferred too much because I have an issue with people who don’t pick up behind themselves. If the doesn’t pick up after himself I would imagine a pile would be created if she didn’t go behind him and pick up HIS stuff. On that note, I stand corrected. And, yes, that’s one way of being childish. Seems like both of them are being childish…anything else?

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
11:28 am

@Blackfoote ~ too funny!

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 28th, 2011
11:28 am

Ok YWS sounds like the other chick who comes on here from time to time, GreenEyes or something like that. Man’s a slob, overweight, no job, blah blah blah. Is this the same person trying to get attention?

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
11:34 am

What happened to my post?

For Real

February 28th, 2011
11:34 am

Leggs: “anything else?” – No you may step down.

“I met what I assumed was great guy” – That doesn’t make any sense. Unless your context for “met” was simply an introduction but if you dated and spent time with this guy you should know if he is a great guy and there should be no need for assumptions.

“until he went off the deep end over something trivial” – You don’t have the right to minimize what’s important to another person.

“or take this as a sign for me to run” – You did not mention what the blow-up was about. Maybe if you care about ole boy as you stated, then you should try to understand why he blew up first before cutting and running.

kimmie

February 28th, 2011
11:34 am

Dreams – That blogger you describe sometimes goes by Thirdwheel. Yes, it’s about ripe for her to resurface!LOL!!

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
11:36 am

Lurking – have you considered discussing the issue with your person? Perhaps there was a miscommunication or there may be some underlying something there. It makes sense to talk about it. Where so many of us go wrong in relationships (and life, period) is that we attempt to sweep issues under the rug that should be brought out into the open.

Besides, sweeping sht under the rug just leaves with a dirty, lumpy rug that smells like sht.

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
11:39 am

What am I saying that’s getting my blog censored?

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
11:39 am

post..not blog

For Real

February 28th, 2011
11:44 am

Celisea are you blogging topless again?

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
11:49 am

Good Morning/Afternoon

A person reacting in anger or frustration does not make them mean. To me mean is being hateful and spiteful for no good reason. Mean is just doing and saying hurtful things and even worse when it’s the only you know how to deal with unfavorable situations or matters.

A person that says horrible hurtful statements to people is someone that really has emotional issues. Something is lacking and hurting others is how they make themselves feel better or superior.

Being stubborn and unmovable is also a form of being mean. Just refusing to do because you are just a horrible nasty person, that’s mean.

I don’t like being in the company of mean people. They are such a drag.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
11:49 am

For Real:

again……WTH

Damn it I missed that day.

Dan - Simply....Superior

February 28th, 2011
11:54 am

@YWS

Here’s the test for marriage (IMO): if you both can agree that “you” and “me” will become us, put some skin in the game; i.e. put in on the ring.

Tradition be darned (before y’all get to “what the man is supposed to do”), becuase beyond clubbing you over the head, presenting you with head of a animal, times have changed. And for you to ask this man to go into debt (in these economic times) becuase you can’t/won’t think on the longer timeline of y’alls like together is (again, my opinion) really rather childish.

If you are opposed to putting in on it, then take what he gives you in anticipation of better economic conditions in the future.

Yeah, the D don’t do debt for “shiny isht”.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
11:54 am

Leggs:

I’m in tears with laughter……you remind me of my cousins in Bronx they are women that will not back down for anything. Sweetest ladies you’d want to meet but aint taking nothing from nobody.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
11:54 am

Sweetest b*tch you’ll ever know

That’s funny.

Heart&Soul

February 28th, 2011
11:54 am

@ Lurking~ If it is something that would be hazardous to your health then perhaps you need to move on especially if you see a pattern! Make no room for complacency….maybe be a storm brewing BUT it really depends on what it is.

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
11:55 am

@ForReal ~ can’t step down. I stood my ground standing in front of you!

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
11:57 am

Dang, Blackfoote! Just saw your post. I guess I added to your belief. :lol: :lol:

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 28th, 2011
12:00 pm

Should I brush his flare-up under the rug – hoping it won’t happen again- or take this as a sign for me to run?!/
Lurking Brushing shyyyyt under the rug doesn’t get rid of it; just hides the dirt a lil while longer. Deal with it now and decide what you wanna do.

Dreams – That blogger you describe sometimes goes by Thirdwheel. Yes, it’s about ripe for her to resurface!LOL!!
kimmie that’s the one.

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
12:07 pm

LEGGS…I am with you. I am not picking up after a grown a$$ man! I will not deal with nastiness. Yes I am a bit OCD…but if I go to your house and I feel like something is crawlling on me (even though it’s not) but your filth can give off the illusion of critter…I am not meessing with you! Besides…I feel if you keep where you lay your head nasty…that is how you keep your body! EWWWWWW…crusty nuts! :sick: :lol:

YWS…sounds like you jus lost that lovin’ feelin’. No matter what this man does, the love, respect and lust for him is gone like Naomi Campbell’s edges! Cut your losses (your time) and move on. If you start yelling at each other…..let go!

LURKING…heed your red flags. We get blinded but, like/lust/love and start making excuses for why this person nehaved this way. Then years down the line you want to act shocked when they flip out! Really???? Bipolar Bobby was himself from the start. But you allowed it by staying. Trust me I have learned to know when to run from bad situations. It’s not fool-proof. But living is learning.

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
12:11 pm

OMG, OMG, OMG, no you didn’t say “crusty nuts!” In your own words…flatlined___________________

For Real

February 28th, 2011
12:13 pm

Would having a disorder be a turn-off?

Dan - Simply....Superior

February 28th, 2011
12:13 pm

@BMW

Question: have you ever hung bra’s, nighties, pantyhose or any other “delicates” on the shower curtain to dry? Especially if you were expecting “company”?

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
12:14 pm

But, BMW, what about the fact that it is rumored that Mrs. Hell-to-da-Naw herself had a drug problem from jump?

For Real

February 28th, 2011
12:15 pm

Or should I say, do you consider a disorder to be a red flag?

