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Is your dating GPS broken?

On the Bravo show Millionaire Matchmaker,  Patty Sanger is often referring to the ” picker.”  It’s like some sort of uncontrollable dating GPS device that steers us toward a specific type.

She thinks that the male picker is, well his picker and women tend to pick based on security and wealth .  A bit sexist I think, but I suppose women aren’t considered as visual as men are in this regard.

I can’t with say with certainty that I have a single picker. If I were to have one though, it would be my brain. I am very much into a man’s intellect and heaven help me if the man has an extensive vocabulary. Seriously.

When we talked about chasing the instant connection this week,  I started thinking of the routes and paths we take looking for it.  Are we looking for love in the right places? Is there a right place?

Even when all conditions are right, we’re around those who have common likes and interests, our dating GPS can still direct us the wrong way. I’d argue that we can sometimes even get lost – and you know how some of us are about asking for directions.

Do you think you follow your instincts? Do you trust what your gut tells you? Does it generally guide you in the right direction?

Is it better to be lead by your head or your heart? Do you ever get a sense that your dating GPS is broken or malfunctioning? If so, how can it get fixed?

P.S. Maybe your Dating GPS can steer you toward Modern Day Matchmaker’s event this Saturday. The Quarterly Atlanta brings a new twist to mixing and mingling with flow dating (equal parts networking, speed dating,  flirting marathon). It’s sophisticated singles networking socially. Get your pickers ready!

P.S.S  One Degree From Me is offering Misadventures in Atlanta lucky readers a chance to win admission.  The first 5 guys and first 5 girls to email their name, age, phone number and why they believe they are so fly and a great catch (brandon@onedegreefrom.me) gets a shot at it. Good luck!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

481 comments Add your comment

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
3:06 pm

3497939838734, i’m swiss. Am I right?

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
3:07 pm

If someone called me Sexual Napalm, I would be like “Well…THANKS!” and puff my chest out a bit…lol

I couldnt’ be too flattered if at the end of the day, I still couldn’t maintain a relationship!

cba

February 24th, 2011
3:08 pm

Good luck Leggs, I read about this lady from Duluth who has won four times since 2004. The smallest was about 28,000 and the max 1 mil. Recently, she won 400,000.00. Said she still working.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 24th, 2011
3:11 pm

Leggs — WRONG!!!!!

I was not thinking of a number at all, but rather trying to come up with a decent ending to this bit…

Next issue:

On a scale of 1 to 37 — 1 being not annoying in the least; 37 being Gilbert Gottfried making dirty talk — how annoying are these topics?

Pat Buchanan!

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 24th, 2011
3:14 pm

See what happens when I get too bored at work?

:lol:

MC Hammock

February 24th, 2011
3:20 pm

*sigh….ARed gets heavy with the relationship stuff. I think I’ll stick with the napalm complement and it was one of the MANY reasons she wanted a relationship with me…….how’s that?

MC Hammock

February 24th, 2011
3:21 pm

wouldn’t matter if I was in a relationship or not, A lady calsl me Sexual Napalm and I’m good! LMAO

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 24th, 2011
3:22 pm

RE: “Sexual Napalm” — Any chick can be sexual napalm when the right buttons are pushed by the right person. Jessica Rabbit got pi$$ed because she doesn’t want to live up to that expectation with every other dude… :lol:

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
3:22 pm

ARed gets heavy with the relationship stuff

Was my comment particularly heavy or profound? I don’t think so.

And I didn’t even know you had received such a complement. I figured we were talking about Denise Richards or Jessica Simpson. I’ve received some pretty nice compliments, but at the end of the day they were from guys who ultimately went another direction (away from me) so who cares what they think. :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

February 24th, 2011
3:22 pm

It’s strange that yall gave BMW such a low number but if you had a poll of who on the list would you believe would be less inhibited in the bedroom, I’d put at the top of the list….(In a good way BMW ;-) )

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
3:23 pm

Sexual Napalm is a great compliment. And I just don’t believe anything Halle says, shes a woman. LOL

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
3:25 pm

And I just don’t believe anything Halle says, shes a woman. LOL

Hey, Purple Rain, I see that you have attended the ABC school of understanding females… :lol:

Celisea

February 24th, 2011
3:27 pm

And I just don’t believe anything Halle says, shes a woman.

akin to ABC’s mantra…lol

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
3:28 pm

@PoppaG ~ you missed him. PR/abc’s lecturer was on here yesterday, Mr. Barry!

