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Online dating: Does everyone lie?

In case you missed the quick and dirty scandal in the news, New York Congressman Chris Lee resigned after Gawker.com revealed that he was doing a little internet flirting.  He had a brief email exchange with a single woman in DC and led her to believe that he was a 39 year old single father. Turns out he was married, with children, 46, oh and a congressman!

I felt bad for the young woman, “Leggy Glamazon” because I have certainly been where she has been.  I’ve met men who totally misrepresented themselves online. I can’t imagine how I’d feel if one of the posers turned out to be a politician or public figure.  (Full disclosure: I actually met and hung out with the Leggy Glamazon last year and I found her to be fabulous and cool.)

Needless to say, it brought back awful memories of discovering the lies that people tell. I think I read some outrageous statistic that up to 30% of online daters are actually married. This isn’t the – divorce papers about to be signed kind of married- either.  It’s more like – still rocking the wedding band, living with mate, pretending to be happy at home – kind of married.

I won’t bash online dating because it can work, although  not actively online dating myself.  It’s just that stories like this reminds us that a lot of people lie online. It’s just something you have to deal with in dating – online and off.

Do you think that everyone lies on their dating profiles? Is there a way to filter out the posers?

How can you tell if the person you are dating is actually single?

Happy Friday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

300 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

February 25th, 2011
11:11 am

Ever been out with a woman on a brand new date and her stomach growls? And this is after you two have had dinner? I didn’t care but she was embarrassed…maybe because it was one of those growls that sounded like a fart. Or when they use the bathroom at your house and you hear one rip from the other side of the door? Gome on out girl and do the walk of shame while I act like I did not hear you assaulting my toilet.

Purple Rain

February 25th, 2011
11:13 am

Leggs, “to high to remember” Pass me his number. LOL

Slim, LOL he had a plan.

Hey Blackfoote, Black said that was a bish move that I did. I call it just saving time and money. LOL

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
11:17 am

Growling after you’ve eaten is nothing to be embarrassed about. Your food is still digesting.

Celisea

February 25th, 2011
11:17 am

I’ll pass on the net dating game. I want to see and touch who I may have an interest in. Too old school I am.

Me too. What I don’t get are folks that send pics…lol I tried to hook an underwriter here up with a really cute chick from church and he didn’t like her cell phone pic so he passed but she’s very beautiful young lady (no not a switch hitter…the niece of my SIL). The pic didn’t turn out good so he missed out. I have on more than one occasion had someone shoot me a pic or give explicit self descriptions, like off the rip…for me and me alone that’s suspect. I’m not going to be impressed until we talk and mesh and vibe and I see what I’m working with and want the same for you. Heck you mighta taken that shot from the back of a potato chip bag or magazine back cover or better yet your self description might not be how I see it…lol

Blackfoote

February 25th, 2011
11:18 am

BMW:

The height complex do exist I had it growing up felt out of loop with everyone else, tallest in school, dudes wearing six and half size shoes I was wearing size 10 and 11’s people asking all the time “how tall are you”.

Purple Rain

February 25th, 2011
11:19 am

Leggs, that growl was pretty loud though like RAAWWR!

MC Hammock

February 25th, 2011
11:20 am

I met one lady after a few internet chats and a phone call. She was VERY nice and just a tad overweight, but she was pretty and the most beautiful eyes I had ever seen. I made another date wiith her and cooked dinner for her and treated her like a queen. She then made the announcement that she just needed a FWB and that I was the first guy in a while to treat her like a lady. I became her booty call until she moved away to TN. I kept thinking “She is SUCH a nice person, smart, very honest…..and all she wanted was a steady booty call”. Didn’t go together in my mind, for some reason or another. And to boot, she wasn’t even married. She just didn’t have time for the relationship stuff, but still felt “the urge”.

