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Is your dating GPS broken?

On the Bravo show Millionaire Matchmaker,  Patty Sanger is often referring to the ” picker.”  It’s like some sort of uncontrollable dating GPS device that steers us toward a specific type.

She thinks that the male picker is, well his picker and women tend to pick based on security and wealth .  A bit sexist I think, but I suppose women aren’t considered as visual as men are in this regard.

I can’t with say with certainty that I have a single picker. If I were to have one though, it would be my brain. I am very much into a man’s intellect and heaven help me if the man has an extensive vocabulary. Seriously.

When we talked about chasing the instant connection this week,  I started thinking of the routes and paths we take looking for it.  Are we looking for love in the right places? Is there a right place?

Even when all conditions are right, we’re around those who have common likes and interests, our dating GPS can still direct us the wrong way. I’d argue that we can sometimes even get lost – and you know how some of us are about asking for directions.

Do you think you follow your instincts? Do you trust what your gut tells you? Does it generally guide you in the right direction?

Is it better to be lead by your head or your heart? Do you ever get a sense that your dating GPS is broken or malfunctioning? If so, how can it get fixed?

P.S. Maybe your Dating GPS can steer you toward Modern Day Matchmaker’s event this Saturday. The Quarterly Atlanta brings a new twist to mixing and mingling with flow dating (equal parts networking, speed dating,  flirting marathon). It’s sophisticated singles networking socially. Get your pickers ready!

P.S.S  One Degree From Me is offering Misadventures in Atlanta lucky readers a chance to win admission.  The first 5 guys and first 5 girls to email their name, age, phone number and why they believe they are so fly and a great catch (brandon@onedegreefrom.me) gets a shot at it. Good luck!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

481 comments Add your comment

MC Hammock

February 24th, 2011
4:41 pm

I want a very confident woman that takes care of herself, pleasing to the eye, smart, funny, happy, loves to dance, sexually confident and doesn’t take everything like we’re planning the invasion or Iran or something. Oh yeah….did I mention a libido that is like sexual napalm? Or is that too much to ask? Just dayum………I thought so……

For Real

February 24th, 2011
4:42 pm

Cliff aka Dream: I see you are a greek scholar as well however, my victory over Raqi and Ared is not a Pyrrhic one as I sustain no ill effect from pinning Raqi and Ared down cause I just rubbed up against two sets of breastatesstess.

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
4:43 pm

@ARed ~ don’t worry, neither have I. Fion, perhaps if you post in spanish we might understand the words that are coming out of your mouth….

BlackMagicWoman

February 24th, 2011
4:43 pm

DREAMS….You get a time out for that one! :lol:

SWISS…hell yes! A man with 6 pack abs and not 6 pack beer gut flab is a turn on! If his face and the rest of his body matches…I just my do him on his mami’s kitchen table…during breakfast! :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

February 24th, 2011
4:44 pm

‘We’ve seen how you women react when some dude’s chiseled 6-pack is paraded in front of you’

swiss – Did i miss the blog skrip show invite? I have a dolla I think I can spare for some innocent entertainment of course :mrgreen:

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
4:44 pm

For Real – You haven’t won anything. Just another thing you’re disallusioned about!

SexyCool

February 24th, 2011
4:45 pm

I can’t even spare a dollar.

Celisea

February 24th, 2011
4:46 pm

Huh? I haven’t understood any of your posts today dude. Make it plain please.

I thought it was just me…lol

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
4:46 pm

That’s 3 of us now.

Celisea

February 24th, 2011
4:48 pm

LOLOL…I’m at the screen rolling. I can truly count on somebody from this blog to make me laugh out loud….daily

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February 24th, 2011
4:48 pm

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
4:48 pm

we all enjoy being objectified from time to time, under the correct circumstances.

I agree with that statement. We are humans. We like to feel good about ourselves, but sometimes we like to know that we are physically appealing to others.

When females notice that I wear a size 17, I feel objectified….. :lol: Sometimes, you can just see the look in a female’s eye when she looks down at my feet.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 24th, 2011
4:48 pm

BMW — Somehow I knew you’d back me up on that one. See, if anything, we men are less shallow than women. We get turned on by women of a variety of physiques, even if they have a little cushion here & there. You ladies only get excited by the unemployed dudes with enough time to spend 8 hours a day in the gym to get that 6-pack. :lol: Spoiler Alert: They’re probably gay anyway… :lol:

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
4:49 pm

Women are definitely visual, why do you think Barry azz Barry is mad and single?

And what women does not like to be objectified in the heat of the moment? She is slamming it back on you and the man says “grind that sexy azz on me” does she jump it say “stop objectifying me” LOL I don’t think I am doing it right if I don’t get objectified. LOL

If any of you ladies would like to change your ratings on my scale I am open to an experience that may get you a rescore.

Celisea

February 24th, 2011
4:49 pm

If it ain’t some simpleton like Barry, it’s some over zealous book smart book worm that’s not wearing it wear or a blog lady that’s gonna knock ‘em out by just being honest….LOL Love this crazy bunch

Celisea

February 24th, 2011
4:50 pm

not wearing it “well”….not “wear”

Fion

February 24th, 2011
4:51 pm

@ Leggs

ok, here ya go. i was doing 4 things at once earlier, so her we go.
It’s a play on words. Instead of saying the correct thing you purposefully use or mis-pronounce the word.
Intead of saying Ambidextrous, you say Amphibious.