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 28th, 2011
12:24 pm

C — Your post is probably being filtered because you are using a perfectly innocuous English word that just happens to contain a string of letters which, by themselves, would constitute a Spanish naughty word. Some examples: “ridicu-lous”, “repu-tation”, etc. It’s all part of the ajc’s never-ending quest to protect the delicate, virgin eyes of its readers (including the Spanish-speaking readers) from encountering such scary words. But feel free to post all the racist, sexist, and generally inflammatory remarks you want — those are perfectly acceptable. :lol:

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
12:25 pm

Dan, that’s an odd question. LOL

Have you ever had a woman stay overnight and hung her delicates in your bathroom to dry after washing?

cba

February 28th, 2011
12:26 pm

random: damn, they have 14 freaking pages before noon on the blog discussing “white-male only scholarship”. Only needed to read one or two…….not feeling all the ignorant, hate filled people today.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
12:27 pm

I find it rather bewildering at some of the everyday stuff that people get so turned off by.

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
12:28 pm

DAN….I hang my undryables in my washer/dryer closet. So nobody sees them. In my NY apartment where I did not have that luxury, I made sure not to hang those when company was coming over.

SCOOL….yes she did…but they married anyway! See where that led! :lol:

FOR REAL…it depends on the disorder. I have one…sleep walking disorder! Oh I lied, I have two. The other one is Lack-of-patience-for-delaing-with BS-itis! :lol:

Lurking

February 28th, 2011
12:36 pm

For real, I just asked him a simple question, and he started ranting and raving about questioning him, why he doesn’t have to lie to me, how all these worthless men are making it hard for real men to be honest in their relationship, not be taken for granted, etc…Why do we always run to the ones that mistreat us, and leave the one that really cares about our well being or has our best interest at heart?

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
12:37 pm

Lurking – in that case, run. Fast.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
12:41 pm

Lurking, is that all? Had you asked him anything else in the same line of questioning early or before?

For Real

February 28th, 2011
12:45 pm

What was the simple question?

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
12:45 pm

I can distinctly remember the first time Shthead went off when I simply asked this question:

“So, what do you plan on doing with your day off?”

With his reaction, you would think that I had opened up a grand jury investigation, an inquisition, or something. I would later come to realize as the beginning of him conditioning me to NOT ask him about his activities when he was away from me. Besides, if I didn’t ask him where he was going or what he was doing, then he wasn’t lying to me about then, was he?

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
12:47 pm

LOL SexyCool. That was guilt.

OooWeeE!!!

February 28th, 2011
12:47 pm

There are alot of angry women in the world for some odd reason these days, you have the house, job, car and dream life now take a deep breath and relax a little, please.

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
12:53 pm

I know a man just like that SexyC. I’ve since learned he is a hypocrite, a liar and a cheat. He cannot stand someone to lie to him, and got in his daughter’s behind when she lied to him. He lies through his teeth. It’s reverse psychology. He wants you to believe and feel with every fiber of your being that since he abhors lying, you wouldn’t think he would lie…yeah right!

Dan - Simply....Superior

February 28th, 2011
12:54 pm

@Raqi

Overnight (te, as in one) – no.

Overnights (se’, as in more than one) – yes; which is why I asked.

Simple Man!!!!

February 28th, 2011
12:54 pm

Afternoon Peeps….

Quick check in…..Ok Comment of the day:

BMW and The Crusty Nuts…( Sounds like a Spielburg Movie)

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
12:54 pm

When a person becomes defensive at the simplest questions or statements (where are you going? how was your day?) there is something not so innocent going on.

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
1:00 pm

For Real – Celisea are you blogging topless again?

No secret is safe around here

Blackfoote – again……WTH Damn it I missed that day.

Yeah you did :)

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
1:02 pm

Swiss – But feel free to post all the racist, sexist, and generally inflammatory remarks you want — those are perfectly acceptable.

The word was solic!tation

Lurking

February 28th, 2011
1:02 pm

How are we going to get to know one another if I can’t ask you anything, even if I do ask you the same thing twice…I’m trying to see if you’re going to change your response…Lol

As for the question, I’m going to uses this scenario just in case he’s lurking as well (you never know) I was being sarcastic when I asked if he had slept with his colleague since they weren’t getting along. He told me he didn’t want to discuss it since we had just shared an intimate experience, had breakfast in bed, watched movies, and spoke to his family on the phone. Either way, I made joke about it and he freaked out….literally. Went into a spill about his hatred toward this individually, he wish I would have left it alone, and we could’ve discussed it at another time. Told how someone tried to rob him and shot him outside his home, and the said person told the police that they wish it had been a fatal shooting, etc.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:02 pm

Dan, I had not really thought about it until just this moment. I am feeling some kind of way right now wondering how my delicates are being treated. LOL

Are they being stuffed into a hot air machine along with jeans or towels? Or are they being delicately handled as the delicates that they are? LOL

No urgent concern seriously but now you have me wondering.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:08 pm

I’m trying to see if you’re going to change your response…Lol

That can be borderline annoying and irritating when you are aware why someone is asking you the same question over and over.

What makes you think he could possibly be lurking? Just the mere changing of one fact can completely alter a situation. How close is that scenario to the real issue?

Dan - Simply....Superior

February 28th, 2011
1:08 pm

@Raqi

My point is, I may not need to see or know about your delicates once their on and then off if that all I want to know. The cleaning, maintenance, and all is your department, until….

Likewise, you may never know that I leave my draws, socks, etc. on the flo, until….

I marvel watching folks “I won’t do this/that/the other” for someone that they’re in a relationship with, when in fact, it’s the little isht that annoys.you.to.death that’s the “secret spice” of the jawn.

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
1:10 pm

Lurking – that example was rather specific and IF he’s lurking, he’s going to know you are definitely talking about him.

And it seems like, TO ME, dude threw up a whole lot of smoke and put up some mirrors for something that you say that you were only joking about.

Lurking

February 28th, 2011
1:11 pm

I really like him and I want to give us a chance, but I doubt we can go any further. I know he was probably hurt by their comments, but that doesn’t excuse his behavior or give him the right to lash out. Why can’t we leave the baggage at the door (past hurt or experiences, issues at work, problems with the car, kids, pets, etc.) and just enjoy the moment?!?