Celisea

February 25th, 2011
11:21 am

Oh and those pics came by way of friends hooking up friends starting with phone numbers or email addys. A couple of dudes that I’ve had to talked to within the organization starts off with so, what city are you in…on to….so is it true what I hear of Atlanta…on to….occasional emails saying “hi”….on to…here’s a pic of me, I’m be in Atlanta next week….blank stare

Purple Rain

February 25th, 2011
11:23 am

MC Hammock, well that story did not end to bad. At least you did not fall in love with her and saw it for what it was.

Blackfoote, I actually started to embrace my height around age 16 and so did the ladies. :)

Purple Rain

February 25th, 2011
11:24 am

I always get picked for a team when I go to the gym though.

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
11:33 am

:lol: Ok, PR, I would have said “oh my” and started laughing.

BlackMagicWoman

February 25th, 2011
11:33 am

“I think my worse blind date story was meeting a woman who had crooked teeth, that I could not stop staring at.”

PURPLE…me too man! Then he wanted to kiss me at the end of the date. UGH! Not inly do I not know you. But your girl looks like it harbors fugitives! :lol:

SCOOL & LEGGS…yikes! Now those are some horror stories! :shock:

SlimNumeroUno

February 25th, 2011
11:35 am

Purp – I don’t know if it’s because i’m small/thin but you can almost always hear my stomach especially if i’m laying down. It can be embarrassing but I have no control over it. Sometimes he’ll talk back to it trying to be funny or either he’ll say, you know you need to go take a crap or fart so gone and get up. That might not even be the case but it is what it is. I just hate when my stomach gets to talking when some hanky panky is going on.

Blackfoote

February 25th, 2011
11:35 am

Yep Purple I was a first teamer when it came to playing basketball even though I wasn’t that good with it my sport was football where I excelled at I wanted hit somebody all the time then stand over them…….LOL

Purple Rain

February 25th, 2011
11:36 am

Black, everything else was wonderful and I tried to get over it but her teeth were jacked!

Purple Rain

February 25th, 2011
11:38 am

Blackfoote, basketball was what I was good at but my heart was with baseball. I just could not hit a fast ball or a curve. LOL So it was pretty much just basketball for me. LOL

Blackfoote

February 25th, 2011
11:38 am

Celisea:

You’re old school too huh.

Blackfoote

February 25th, 2011
11:42 am

Leggs:

That dude with unidentified cargo he still around……LOL
How you been doing?

Celisea

February 25th, 2011
11:47 am

Blackfoote – Absolutely :)

DMV

February 25th, 2011
11:49 am

Howdy Howdy, people! I see the subject is internet dating. I must say I am a fan of it!

DMV

February 25th, 2011
11:50 am

Oh…you mean meeting someone to go OUT with…ummm….I thought you were talking about the video clips. My bad. LOL

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
11:50 am

@Blackfoote ~ He may be around, but he ain’t around me. I’m doing very well! Hope the same goes for you. Hmmmm, you looking to score (LOL).

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
11:51 am

DMV

February 25th, 2011
11:52 am

Seriously, I did it once and it turned out pretty well. Hits and misses all over the place, but it sure was fun!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 25th, 2011
11:52 am

Okay, hold up. Is “Leggy Glamazon” actually how this lady referred to herself on craigslist?

Blackfoote

February 25th, 2011
11:56 am

“He may be around, but he ain’t around me”

I like your answer……LOL

Purple Rain

February 25th, 2011
12:04 pm

Why did Leggy Glamazon feel the need to tell the whole world about the guy she caught?

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 25th, 2011
12:07 pm

My boy met a chick on the internet in college, and when he met up with her, she had a goatee. Not a little stubble, a straight goatee…neatly trimmed and everything. lol

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
12:09 pm

“Why did Leggy Glamazon feel the need to tell the whole world about the guy she caught?” Her 15 mins of fame.

BlackMagicWoman

February 25th, 2011
12:12 pm

Hey Leggs…does Lil Leggs have the “Beiber Fever” ? :lol:

SexyCool

February 25th, 2011
12:13 pm

The latest guide to life and relationships good read that I’ve found – Stilettos in the Kitchen.

