Dating takes time. Do you have it to spare?
My favorite Matchmaker Paul Carrick Brunson recently tweeted: “If you don’t allocate time to find love, it’s going to be very hard for love to find you”. Now I had to seriously think of the amount of time I allocate to dating. Even though I’m on the go a lot, I don’t necessarily have “manhunt” on the menu, although I certainly wouldn’t run from a promising potential. How much time should you allocate to finding love?
Last night I attended a panel discussion at W Hotel in Buckhead, presented by The Root and Target. It was a positive and empowering event for women who are Young, Female, and Fabulous (oh hush, 2 out of 3 isn’t bad). The panelists included: Tracy Ferguson from Jones Magazine, Taj George (singer/SWV member), Beverly Bond (DJ Extraordinaire/Black Girls Rock founder), and Jacque Reid (TV/Radio personality) facilitated the discussion.
One of the attendees asked, “How do you balance work and home life?” When home life is supposed to include devoting time to dating, how do you juggle everything? Most of us have busy schedules and many responsibilities, so how do you carve out time for dating? How do you prioritize what is important and necessary?
Are you leaving it to chance or do you actively take steps to meeting someone special?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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443 comments Add your comment
Leggs
February 23rd, 2011
4:30 pm
@DreamsM ~ I do apologize. I will send you one via FedX tomorrow.
@RandyT ~ I have to go exercise…may I have the honor of you leaving the E.O.D….thank you.
Peace Out!
Raqi V
February 23rd, 2011
4:30 pm
That was a hot evening. Black nail polish. Black tigress stripes on my face. Wide black leather wristbands.
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:30 pm
Raqi, thats what I was thinking. LOL
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:31 pm
Leather and rubber latex is always sexy. LOL
Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)
February 23rd, 2011
4:31 pm
Hey PR, she would want me to try them on first!!!
Couldn’t possibly hurt like that Brazillian wax job on my back that one talked me into, though…PPPPAAAAIIIIINNNNN!!!! (and 40 bucks).
Raqi V
February 23rd, 2011
4:32 pm
Nip clips? 9 volt batteries? I am so glad my hubby is not into pleasurable pain. The only pain I like having is that of my thighs and back after a pleasurable arching and some figorous riding.
SexyCool
February 23rd, 2011
4:33 pm
TheDude has developed a fondness for seeing me in those “liquid” black pants. Me? Not so much. But…he likes ‘em. So, I wear ‘em.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
February 23rd, 2011
4:33 pm
I do apologize. I will send you one via FedX tomorrow.
Leggs Nah don’t worry about it. I have diplomatic relations with all the blog nations thusfar. I haven’t been fired at so far, so I’m good. Besides, I have my own arsenal if I ever needed. lol
AmazonRed™ - Show time...
February 23rd, 2011
4:34 pm
Amazon, SimpleMan is the only guy that I know that would fix stuff for free.
That’s because you are a guy. You expect something in return. I’m a chick and know that there are so many good guys that are gentlemen just because that’s how they are.
My driveway was iced over…one of my guy friends came and broke up all the hardened iced over snow so I could get to work during the snow storm. It took him two hours to do so, not to mention many roads were still not passable. He didn’t even allow me to take him to dinner as a thank you.
Another guy friend likes putting things together and fixing things, so he does the work for us ladies for free.
Another guy friend likes to cook, so he hosts elaborate dinner parties and doesn’t ask us to contribute anything (except maybe a bottle of wine sometimes).
I can go on and on.
Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)
February 23rd, 2011
4:34 pm
Raqi (”The only pain I like having is that of my thighs and back after a pleasurable arching and some figorous riding” Just between us, me too
but don’t tell anyone.
SexyCool
February 23rd, 2011
4:35 pm
Are any of these dudes gay?
(lol)
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:36 pm
Yeah Amazon I am a guy and I do want I am supposed to do to women. I mean for women. LOL
SexyCool, let me see. LOL
Willie Dynamite
February 23rd, 2011
4:37 pm
Ared – Show anyone of those guys just a lil bit of romantic inkling and see where all that friendly gentlemanly goes.
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:38 pm
In Amazon’s mind it is all friendly, in the guys mind they are just biding there times. We can wait minutes months or years even a whole lifetime. LOL
AmazonRed™ - Show time...
February 23rd, 2011
4:39 pm
@SexyCool – No, none are gay. I told y’all I don’t like “bad boys” only nice ones! I lost handyman faux hubby because he’s now married. Show shoveler has a girlfriend.
AmazonRed™ - Show time...
February 23rd, 2011
4:40 pm
Show anyone of those guys just a lil bit of romantic inkling and see where all that friendly gentlemanly goes.
Ha ha… They are still men. I’m sure if I’d threw it they’d take it.
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:40 pm
Amazon see they wanted you for the wife or girlfriend but you had other plans so they moved on. LOL
Raqi V
February 23rd, 2011
4:40 pm
SexyCool, I got some edible panties once and they became a total distraction for like 3 minutes. He was sitting there examining them like Ned the Nerd talkin about “who comes up with this stuff”.
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:41 pm
Amazon, that sounds sexy say that again now throw it again now say it and throw it at the same time. LOL
SexyCool
February 23rd, 2011
4:41 pm
Actually, the only one that I find to be kinda suspect is the dinner party dude.
AmazonRed™ - Show time...
February 23rd, 2011
4:43 pm
Amazon see they wanted you for the wife or girlfriend but you had other plans so they moved on. LOL
Still makes them nice guys with no ulterior motives!
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:43 pm
Dinner party dude? So Amazon DID hook up with SimpleMan! Wasn;t he the one doing dinner parties and flowers etc.
