Is it love or lust?
It’s officially Valentine’s day and love is in the air. Well, more like in the restaurants, retail stores, and flower shops – but you know what I mean. The day when love is on the minds of many people – single (who came up with Singles Awareness Day? I mean, really?) and coupled up people.
Last week we talked about the importance of passion in a relationship, especially if you want a long-lasting marriage. I often wonder how passion fuels the lust, that sometimes gets mistaken for love in the beginning. How do you really know when you are falling in love or lust with someone?
What do you think the difference is between love and lust? Have you felt as if you have been in love and/or lust? Do you think the two “feel” the same or is there a notable difference?
Have you ever thought you were in love, only to discover later that you were mistaking it for lust? What did you do?
Happy Valentine’s Day to everyone!
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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SexyCool
February 14th, 2011
4:13 pm
The Tiger situation was a result of sex for sport meeting sex for money/fame. There was no way what happened was going to not happen.
Kinda like the congressman who sent the Eddie Long pose to the black chick on craigslist last week.
Folks like this are on a collision course with revelation and refuse to acknowledge it as so.
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:14 pm
And he would have still had them girls if he didnt get caught, Kobe got told on then started telling. LOL
SexyCool
February 14th, 2011
4:16 pm
DA – I already told you what I’m doing tonight. Cooking the man a steak and feeding him chocolate and fruit. We’ve been practicing the whole tantric thing lately – may do more of that.
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:16 pm
To much blood transfer to the lower regions and the brains starts to think the wrong way. Men will get blinded if in the wrong scenario. LOL
Leggs
February 14th, 2011
4:19 pm
Nice answer, RandyT. Very honest and very true! You boneheads (said w/luv).
Simple Man!!!!
February 14th, 2011
4:19 pm
Gotta question for the panel…Why is it that Kobe gets handled for snitching on Shaq ( Which he never did) but Shaq gets a pass for stalking and threating his side piece here in Atlanta????
Leggs
February 14th, 2011
4:22 pm
Shaq is too big to mess with!
Leggs
February 14th, 2011
4:22 pm
Kobe is a light weight w/a propensity to cry at a wispher!
Leggs
February 14th, 2011
4:23 pm
whisper….
Leggs
February 14th, 2011
4:23 pm
Hell if I know why!
Celisea (free Me-lo)
February 14th, 2011
4:23 pm
Fion – First of all I was quoting Swiss…that wasn’t my statement. But had I said it…so the hell what? I’m not quite sure where the $20 comment implies but Imma move on away from that cause you don’t know me enough to slightly disrespect me. K?
Purple – If Tiga was a black man hedda been toast and done the moment the scandal broke. I’on know Tiga and could care less if he screwed a monkey…but to state he’s a hoe cause he’s a hoe shouldn’t insinuate a thing. Just like ya’ll had a hay day with what’s his face daughter…Larry Fisburne…Which frankly IMO was OVER THE TOP. I think that was hoe day on here, at her expense. You contributing to much of the banter. I believe I can speak to hoes just the same. You have all kinds of hoe jokes. Why can I freely speak to his hoe-isms?
cba
February 14th, 2011
4:26 pm
Randyt, I understand the hormones and being horny. He made that call after Elin had caught his azz. He was in a panick mode; sweating and ish
Simple Man!!!!
February 14th, 2011
4:27 pm
Celisea,
I’ll co sign with ya….I am all about speaking on “Hoe-isms”!!!!
kimmie
February 14th, 2011
4:30 pm
I have never liked Kobe. He comes off as a whining, complaining wuss all the time. Shaq has always been more likeable, at least to me anyway.
Don’t really care what any of them do though. Just some garden-tool athletes. The chicks that chose to deal with em are welcome to them!
Celisea (free Me-lo)
February 14th, 2011
4:30 pm
Hush Simpleman – I get you’re on board 100% LOL
I’m just saying…ignore me rather than insinuate or imply the slightest disrespect. But I know, it’s the bitter black woman for speaking against man hoes but jokes, jabs and laughs if it’s at a woman’s expense…
kimmie
February 14th, 2011
4:32 pm
Celisea – I’m with ya girl too!
Leggs
February 14th, 2011
4:34 pm
@SimpleM ~ I remember someone telling me that there is nothing wrong with stalking a chic if her “honey pot” is on point. Apparently, Man Law gives a pass because man is supposed to follow the vajayjay!….but telling on another man…is kinda female ish.
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:35 pm
Simple Man, because side pieces do not get any respect, she lost all of that once she decided to be a side piece.
Celisea, we did not knock Larry Fishbornes daughter for doing what she was doing we knocked her for doing what she was doing with a spotted boooty on video, looked like she had a bunch of bug bites. So get your story straight Ma’am. LOL
Celisea (free Me-lo)
February 14th, 2011
4:35 pm
Thanks Kimmie…I knew you’d understand. It just kills me that a woman is bitter for stating the obvious but we get jokes for dayz on the things women do and allow. I couldn’t be happier. I just don’t publish because of this right here. Say something to the left or ya’ll had a spat…you’re either used, used up, dumb, stupid, ignorant or “girl he’s cheating” I try to keep it light and general
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:37 pm
And if I remember correctly mostly everyone was faulting Larry’s parenting skills and not the girl at all except for her leopard booooty
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:38 pm
It’s Valentines Day and now they are trying to get us to respect them hoes…..Darn Obama!
