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Online dating: Does everyone lie?

In case you missed the quick and dirty scandal in the news, New York Congressman Chris Lee resigned after Gawker.com revealed that he was doing a little internet flirting.  He had a brief email exchange with a single woman in DC and led her to believe that he was a 39 year old single father. Turns out he was married, with children, 46, oh and a congressman!

I felt bad for the young woman, “Leggy Glamazon” because I have certainly been where she has been.  I’ve met men who totally misrepresented themselves online. I can’t imagine how I’d feel if one of the posers turned out to be a politician or public figure.  (Full disclosure: I actually met and hung out with the Leggy Glamazon last year and I found her to be fabulous and cool.)

Needless to say, it brought back awful memories of discovering the lies that people tell. I think I read some outrageous statistic that up to 30% of online daters are actually married. This isn’t the – divorce papers about to be signed kind of married- either.  It’s more like – still rocking the wedding band, living with mate, pretending to be happy at home – kind of married.

I won’t bash online dating because it can work, although  not actively online dating myself.  It’s just that stories like this reminds us that a lot of people lie online. It’s just something you have to deal with in dating – online and off.

Do you think that everyone lies on their dating profiles? Is there a way to filter out the posers?

How can you tell if the person you are dating is actually single?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

300 comments Add your comment

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
12:48 pm

Okay DMV, whatever.

I don’t know what world you guys are living in where single women do not get sick or not want sex sometimes. I thought fantasy island burned down.

DMV

February 25th, 2011
12:48 pm

It’s always something 1) My head hurts, 2) I had a hard day, 3) I’m stressed out, 4) My toe hurts, 5) I don’t feel like it, 6) The room is a mess, 7) My friend hurt my feelings, 8) The shoes I wore today made my back hurt, 9) Thanks for dinner, but I’m bushed, 10) That’s nice, but let’s try someother time……*sigh. Never mind….I’ll be in the guest room for a few minutes…..

Dan - Simply...Superior

February 25th, 2011
12:52 pm

@SC

COuld you send me that inspector’s name?

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
12:53 pm

Did anyone watch GA and/or PP that would like to give me a synopsis on the two? I fell asleep as soon as GA came on and it did not record.

Willie Dynamite

February 25th, 2011
12:54 pm

Afternoon All,

Lets see if I got this covered;
Internet Dating – never had the need
Lies – Everybody does, some just think there Lies are not as bad as the next persons
Preacher Daughter – check and check
Abstinent Chick – check

Channel720

February 25th, 2011
12:55 pm

I remember those days of being single. Back then, my g/f’s asked why CAN’T we do it here and now. I feel your oain DMV

Purple Rain

February 25th, 2011
1:09 pm

DMV comeback and participate on the blog in the after 5pm EST discussion, that’s wehn us men can talk freely. LOL

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
1:12 pm

SexyCool, I am waiting for this guy to call me back. I may have a lead for you on that refinishing.

SlimNumeroUno

February 25th, 2011
1:13 pm

‘I thought fantasy island burned down’

:lol: :lol:

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
1:15 pm

DMV ~ she should just stick with the truth #5.

@Raqi V ~ PP is good. Sam and Naomi kissed. During counseling, Cooper told Charlotte that he kissed someone (?) right after her rape. She stormed out. Confronted her and an interesting exchange took place. A young lady, who has Downs, found out she was pregnant. Her mother didn’t want her and her bf to have this child because they could barely take care of themselves. Violet’s new book had everyone up in arms because she revealed secrets she had no business of revealing. On top of that, she didn’t ask permission to put their stories into her book.

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
1:16 pm

Thanks Leggs.

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
1:19 pm

There are a few men that suddenly went missing from this blog (Not you 2CTPG or abc) but for the life of me I cannot recall their names.

Who in the heck were they?

SexyCool

February 25th, 2011
1:22 pm

Dan – I actually got my referral from Kym. My inspection is tomorrow. Dude has said that the inspection will take no less than FIVE HOURS. (He told me to pack a lunch. lol)

His name is Steve Goolsby.
http://www.toptobottominspection.net

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
1:22 pm

Can somebody please call out some names? When I see their name I will without hesitation remember their writing style.

SlimNumeroUno

February 25th, 2011
1:23 pm

DMV – You ever considered dropping a Clariton in your honey’s drink? :evil:

SlimNumeroUno

February 25th, 2011
1:24 pm

SexyCool – Um…that name of the website sounds a little suspect. Excuse me for immediately thinking in the gutter on that one. Sounds like a branch of the FBI (Female Body Inspectors)

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 25th, 2011
1:27 pm

Dreams:lol: How often do you play “The Crying Game” music when your friend is around? :lol: That poor dude will never hear the end of that story…

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 25th, 2011
1:31 pm

Time to play DJ….