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:11 pm

Likewise, you may never know that I leave my draws, socks, etc. on the flo, until….

Dan, yeah. Those days spent doing pretty much nothing at each other’s place usually reveals such. LOL Most have our guards done during those times.

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
1:12 pm

SIMPLE MAN…thank you…thank you! Well I did win the Quote of the year for 2010! So I must aim to hold onto my title! :lol:

LURKING…why am I hearing the soundtrack from “Psycho” playing as I read your post? :shock: This dude sounds a burger and fries short of a Happy Meal!

SCOOL…I am with Raqi…he was guilty of doing dirt and was getting offensive.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:12 pm

guards down, I meant.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:13 pm

SexyCool, that’s why I am wondering how close is the scenario to the real happening. Asking about if I slept with someone is not the same as asking did I turned them in for stealing office supplies.

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
1:13 pm

Dan…so, you’ve been at babygirl’s house for night(S)plural and she hung up her undies to air dry…and that’s a problem?!?!? Really?!?!?

At least you know she washes them. (lol)
But seriously, this goes back to what I was talking about the other day, about when you’re *just* dating and not spending day(S) and night(S)plural with someone, then you can put off chores and errands and the like.

But when you are with someone day in and day out, when the heck do you think the draws are going to get washed if not while you’re there?

Wise Diva

February 28th, 2011
1:14 pm

You can’t always tell from their every day demeanor, either. I remember a quiet and laid back guy nearly made me jump out of my skin when he lost it with a relative he was arguing with one day. I was like ummm have WE met???

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:14 pm

Lurking, were you two talking about that person at the time or did you just bring it up out of the blue?

Wise Diva

February 28th, 2011
1:15 pm

oh! and please refrain from making comments filled with racial stereotypes, it’s not welcome, nor is it necessary to discussions on here. Thank you :)

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
1:16 pm

“I was like ummm have WE met???”

WISE…did you pack up like the band did in “The Color Purple” when Squeak called Sophia a big ole heffa in tje juke joint? :lol:

Simple Man!!!!

February 28th, 2011
1:16 pm

So Lurking….Did you ever find out how long your guy has been rabbit dancing with his co-worker????

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
1:17 pm

“Time to go.”

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:17 pm

SexyCool, exactly on that 1:13. People being turned off by everyday living really does baffle me.

Dan - Simply....Superior

February 28th, 2011
1:19 pm

@SC/Raqi

That’s my point.

Those days and nights together get to the “draws on the floor” or even “period panties” (which the first time I heard about them, I cried a little; first time I seen ‘em, I cried a little more)

Dirty draws on the floor, bras on the shower, are annoying but, in the long run, minor irritations.

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
1:20 pm

(which the first time I heard about them, I cried a little; first time I seen ‘em, I cried a little more)

LMAO – you’re a nut.

Lurking

February 28th, 2011
1:20 pm

OK, I guess the cat is already out of the bag. As it turns out, the individual was his 60-year-old neighbor, whom is going out of her way to make his life miserable, and he said that they had another faceoff the day before we had our discussion. I didn’t know that it was still fresh and brewing…do men have problems expressing themselves? Is it OK for them to cry? Do they have people to confide in, not just their partners them (lol) but real men???

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
1:21 pm

Black:

Come south you wont be celibate for long………I’m joking had to say that to stir you up we have plenty of “losers” here as well……LOL

Simple Man!!!!

February 28th, 2011
1:22 pm

So Lurking……How long has your guy been doing that old lady?????

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
1:23 pm

BLACKFOOTE…I lived in Atlanta. I just recently came back home to NYC. I have met so many losers there! Hell they are the reason for my celibate status.

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
1:24 pm

How old is your dude? Is the neighbor a “young 60″? (lol)

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:28 pm

LMBO Dan.

Lurking, he may just be a nut job but to his defense, I have been gravely irritated by something and when someone chooses to make light of it it irritates me that much more.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
1:30 pm

LOL…..@Black…….I Love New Yorkers

Lurking

February 28th, 2011
1:31 pm

He is 35, and his actions really scared me. I don’t want to deal with that mean streak in future, esp if he accused me of cheating or found out I had a side piece…I’m going to cut my losses and move on. It’s not worth it….

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
1:33 pm

“Dirty draws on the floor, bras on the shower, are annoying but, in the long run, minor irritations.” Did I miss something? Are you visiting or are you living together. Either way, it shouldn’t be annoying unless you want to build her a special place to hang her intimates.

Bet you didn’t think of them as being dirty while you were trying to pull them off her.

Simple Man!!!!

February 28th, 2011
1:33 pm

Lurking,

“I don’t want to deal with that mean streak in future, esp if he accused me of cheating or found out I had a side piece…”

So he is wrasslin’ with that old lady….

Lurking

February 28th, 2011
1:35 pm

And for the record, he was on life support after the shooting…

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
1:37 pm

Ummm, and to add to the dirty panties convo, if you wear them all day, they are dirty. No such thing as clean panties unless freshly laundered. Naw they ain’t got to “look” dirty but the mere fact that they covered the bottom which btw should be bathed daily, causes them to get dirty. Oh and the mention of period panties?? If you’re having intimate relations over a period of time, suck it up, you’re gonna encounter all of the above.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
1:37 pm

Wont happen again I’m not going to miss any more days Celisea.

“Bet you didn’t think of them as being dirty while you were trying to pull them off her.”

Ya’ll are killing me.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:37 pm

“Bet you didn’t think of them as being dirty while you were trying to pull them off her WITH YOUR TEETH”.

Leggs, I enhanced your statement. LOL

Dan - Simply....Superior

February 28th, 2011
1:39 pm

@Lurking

So he flew off the handle when you asked about a lady that “joked” about his possible death after being shot?

Thaaaat might p!ss me off a little too….and sometimes leaving well enough alone is a good idea too.

