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Dating women: What do you want from us?

I spent Superbowl Sunday in a den of testosterone surrounded by male debauchery.  My boys know how to throw a party and they certainly didn’t disappoint. I can always count on them for insight into the male brain and believe me, they don’t sugarcoat anything. Ever.

One of them recently broke up with someone that I personally thought was a great match for him. Of course it’s good to break things off when you know there is no future but I always worry when I see people bail out so soon.

Every guy is different but when it comes to dating women, what exactly do you want? I read somewhere that some men will keep looking for the woman that he won’t ever cheat on? Do you agree?

Ladies do you think you know and understand what men what from you in a dating relationship? Do you have a hard time figuring it out based on their behavior?

Are we supposed to be clear about our dating intentions? Do you think it’s necessary so that we can actually make it to the relationship and commitment level?

HAPPY MONDAY!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

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Raqi V

February 7th, 2011
3:03 pm

If I eat all the baked goods and food that people are bringing me I will have to be helicopter lifted out of this house by the time the squid is born. LOL Some ladies from church came by yesterday and they brought food. I think the one tablespoon of Mac-n-cheese that one of them brought is why have this horrible heartburn now. LOL It was good but it was loaded with 4 different types of cheese. That’s why I only had a few bites of it. If she wasn’t 70 years old I would think she is trying to kill me and take the hub for herself. LOL

One of my neighbors brought over some cookies last week while I was still in the hospital but the boy devoured those in one day. By the time I came home there were only two left.

SexyCool

February 7th, 2011
3:15 pm

i'm swiss™

February 7th, 2011
3:15 pm

Question for the ladies: So, do you ladies actually agree to go out on dates with dudes you don’t find physically attractive in the hopes that you will develop an attraction? Or is it more the case that visually they’re attractive to you, but it doesn’t translate into sexual attraction once you get to know them? Just curious, because I think most guys wouldn’t even consider dating a girl he didn’t find physically attractive from the start.

i'm swiss™

February 7th, 2011
3:22 pm

Oh, and FYI for the ladies… From a dude’s perspective, as soon as you know you’re not feeling it physically, cut him loose. He won’t like it & you might have to be harsh about it, but in the long run it’s best for everyone. S3x is such an important thing for guys, the worst thing you could do to a dude is string him along when you know you’ll never have the desire to give him that true, inhibited fire booty. :lol: Sometimes you gotta be cruel to be kind.

i'm swiss™

February 7th, 2011
3:25 pm

uninhibited, that is…

SexyCool

February 7th, 2011
3:29 pm

I cannot say that the attraction to TheDude could be pinpointed as physical or sexual initially. It was more like I was drawn to his smile, his eyes, his ways.

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
3:32 pm

swiss – Your 3:22 – that’s always been my practice.

As for going out with someone hoping an attraction develops – I did it once with a guy a friend set me up with. Had it not been for the setup I never would have gone out with him. As I said in some of my earlier posts, I’ve erred on the side of shooting a guy down quick because I was not feeling him right off the bat. My friends kept preaching give some of those dudes a chance, but I’m doing the both of us a favor. Leave ourselves free to pursue someone we are really into that is equally into us.

DreamsMaterialize

February 7th, 2011
3:36 pm

Leave ourselves free to pursue someone we are really into that is equally into us.
kimmie yep yep. no need to waste each other’s time. I have jumped the gun on a couple occasions though.

SexyCool

February 7th, 2011
3:42 pm

Even today, for as much chemistry as we have and as as much as he does it for me now, what attracts me to him most….is the calm in his spirit.

i'm swiss™

February 7th, 2011
3:46 pm

“Even today, for as much chemistry as we have and as as much as he does it for me now, what attracts me to him most….is the calm in his spirit.”

SexyCool — But… (to borrow my favorite Me.lo-ism of all time) that calm spirit now induces high tide in the hot and wet mangrove swamp, yes? :lol:

SexyCool

February 7th, 2011
3:50 pm

LMAO…you nut….but yes, very much so.

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
3:54 pm

Who knew that women were so shallow and all caught up in physical attractiveness? You are just like us guys. LOL

And yes SexyCool I read what you are attracted to about the Dude, I know it is much more than the physical. Don’t mess with me. LOL

DreamsMaterialize

February 7th, 2011
3:55 pm

not the “mangrove swamp.” lol

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
3:57 pm

I’ve met plenty of women who were nice but their looks and health did not fit the mold. It is hurtful to have to let them go, but alas it must be done.

Guys have you ever met a girl who was to nice that you were undeserving of and decided not to get involved with her as to save her from you. LOL, I had to do that once when I was younger. She was to perfect all around and I just was not ready for a woman like that then.

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
3:58 pm

Mangrove swamp, sounds bushy and wet. I like!

Raqi V

February 7th, 2011
3:59 pm

Hey SexyCool. How are you?

Is everyone ready for Valentines Day?

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
4:00 pm

Valentines Day is a go! :)

DreamsMaterialize

February 7th, 2011
4:01 pm

Mangrove swamp, sounds bushy and wet. I like!
Purp that was m-e..l*o’s description of the puddy. not surprising I’m sure. lol

i'm swiss™

February 7th, 2011
4:03 pm

Speaking of mangrove swamps… So, Mrs. Swiss is usually extremely diligent in keeping a perfectly manicured landing strip at all times… but I guess she’s a couple days overdue for her usual lady-scaping & I have to say… that little bit of “natural” underbrush has had me going out of my d@mn mind the past few days… I might just throw out all her Nair :lol:

What…? TMI? :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

February 7th, 2011
4:03 pm

Is everyone ready for Valentines Day?
Raqi yep, I’ll be at dinner with the special lil lady in my life. Actually, I’ll make a whole weekend of it. How are you doing? Staying well rested I hope.