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
4:52 pm

Swiss, LOL

Poppa Grande, me being on the top part of 6′6 I too feel objectified. Hey the shuttle is about to launch. I am talking about the real Nasa Space Shuttle you sickos

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
4:52 pm

I am so over the Space Shuttle. This is the last one, isn’t it?

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
4:53 pm

@Fion ~ I’m aware of what you’re doing, just letting you know you’re doing it badly (LOL).

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
4:53 pm

Women are definitely visual

Well duh. Of course, both genders are visual that’s why we have the gift of sight.

However, there is plenty of evidence to support that men are generally more visual then women are.

Simple Man!!!!

February 24th, 2011
4:54 pm

“I just my do him on his mami’s kitchen table…during breakfast!”

Coming out of the peanut gallery to say

DAMN!!!!!!!

BlackMagicWoman

February 24th, 2011
4:55 pm

I LOVE a tall well built man! It’s no crime! :lol:

Goodnight all!

SexyCool

February 24th, 2011
4:55 pm

Anybody got any hook up on a Hawks ticket for a Heat or a Lakers game?

One of my buddies is looking for the player price. (cheap ass – lol, but I told him I would ask.)

Fion

February 24th, 2011
4:55 pm

Fion ~ I’m aware of what you’re doing, just letting you know you’re doing it badly

guess i better write better material next go round.

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
4:56 pm

PR….I agree with ya. We, tall dudes, are objectified. You know the whole tall, dark and handsome thing. It is an objectification.

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
4:58 pm

Sounds like you dudes are complaining about it too. You poor things. :lol:

Celisea

February 24th, 2011
4:58 pm

PR….I agree with ya. We, tall dudes, are objectified. You know the whole tall, dark and handsome thing. It is an objectification.

Ut uh…not always. The ballplayer is 6′6 and about and dumb and stupid and duffuss looking as eva. A coworker LOVES to hammer on the fact that he wears the pants from his “chuuch” suite and really believe is the next best wind blowing through here. Then he ain’t cute. Tall, dark but not so cute

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
4:59 pm

Speaking of objectifying, I am objectifying that female on the State Farm commericial. Not Janay from the Game, but the Victoria Secret Model that she turns into.

“So this is what you like?”…. :lol:

I think that the dude that plays the “new boyfriend” is from the Game, too.

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
4:59 pm

Poppa yes we are and then we just have to prove that the myth is true.

Amazon, women are more visual than men. There are a lot more guys banging ugly women than there are women banging ugly dudes. LOL

SexyCool

February 24th, 2011
5:00 pm

He’s not Jen’s husband from Basketball Wives, is he?

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
5:00 pm

Amazon, women are more visual than men. There are a lot more guys banging ugly women than there are women banging ugly dudes. LOL

Not true.

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:00 pm

That dude is from True Blood as well, but that Girl that she turns into is just my type…whenever I see it. LOL

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:01 pm

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:01 pm

Amazon, women are more visual than men. There are a lot more guys banging ugly women than there are women banging ugly dudes. LOL

It all depends on who drinks more in any given instance. :lol:

Or if it is time for a slump buster….

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
5:01 pm

Good night!

Love people deeply; hold onto them lightly!

MC Hammock

February 24th, 2011
5:01 pm

Amazon, no man will EVER complain about being objectified in that way….not ever….unless he prefers another man to be doing it.

SexyCool

February 24th, 2011
5:03 pm

PG – that is Selita Ebanks.

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February 24th, 2011
5:03 pm

Amazon, no man will EVER complain about being objectified in that way….not ever….unless he prefers another man to be doing it.

I don’t know…the tall ones seem kinda whiny about it on here. ;)

MC Hammock

February 24th, 2011
5:03 pm

Purple@4:59….and Purple hits a LINE DRIVE right over the center field wall!!!! HOME RUN!!!!

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
5:04 pm

that is Selita Ebanks.

Ah…Nick Cannon’s ex. She is a beauty.

Paula Patton is my girl crush tho.

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:05 pm

That commercial is cool because it has eye candy for both men and women. My wife isn’t as slick as she thinks. I notice that she perks up a bit when it comes on.

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:05 pm

My End of the Day quote that I stole

There’s nothing that pleases a MAN more sexually than when his woman reaches her height of an orgasm before he gets his! *DISCLAIMER – THIS APPLIES TO GROWN MEN ONLY*

SexyCool

February 24th, 2011
5:06 pm

Whatever, P-Lito on that 459p. YDudes are the first ones to say “Puddy ain’t got no face on it and it’s all the same inside.”….or words to that effect.

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:06 pm

Paula Patton and that Zoe lady is nice also.

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:06 pm

SexyCool

February 24th, 2011
5:07 pm

What is funny about that commercial is the way Janae(?) claps her hands together when dude turns into Mehcad Brooks.

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:08 pm

I think it’s funny that she wanted and got him changed and was happy but when he got her changed she was mad. LOL

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
5:09 pm

I don’t know…the tall ones seem kinda whiny about it on here

Darn skippy. They betta recognize. I want the lady that have never seen me before to notice my degrees first.

Seriously, I don’t mind it. :grin:

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
5:10 pm

SexyCool, it is all pink on the inside but it all does not feel the same. Puddyye has a face and I have seen it…stared it right in the eye…and I licked it! I mean liked it…lol