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Sex as a political weapon?

Did you hear about the proposed sex strike by the spouses of Belgian politicians? Apparently, desperate times calls for sex moratorium measures: “Belgian politicians have failed for eight months to form a government, and one senator has a unique solution: Have spouses withhold sex until a deal is struck.”

Although this suggestion was somewhat facetious, it’s not the first time this tactic has surfaced in political stalemate situations. I think it’s rather telling that sexual leverage has its place in political history and now in modern day times.

Do you think that how much we value sex has changed?

I know using sex as a weapon in a marriage brings huge implications and resentment, yet I hear about it happening all the time. Do you think it’s a viable solution to a couple’s problems, though?

I’ve heard men say that single women have “power” and can use sexual leverage in dating but what kind of impact does that really have on dating relationships? How does that help us build trust and get us closer to long lasting relationships? I mean, that is, after all, the goal of a lot of single men and women.  Does sex really have to be a means to an end?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

352 comments Add your comment

Leggs

February 16th, 2011
2:39 pm

And, she may already have her own Maintenance Man.

SexyCool

February 16th, 2011
2:40 pm

ME – you really seem like a decent dude. I sincerely wish you all the best.

Leggs

February 16th, 2011
2:42 pm

Exactamento, Raqi V, exactamento!

Me

February 16th, 2011
2:43 pm

On a side note, it really did feel out of this world when I met a beautiful woman with a group of people celebrating her 44th birthday at a club. She seemed genuinely excited to be with me, she kissed me on the dance floor, she held my hand tight and then after much dancing and laughing, she said running into me was her favorite present for her birthday. She handed me her card, but I tossed it away on the way home, so I wouldn’t be tempted.You can’t put dollar amounts on how good that makes a person feel.

Raqi V

February 16th, 2011
2:43 pm

What’s sad is he loves her

Leggs, he does say he do but there had to be signs before she put the brakes on. There is nothing in this world we can tell that man to do or try if that woman has detached herself from him. One thing about me (Raqi), when I love you I lovez me some you way deep down in my core, but when I detest you I wouldn’t pee on you if you were set on fire.

A man I no longer love will have better luck squeezing blood from a turnip than getting my fluids to flowing again.

SexyCool

February 16th, 2011
2:44 pm

Well, Rock, if I hear “good grief”, what I just heard is, “I’m screw.ing someone else.” And what he also didn’t realize that he said was, “And you should be too.” (lol)

SexyCool

February 16th, 2011
2:46 pm

“when I detest you I wouldn’t pee on you if you were set on fire.”

And the church said, “Amen.”

Raqi V

February 16th, 2011
2:46 pm

“And you should be too.”

LMBO Ain’t that the truth?

Purple Rain

February 16th, 2011
2:46 pm

Sex as a weapon? It should not happen but it does happen. Always be ready..locked, cocked and ready to rock!

Da_Man!

February 16th, 2011
2:48 pm

@ME – As battered & bruised that card may be, you better retrace yo steps and get that #!

They can make a movie outta a love story like that … you know like “The Notebook”.

Lord Velonese

February 16th, 2011
2:53 pm

The more I get older the less important sex becomes. I think I am desensitized anyway because of the fact that half naked women are advertised to the male population so much that the Ol’ T&A has lost it’s luster.

Purple Rain

February 16th, 2011
2:55 pm

The older I get the less I get riled up over anything

Leggs

February 16th, 2011
2:58 pm

@SexyC ~ as with most words in the English language, you must pay attention to the “tone” in which the words are said. Saying “good grief” while he’s hitting your nekkid behind with a towel as you shashay across the bedroom doesn’t quite hold the same meaning as when he asks you do “role play” and you’re not having much intimacy!

SexyCool

February 16th, 2011
2:58 pm

LV – I actually somewhat agree with you there. And will even go even further to say that because we have become such a sexualized society – reg’lar ol’ sex isn’t good enough anymore. Folks gotta damn near be able to sc.rew while doing handstand on a merry-go-round.

It’s kinda like an escalating drug habit. At first, good ol’ maryjane is just fine, then *some* starting need bigger and better highs and before you know it, you’re Charlie Sheen.

Da_Man!

February 16th, 2011
2:59 pm

The appearance of T & A can lose luster but the feeling you get from the touch or attention of a women never dies … at least not to me. Throw some vaseline on those things and lets get wit it!

Raqi V

February 16th, 2011
2:59 pm

She handed me her card…You can’t put dollar amounts on how good that makes a person feel.