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
1:39 pm

I never place my bras and panties in the dryer. I always let air dry…they keep longer :)

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
1:42 pm

Mean streaks, I have one. My wife definitely has one. There is a time and place for every emotion. There are about one or two things that will get me raging mad and I don’t care the consequence of my actions. That being said in 98% of situations I am cool hand Luke and it will take a lot for me to be angered or stressed. But if you disrespect my wife, mama or sisters you have to pay. I am here on my horse any questions? LOL

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:43 pm

Lurking, I have yet to read where your guy did anything over the top. I could see if he had jumped up, started breaking dishes and windows just because you mentioned the annoying neighbor. But just him snapping back at you for bringing up something that you know irritates him is no reason to run for the hills.

But that’s just me. I guess my tolerance for some things is different than others.

Dan - Simply....Superior

February 28th, 2011
1:45 pm

@Leggs/Raqi

Wasn’t enough blood in my cerebral cortex to care. (lest I use “brain” or “head” and get banned or an email)

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
1:45 pm

Interesting conversation. As Red Foxx said many years ago on an album cover, “You’ve got to wash your azz”.

Re the dirty undies…I’m more concerned about the dirty bottom than dirty undies. I find an excuse to “freshen up” when I think something may be about to happen and would expect the same from others…and I’ve been very lucky so far (partly because I am particular).

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
1:45 pm

Only panties with skid marks our discharge are dirty. And in that case you have a whole set of other problems to worry about than those dirty panties. LOL

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
1:46 pm

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:46 pm

Dan, I agree. Lurking seems to be the instigator of the matter yet she feels that he overreacted. Which he may have to an extent but not so much that she should be looking to cut him loose for something she deliberately did.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:48 pm

Dan, exactly. They were dirty when you shoved your hand into them. They were dirty when pulled them off her and tossed them to the floor. Now that they are washed and cleaned you have a problem with them hanging in the bathroom. LOL Not you literally but you know what I am saying.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:50 pm

I find an excuse to “freshen up”

RandyT, just take a shower together. That solves all concerns. LOL

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
1:52 pm

Even better with the enhancement, Raqi V.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
1:52 pm

Purple:

Celisea done went out of control blogging while she hangs her bra and panties up it aint 2038 yet but if she keeps that up she might be gone……LOL

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
1:53 pm

One lady that I was seeing was really into flowered, or plaid, or whatever panties, when my taste (for the ladies) is a high cut (is it called fench cut) type in pastels. Lady was always proud of her undies and looking for compliments. I was trying hard to seem appreciative (while thinking, “dayum woman, let me take you to VS and find some that accent those great legs and bottom, not make you look like a sleepover for a bunch of teenieboppers).

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
1:54 pm

@ Raqi re: “RandyT, just take a shower together. That solves all concerns. LOL”. Did, do, will again…got a number of those “wet t-shirts”. LOL ;-)

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
1:56 pm

that’s “french cut” not “fench cut”.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
1:56 pm

Blackfoote, she should put them in a net bag and lace them in the dryer on air dry or delicates. LOL I am not paying attention to her until 12/31/2037

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
1:58 pm

My wife doesn’t have period panties which used to throw me off, when she used to have periods. But I don’t care what type of panties she wears that booty always looks good to me. LOL

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
1:58 pm

Simmer down Blackfoote…lol Every man on here knows about and shouldn’t be grossed out by the change of underwear or the fact that once off, whether during intimacy or just a change to a clean pair for a new day. It’s all a part of being in the grown up world. Just as common as breathing air.

Lurking

February 28th, 2011
1:58 pm

Raqi & Dan, I didn’t know the whole story behind it, hell I didn’t even know about the comment. I was just joking about the neighbor, he overreacted and I decided it would be best for me to leave…I was headed for the door when he stopped me so he could explain everything. If I could take it back, I would do just that based off of what he told me. I just wish it could’ve been handled differently, that’s all. I really felt bad for him and understood his frustration. I guess I should apologize with some hot, steamy make-up sex…make sure its loud enough for the neighbor to hear!

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
1:58 pm

LOL Leggs. Yep. That’s rubbing their noses in it.

LOL Randyt. Hanes and FOTL sell some cute patterned hi-cuts. But hey a (wo)man likes what they like.

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
1:59 pm

PR – I find it they last longer if they avoid the dryer at all. But yeah, I know about the mesh bag…I like that better for pantyhose and stockings

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
2:00 pm

Lurking – if he found out you had a side-piece? Do you plan on having a side-piece to have to hide from him?

Also…I was in a situation with an ex where he showed me his temper and that day, I vowed that I’d never be alone with him again when he was angry. Less than two months later, he tried to kill me.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
2:00 pm

Just as common as breathing air

LOL Celisea. Makes you shake your head at times doesn’t it?

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
2:00 pm

LOL……@Purp

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:00 pm

Lurking your boyfriend is 35 and the neighbor is 60? Or am I mistaken? If I am not mistaken how old are you and how is a 60 year old your competition?

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
2:03 pm

I guess I should apologize with some hot, steamy make-up

Naw Lurking. You can’t be wishywashy like that. You chose to go so leave. If that got you running for the door what are you going to do when a real matter is laid on the table.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 28th, 2011
2:03 pm

We still don’t know the context of Lurking’s conversation. I mean it’s always a plus to keep your cool, but some people know just how to push your buttons. Were you nagging him to talk about it? Maybe he didn’t feel like talking. If I already told you I don’t feel like talking about something, then don’t keep asking me about it.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
2:05 pm

‘he tried to kill me.”

SexyC this is not amusing I hope he’s long in your past.

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
2:06 pm

Raqi – LOL…yep :)

I don’t think I’ve every had a mean boyfriend or SO with the crazies…oh wait baby’s father being the exception. Gheesh, when I think back over that crap I wanna knock my ownself a time or two. Hey I was young…you live and you learn. Never been one for taking somebody’s crazy though.

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
2:06 pm

B-foote – that was 13 years ago.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
2:07 pm

DreamsMat, I agree. It had to be something. Obviously if she had the urge to ask such a question she knew enough about the matter to know it irritated him.

