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Scared of a marriage minus the passion?

I am fully aware that I can be a hopeless romantic at times. I’m not delusional about the “fluff I see in movies” kind of romance. I’m just all about passion in a relationship. I just love the idea of being with the one person that truly does it for me – connecting to them on many levels. Passion is important! Am I being naive, though?

One of the many, many fears I have about settling down and marrying is being stuck in a marriage that lacks passion. Do you ever think about what you would do if you ended up with a marriage that had mediocre sex, constant fighting, and awful communication? That sounds like my version of hell!

I have seen some marriages that seem to fit this profile. I always wonder if they were ever in love and passionate about one another. How do couples manage to get so far away from how it was in the beginning?

So I don’t feel like a completely irrational freak, is there something about marriage you fear?

It would be great to have folks who have been there (are there now and are willing to go back) and can give us a true depiction of what it’s like. What keeps you passionate about your significant other? Chime in an dispel the misconceptions! It’s not all bad, I’m sure.

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

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AmazonRed™

February 10th, 2011
4:39 pm

Tell me the joke or tell me what time it was posted….

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 10th, 2011
4:45 pm

Howdy folks… Late checking in… From the looks of things, it’s probably best I missed out on some of this… :lol:

But to answer Purple’s question:

“Guys, would if your wife’s life was on the line would you take her place? Organ donation, step in front of a rabid wolf a bullet?”

Yes, I would, out of pure instinct. And any man who wouldn’t isn’t much of a man, IMO. My wife’s (and/or family’s) well being comes before mine — in all things. Period. And I don’t need an invisible man in the sky or his make-believe book to make me feel that way… :lol:

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 10th, 2011
4:45 pm

Oh, I almost forgot…

SET MY BROTHER FREE!!!! FREE ME-LO!!!!

IN DENIAL

February 10th, 2011
4:45 pm

abc@3:31

You really should do some serious research on the scriptures before quoting them. Sorry, Christ gave himself up for her yes, her meaning his flock, his followers. Those who wanted to more than he needed to become his follower at sometime to receive everlasting life.

Many women use this scripture to justify not following their husbands lead. A husband should love her like he loves himself & yes listen to her. Doesn’t mean she is the head of him. God’s word states she could never be. The mis-representation on this scripture as well a the account of Abraham & Sarah have caused many problems for marriage mates.

Purple Rain

February 10th, 2011
4:49 pm

Swiss I asked “her” about “him” and “she” did not respond. LOL

Oh yeah, I covered you in a later post and said it was a man thing and not a religion thing. LOL

Manbearpig would have you save her anyway though

Purple Rain

February 10th, 2011
4:50 pm

Amazon, we were having a “where are they now” moment asking for missing bloggers to come back and someone mentioned Beautiful and I said.

“Everyone except Beautiful, where’s AmazonRed”

LOL

Purple Rain

February 10th, 2011
4:51 pm

God what not have you change your name to an alias to post it says that in the Bible “Come as you are” LOL

Leggs - "Free Me-Lo"

February 10th, 2011
4:52 pm

PR’s Joke: “Slim go with a Vin Santo you might like it if you want a sweet red. Not a bitter red like AmazonRed.”

My response: @PR ~ that was funny, a bitter red like ARed. The girl is not bitter, just a straight shooter (LOL).

Purple Rain

February 10th, 2011
4:53 pm

Leggs, oops I forget about that joke. Let’s just keep that one between us. Do over!

Purple Rain

February 10th, 2011
4:53 pm

Would not have you change

AmazonRed™

February 10th, 2011
4:55 pm

“Slim go with a Vin Santo you might like it if you want a sweet red. Not a bitter red like AmazonRed.”

Wow…bitter…really now. :?

Purple Rain

February 10th, 2011
4:57 pm

AmazingRed, that was not the joke I was referring but obviously Leggs brought it back to the forefront. I love you more than Simple Man ever could, I’d bet the farm. LOL

Purple Rain

February 10th, 2011
4:58 pm

Leggs, are you my nemesis this year?

Leggs - "Free Me-Lo"

February 10th, 2011
4:58 pm

:lol: No doubt he was joking. Look, he’s betting the farm on you!

Leggs - "Free Me-Lo"

February 10th, 2011
4:59 pm

@PR ~ :lol: Not at all. You brought up the joke from yesterday so I just helped you along in finding it. :lol:

You know I loves my Italian Studmuffin.

Purple Rain

February 10th, 2011
5:00 pm

Leggs that was the wrong joke. Your new booty and tatas are making us not be on the same page anymore. LOL

“Sacrificing your happiness for the happiness of the one you love, is by far, the truest type of love.”

Leggs - "Free Me-Lo"

February 10th, 2011
5:02 pm

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who matter don’t mind and those who mind, DON’T MATTER!

Nite!

Celisea (free Me-Lo)

February 10th, 2011
5:02 pm

“Sacrificing your happiness for the happiness of the one you love, is by far, the truest type of love.”

Sacrificing your life for the life of the one you love, is the craziest thing since civilization :) :)

Leggs - "Free Me-Lo"

February 10th, 2011
5:03 pm

Purple Rain "Free Me-Lo"

February 10th, 2011
5:09 pm

Believing a woman knows what she wants is the craziest thing since civilization…no listening to women is. LOL

Purple Rain "Free Me-Lo"

February 10th, 2011
5:12 pm

Fion

February 10th, 2011
5:14 pm

The craziest thing is being married to some one, working on everthing, but Loving that person unconditionally.

Celisea (free Me-Lo)

February 10th, 2011
5:15 pm

Hush PR….just cutting up.

Celisea (free Me-Lo)

February 10th, 2011
5:16 pm

Oh wait, that was FION…sorry PR, it was so easy to assume you typed that 5:14

Fion

February 10th, 2011
5:17 pm

Yeah, late meeting. Got a few more things I need to do. Checked in one last time.

Purple Rain "Free Me-Lo"

February 10th, 2011
5:17 pm

See how women do, they just accuse you naturally.

Celisea (free Me-Lo)

February 10th, 2011
5:21 pm

See how women do, they just accuse you naturally.

Hush PR

Purple Rain "Free Me-Lo"

February 10th, 2011
5:21 pm

Fion, how is that volley ball player doing?

Purple Rain "Free Me-Lo"

February 10th, 2011
5:22 pm

Celisea, make me hush. LOL

Fion

February 10th, 2011
5:23 pm

Steady as she goes Captain.!

Purple Rain "Free Me-Lo"

February 10th, 2011
5:37 pm

That’s great Fion!

JP

February 10th, 2011
10:44 pm

Marriage doesn’t have to end up passionless and sexless. What either party did to get the other party in the beginning can’t change once they say “I do.” You can’t ever stop putting in effort. Marriage is 24/7 – 365. Sometimes, one partner may be required to give a little more than the other partner and vice-versa but at no time should either one just completely give up. Communication is important and making sure you make time for one another. Become each others best friend before you get married and the desire to protect and cultivate the relationship will never leave. Because face it, most people treat their friends better than their mate.