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
4:04 pm

Dreams, lol….m-e/l..o, is famous :)

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
4:05 pm

Swiss, I got tired of the bald and low cuts long ago. I am just not that trendy. LOL

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
4:06 pm

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
4:07 pm

I feel like a hippie in the middle of a drummers circle. LOL

That and the little Darth Vader were the funniest commercial to me.

The Doritos guy was weird.

i'm swiss™

February 7th, 2011
4:09 pm

Purple — I liked the Bridgestone beaver commercial, too…

DreamsMaterialize

February 7th, 2011
4:09 pm

What…? TMI?
swiss nothing wrong with a little pruned and cultivated shrubbery.

Dreams, lol….m-e/l..o, is famous
Purp we need to start a Free “m” “e” “l” “o” campaign…tshirts, the whole nine. Let’s bring him home. lol

SexyCool

February 7th, 2011
4:11 pm

Well…we could do like Drake did on all his mixed tapes and at the end of his appearances….

And sign all of our posts with…

Free Me-Lo

SexyCool

February 7th, 2011
4:12 pm

I meant to add that Drake closed out EVERYthing with Free Weezy…

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
4:13 pm

Does anyone know the history of Saint Valentine or San Valentinus and why the chosen date is February 14th?

Purple Rain "Free Me-Lo"

February 7th, 2011
4:15 pm

Dreams and Sexy Cool I am all for supporting him. (see my name) LOL

SexyCool

February 7th, 2011
4:18 pm

Besides…I *almost* miss Me.Lo insulting me on a regular basis. (lol)

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 7th, 2011
4:18 pm

Hey count me in…I’m down for the cause.

Raqi V

February 7th, 2011
4:19 pm

That sounds nice DreamsMat. How old is your daughter?

I have a doc’s appt V-day morning. Since I will be out of the house the hub is trying to see if he can rent an RV so we can go riding. That way I can be comfortably seated and with my friend Deni and her husband tagging along. Maybe ride up to Tennessee and back. Sightseeing pretty much. I am waiting for the doc to approve it. She wants to see me in person first to see how everything going. Right now she is “thinking about it”. LOL

i'm swiss™ ("FREE ME.LO")

February 7th, 2011
4:20 pm

Free, free, set him free!

Purple Rain "Free Me-Lo"

February 7th, 2011
4:21 pm

Prince still has the best superbowl half time show IMO

Black Eyed Peas are just weird. Didn’t they used to make good music when the first came out?

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 7th, 2011
4:22 pm

That sounds nice DreamsMat. How old is your daughter?
Raqi She’s 5…going on 35. We’ll have fun, we always do.

Raqi V

February 7th, 2011
4:22 pm

That guy had to be pretty insulting to still be in blog jail. It had to be some harsh and/or extreme vulgar comments that never made it pass the filters.

Where is 2CPTG these days?

Raqi V

February 7th, 2011
4:23 pm

She’s 5…going on 35

LMBO I know exactly where you are coming from.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 7th, 2011
4:23 pm

Didn’t they used to make good music when the first came out?
Purp I liked and have their first cd, before they replaced the other girl with fergie.

Purple Rain "Free Me-Lo"

February 7th, 2011
4:23 pm

Where is czBrat, blue I can’t think of anyone else right now that I know is not banned.

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 7th, 2011
4:26 pm

LMBO I know exactly where you are coming from.
Raqi it’s something about girls. I’m sure you’re seeing it everyday. Sometimes, all I can say is “how in the world did you figure that out?” lol

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
4:27 pm

O L E M sent pics yesterday…I’m waiting on the ones of the entire fam…hey O E L M…..nic pics…send the rest please

FREE O L E M

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 7th, 2011
4:28 pm

Leggs
Delight
PrincessNik

Celisea (free Me-Lo)

February 7th, 2011
4:29 pm

I’m in on our quest to free our brother!

Celisea (free Me-Lo)

February 7th, 2011
4:30 pm

Anybody lurking, please chime in and participate in our quest. I’ll be collecting funds towards this quest via paypal

Purple Rain "Free Me-Lo"

February 7th, 2011
4:32 pm

Celisea he sent me pics before, but I dont think they are the kind of pics he sent you. LOL I lost his email when I deleted my pre marriage email account post marriage. LOL

DreamsMaterialize "Free Me-Lo"

February 7th, 2011
4:33 pm

welcome to the movement Sister Celisea X. lol We will be asking for that bonus you just received as a good faith offering to show your dedication to the cause. 2% of the proceeds will go toward efforts to free “m”"e”"l”"o”. the other 98% will go toward me miscellanious expenses. ;-)

Purple Rain "Free Me-Lo"

February 7th, 2011
4:34 pm

Dreams, nice move making her show her dedication first. LOL

Purple Rain "Free Me-Lo"

February 7th, 2011
4:40 pm

Okay why did the blog just hop out of gear?

Celisea (free Me-Lo)

February 7th, 2011
4:40 pm

Hey I just had a post to go to cyberspace