DMVThis tune goes out to you….

(username: MIA / password: MIA)

SexyCool

February 25th, 2011
1:32 pm

Thanks, Rock.

Can you email me?

I’m about to log off. TheDude and I played hooky from work today. I’ve just made a mega-salad. We’re about to take a picnic basket and a blanket to the park.

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
1:36 pm

Yes SexyCool as soon as he calls me back I will shot you an email.

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
1:36 pm

Shoot not shot

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
1:37 pm

Slim? Is that what you meant?

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
1:38 pm

@DMV ~ did you take advantage of her w/o her knowing….borderline!

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 25th, 2011
1:39 pm

Swiss not The Crying Game. lol Might have to do that next time.

Raqi seems like lots of people (men and women) have gone missing. Haven’t seen Infamous on. Or CoolShadow or EastPointsOwn. As for the women, I haven’t seen Blue, or Delight. Btw, how you doing today?

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
1:43 pm

DreamsMat, I am doing so-so. Thanks for asking.

The one I am trying to put my finger on is definitely not Infamous. That is unless he has gotten hold of some bad weed. LOL

And no not CoolShadow nor EastPoint either.

SlimNumeroUno

February 25th, 2011
1:44 pm

Raqi – Top to Bottom Inspector – Hmmm, interesting?

SC – Dang, I was just thinking about how nice a picnic would be right now.

DMV

February 25th, 2011
1:44 pm

When she’s on Ambien, she even utters that word that married men rarely hear……”Again”

SlimNumeroUno

February 25th, 2011
1:47 pm

Willie, SeanJohnson, GAman

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
1:49 pm

@DMV ~ oh, she’s awake, just won’t remember due to the Ambien. Oh, ok. I thought you were talking about feeling bad because you took it while she was sleeping, but now you’re talking about avertiing your aim and making a deposit somewhere else!

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
1:51 pm

SeanJohnson. You may be on to something. LOL

DMV

February 25th, 2011
1:52 pm

Leggs….uh huh. Am I goin’ to hell for that? I might……

SexyCool

February 25th, 2011
1:52 pm

Oh…and whoever gave me the ‘10″ yesterday, you ended up being right. But…I think it was more from the power of suggestion than any actual intent that I’d previously had.
(giggles)

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
1:54 pm

you ended up being right

Oh hush with that. I am jealous. LOL

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
1:55 pm

Leggs, stop. Please.

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
1:56 pm

LOL…Ok, I won’t play with them anymore!

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
2:02 pm

I’m posting names for you, but blog monster is eating them.

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
2:03 pm

LOL They must be top offenders in some way.

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
2:06 pm

That’s what I was thinking!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 25th, 2011
2:10 pm

“They must be top offenders in some way.”

Or their names contain Spanish bad words. Which is why you can’t say words like “ridicu-lous” or “repu-tation” on here either…

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
2:12 pm

Swiss, that is interesting.

I tried earlier to say “if you say so” 3 times but it would not get pass the filter.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 25th, 2011
2:15 pm

“Swiss, that is interesting. “

Raqi — Actually, it’s incredibly f__king stupid, but what do you expect from the ajc? :lol:

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 25th, 2011
2:16 pm

lol at the bilingual blog filter.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 25th, 2011
2:17 pm

so there’s a BMW (Blog’s Most Wanted) list?

BlackMagicWoman

February 25th, 2011
2:19 pm

DMV…that Ambien is no joke. I did some crazy stuff. I got up and made meals. I called people. It’s bad because I already sleepwalk. It just amplified all my usual activites. One day I woke up fully dressed. Mind you I had showered and put on PJS. Somewhere in the night I got up and dressed. I sure hope I did not go anywhere! :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

February 25th, 2011
2:20 pm

THE 6 BEST DOCTOR’S

1. Sunshine
2. Water
3. Rest
4. Air
5. Exercise
6. Diet

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 25th, 2011
2:22 pm

Somewhere in the night I got up and dressed. I sure hope I did not go anywhere!
BMW Ummmm, I been meaning to talk to you about that night…

Willie Dynamite

February 25th, 2011
2:23 pm

Dreams – jus dont mention the videotape. Its one of our best sellers in the bar…..

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 25th, 2011
2:25 pm

“I sure hope I did not go anywhere!”

BMW — That reminds me… If you found a pair of Ralph Lauren boxers, uh…. just keep them. :lol:

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 25th, 2011
2:27 pm

Swiss now making Ambien Texas Margaritas for all the blog ladies…

BlackMagicWoman

February 25th, 2011
2:30 pm

DREAMS & WILLIE & SWISS….I will hunt you down and beat you like you stole my money! :lol: