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Is your dating GPS broken?

On the Bravo show Millionaire Matchmaker,  Patty Sanger is often referring to the ” picker.”  It’s like some sort of uncontrollable dating GPS device that steers us toward a specific type.

She thinks that the male picker is, well his picker and women tend to pick based on security and wealth .  A bit sexist I think, but I suppose women aren’t considered as visual as men are in this regard.

I can’t with say with certainty that I have a single picker. If I were to have one though, it would be my brain. I am very much into a man’s intellect and heaven help me if the man has an extensive vocabulary. Seriously.

When we talked about chasing the instant connection this week,  I started thinking of the routes and paths we take looking for it.  Are we looking for love in the right places? Is there a right place?

Even when all conditions are right, we’re around those who have common likes and interests, our dating GPS can still direct us the wrong way. I’d argue that we can sometimes even get lost – and you know how some of us are about asking for directions.

Do you think you follow your instincts? Do you trust what your gut tells you? Does it generally guide you in the right direction?

Is it better to be lead by your head or your heart? Do you ever get a sense that your dating GPS is broken or malfunctioning? If so, how can it get fixed?

P.S. Maybe your Dating GPS can steer you toward Modern Day Matchmaker’s event this Saturday. The Quarterly Atlanta brings a new twist to mixing and mingling with flow dating (equal parts networking, speed dating,  flirting marathon). It’s sophisticated singles networking socially. Get your pickers ready!

P.S.S  One Degree From Me is offering Misadventures in Atlanta lucky readers a chance to win admission.  The first 5 guys and first 5 girls to email their name, age, phone number and why they believe they are so fly and a great catch (brandon@onedegreefrom.me) gets a shot at it. Good luck!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
5:10 pm

Mehcad Brooks

He is yummy. I love everything he’s done…Glory Road, The Game, The Deep End, True Blood.

I need to see this commercial…

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
5:11 pm

Seriously, I don’t mind it

I’ll bet. :lol:

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:12 pm

I want a woman to be attracted my intelligence first before she is attracted to all of this physical fine sexiness.

Celisea

February 24th, 2011
5:13 pm

SexyC – He’s not Jen’s husband from Basketball Wives, is he?

No…but he dang sure favors and can go for being brothers..LOL

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
5:13 pm

I want a woman to be attracted my intelligence first before she is attracted to all of this physical fine sexiness.

Amen brother! Now you’re making sense! :lol:

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:14 pm

Don’t let my handsome looks make you not pay attention to my brain…..please pick your panties back up…I just met you.

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:15 pm

Alas, Amazon that is not always the case, they always want to climb the mountain or play in my hair.

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
5:17 pm

I don’t want to work out this evening, but I sho want some Ranch chicken wings!

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:17 pm

ARed

The only bad thing is that some of the 21st century women are bold. One came right up to me this weekend, while I was at Atlantic Station’s DSW, and say “Hey, Beautiful, want to get lunch?” Then she proceeded to extend her hand with her business card. I politely declined. But that seemed to make her more determined. I actually ended up leaving the store. It just too pretty outside to get upset.

It was definitely a turn on that someone was that interested. So, it was by choice that I had to get out of that situation and keep myself honest. She was a hottie, too.

Celisea

February 24th, 2011
5:17 pm

I want a woman to be attracted my intelligence first before she is attracted to all of this physical fine sexiness.

PR – Stop playing..lol You’ve been cutting all day.

Night folks, I’m out.

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February 24th, 2011
5:18 pm

One came right up to me this weekend, while I was at Atlantic Station’s DSW, and say “Hey, Beautiful, want to get lunch?” Then she proceeded to extend her hand with her business card. I politely declined. But that seemed to make her more determined.

:? Were you wearing your wedding band?

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:19 pm

Celisea, you have all access baby to anything you want except my money. LOL

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:20 pm

yes, I was wearing it. Plus, if it was off, the tanning line would be so noticable.

On top of that, I was shopping in the female section for some boots for the wife. So, it should have been obvious that there was some female that was important enough to me to be there. Those boots aren’t cheap. Not even at DSW!

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:21 pm

DSW doesn’t carry size 17 often. So, I don’t get shoes for me there very often.

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
5:21 pm

@PoppaG ~ I’m going to use that line!

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
5:22 pm

yes, I was wearing it. Plus, if it was off, the tanning line would be so noticable.

Damn chickenheads

For Real

February 24th, 2011
5:23 pm

“So, it should have been obvious that there was some female that was important enough to me to be there.” – Whew!! Willie, PR cancel the PG is a Barry azz Barry signs.

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:25 pm

Leggs…

Feel free. Although I was initially surprised that she stepped to me, it was flattering. I could not get upset. I controlled what I could control to keep me out of trouble. Once I realized that not only was she attractive, but I was attracted to her, it was time to get out of there.

I’ve said it many times on here, “I know the crazy with which I live. ” That was no lie.

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:26 pm

For Real, LOL do you have something I can get this bumper sticker off of PG’s car with? LOL

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
5:29 pm

For Real

February 24th, 2011
5:30 pm

Dayum you efficient fugger!!!

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:30 pm

Her nickname is Firecracker. It is good sometimes…and it is bad sometimes. I can handle her, though.

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
5:30 pm

That’s what it’s all about, PoppaG. Knowing when to retreat and not let temptation rule!

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
5:32 pm

For Real

February 24th, 2011
5:33 pm

PR here I got this boobbie glue remover from Ared dresser last night. I don’t know why I took except it said boobbie

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:37 pm

LOL, okay thanks!

Willie Dynamite

February 24th, 2011
5:39 pm

4Real – you know its costing us $$ to keep cancelling these print jobs. Plus the bumper stickers aint exactly free. We need a stimulus plan or a bailout. PG can go over the paperwork.

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:39 pm

Get that off my car!!! Better be glad that I wasn’t driving the Audi R8. Nobody puts anything on that car….when I get it… :lol:

For Real

February 24th, 2011
5:42 pm

“We need a stimulus plan or a bailout. PG can go over the paperwork.” – Maybe we can get Simple to throw an extravagant dinner party?

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:44 pm

LOL @Dinner Party

PG, sorry I am quick with putting these stickers on.

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:44 pm

Man, where are the bishes?

For Real

February 24th, 2011
5:44 pm

“sorry I am quick with putting these stickers on.” – That’s what she said.

For Real

February 24th, 2011
5:45 pm

Purp: When are you coming back to Atlanta? When need to get the MLB together for some drankin, ish talkin and azz chasing.

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:46 pm

PR…you need to be careful who you ask to purify themselves in Lake Minnetonka.

Willie Dynamite

February 24th, 2011
5:46 pm

4Real, yep long as its not a Dinner Party.

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:47 pm

LOL, I will be there on March 4th all the way until the 14th

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:48 pm

Man, where are the bishes?

They have gone home to take the 6 in heels off because they are hurting their feet. The push up bra is hurting something else. And take those darn spanks off, too.

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:48 pm

Poppa, why is that? LOL

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:49 pm

And they say they are not visual, if they werent they would not wear all of that stuff

For Real

February 24th, 2011
5:50 pm

“4Real, yep long as its not a Dinner Party.” – lol….. Come Willie I thought you were down for the cause. I mean it will be fair. You, PR, PG, Swiss and Simple can draw straws.

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:50 pm

What if Rupaul wants to purify himself? Or that Housewife Kim Z? You shouldn’t purify people all will nilly?

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:52 pm

Poppa, point made!

For Real what are we drawing straws for?

For Real

February 24th, 2011
5:53 pm

That’s why I call all of them irrational. The don’t even see the contradictions in their statements. It’s okay display their body parts for everyone to look at but it’s not okay to look at them and objectify them. Got it!

Willie Dynamite

February 24th, 2011
5:53 pm

4Real – naw man, Simp prolly have the lil twisty straws with umbrella beside it.

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:53 pm

Cosmo tells them that they need that stuff to be sexy. That is why many of them wear that stuff. They don’t want to be frumpy. Whether its the View or The Talk or whatever, many people tell them that they need that stuff.

And as Smokey (from Friday) said “We Know this, mmmmaaaannn!”

For Real

February 24th, 2011
5:54 pm

Good point PG.

The person that’s going to host the “Dinner Party” that Willie was speaking of.

For Real

February 24th, 2011
5:55 pm

You are right PG but why doesn’t Cosmo tell some of them that some of that stuff wasn’t made to fit certain women?

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:55 pm

Now, with all that said….I don’t oppose them wanting to look nice. Shoot, my favorite time of the year approaches….Sundress Season!! Yay!!

Willie Dynamite

February 24th, 2011
5:56 pm

Cosmo has learned that you have to tell them what they want to hear, Just in a different way.

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:57 pm

For Real…Don’t forget that this is a free market society. If someone is willing to buy it, there is someone willing to sell it. No matter what “it” maybe.