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Chasing the instant connection

Have you ever met someone and felt an instant connection with them? It feels like it’s deeper than mere physical attraction and yet it’s not “love at first sight” either.  It’s kind of like you connect somewhere in the middle.  It’s a pretty amazing feeling and it always seems to happen when you least expect it. Not sure, why that is, but this has been my experience.

The thing is, once you’ve had that really great, totally bananas connection with one person, you can feel as if you embark on this pursuit of the same instant connection with other people.  I think it’s probably the reason why there are so many missed connections because we keep comparing everyone to that one great connection.

Do you think it is a good idea to keep chasing that instant connection?  I’ve only felt it twice but I wonder if I will feel it again.

What do you think it means when you don’t feel instantly drawn to a person but over time it gets stronger? Isn’t that the way most relationships actually begin?  Do you believe that the instant connection means you have a better chance of getting to a relationship?

When was the last time you met someone and felt an instant connection with them? What do you think it was about them that made your introduction stand out?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

282 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

February 22nd, 2011
4:13 pm

The blog is so peaceful and relaxing now.

Raqi V

February 22nd, 2011
4:13 pm

When the partner says no to sex

Not all the time. That’s just being greedy and a horndog.

Raqi V

February 22nd, 2011
4:15 pm

then it’s time to negotiate for some other favors

That’s ^ the line I meant to copy and paste. LOL

Not all the time. That’s just being greedy and a horndog.

Leggs

February 22nd, 2011
4:16 pm

I feel your entire post, SlimSOne, esp. the overexaggeration hoping to wake you up so you can help out. Hmmm, I was a lump of coal not feeling a thing!

Raqi V

February 22nd, 2011
4:23 pm

Is it too early to leave the EOD quote, Leggs?

“Jesus wept.” ~ St. John

SlimSquareOne

February 22nd, 2011
4:24 pm

Raqi – No harm in trying ;-) They do it

Leggs – Yeah it doesn’t work when they do it but oddly enough once Slim would get going, for whatever reason, he would suddenly become interested. Be like, Hole up home boy…this ride is now closed :lol:

cba

February 22nd, 2011
4:29 pm

PR, somehow I picture you sitting in the barn on a bale of hay with you lap top and your eyes slightly glazed ;-)

Leggs

February 22nd, 2011
4:29 pm

Yes, it’s too early!

Leggs

February 22nd, 2011
4:31 pm

…this ride is now closed! Boy o boy!

Raqi V

February 22nd, 2011
4:33 pm

LOL Leggs. I am going to sneak downstairs and seat on the couch so you at 5pm you repost my EOD quote. Thanks.

dreamslut

February 22nd, 2011
4:36 pm

Hi guys. My day is finally over. I’ve read all the posts and some of you don’t paint a pretty picture. I have a girlfriend of mine that has been having an affair with the same guy for the past nine years because she said her hubby was boring in bed. Then the guys are complaining that their wives almost cut them off. Boy, if someone were thinking about marraige, this ain’t the place to go looking for themes.I really don’t understand the “I don’t want it like I used to” excuse from either person. It’s fun, it’s a great stress reliever, it feels mah-velous and it’s a way to connect (whether it’s long term or not). If people, both us women and you men, would keep the same mind set and do the same things that we did when dating, what’s the problem? My job is high stress and if I don’t sell, I don’t get paid. I have a mortgage, bills, cleaning, all that stuff. But my libido is always churning. Maybe it’s the familiarity with your partner or something, I don’t know.

Celisea

February 22nd, 2011
4:41 pm

Dreamslut – It would be much nicer if you posted under your real name…I ain’t buying you’re a newbie.

dreamslut

February 22nd, 2011
4:41 pm

Raqi V, I know that there are many things that go into a relationship, but there are some things, all things being equal, that are unnegotiable. Respect, conscienciousness and yes, a satisfactory intimate life. I don’t ever want to become boring (or bored) and I expect the same thing from my partner. But it seems we lose sight of the simple pleasures that brought people together. We put them off as not important enough or not time for. Wants to lose your tight grip on a relationship? Start drifting apart and negate some of the fun and pleasure that should be part of a relationship. It’s not all toil, toil and sweat.

dreamslut

February 22nd, 2011
4:42 pm

I’m off to go do aerobics. Have a great evening!

Celisea

February 22nd, 2011
4:43 pm

I have a girlfriend of mine that has been having an affair with the same guy for the past nine years because she said her hubby was boring in bed.

….and you get a side eye look for this one. Not accusing you of anything but birds of a feather…well you know the saying. You’re hanging with a chick that’s cheating for 9 years??!!

Leggs

February 22nd, 2011
4:43 pm

@dreamslut ~ unless you’ve been lurking, you wouldn’t understand the crew here. This is definitely your Atypical bunch of people.

Purple Rain

February 22nd, 2011
4:48 pm

cba

February 22nd, 2011
4:48 pm

I’m with you Celisea on DS. Since Simpleman works in the legalized drug business, maybe he knows her lol

Leggs

February 22nd, 2011
4:49 pm

Ok, going to my exercise class! Good night everyone!

“Jesus wept.” ~ St. John

Enjoy your evening and

don’t say no baby, not tonight!
I need to have you near me in more ways than one….Major Harris (Love Won’t Let me Wait) (I think)!

:smile:

Purple Rain

February 22nd, 2011
4:50 pm

Celisea, none of my friends would tolerate me cheating on my wife..ever. If they did that’s really not a friend

Purple Rain

February 22nd, 2011
4:52 pm

I still can’t wrap my mind around a woman referring to herself as a slut.

cba

February 22nd, 2011
4:54 pm

remebered that song well, Leggs LOL

SlimSquareOne

February 22nd, 2011
4:55 pm

‘I still can’t wrap my mind around a woman referring to herself as a slut’

Purp – I see you walking out of blogsville shaking your head…lol Just. Don’t. Get. It

Purple Rain

February 22nd, 2011
4:57 pm

Slim, lol this will come up in conversation at dinner tonight. LOL

SlimSquareOne

February 22nd, 2011
5:03 pm

Well, as long as you’re not calling her one i’m sure the food will stay on the plate and not on the wall. lol

Purple Rain

February 22nd, 2011
5:05 pm

Slim, never ever

SlimSquareOne

February 22nd, 2011
5:07 pm

Alrighty then…holla at yall after lunch tomorrow. Peach out

Celisea

February 22nd, 2011
5:31 pm

cba – I’m with you Celisea on DS. Since Simpleman works in the legalized drug business, maybe he knows her lol

Yep, something ain’t right…lol

PR – Celisea, none of my friends would tolerate me cheating on my wife..ever. If they did that’s really not a friend

The company you keep speaks volumes about you…especially if you refer to yourself as a slut

Celisea

February 22nd, 2011
5:32 pm

Did I come back too late? Everybody is gone? See what happens when you get busy working.

Celisea

February 22nd, 2011
5:34 pm

and I just knew For Real would come out on the earmufflectomy statement

Purple Rain

February 22nd, 2011
5:40 pm

Hello is it 2038?

Celisea

February 22nd, 2011
6:03 pm

Yeah babe….not quite…around the corner