If my husband tells me someone irritates him I am going to ask why. If he chooses not to give me an answer I will not be joking about it. And definitely not not knowing what to base the joke on.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
2:09 pm

SexyCool, can I ask what he did to you? Was he ex-military?

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
2:10 pm

SexyCool, nevermind. I think I remember you mentioning it on here before.

Wise Diva

February 28th, 2011
2:12 pm

LOL @ Black Magic Woman, exactly! I’m all yeaaa ok, well um ” I’ll holla” *backing away slowly from Dr.Jekyll/Mr. Hyde (as in hide my body in a freezer somewhere)

Simple Man!!!!

February 28th, 2011
2:12 pm

Yo Lurking….If you get to the house right now, He might be getting that hot steamy Make-up sex from that mean old neighbor!!! If you move quick…You might make it there before the head off to catch the early bird special at the Gloden Coral….

Lurking

February 28th, 2011
2:14 pm

Raqi – yes, it had me running until he explained the situation to me. In the past, I would have kept it moving with the explanation, but I ‘m glad I stayed. In the past, I would’ve left his place vowing to never go back after an incident like that. No, he didn’t hit me or break any dishes nor was I nagging him about it. He told me he didn’t want to talk about it, but stated that I gave him a look as if he had something to hide or was trying to put it off due to some fling.

For Real

February 28th, 2011
2:15 pm

Lurking: You are a ish starter. You probably should leave ole boy alone.

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
2:17 pm

Lurking – You sound like someone that’s been here before and just recycled your story.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:18 pm

I agree with For Real

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
2:18 pm

it had me running until he explained the situation to me

Correction baby girl, you still running. That’s why you are on here asking the question. The matter is not resolved in your mind. You and only you know what you need to do.

And honestly it’s hard to get the full picture of what happened to even offer you any advice because now it sounds a little different from how you presented it.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:19 pm

If you keep pushing buttons you will eventually push the right one. Beware of quiet people, they are usually the most dangerous.

Dan - Simply....Superior

February 28th, 2011
2:19 pm

@Lurking

Finally.

You asked a question, you pressed the issue (accusingly), and then the rant that you spoke about? Context matters.

Yeah, you mighta been a little out of pocket just then.

Celisea

February 28th, 2011
2:19 pm

Yep…if you allow a person to talk 3 or 4 pages…the story will take a different turn than initially presented.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
2:20 pm

(as in hide my body in a freezer somewhere)

WiseDiva, reading that ^ sent cold chills thru me. Ee.rie.

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
2:20 pm

So, Lurking, really, it sounds like you were trying to be cute/flirty/silly and o’boy wasn’t feeling that. It also seems as if the fervor in his response offended you/hurt your feelings just a bit.

For Real

February 28th, 2011
2:23 pm

Purp: Yep, I don’t like people like that, loves pushing other folks buttons but then want to act all surprised when he pull “Ike Turner” out.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
2:23 pm

Glad to hear SexyC.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:24 pm

For Real

February 28th, 2011
2:28 pm

Wise you acting like he use the quart of blood technique on his relative and now he is a psycho. Sometimes you just have to knock a fugger out with extreme prejudice but that doesn’t make you a psycho.

STOP TOUCHING ME!!!

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
2:31 pm

Dang Purple. What the heck could that “woman” have possibly done for him over the internet that had him sending $200,000? She was an internet girlfriend, a woman he has never seen. There was no physical intercourse, no blowjobs, heck not even a warm moist kiss. That man had to be on some bad stuff or severly desperate.

If her sexting game is that rich and viable I need to learn her skills and go into business. We can use the extra cash right now.

Lurking

February 28th, 2011
2:32 pm

SexyCool – that’s how it happened. Since I know it’s a sensitive issue for him, I’ll never bring it up again.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
2:33 pm

Just stupid. A man should not be that gullible. I wonder if he had mental problems obviously something was going on with him.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:34 pm

Raqi, even if they used skype there is nothing that would warrant sending 200k heck even if he met her in person what is worth 200k for a girlfriend? That was probably his life savings.

For Real

February 28th, 2011
2:34 pm

Why would a woman use a man in such way?

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
2:34 pm

As you have presented more of your story, perhaps running shoes are not in order. I guess the last question that I have is How long have you been dating/getting to know each other?

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:35 pm

Blackfoote, is Simple Man from Illinois?

LOL just kidding Simple Man

kimmie

February 28th, 2011
2:36 pm

That was probably his life savings.

I hope not.

But yeah, I’ve heard of a lot of “sugar daddies” that are extremely gullible.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:36 pm

For Real, LOL He is going to show a mean streak if he ever meets her.

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
2:36 pm

@ PR … thanks for the link to the dummy who sent the money. That was entertaining, but the outfit Penelope Cruz is wearing to the right made the trip to that site really worthwhile. I love Spanish women!!!!

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
2:39 pm

The articles that have me laughing are when you read about some dude calling the police because his gf stole his crack stockpile. “You can’t stop stupid”.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:40 pm

randyt, scroll down a little farther and click on the link with Kelly Brook, that’s more my speed :)

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
2:41 pm

Speaking of breaking the law, did y’all hear about those two Hispanic ladies trying to smuggle a million and a half into Mexico? Does hanging sheetrock and cleaning houses pay that well…even if not paying taxes?

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:42 pm

Some kids in Florida tried to rob a police station. It gets no dumber than that. Just “google” ..”kids rob police station”

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
2:42 pm

Awww…thank you Blackfoote! :lol:

RANDY..so you’re not feeling my Tinkerbell panties? :lol:

PURPLE…I read that! If you are that dumb you deserve to get gotten!