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 24th, 2011
3:28 pm

On a scale of 1 to 37 — 1 being not annoying in the least; 37 being Gilbert Gottfried making dirty talk — how annoying are these topics?
Swiss Not nearly as annoying as being on a conference call with a guy who sounds like an air traffic controller “your current altitude is 30,000 feet, winds are blowing northeast at 4.32 nautical miles per hour, weather conditions are suitable for flight…blah blah blah”

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
3:28 pm

I gave BMW the negative 3, on her CT being played with tonight. As far as the highest number in the bedroom due to having no inhibitions…I think kym, kimmie and AmazonRed for the sleeper picks. Treating you like a tool just to so she can get off I think BMW and Leggs are tied. Romance, making meaningful love and playing to the male ego, Raqi and SexyCool. As far as all out fun and games, Slim is the winner. LOL who did I leave out. Oh yeah Bondage and gagging you, Wise Diva(she has control issues) LOL

Purple Rain "Why don't you purify yourself in the waters of Lake Minnetonka?"

February 24th, 2011
3:30 pm

Poppa Grande, I skipped a few of his classes, I want to believe what they say but I just don’t believe it all. LOL

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
3:31 pm

AmazonRed for the sleeper picks

Ha! Naw, I’m a lame-o! You should be able to tell that by my posting alone!

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 24th, 2011
3:31 pm

And I just don’t believe anything Halle says, shes a woman. LOL
abc would be proud of you.

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
3:32 pm

Oh..,yeah, I’m sorry that I missed that. :lol

I see that ARed is still a popular blog target.

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
3:33 pm

I see that ARed is still a popular blog target

:shock: What did I miss? Did someone come after me. Dang, I’m still looking for a 2011 showdown!

Raqi V

February 24th, 2011
3:34 pm

Depending on who’s giving the meaning being called a sexual napalm may only be good in theory because it is stuff like that that can get you dead.

That could boil over in the person having an obsession or addiction for your sex. Having a sexual hold on someone could make them go bonkers when it’s taken away.

That little 15 year old boy that just killed his girlfriend is said to have been obsessed with her. Their friends and family talked about it on the news. He was in way too deep.

MC Hammock

February 24th, 2011
3:35 pm

PurpleRain, where you find the women that just treat you like a tool? I’ve dated some older ladies that we only out for that. I think it is SO that a woman could think like that..not be all about “lovey dovie”, “sweet snookums” and sweet nothings. Let’s hear it for grabbin ya by the collar, throwin ya down and making you go until SHE’S had enuff…..*fanning self

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
3:36 pm

Asking for dates via text. A cancer…it’s spreading. Chemo isn’t working. :evil:

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
3:37 pm

@PR ~ my face hurts from laughing. I don’t want to be anyone’s tool so I sure won’t be using anyone in such a manner (LOL). However, you should have put me up there with Raqi V/SexyC. Really.

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
3:37 pm

Yeah, as a woman it’s harder to appreciate the “sexual napalm” compliment. You know women don’t like to be objectified. What if that was indeed the best thing you had to offer. :lol:

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 24th, 2011
3:37 pm

“Dang, I’m still looking for a 2011 showdown!”

ARed has cooties.

Let’s do this… :lol:

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
3:39 pm

Swiss – I already disqualified you. Girl on girl, remember?! :lol:

MC Hammock

February 24th, 2011
3:40 pm

Naah, Raqi V, that is nothing BUT a major complement. It means she is so hot, she makes your jaw drop, it means doing it with her is as addictive as crack. It means an experience with her will spoil you for the rest of the female population and you will ever experience anything like that again. It means no holds barred, no inhibitions and she will make you experience pleasure that you will never feel from another woman again…..at least that’s what I get from sexual napalm….lol

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 24th, 2011
3:41 pm

“Girl on girl, remember?!”

ARed — I just came a little… :lol:

SexyCool

February 24th, 2011
3:42 pm

Plito – that is the most interesting, er, um…compliment(?) that I’ve received in a while.

