Sex as a political weapon?
Did you hear about the proposed sex strike by the spouses of Belgian politicians? Apparently, desperate times calls for sex moratorium measures: “Belgian politicians have failed for eight months to form a government, and one senator has a unique solution: Have spouses withhold sex until a deal is struck.”
Although this suggestion was somewhat facetious, it’s not the first time this tactic has surfaced in political stalemate situations. I think it’s rather telling that sexual leverage has its place in political history and now in modern day times.
Do you think that how much we value sex has changed?
I know using sex as a weapon in a marriage brings huge implications and resentment, yet I hear about it happening all the time. Do you think it’s a viable solution to a couple’s problems, though?
I’ve heard men say that single women have “power” and can use sexual leverage in dating but what kind of impact does that really have on dating relationships? How does that help us build trust and get us closer to long lasting relationships? I mean, that is, after all, the goal of a lot of single men and women. Does sex really have to be a means to an end?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Purple Rain
February 16th, 2011
4:12 pm
Raqi, me neither it sounds like an ultimatum. And an ultimatum is the quickest way for me not to do a thing.
Raqi V
February 16th, 2011
4:12 pm
It’s just a 5ft drop
That could very well break every bone in his body.
You know when those jets hit the twin towers those people were scared and desperate to get out of that building before they came tumbling down. That fear and desperation gave them the illusion that the ground was only “5ft” away so they jumped…to their death. Like Celisea said you are giving him bad advice. It will be worse than he thinks it will be.
Raqi V
February 16th, 2011
4:14 pm
I’m encouraging the cheat within reason
Go back and read the Charlie Sheen comment. I bet that first hit he took he said was within reason.
SexyCool
February 16th, 2011
4:16 pm
So, he should go out and start a relationship with someone that he cares about as opposed to kissing on some random chick?
Yeah…no…we have too many of those kinds of caring relationships as it is.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
February 16th, 2011
4:16 pm
ME I got a singles card with your name on it, printed, laminated, and ready to go. Show me the D papers, and I’ll hand it over to you. First date is even on me. haha
Da_Man!
February 16th, 2011
4:16 pm
@Celisea – Ok, so much for honesty … and thx Fellas for having my back.
@Leggs – I’m going staright to Bible Study after work …
@ME – Good Luck!
Hope everyone has a great evening … Good Chat!
Purple Rain
February 16th, 2011
4:19 pm
Dreams they still make waterbeds
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
4:20 pm
@PR ~ No, I wouldn’t like, but it is the truth (no matter how much it may hurt). Yes, Raqi, it’s definitely said as a threat. He might be surprised when she says “go explore those options if that’s what you do”…there are consequences in all actions!
@Da_Man ~
It is Wednesday = Religious Instructions for us non-practicing Catholics.
Purple Rain
February 16th, 2011
4:20 pm
He would be in a relationship with random chick in after the first out of the club interaction.
Celisea
February 16th, 2011
4:21 pm
Da_Man – Now you know I’m all for honesty but honestly encouraging one to lie cheat and lie ain’t exactly the effect being forthing should have. To say honestly man I can’t do it ain’t exactly the look that honesty should project.
Raqi V
February 16th, 2011
4:21 pm
He’ll be standing in court thinking “all of this for a piece of arse” ’cause the wife is gonna take him to the cleaners. He will probably have a better chance ending it now mutually before she takes revenge for him cheating.
Purple Rain
February 16th, 2011
4:22 pm
Leggs, that is a form of disrespect IMO, I’m just not with that.
Raqi V
February 16th, 2011
4:23 pm
Again if taking that step does nothing to get his home right, he will do it again. He is need of sex and affection. He will seek it again even if from a different woman.
SexyCool
February 16th, 2011
4:23 pm
Manage Your Marriage like a CEO – http://www.rd.com/family/manage-your-marriage-like-a-ceo/
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
February 16th, 2011
4:25 pm
If a chick tells me she has options, that’s the quickest way to see yourself out the door. Go handle your biz, but once you go out, you can’t come back in, like the turnstyles in subway.
Raqi V
February 16th, 2011
4:25 pm
Now that I agree with because I will say give me her number so I can call her to come help you remove your belongings from the front lawn. LOL
Bill Cosby
February 16th, 2011
4:27 pm
And I tried to warn them, if you people would just DO what married people are SUPPOSED to do, then there would be no cheating. But there’s going to be some cheating….TONIGHT.
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
4:27 pm
@PR ~ no doubt it’s a form of disrespect. That’s when the most hurtful words are spewed in an argument
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
4:28 pm
@Raqi V ~ I envisioned a vampire while reading your 4:23.
Purple Rain
February 16th, 2011
4:30 pm
Dreams I agree
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
4:30 pm
And, when a man wears his hunger on his sleeve the way Me “might” be doing, a woman will come out of the woodwork and show him interest much like a shark to blood.
Purple Rain
February 16th, 2011
4:30 pm
Lindsay Lohan in her court dress and Rihanna in her grammy clothes. I feel like a perv but they both looked sexy!
Raqi V
February 16th, 2011
4:30 pm
The thing with caving in to threats like that, the one spewing has taken the upper hand. Every time you don’t do what they want they will remind you of their options and you will once again give in. And again. And again.
Dr. Ruth
February 16th, 2011
4:33 pm
If women handled their own business as well as they instruct men to handle theirs, I’m sure that they might contribute to a dip in the infedelity rate, too. Women are always telling men they aren’t doing this enough or they are doing too much of that. Take a look in the mirror, cause it’s a two way street. It’s not all in the men’s lap, you know.
Raqi V
February 16th, 2011
4:33 pm
Leggs, which is probably why he had a woman to kiss that evening anyway. Women can be conniving and deceitful. She probably peeped his “thirst” way before he thought of approaching him.
The best he did was get rid of that card. He has no idea what her true motives are.
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
4:33 pm
Only a weak person will continuously cave in. Hopefully, someone will grow some balls and do the right thing.
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
4:34 pm
@Dr. Ruth was a woman, you aren’t one!
Raqi V
February 16th, 2011
4:34 pm
It’s not all in the men’s lap, you know.
If all he knows is hump-hump-cnm then yeah it is all in his lap. Pun.
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
4:35 pm
Ditto, Raqi V! Most definitely!!
The Don
February 16th, 2011
4:35 pm
The greatest aphrodesiac know to affect woman and put them in such a lusty state that they can’t control themselves…..money and power. No mere man, regardless of his attributes can compete with that, no matter what their state of matrimony.
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
4:35 pm
I was referring to your 4:33, but now with your 4:34 as well (lol).
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
4:36 pm
“…no matter what their state of matrimony.”
VERY MUCH UNTRUE!
Raqi V
February 16th, 2011
4:36 pm
Leggs, men that are not getting the loving at home don’t like to admit that they or other men just may not measuring up between the sheets.
DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"
February 16th, 2011
4:39 pm
Me There’s no time like the present to make a change in your life. Today is as good a day as any.
go home , my girl fussin and bi-t/chin
Mother-(f._&cker won’t you change your life , I’m thinkin
Mother-(f._&cker won’t I change my wife
—- Beanie Sigel
Purple Rain
February 16th, 2011
4:39 pm
If a man handles his business his woman will fall in line. No if ands or dollar amount about it.
TenderRoni
February 16th, 2011
4:40 pm
uh oh…@RaqiV speak about, them not bring it btw the sheets nomore.
BlackMagicWoman
February 16th, 2011
4:41 pm
DREAMS….you so nasty!
RAQI….you so nasty too!
Celisea
February 16th, 2011
4:43 pm
Wow, Dr. Ruth and Bill Cosby
Wise
February 16th, 2011
4:43 pm
Raq, you just keep hammering on the men, don’t you? You just can’t find it possible that maybe the woman is frigid. Maybe she just doesn’t like sex. Maybe SHE is the one that is a cold fish in the bed. Maybe the reason he goes elsewhere (it’s still wrong) is that she has all the imagination and passion of a rock. maybe all she wanted to do is get married and then the show was over. You make it seem like that if the woman doesn’t like sex, it’s because of the man, right. Maybe it’s attitudes like that that make men horrified of getting married. Imagine dating a beautiful, passionate woman and when the ring goes on her finger, she hits the switch and it’s Light Out. The the guy stands there thinking “OMG, what in the name of heaven have I done?”
Naaah, it’s all the men’s fault…..
☺☻ Black & white smiley faces
February 16th, 2011
4:47 pm
Chris Rock said a man is only as honest as his options. I think there’s a lot of truth in that.
What do you think a man who’s been ignored by his significant other would do when tempted by the opportunity?
Think about it!
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
4:50 pm
Once the groin go to trembling, it’s hard to hold back.
Purple Rain
February 16th, 2011
4:50 pm
Yep Chris Rock…the marriage counselor. LOL, He sure loves his wife and daughters.
All I hear are a bunch of excuses either you are fit to lead and handle your marriage/woman or not. If not another man will.
SexyCool
February 16th, 2011
4:52 pm
It is my goal to always be the best option to my guy.
TenderRoni
February 16th, 2011
4:53 pm
@SC, I know thats right girl..cosign’in
Purple Rain
February 16th, 2011
4:54 pm
SexyCool I think that is the key for both parties involved, so if someone does stray at least you know you did your best.
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
4:54 pm
Exactly, SexyC! That’s how one should always think when in a relationship. This is not rocket science!
TenderRoni
February 16th, 2011
4:56 pm
And there is three sides to every story, Me’s, his wifes, and the truth.
She could come on her and her perspective could be quit different than the way he has been explaining to us.
@Me- hang in there, hope things turn around for you!
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
4:59 pm
The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law ~ (Galatians 5:22)”</strong?
Leggs
February 16th, 2011
5:02 pm
Hope everyone enjoys their evening!!! Nite.
Bill Cosby
February 16th, 2011
5:03 pm
Sex without love is an empty experience. But as far as empty experiences, it’s still the best kind.