“Why would a woman use a man in such way?”
Well the same can be said for the loser who lie just to get the booty. Why would a man use a woman in such a way? :lol:

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
2:42 pm

I’ve heard of a lot of “sugar daddies” that are extremely gullible

Yeah but I could see if he was actually touching the woman. Not $200,000 but at least having the real woman and cashmere kitty within reach. That dingbat send $200,000 to woman that he couldn’t even sniff out of a crowd. I know sex isn’t everything but this man wasn’t getting any and he parting with $200,000. What an idiot.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
2:42 pm

LOL……@Purple

But damn Kimmie are sugar daddies that extreme? I’m thinking like Raqi V……..reverse engineer her ass and set up shop on line cause that lady got game.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:44 pm

Randyt, they need to be glad they got caught because they probably would have been killed as soon as they delivered the money. Mexicans are the worse to get involved with when it comes to moving drugs.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
2:44 pm

“Why would a woman use a man in such way?”

Who really knows if it was really a woman? LOL

Lord Velonese

February 28th, 2011
2:44 pm

Really? If you don’t like the heat, get the fudge out!

For Real

February 28th, 2011
2:44 pm

Scool: Lurking knows exactly what she was doing when she kept fuggin with ole boy and she was not trying play flirty/funny with and now she wants to play victim.

PR: Yep and then she will be blogging about how all she did was borrow a little money from him and now he tripping and flying off the handle and that she is starting to think it’s red flag for him to mad over his lil 250k.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:46 pm

BlackMW, gettingand giving up the booty is mutually beneficial. The idiot sending his money to the internet girl is not. Unless she is classified as a 501 3c

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
2:46 pm

@ PR …not wanting to sound cheap or easy, BUT both kelly Brock and Penelope Cruz could have me if they played their cards right.

@BMW LOL, not turning down booty because of the panty style, just hoping to encourage making the best of one’s azz(ets). but in the spirit of being totally objective, if you want to send a picture wearing said undies, i will give you a thorough analysis with commentary…just to help of course.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:48 pm

For Real, that is exactly how it would go. Ladies if I gave you 200k would you feel obligated to be sexually active with me? You can change your online alias to answer the question. LOL

Lurking sounds like a female version of Barry

For Real

February 28th, 2011
2:48 pm

“Well the same can be said for the loser who lie just to get the booty.” – Ain’t no booty… let me repeat that Ain’t no booty worth 250K. So please compare apples to apples please.

“Who really knows if it was really a woman?” – Damn Raqi, you just got to blame a dude no matter what don’t you?

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:49 pm

Randyt, don’t be so easy the going rate for internet booty is $200k

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
2:50 pm

Right Raqi V it could have been a guy for all he knows…….LOL

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:50 pm

LOL, For Real. LOL

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
2:51 pm

Blackfoote, no doubt. If my sexting game was that one point I could make millions. LOL

What the heck was she promising this man or talking him thru that he could not get on any downtown corner? For all it’s worth he may as well have gotten a hooker. At least he would have been getting some real “some”.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
2:51 pm

I would be an internet pimp if I could have a website with some eHoes and have them prostitute over the web if they could make $200k per client.

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
2:52 pm

@ PR LOL are you suggesting that my quarter and a health card might not be enough to get me in with Penelope and Kelly? If they will negotiate in good faith, I will check my 401K and see if we can come to terms.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
2:53 pm

Ladies if I gave you 200k would you feel obligated to be sexually active with me?

Purple, if you are dumb enough to send a woman you don’t know and have never seen $200,000 you are no doubt dumb enough for me to make you believe I already gave you sex despite the fact we have never been in the same city together.

Lord Velonese

February 28th, 2011
2:54 pm

I’m no Bill gates but, My philosophy has been if you want the life bad enough, you will earn it, looks and how the TA shake doesn’t count period. Spoiled Brats need not apply.

Blackfoote

February 28th, 2011
2:55 pm

“internet booty is $200k”……..LOL

I’m sure is hell glad that’s not the only way to get it.

Lurking

February 28th, 2011
2:55 pm

SexyCool – we’ve been dating for six months.

For Real – I’m not trying to play the victim. If anything, he was the victim and is still being victimized due to my actions. I was wrong and I hope I never get to see that side of him again.

For Real

February 28th, 2011
2:55 pm

eHoes… I find that to be very funny.

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
2:55 pm

Don’t let him fool you with that question Raqi…he’s just negotiating the price. The next offer will be $50 or so.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 28th, 2011
2:57 pm

$250K?!? No wonder chicks walking around feeling entitled to a flight to Aruba on a private jet on the first date. Dudes be driving up the value for no good reason.

For Real

February 28th, 2011
2:58 pm

200k for so booty???? Oh hellz naw!!!! Ladies do y’all think your booty is worth 200k?

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
2:58 pm

Blog monster is hungry!

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
2:59 pm

He didn’t get any booty! Smuck!

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:01 pm

For Ral, I think eHoeing is legal as long as your server is located in Las Vegas. LOL

Randyt, did you just hate on my negotiation process? Man Law violation, For Real give him a t-shirt.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 28th, 2011
3:01 pm

“No wonder chicks walking around feeling entitled to a flight to Aruba on a private jet on the first date. Dudes be driving up the value for no good reason.”

Dreams — All we ever wanted was a bubble booty & now we’ve got a booty bubble… Go figure… :lol:

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
3:03 pm

ONLY six months. (lol) You are still definitely in the getting to know one another stage. Perhaps this is the first time he has shown some real stand up to you crossing the line (obviously a line that you did not know was there, but that was crossed nonetheless.)

I remember the first time TheDude reacted in a way that I didn’t like. It actually stung just a bit because I wasn’t expecting it. We had been just coasting along, all agreeable and lovey-dovey and and then he gone go and change up by having boundaries and making them known to me.

Of course, in relationships, there are going to differences of opinion and methods and whatnot. This could be a relationship growth opportunity or it could be a sign of something else. However, you are the one that is up close and personal with the situation and in the best position to make that determination.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:03 pm

For Real, if they think they booty is worth $200k I am almost sure the majority have given it up for less, if indeed they were ever selling it. LOL

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:04 pm

Ladies do y’all think your booty is worth 200k?

Obviously there are some men out there that think it is so it doesn’t matter what we think. LOL

While we value our personal with much honor and grace, it’s you menfolk that steady drives the value up day after day. LOL Look at what some are paying just to get the internet version.

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
3:05 pm

“BlackMW, gettingand giving up the booty is mutually beneficial.”

That’s cute…men really believe that! Half the time if the man who is getting all the pleasure. I have had a few “I could’ve had a V-8″ moments! The ding-a-ling ain’t all that! :lol:

RANDY…this boo-tay is a lover of lace boyshorts and hipsters. I am over the thong face. C00ch likes to be comfortable! :lol:

PURPLE…yeah I would feel obligated to do you if you gave me $200,000. But retail therapy does a lot for the mind…like clearing it of guilt and obligations! :lol:

Um….eHoes??? :lol:

For Real

February 28th, 2011
3:06 pm

WHISTLE!!!!

Flag on the play.

I got Randyt committing a personal foul against Purp. Excessive and unwarranted blocking. Penalty is Randyt shall now be called Barry azz Barry.

PR, Willie need 35 t-shirts, 52 bumper stickers and 7 bibs all reading Randyt is a Barry azz Barry.

That is All!!!

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:06 pm

So who is the sucker the woman asking for the 200k or the man paying it. LOL she even showed him a fake drivers license. She played off of his emotions by saying she was being kidnapped and had a $200k ransom. I would have been like “bye bish, I don’t even know you like that”

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
3:06 pm

“it’s you menfolk that steady drives the value up day after day”

RAQI….booty is like gas in that aspect! :lol:

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
3:07 pm

Purple – your statement reminds me of something that I heard the Mayflower Madame say on The View last week.

It was something along the lines of prostitution should be legal because “Why can’t you sell something that you can give away for free?”

Simple Man!!!!

February 28th, 2011
3:08 pm

4Real…. You know anybody need to get one of these Barry azz Mouse pads????

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:09 pm

LOL RandyT. That was a dumb question he asked. If a woman can get that kind of money out of you having not yet given you any, what makes you think she is going to give it to you afterwards. Not too many women care for laying with dumbasses. On purpose that is.

For Real

February 28th, 2011
3:10 pm

PR: “almost sure” – Almost sure? Are you kidding me. That’s like saying you are almost certain the sun rose yesterday.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:10 pm

Thank You For Real, I knew that Randyt committed a penalty.

Black, I think you have it twisted all pudddy is not great pudddy. Sometimes even though we pinnacle with some pudddy we have to go home and get more pudddy or just handle ourselves with our hand.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:11 pm

booty is like gas in that aspect

BlackMagic, exactly. And it’s not the upstanding gents that are driving the price up. It’s those lying, cheating, sneaking and conniving to get it that steady makes it rise.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:12 pm

Black, did you just say booty is like gas? Booty gas? LOL

Sexy Cool, I agree with that. Besides women should be able to do what they want with their bodies. Just show me where the BOGO sale is.

Raqi, LOL

For Real

February 28th, 2011
3:14 pm

“The ding-a-ling ain’t all that!” – Apparently it’s enough to keep you from switching team. Well I hope it is.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:14 pm

If booty is like gas, some of us men know how to get great mileage and others just don’t care because we keep our tank full. Not everyman needs to get $10 on pump 2. LOL

A lot of ladies getting gas also. LOL

For Real

February 28th, 2011
3:16 pm

Swiss: I recommend piling on top of BMW. I’m first give me about 17 naw make that 19 seconds cause that’s a lot booty.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:18 pm

It’s those guys that are out there spending their car payments and electric bill money in exchange for lady goods that are driving the price up for themselves.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:23 pm

I call sloppy seconds after For Real, I only need 3 pumps.

kimmie

February 28th, 2011
3:25 pm

You would be surprised how many silly sugar daddies there are out there. Paying out big bucks and not even getting much in return. I could never do it, but I know of a few cases. One lady I know only goes for older dudes with money. One bought her a Lexus and gives her large sums of money on the regular. He is “challenged” in other ways, so she doesn’t even “do” that much with him.

A lot of dudes talk a good game, but it’s a sucker born every minute!

For Real

February 28th, 2011
3:26 pm

“I only need 3 pumps.” – Obviously you haven’t seen BMW’s booty. Three pumps want even get you a waning crescent moon.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:26 pm

I will need $200k just to pronounce Tokenisha…..she must be from Europe or something. LOL

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:27 pm

If Tokenisha has booty priced at $200k and can only get $50 for it

So true, SexyCool. But I want to know what the heck that person was telling that man in Illinois that made him give up $200,000 for booty he has never seen or touched. LOL

I mean I have had some pretty good phone sex before but not $200,000 good. LOL

And whatever the person was telling him what that man failed to realize is it was only as good as his imagination because she was just an internet girlfriend. He had to visualize what she was saying and imagine how good it felt in his mind. He truly let his imagination get the best of him.

For Real

February 28th, 2011
3:27 pm

“Tokenisha” – She must be from Macon?

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:27 pm

For Real, as long as I get to my destination….I am not looking for a relationship and her expectations were already low. LOL

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
3:28 pm

Y’all can be so disrespectful….even when you’re just joking.

For Real

February 28th, 2011
3:30 pm

“but it’s a sucker born every minute!” – You ain’t lying:

Chick: We gon eat after we finish having sex right For Real.

For Real: Yeah, yeah, now help me put this rubber on.

Chick: FOR REAL!!! This a candy bar wrapper!!!!

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:30 pm

Sexy Cool how?

Raqi, he didn’t give her $200K for booty, he gave it because he thought she had been kidnapped and he was saving her.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:31 pm

A lot of dudes talk a good game, but it’s a sucker born every minute!

Yep. Some random dude is out of his next month’s rent money right now for some gal that is feeding him an empty promise.

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
3:34 pm

PURPLE..then why do guys chase booty like it’s the last supper? It’s like the Pepsi commercial….dude was constantly thinking “I’m gonna sleep with her…I’m gonna sleep with her….”! Dude it’s the first date. There are just too many thing things that can go wrong when having sex. Let’s face it…birth control is not 100%. So I think when I have sex, if I get pregnant…can I deal with this guy for the rest of my life? Do are features mesh well so we don’t have an ugly baby. You know I don’t want kids…but if I get stuck with one…I need to have something to go on.

“If Tokenisha has booty priced at $200k and can only get $50 for it, then guess what? Then Tokenisha’s ass is only worth $50.”

SCOOL…not to mention she has had way more shlongs up in there because anybody can affored the cheap h0e! The $200K h0e has less “traffic” and potholes! :lol:

SWISS…would you prefer I say “petro” instead of gas? :lol:

“Apparently it’s enough to keep you from switching team. Well I hope it is.”

FOR REAL…nope it’s not that! Its the fact that I don’t like c00chie…unless it’s my own! I’d like to thank the making of “the rabbit” for never letting me down! :lol:

PURPLE & FOR REAL…you guys are crazy! :lol:

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
3:34 pm

“If Tokenisha has booty priced at $200k and can only get $50 for it”…there just might be some women who think their azz is more valuable than it really is maybe?

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:34 pm

Purple, I know that. That’s the point I am making. He is “saving” a woman that he is getting nothing from but obviously a promise.

No man in his right mind is going to be putting out even $2000 for a woman that has not even him the possibility of some booty.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:35 pm

Black, I can’t speak for those guys. Here’s to them fighting the good fight! LOL

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 28th, 2011
3:35 pm

“Tokenisha” — That’s my sister’s name

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
3:37 pm

@ BMW re:”RANDY…this boo-tay is a lover of lace boyshorts and hipsters. I am over the thong face. C00ch likes to be comfortable”!

I can dig it ;-) (And always in favor of making that thing as comfortable as possible).

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:37 pm

But RandyT, if somebody is paying the asking price then that man agrees that it’s worth that.

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
3:39 pm

@ BMW …don’t think I ever thought about an uglyazz baby as a possibility…good point.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:40 pm

Real question here. Not really but it is. LOL

How many of you all are willing to admit to skipping a day of work without pay to get the goods? Man and woman alike.

Come on now I know some of you have called in sick when all you were was love sick.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:40 pm

That would be putting a price on it.

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
3:41 pm

@ Raqi “if somebody is paying the asking price then that man agrees that it’s worth that”.

I guess I’ll wait for that azz to make it to the Thrift store then so I can get it for pennies on the dollar…or buy one get one free at Publix.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:42 pm

I think it’s disrespectful to say Tokaneisha can only get $50 when the original asking price was $200k we are already in recession. LOL

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:43 pm

Raqi, yes and yes especially when she used to come visit me in Atlanta.

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
3:44 pm

The world is hard enough. Why add being ugly on top of it? :lol: I would not try to set my potential child up for that fate simply because I was not puddy selective!

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:44 pm

RandyT, having a higher price aka value is not such a bad thing. That way you know just anybody ain’t getting it. Don’t you want your woman to be selective about who she is giving it to? Or are you okay with being just another random dude that is getting it for pennies?

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:46 pm

If you married her you are not getting it for pennies.

Purple Rain

February 28th, 2011
3:47 pm

Ugly is to the bone…but she may have a $200k personality.

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:48 pm

Thrift store

SMH and LOL RandyT the blog needs to rally and get you a girlfriend.

kimmie

February 28th, 2011
3:52 pm

Raqi – In answer to your question, yes I have years ago, but never without pay. Does using a sick day or vacation day count?

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
3:54 pm

If you’re interested in doing market study’s for extra money, check out this link.

http://www.therecruitteam.com

They called me with a $175 study almost as soon as I hit submit to register just now.
Spread the word.

(Hint, the particular study they have now they are looking for SUV owners, who would consider buying another SUV. Don’t tell ‘em I told y’all that.)

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
3:56 pm

Now Raqi, I find Nautica, Jos A Bank, and Abercrombie at thrift stores…then I have to decide whether they have been slightly used or overused ;-)

Actually, I have plenty of opportunities, just been really busy. When December came around, I halted dating until after Valentines Day. It is easier to rent than buy. I probably ought to go into Johnny’s Hideaway this weekend and take a cougar home (or to a hotel so she doesn’t follow me home and scratch on my door).

Raqi V

February 28th, 2011
3:57 pm

LOL kimmie. Yep that counts.

Thanks for the link SexyCool. For this one I guess what I have is considered an SUV.

BlackMagicWoman

February 28th, 2011
4:05 pm

PUROPLE…come on….you know you will not go for the ugly chick in the room because you think her personality is great! You will go for the hot chick and HOPE her personality matches! :lol:

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 28th, 2011
4:08 pm

@ BMW & PR Or go for the hot chic hoping to bag her wing lady at least.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 28th, 2011
4:14 pm

I’ve taken a day off for marathon sessions…didn’t lose any pay though. Not saying I won’t do it again.

SlimNumeroUno

February 28th, 2011
4:17 pm

Been so busy today and frankly I feel left out. :cry: No way I can try to catch up now.

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
4:18 pm

@SlimNU ~ they’re talking about expensive booty.

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
4:21 pm

One of my gf’s just sent me a text saying she used me as a personal reference.

My response, “Who is this?”
LMAO….

SlimNumeroUno

February 28th, 2011
4:28 pm

Leggs – Oohhhhh ok then lol

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February 28th, 2011
4:30 pm

chicks pay for the D too. That cat that cheated on you, lied to you, did you wrong, all the while staying rent free at your crib, and you still stayed. How much did that “cost” you?

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
4:33 pm

@SlimNU ~ if you go to the link at the end of page 4, you’ll see what they’re talking about.

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
4:33 pm

Rather, what started the convo.

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February 28th, 2011
4:35 pm

4) They like porn.

Yeah, good luck with that “filter.” If you don’t want a man who likes porn, then you must be wanting a gay “dude.”

There is a difference between liking something and having real problems with it.

SexyCool

February 28th, 2011
4:36 pm

Does anybody here have any personal experience with Shou Wu Chih?

Leggs

February 28th, 2011
4:40 pm

Quote bag being tossed in the air….anyone can leave the E.O.D today!