You crazy people keep me laughing.

MC Hammock

February 24th, 2011
3:42 pm

I kinda liked it a lot the few times I was “objectified” in that manner…..

Poppa Grande

February 24th, 2011
3:44 pm

Actually when I think of sexual napalm, I think of something exploding. :lol:
I think that I’ll leave that alone or I may get banned.

Fion

February 24th, 2011
3:44 pm

@Raqi V

“Fion, I think he admitted to cheating on her but said he couldn’t help himself…Sex Addiction Rehab”

Hey I’m back. Wow! I never heard that part of the story.
I’ll stick to the business section form now on.

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 24th, 2011
3:44 pm

“It means she is so hot, she makes your jaw drop, it means doing it with her is as addictive as crack. It means an experience with her will spoil you for the rest of the female population and you will ever experience anything like that again. It means no holds barred, no inhibitions and she will make you experience pleasure that you will never feel from another woman again…”

Of course, it could also mean “that b!tch will set yo’ w@ng on fire” :lol:

For Real

February 24th, 2011
3:45 pm

slim, raqi and sex cool are the triple threats of the blog chicks:

no inhibitions

Treating you like a tool just to so she can get off

Romance, making meaningful love and playing to the male ego

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
3:45 pm

I kinda liked it a lot the few times I was “objectified” in that manner…..

Yeah, but you’re a dude right? Most guys don’t complain about that. :lol:

Leggs

February 24th, 2011
3:46 pm

@MC H ~ a lot of men love to be manhandled. It’s some women who fail to realize this!

Raqi V

February 24th, 2011
3:46 pm

MCHammock, yeah like you said an obsession or addiction. That can very much get you dead.

I love having sex with my husband and I love that he likes and desires my sex. But when it gets to the line where for him its literally “as addictive as crack” then that’s where the line gets drawn.

Don’t get me wrong, I love sex just as much as any man and I have strong desires for my husband’s. But addictions are never good.

However, being that “sexual naplam” is only a term/phrase coined JohnM it up for interpretation.

For Real

February 24th, 2011
3:47 pm

“You know women don’t like to be objectified.” – I’m calling BS on this one!

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 24th, 2011
3:47 pm

slim, raqi and sex cool are the triple threats of the blog chicks:
The blog trifecta. lol

Raqi V

February 24th, 2011
3:48 pm

LOL PoppaG. Sex and exploding are a good combination. It’s the addiction part in the not so understoof meaning of sexual naplam that scares me.

AmazonRed™ - Show time...

February 24th, 2011
3:48 pm

“You know women don’t like to be objectified.” – I’m calling BS on this one!

Unless you’re referring to chickenheads and hood rats, most women want to be known for more than having nice body parts.

Raqi V

February 24th, 2011
3:49 pm

Yall better stop. LOL

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 24th, 2011
3:50 pm

“I’m calling BS on this one!”

Why, For Real? You know as well as I do that nothing takes a woman over the top like bending her over, smacking that booty while blowing her back out & shouting, “I respect you as a human being!” :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

February 24th, 2011
3:52 pm

‘As far as all out fun and games, Slim is the winner’

Purp – You calling me Fun Size? :roll:

MC Hammock

February 24th, 2011
3:53 pm

Raqi V, I quote a recent comedian that I heard “Women think they have caught up with men in the sex drive arena, thoughts, etc. They really dothink that and you see articles stating that they want it as much as a man. Well, I’m here to tell you something about that;;;;;;;

You have NO idea.

It’s like comparing the similarities between throwing a bullet at someone and shooting it out of a rifle. If women knew what we thought about 24/7, you would NEVER stop slapping us.”

Raqi V

February 24th, 2011
3:58 pm

LOL MCHammock, I don’t doubt that. Neither do I think I think about or want sex as much as my husband. But the point I was making is while I like it and I love it I have no desire to become obsessed over it. Heck there is always chocolate. LOL

Raqi V

February 24th, 2011
3:59 pm

Good lawd I have heartburn sooooo bad. BRB

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 24th, 2011
4:01 pm

“Heck there is always chocolate.”

And then there’s Sexual Chocolate:lol: