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Dating: Is jealousy ever ok?

I sometimes like to ask men if they are the jealous type.  It’s just a random question I toss out during the getting to know you stage in dating. Of course, no man ever admits to being jealous.  Truthfully, only time and certain circumstances will reveal how they actually handle being jealous.  It’s a human emotion that we have all experienced at one time or another.

I’ve certainly given my date a raised eyebrow/dirty look when he didn’t correct an aggressive female shamelessly flirting in front of me.  He was clearly amused by the attention. It wasn’t until the shoe was on the other foot did he realize that being with a babe magnet has its moments.

Some people can tolerate more than others but the key is how you handle jealousy: Throw pouting fits in a juvenile way? Turn into a ragey, possessive nutbag that is a total nightmare to be around? I’ve actually seen varying responses and the one thing I realized is that the way you handle it separates the mature from the immature.

Listen, not one of us wants to be with someone that nobody else finds desirable.  We all want to be proud of who we are rocking on our arm, right? It’s perfectly normal that someone else will see what you in your date.   So what do you do when someone you are seeing attracts a lot of attention in public?

How do you handle it when the person you are dating has a slew of admirers that love to make their presence known? What happens when former flings, exes that won’t go away, not-so secret admirers of your date are constantly popping up, what do you do?

Is it ever ok to be a little jealous of the attention they receive?

Happy Friday! What are you planning for this beautiful weekend weather in Atlanta?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

249 comments Add your comment

BlackMagicWoman

February 18th, 2011
2:32 pm

RAQI…might I remind you…that song and mood is what has you with a 20 month old and a jr. on the way! :lol:

Blackfoote

February 18th, 2011
2:35 pm

Raqi V:

Are you and your husband going to take lamaze classes. I went with my ex and we had fun in them until our last class I had the nerve to mention her weight gain and she went off on me I knew she was miserable cause it was the summer months and we still had three months to go…..LOL

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
2:37 pm

BlackMagic, ain’t that the truth!!! LOL

Blackfoote

February 18th, 2011
2:38 pm

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
2:38 pm

Right after I confirmed I was pretty he said well at least we can have sex and don’t have to worry about you getting pregnant now.

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
2:40 pm

Blackfoote, this is will be my forth birth so I think I know that procedure. LOL

He did really good with Lizzy with the contraction and the delivery up until things got a little bumpy. He got scared for minute.

Leggs

February 18th, 2011
2:46 pm

@Blackfoote ~ great foot in mouth story. I have one for you. My ex and I went to Lamaze class and we were doing some exercse and he farted! Loudly!

Leggs

February 18th, 2011
2:46 pm

I didn’t fart, HE DID!

BlackMagicWoman

February 18th, 2011
2:47 pm

Blackfoote…If I were you wife and you mention my weight while I was carrying YOUR child….it would have been the scene from “Friday” when Debo got knocked the F–k out! :lol:

Blackfoote

February 18th, 2011
2:48 pm

Well it’s a wrap for me today hope everyone enjoy their weekend it’s going to be a great one. Wow February and it’s 71 degrees.

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
2:48 pm

I was 21 when my first was born. 16 hours of labor but piece of cake. My second, 26. 3 hours of labor and he practically kick the door down and pop out all on his own. Number 3, 41. I got ill leading up the delivery and she was born one month early. And here I sit. The last but definitely not the least. Bed ridden at 42 soon to be 43.

At 21 I could probably hit cartwheels had I tried. Now can’t even stand on my feet for more than 10 minutes at time.

Had diabetes with all of them but I guess the older you get the more the disease affect you.

Blackfoote

February 18th, 2011
2:49 pm

LOL……..Leggs and BMW

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
2:50 pm

LOL Leggs.

But to his defense that is nothing compared to the controllable things that do possibly happen while giving birth.

BlackMagicWoman

February 18th, 2011
3:05 pm

RAQI….thank God this is the last stop on the Baby Train for you! You might fall apart if you had to do again after Jr.! :lol:

SexyCool

February 18th, 2011
3:21 pm

I watched Confessions of a Shopaholic at 330 this morning. Cute little movie.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 18th, 2011
3:22 pm

so what’s everyone doing this weekend? It feels good out there. Trying to decide what I want to eat tonight that’s close.

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
3:24 pm

BlackMagic, they gone have to put me away if that happens. LOL

But seriously we getting that matter taken care of.

Leggs

February 18th, 2011
3:25 pm

I’m going to a friend’s party tomorrow. She’s having it a club so I plan to do a lot of dancing.

I have an old friend coming into town for the hair show, but he’s staying in Lithia Springs with his sister. Never even knew he had a sister here, but she’s a bit too far from me so I’m not sure if we get a chance to see each other before he leaves.

SexyCool

February 18th, 2011
3:27 pm

American Idol has much better talent this season. And the addition of J-Lo and Steven Tyler was brilliance. I don’t know what they are going to do with Randy and his weird dressing self. It’s like he’s a cross between a skateboarder and a rapper. So interesting….those colors he wears.

SexyCool

February 18th, 2011
3:28 pm

DreamsMat – I just sent TheDude an email saying that I’m not going to do what I told him that I might. That instead, I am going home to sit down so that I’m not out spending money in anticipation of all the expenses associated with the close and the move.

(I may be out gathering boxes so that I can start packing a room at a time.)

Leggs

February 18th, 2011
3:28 pm

Loving STyler!