Blackfoote

February 25th, 2011
12:13 pm

In earnest gal figured she’d get some paper for exposing somebody in congress now she can go hire Gloria Allred to make a case…….LOL

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
12:24 pm

SexyCool, that title sounds interesting. I am going to call my sister and see if she has that one.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 25th, 2011
12:25 pm

“My boy met a chick on the internet in college, and when he met up with her, she had a goatee. Not a little stubble, a straight goatee…neatly trimmed and everything.”

Umm… Dreams — Did “she” also have a c0ck? :lol:

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
12:30 pm

BMW ~ I am happy to report that SHE DOES NOT. However, she does have the Drake fever!

Purple Rain

February 25th, 2011
12:31 pm

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
12:31 pm

She doesn’t have it but she said since I cannot get out she is going online right now to order and have it delivered to me. For her to have been so mean to me growing up she is really a wonderful sister now.

DMV

February 25th, 2011
12:33 pm

Sings of “It just ain’t fair”: Male co-worker that is overweight meets a SCORCHING hot woman (he showed me her oics on his phone). She is currently texting him about how she can’t wait to kiss him when he gets home and have a bottle of wine. Then texts him “Oh the weather outside is frightful. Hot sex sounds so delightful.” Meanwhile, I’m married for 7 years and I sleep with this woman every night. Yet, I have to go to the guest room to “seduce myself”, because she has been having a headache EVERY day for the past week and a half due to the pollen coming out. It just ain’t fair……

DMV

February 25th, 2011
12:34 pm

and the tongue lashing from Raqi V begins…..LOL

BlackMagicWoman

February 25th, 2011
12:35 pm

” Did “she” also have a c0ck?”
SWISS..I’m going to go out on a limb and say…heck yeah! :lol:

DMV

February 25th, 2011
12:36 pm

I meant to say SIGNS of “It just ain’t fair…..

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 25th, 2011
12:38 pm

Umm… Dreams — Did “she” also have a c0ck?
Swiss Man how would I know that? lol Dude still HATES when we bring that up.

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
12:39 pm

DMV ~ do you think your overweight co-worker with the hot chick at home has a fat wallet??

SexyCool

February 25th, 2011
12:39 pm

Rock – I haven’t read the whole book yet. But…I have been reading excerpts. The author also has a pretty decent posting of YouTube videos. And much like any self-help/relationship advice that is out there, I agree with/like some of what she says, but not all.

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
12:40 pm

DMV, no lashings but I will tell you don’t fool yourself. When that scorching hot babe gets ill your overweight co-worker will be having to go without also.

And why the need to point out that he is overweight? Should he not have love because you say he is overweight? Evidently that weight does not get in the way of what he does to please his woman.

Leggs

February 25th, 2011
12:41 pm

@DMV ~ just hold on (not to yourself), and imagine how sweet it will be when the pollen count is lowered. You’ll get some before the mother of all mother pollen critters get here in the Spring. Hang tight, I mean hang loose! (LOL).

DMV

February 25th, 2011
12:42 pm

Leggs, nope. He drives a compact truck, lives in an apartment and just got a divorce. Plus, he does the same job that I do. He ain’t making Lottery money…..believe me.

SexyCool

February 25th, 2011
12:42 pm

Oh…and if anybody has a good contact for someone to sand and refinish hardwood floors, can you in-box me with that?

Also…I’m looking for a black side-by-side refrigerator for the low-low. If you have any ideas besides the Sears Outlet Center or craigslist, let me know.

Raqi V

February 25th, 2011
12:42 pm

Yeah SexyCool as with any others you have to pick and choose in what is best for you and yours.

DMV

February 25th, 2011
12:44 pm

Raqi…it ain’t the weight. It’s that they are SINGLE. If they get married, he’ll have to put up with the same thing I do. It’s just a fact or life I think and part of standard ingredients in wedding cake.