ME, was she a hooker? Card? Dollar amounts? You do know for the women of the night they can turn on and off on a dime. LOL

I am just teasing you. Take this advice from a woman, try to find out what it is, if anything, that your wife is needing to feel reconnected to you. It is always something. Even if she does not love you anymore know that it is never “nothing”. Don’t harrass or badger her because that will just make it worse. But don’t beg her either.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 16th, 2011
3:00 pm

Shyyyyyyyyyt, so the stars have to be aligned during a simultaneous lunar and solar eclipse, a comet has to be circling the Earth, and snow has to be falling from a cloudless sky on a 90 degree day in July for a woman to want to have sex with her husband…otherwise there’s something he’s not doing or is doing it wrong. That’s a bunch of shullbit. ME Leave the Dark side and cross over to the single world.

he needs to find ways to stimulate her mind…
Tenderoni He needs to find ways to stimulate his exit from a one-way love marriage.

Purple Rain

February 16th, 2011
3:00 pm

I may get tired of seeing public displays of T.A. but not T.A. that is all mine.

Purple Rain

February 16th, 2011
3:02 pm

I have never heard a man say that he has seen so much T.A. that it has just started to lose it’s appeal.

Purple Rain

February 16th, 2011
3:02 pm

If I see one more booty I am done!

Leggs

February 16th, 2011
3:03 pm

@Da_Man ~ he can’t retrieve the card. He threw it out his car window a long time ago.

Raqi V

February 16th, 2011
3:03 pm

before you know it, you’re Charlie Sheen

That is so true. The more sex you have with a person the greater the intimate emotional bond should be getting. There is nothing wrong with having fun with it every now and then but when you are wanting your 50 year old wife to be doing cartwheel off your richard because you saw it on that D rated porn flick you are setting yourself up for much disappointment.

Lord Velonese

February 16th, 2011
3:04 pm

SC- that’s a pretty good Analogy LOL, but you’re right.

BlackMagicWoman

February 16th, 2011
3:06 pm

“If I see one more booty I am done!”
PURPLE…that’s not what you said last night! :lol:

LV…I am with you. People are needing more and more over the top sex to get off. I’m not trying to sneak and and screw on the 50 yardline of the GA Dome just for the thrill of the chase. :lol:

Simple Man!!!!

February 16th, 2011
3:07 pm

“half naked women are advertised to the male population so much that the Ol’ T&A has lost it’s luster.”

Stunned….and at a loss for words……

Da_Man!

February 16th, 2011
3:07 pm

SexyC – Not to get personal … you can do the “handstand on a merry-go-round” thing???

ThatDude is one lucky M**********!.

Lord Velonese

February 16th, 2011
3:08 pm

Purple – Allow me to be the first, because it’s happening to me. Ladies these days on TV and sometimes in public wear so little, its like, well there goes my imagination, I have seen that before, big woop.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 16th, 2011
3:08 pm

I have never heard a man say that he has seen so much T.A. that it has just started to lose it’s appeal.
Purp ohhhhhhh woe is me. I done seen too much tig o bitties. I can’t get stimulated no more. It ain’t me, all that t&a in society is to blame for my performance issues. WAWAWAWAAAAAAAA! come on now. lol

Leggs

February 16th, 2011
3:09 pm

@Raqi V ~ don’t underestimate the limberness of the new 50+ (really 30) year old women (lol).

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 16th, 2011
3:09 pm

The older I get, the less I want to have sex standing up in a hammock.

Purple Rain

February 16th, 2011
3:09 pm

Black, LOL well I did not want to talk while my mouth was full.

Sex is what you make it, as long as you are not doing the same exact thing time after time and add a little something different every so often it will be fine. But don’t bring the fireworks initially only to turn into one of those little paper pop things you thrown on the ground.

Da_Man!

February 16th, 2011
3:11 pm

@Leggs – He better try to find that card … he remember every other detail, he know exactly where that card flew out the window. Either that or stick with us for our “EXPERT” advise.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 16th, 2011
3:11 pm

I’m not trying to sneak and and screw on the 50 yardline of the GA Dome just for the thrill of the chase.
BMW Dammmmm you not? Is that your final answer? lol

SexyCool

February 16th, 2011
3:12 pm

No…but…last week, I put on my come-get-me shoes, set him up in a stright back chair and he took a hundred ones made it rain while I was the “entertainment”…(lol)

(I kept the ones afterwards of course.)

Purple Rain

February 16th, 2011
3:12 pm

Velonese, I am sure once you see the right one that tickles your fancy you will be back to normal.

I think America treats it so taboo that is just seems like it is something special, in certain countries were nudity is not frowned upon it’s business as usual. As for me and my loins we shall never tire!

Raqi V

February 16th, 2011
3:13 pm

so the stars have to be aligned during a simultaneous lunar and solar eclipse

DreamsMat, yep. It’s called “I am feeling you like nobody’s business right now”. LOL

Purple Rain

February 16th, 2011
3:14 pm

Randyt, yes you are to old to be standing in the hammock, during the day! LOL

Dreams, LOL when a man no longer is turned on by T&A, what is left?

Da_Man!

February 16th, 2011
3:15 pm

The older I get the more I realize that fore-play adds an extra 27 min to our 30 min session …

Me

February 16th, 2011
3:16 pm

Thanks Dreams…it seems like it always has to be the man’s fault, something he’s not doing or something he’s doing too much off while the woman is just waiting for that magical mood to strike her and the conditions vary from day to day.

Incidentally, the lady gave me her business card and it was two weeks ago this Saturday. I could just shoot myself for tossing it out. She made me feel like a million bucks…and all we shared were two kisses on the dance floor and a kiss outside when she handed me her card. Like the women say…it ain’t always about sex. But whatever IT is, it’s critical to both genders.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 16th, 2011
3:16 pm

DreamsMat, yep. It’s called “I am feeling you like nobody’s business right now”. LOL
Raqi yeah well I guess I gotta stay single for a while then ’cause I still got few more semesters of Wizardry School before I learn to make is snow in July. I’m working on it though. ;-)

Raqi V

February 16th, 2011
3:17 pm

All those barely and undoable acrobatic coital feats are not even that fulfilling. In fact some are just too darn uncomfortable to even align the parts correctly to get any type of pleasure from it.

It’s overrated is what it is. I know because I have tried more than a few. Just out of curiousity alone I tried them and they don’t make the sex any better. It takes away from it.

Purple Rain

February 16th, 2011
3:18 pm

Da_Man, LOL

As I get older my trajectory gets shorter I think there is some decreased pressure going on also.

Raqi V

February 16th, 2011
3:18 pm

LOL Leggs, I don’t. I hope that me and mine are still very much getting our sexing on at 50. But I ain’t trying to be doing back bends on the kitchen stairs now or even then.

SexyCool

February 16th, 2011
3:19 pm

I agree. Best sex positions – him on top. Me on top. Him behind. And variations of those three. Anything else….well…like Rock said, exciting to *think* about…not so much so in practical application.

Raqi V

February 16th, 2011
3:19 pm

RandyT, hammock sex is not that comfortable. But if you are going to try it it’s better when she is on top.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 16th, 2011
3:20 pm

Dreams, LOL when a man no longer is turned on by T&A, what is left?
Purp I don’t know, and I hope I never have to find out.

Thanks Dreams…it seems like it always has to be the man’s fault,
Purp yeah but we all learned that in pre-K right? It’s one of those things you just accept in life, like the seasons or taxes. lol

Purple Rain

February 16th, 2011
3:21 pm

ME, did you get her name or anyone she was with name? Maybe you can go back there and see if you can run into her.

Da_Man!

February 16th, 2011
3:21 pm

I wish @ME the best in his situation … but the only thing that really strikes me as odd is …

“…and all we shared were two kisses on the dance floor and a kiss outside”

Random encounters … Kissing … I dunno. Kissing is like the 2nd/3rd date type of situation. They gotta be clear of the lip sores & bad breathe 1st.

Lord Velonese

February 16th, 2011
3:21 pm

I just want the OOOoooo factor to come back. I am not worried, if everyone were the same that would suck.

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 16th, 2011
3:22 pm

One thing that women don’t see in the same way as men is ‘how long has it been’. Women’s clocks seem to go back to zero every day, that all that matters is today. Men can tell you how many days, hours, minutes and seconds it has been since the last time. Women do seem to notice about a month into a dry spell (but think it is maybe a week or two). One day they realize that man has stopped “nudging her” for days, and begin to all of a sudden remember.

Best sex commentary in a movie was in an old Woody Allen movie called “Annie Hall”. On a split screen she is talking to her therapist who asks her, “how often do you have sex?”, she responds “seems like all the time, maybe three times a week”. His therapist asks him the same question. His response “almost never anymore, maybe three times a week” Women and men often see the exact same things totally different.