(Where is he? I talked about him enough to bring him out) lol
AmazonRed™ - Show time...
February 23rd, 2011
4:43 pm
Actually, the only one that I find to be kinda suspect is the dinner party dude.
What makes you think that.
But since he’s still single, he’d be the more likely one. I just want to know how it raised a flag.
AmazonRed™ - Show time...
February 23rd, 2011
4:44 pm
Dinner party dude? So Amazon DID hook up with SimpleMan! Wasn;t he the one doing dinner parties and flowers etc
Nice try. This is the south. Do you know how many dudes out here can burn in the kitchen? Plenty! I love it!
Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)
February 23rd, 2011
4:44 pm
When i was dating the “Flake”. She was telling how one of her male friends in the FZ had done some yard work for her that weekend (friend of hr recent ex-husband, married of course), then once he got inside her house he all of a sudden was trying to kiss her. She was stunned (kind of POed me, but she kind of liked to jerk my chain).
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:45 pm
Sure Sure, the Jedi Mind trick still works. LOL
Simple Man!!!!
February 23rd, 2011
4:45 pm
Late check in today!!!
Why is Barry sitting in teh corner with his wig split????
Purple…the panty stealing thing was supposed to be just betwwen us!!! Now I gotta buy twice the shoes to get half the panties!!!
Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)
February 23rd, 2011
4:46 pm
Raqi, your story about the edibles revolves around whether they were out of the package in his hands, or being worn at the time…casts a totally different look on the story, ya know.
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:47 pm
Amazon, I can cook very well but I have ulterior motives. LOL
SimpleMan! I knew if I chirped on you enough you will come out and blog. LOL What’s up!
Simple Man!!!!
February 23rd, 2011
4:47 pm
After noon Ared… Hope you have had a wonderful day!!!
Willie Dynamite
February 23rd, 2011
4:48 pm
Purp – I was thinking the same thing. Hahahaha. We gave buddy a hard time bout all of that.
Ared – Dudes don’t throw elaborate dinner parties. If we throw any kind of dinner party best believe BBQ is involved somewhere. At best dude is VERY VERY MetroSexual and that line is blurring by the day.
SexyCool
February 23rd, 2011
4:48 pm
I know straight guys that can burn and that decorate well enough. But their skills in either of those areas tend to be fairly basic, not so frou-frou.
My friends that like to have folk over to eat are usually on throwing barbecues. Not dinner parties.
I’m guilty of the stereotype. I know.
For Real
February 23rd, 2011
4:51 pm
Ared I’m calling BS hard physical labor for 2 HOURS is not being nice. That’s a patient dude with plan. Working 2 hours to pull you from a trapped car? NICE… Working 2 HOURS breaking up ice in your long azz driveway? A FYP Five Year Plan.
Simple Man!!!!
February 23rd, 2011
4:52 pm
I am ready to jump in and defend the dinner party fellas, But I am not prepared to go to trial in defense of my man card today!!!
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:52 pm
Willie, yes that was a fun day when we were messing with him. LOL
Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)
February 23rd, 2011
4:52 pm
@ ARED, hoping you were nice enough not to let your BF walk out on the porch scratching his sack, just getting up from a nap, when dude was just finishing your driveway, LOL
SexyCool
February 23rd, 2011
4:53 pm
I had a “faux hubby”. He was my go-to guy for all things friend zone related. I could call him at any time day or night….and I knew it. I also knew that if I ever gave him a green light….well….
There were two things that I made sure to do….never to take his kindness for weakness and never ask him for money.
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:54 pm
Simple Man you are the ONLY dinner party fella. LOL
For Real, FYP with options. If you shovel enough driveways one of those women will give in sooner.
SexyCool
February 23rd, 2011
4:54 pm
He set himself up to be taken advantage of, but…I didn’t want to be THAT chick.
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:54 pm
Randy, LOL as the boyfriends says “Thanks”
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:55 pm
Ladies there are just somethings that warrant sex as payment for a job well done. LOL
SexyCool
February 23rd, 2011
4:55 pm
I bet Barry throws dinner parties.
Celisea
February 23rd, 2011
4:55 pm
And really it’s never too much trouble if it’s a means to an end
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:56 pm
Stop having so much self esteem.
Sexy Cool, I bet Barry can’t fix anything either. LOL After reading him today I finally believe in the saying “too smart for your own good”
Willie Dynamite
February 23rd, 2011
4:57 pm
SimpMan – please don’t, you have been making such great progress. Hate to see you throw it all away over a Dinner Party and a shoveled driveway. LOL!!!
Purple Rain
February 23rd, 2011
4:57 pm
Have any of your guys ever had a faux wife? Hell no. LOL
Simple Man!!!!
February 23rd, 2011
4:58 pm
Wait a minutes SexyCool….I do dinner parties…Barry seems more of a “Get a bunch of dudes together and watch the Actors Studio on PBS” type….
DMV
February 23rd, 2011
4:58 pm
Way back in 1988, I did date this lady that did the whole vampiress getup for a Halloween party in Buckhead. She even had the fake fangs and really tried to bite me as part of the “evening”. I tell ya, I’ve hung onto that for years n years. It seems people got a lot more conservative as I got older….*sigh
AmazonRed™ - Show time...
February 23rd, 2011
4:58 pm
Ared – Dudes don’t throw elaborate dinner parties. If we throw any kind of dinner party best believe BBQ is involved somewhere.
AmazonRed™ - Show time...
February 23rd, 2011
5:00 pm
Ared I’m calling BS hard physical labor for 2 HOURS is not being nice.
I think if he had known what my driveway was looking like, he wouldn’t have come. No one expects my driveway to be as long as it is.
Besides, I helped.