Da_Man!
February 14th, 2011
4:38 pm
Happy Valentines Ladies … I hope you all have a wonderful evening, and Fellas, please don’t go home empty-handed. Ricardo got a “out the trunk” special & cut prices cause it’s getting close. Handle ya biz & make the ladies feel like they supposed to!
Leggs
February 14th, 2011
4:38 pm
??? Where does President Obama come into all this??
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
February 14th, 2011
4:39 pm
Purple — She should look into getting an endorsement deal with Proactiv — it could open up a whole new market for baby-got-bacne treatment
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:39 pm
LOL and this blog is just a cakewalk for men? Please, men get drug through the mud 4 out of 5 days.
Simple Man!!!!
February 14th, 2011
4:39 pm
Leggs, for the record The rules goes….” your girl belongs to you, but the side pieces and hoes belong to EVERYBODY!!!! IMO, What Shaq did is worse, cause he got sprung by Commuinty Puddy!!! Thats like getting mad and hating cause someboby is riding the same bus as you…..
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:39 pm
Leggs, it was humor you know how idiots blame everything on the president?
Swiss, LOL
SexyCool
February 14th, 2011
4:40 pm
DA – don’t get hurt in that swing.
Leggs
February 14th, 2011
4:42 pm
Wasn’t sure if that’s where you were going PR. Gotcha!
“…side pieces and hoes belong to EVERYBODY” And, what makes this different from running a “train” and going behind other men. The fact that it’s not done all at one time makes it better?
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:44 pm
Leggs, everyman has gone behind another man unless she was a virgin. And the key to trains is always being First…..or a real close second. LOL
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:45 pm
Wait, so who is in the worse position the dudes in the train or the woman the train is being ran on?
SexyCool
February 14th, 2011
4:46 pm
Speaking of O’Breezy – he is cutting the hell outta some social programs with his proposed budget.
Pell grants – low income heating assistance – some infrastructure funding…and I could go on.
Leggs
February 14th, 2011
4:46 pm
This is true PR, it just sounds ugly the way it was put at 4:39.
AmazonRed™ - XOXO
February 14th, 2011
4:47 pm
Purple Rain – I might make Chicken Marsala tonight!
i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")
February 14th, 2011
4:47 pm
“Wait, so who is in the worse position the dudes in the train or the woman the train is being ran on?”
None of the above. It’s the woman’s unsuspecting SO, who comes home & licks her puddy post-train…
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:47 pm
SexyCool, I honestly think he will get a second term.
Leggs
February 14th, 2011
4:48 pm
The woman the train is being ran on…all that pounding internally will no doubt cause some damage. Any diseases will be equal to the man as well as to the woman!
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:50 pm
AmazonRed,
pour a little more Marsala in their and feel the buzz since you are a wonderful lady!
Legs, I have heard people blame the president for worse.
Swiss, that’s the pits. LOL I would love to see the look on his face.
SexyCool
February 14th, 2011
4:50 pm
I believe so. The belt-tightening and sacrificing that is needed is not going to be welcome to a lot of folks, but it is quite necessary.
Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)
February 14th, 2011
4:50 pm
I think I was dedfinitely the caboose on one train. Started seeing this lady after my divorce (thinking I was mayber two or three from the engine). Went to a funeral with er and found out taht she had slept with at least four guys there including the dead dude (before he expired I assume). Went looking for a board to strap to my backside.
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:50 pm
So a woman can suffer irreparable damage from to much multiple pounding?
Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)
February 14th, 2011
4:51 pm
sorry for the typos…let me try this again…
I think I was definitely the caboose on one train. Started seeing this lady after my divorce (thinking I was maybe two or three from the engine). Went to a funeral with her and found out that she had slept with at least four guys there including the dead dude (before he expired I assume). Went looking for a board to strap to my backside.
White Dude Dating "Your" Black Women ☺☻
February 14th, 2011
4:53 pm
“So a woman can suffer irreparable damage from to much multiple pounding?”
No, that’s nonsense. Not under normal, sane circumstances.
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:54 pm
SexyCool, he is making the unpopular decisions and things are changing for the better indeed
Randyt, since we are sharing. I know for a fact back in college I was in someones same day leftovers and I thought I was the only guy she had been messing with.
Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)
February 14th, 2011
4:55 pm
@ PR re: “So a woman can suffer irreparable damage from to much multiple pounding?”
As a group from sixties, Doug Clark and the Hot Nuts said,
“she ain’t got no cherry,
but that aint no sin,
she still got the box,
that the cherry came in”.
Does that help?
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:55 pm
Interesting blog name
Leggs
February 14th, 2011
4:56 pm
Is this true
She only becomes a “hoe” once she turns you down and you get to define her as being a “hoe?”
Leggs
February 14th, 2011
4:57 pm
How do you know, you a GYN???
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:58 pm
Randyt, I didn’t think so. Those things can take a lot of abuse and recover well. Babies come out of there.
Purple Rain
February 14th, 2011
4:59 pm
No she’s a hoe if she sleeps around a lot shes a bishh if she sleeps with everyone but you.