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
3:29 pm

SexyCool, I tried watching Colored Girls or For Colored, whatever it is, yesterday evening. Why didn’t yall tell that fool dropped those babies out of that windows. I cried for a solid 10 minutes although I had stopped the DVD right after that.

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
3:30 pm

I love Steve Tyler. He looks like a cricket but I luvs me some him.

SexyCool

February 18th, 2011
3:31 pm

I haven’t been motivated to see that yet. Much like Precious, it just seems too damn gloomy to be entertaining to me.

BlackMagicWoman

February 18th, 2011
3:33 pm

RAQI,,,that was NOT the movie for you in your condition girl! :lol: Yeah that was sad. I had a WTF moment on that one.

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
3:33 pm

Well DreamsMat, I plan to wake up, unstrap, go to the potty, brush me teeth, take a shower, dry off, come back to the bed, apply my moisturizers, get dressed, restrap, eat my breakfast with Lizzy, get Lizzy dressed, comb her hair, look over the grocery list one last time to make sure nothing is forgotten…and then wing it from there.

Leggs

February 18th, 2011
3:34 pm

STyler seems to genuinely be a real cool and nice person. He’s not playing for the camera or anything. He’s smooth as butter!

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
3:36 pm

SexyCool, I will not be watching Precious. LOL

BlackMagic, I wish someone would have told me. None of my besties had seen it so they didn’t know to tell me not to watch it. I thought the cast was pretty good so I said I’ll watch it. When he dropped those babies with that blank look on his face my heart nearly jumped out of my chest. That was awful.

Celisea

February 18th, 2011
3:40 pm

Swiss – C — Okay, let’s test your hypothesis… show me your puddy.

Just getting back from appointment and clutching my pearls!!!

SexyCool

February 18th, 2011
3:40 pm

Hell…it took me YEARS to want to watch The Color Purple. I only watched it after I was hanging out with some friends one night and they were talking about how funny it is. Now, I happen to think it’s one of the greatest comedies ever.

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
3:44 pm

SexyCool, I read book before I saw the movie. The book tells way more and yes there are a lot of comedic scenes in that movie. And a lot of famous quotes.

“I luz harpo Gawd knows I do, but i’d kill ‘em dead…”

Celisea

February 18th, 2011
3:44 pm

I LOVE Steve Tyler

Leggs

February 18th, 2011
3:48 pm

@Celisea ~ well, I’m IN love with STyler!

Leggs

February 18th, 2011
3:49 pm

And another thing about Mr. Tyler. Pretty sure he didn’t need to reinvent himself, but it’s a sure bet he has legions and legions of new fans.

Celisea

February 18th, 2011
3:52 pm

Leggs – In love huh? He’s just so…what? Something

SexyCool

February 18th, 2011
3:53 pm

“You told Harpo to beat me?”

“You shole is ugly.”

SexyCool

February 18th, 2011
3:54 pm

“She black. She ugly and she got that nasty woman’s disease.”

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
3:54 pm

I was reading over at ChaPan and he said that Tyler Perry is going to attempt to do a remake of Love Jones. I sure hope that is not happening. Why the heck will they let him mess up a perfectly good movie?

The best movie TP has made is A Family that Preys and I honestly believe he had very little writing in that movie. It’s probably his conception but not his birth.

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
3:55 pm

“You shole is ugly.”

Yeah but in the book she had no problem “licking” that ugly.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 18th, 2011
3:56 pm

my friend’s mother doesn’t like Danny Glover to this day because he played that role so good. lol

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
3:58 pm

She turned Celie out. Told her she was virgin because she had never experienced sexual pleasure yet she had birthed two children. Teaching her about her magic button. Shug was a straight out freak. Sleeping with the husband, then turning to the wife, in the end bringing her new young stud up in both their faces.

Leggs

February 18th, 2011
3:59 pm

:lol: :lol: , you funny Celisea.

@Raqi V ~ I said the same thing about a Family that Preys!

My favorite line in Color Purple is when Whoopie told Mister “no good will come to you until you do good by me”. Something like that. If she had a gnarled witche’s finger, she could have put a hex on him.

Leggs

February 18th, 2011
4:00 pm

@DreamsM ~ I refused to watch the movie ever again because he played that role so well…

Raqi V

February 18th, 2011
4:02 pm

Did you all notice Sophia was pregnant upon her entrance into the movie? The movie really does not state it but the book does. Once you know it when you see the movie you see that’s not just a potbelly she is pushing. LOL

Celisea

February 18th, 2011
4:04 pm

Leggs

February 18th, 2011
4:35 pm

@Raqi V ~ I just went back to see if you left the E.O.D. What happened that Biff wound up posting that gibberish? Did you fall asleep (lol)?

Leggs

February 18th, 2011
5:02 pm

I’ll leave with this small jokey joke:

At income tax time, did you ever notice: When you put the two words ‘The’ and ‘IRS’ together it spells … ‘THEIRS’?

Good night. Enjoy the beautiful weekend we are about to have!

Not Perfect...but I'm His!

February 18th, 2011
5:02 pm

I Love A man who knows Jesus…who is about His Father’s business…who does not preach/live a watered-down message. A man who does not mind getting in the trenches to make a major impact in the earth…..No Time for Jealousy!

Leggs

February 18th, 2011
5:12 pm

Kelliebean is that you???? (lol)