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Dating women: What do you want from us?

I spent Superbowl Sunday in a den of testosterone surrounded by male debauchery.  My boys know how to throw a party and they certainly didn’t disappoint. I can always count on them for insight into the male brain and believe me, they don’t sugarcoat anything. Ever.

One of them recently broke up with someone that I personally thought was a great match for him. Of course it’s good to break things off when you know there is no future but I always worry when I see people bail out so soon.

Every guy is different but when it comes to dating women, what exactly do you want? I read somewhere that some men will keep looking for the woman that he won’t ever cheat on? Do you agree?

Ladies do you think you know and understand what men what from you in a dating relationship? Do you have a hard time figuring it out based on their behavior?

Are we supposed to be clear about our dating intentions? Do you think it’s necessary so that we can actually make it to the relationship and commitment level?

HAPPY MONDAY!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

211 comments Add your comment

Ancient Alien

February 7th, 2011
12:48 pm

Celisea food sex quite. N that order.

Da_Man!

February 7th, 2011
12:49 pm

@Celisea – If that’s how you want to role play … sure?

Da_Man!

February 7th, 2011
12:53 pm

My “On Demand” actually should be taken like Comcast perks. When I request, then I receive. Not no asking for it at 3:00p but have to settle for 10:30p.

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
12:56 pm

Da_Man – I’m going off you…..you didn’t say role play. You said this is “what you want from women or your woman”….almost to the point of committing a crime. What you want sounds to me how you wish things to be….all the time or most times. Are you talking a little play here and there. If it’s role playing, outside of that cause you do have to eat sleep and live, what do you want…seriously?

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
12:58 pm

Ancient Alien – I’m not surprised. The few men that did post, pretty much said the same thing. I guess though at this point we shouldn’t see/hear/read your answers and still ask “but what is it you want” Ya’ll all pretty much answered.

patrick osei-tutu

February 7th, 2011
1:03 pm

I am looking for women to marriage.

patrick osei-tutu

February 7th, 2011
1:05 pm

Have nice women know would love me.

SlimDizzyDoodle

February 7th, 2011
1:13 pm

patrick – why do I picture you wearing a bear skin skirt tied around your waist carrying a spear with a poisioned spear-tip?

How! Me Tarzan..

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
1:15 pm

Catching up on some other blogs… Ladies, ever not been interested in a guy…but he takes your “no” as an excuse to try harder?

Well, a guys advice is to put it this way:
“The reason why I don’t want to sleep with you is because I’m not sexually attracted to you. I tried to picture myself having sex with you, because I do like you as a person and you’re doing all the things I like guys to do, but I just can’t picture it. I tried and I can’t.”

:lol: The easy let down can be confusing… the above is not. :lol:

Ancient Alien

February 7th, 2011
1:15 pm

don’t sugarcoat anything,,,,,,,,,,,theres no time for this
Are we supposed to be clear about our dating intentions?,,,,,,,,yes

Respect for her self and others.,,,,,,,,,its not hard

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
1:17 pm

Dreams, no not that cape. LOL

Patrick are you going to be asking for our bank account number because you had a relative die and need to send his money to america?

Celisea, you are over due for some role playing aren’t you? LOL

SlimDizzyDoodle

February 7th, 2011
1:23 pm

Ared – OUCH! :cry: :lol:

Sassy Me :-)

February 7th, 2011
1:31 pm

Patrick are you going to be asking for our bank account number because you had a relative die and need to send his money to america?

:shock:

:lol:

ARed I might need to borrow that 1:15. That’comedy reading it but real talk at the same time. Some guys just don’t get it and need it raw like that.

Ancient Alien

February 7th, 2011
1:32 pm

Why are women hurting by men who has given her nothing?

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
1:34 pm

I know right? And the funny thing…after all the ways I can tell a man I’m not interested, it never really crossed my mind to say it that way (even if I was thinking it).

Cuz I’ll tell you something about these older guys (10+ years) they might have their stuff together and even treat you right, but if you’ve gotta psyche yourself up to go there…that’s not a good thing. :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

February 7th, 2011
1:35 pm

The easy let down can be confusing… the above is not.
You don’t have to tell me twice that you’re not feeling me. Shyyyyt you probably don’t even have to tell me once. If I even get that feeling, then I’ll find the exit myself…peace!

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
1:37 pm

Dreams – But how many “I won her over” type stories do you know of? There are a lot of couples together now that didn’t even like each other upon meeting! So it’s not always that easy for some people to figure out!

SlimDizzyDoodle

February 7th, 2011
1:38 pm

There is a dude/customer who always tries to fanagle my personal cell number from me but under the disguise that it pertains to work. Um..yeah right. He was like, you probably should give me your cell in case I have questions after 5 or on the weekends. I said well leave a voicemail at my desk. I don’t do anything work-related after 5 Or on the weekends. lol Then he was trying to get me to come to his location to give him a tutorial of the online process here. Um…that would be a big fat NEGATIVO

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
1:39 pm

PR, you and Ancient Alien and Patrick Tutu smoking that stuff today I see.

Ancient Alien

February 7th, 2011
1:43 pm

Some women will go to unimaginable extremes to say that is my man.

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
1:45 pm

Amred/Dreams – You know I have never liked that “don’t take no/persistant” type dude. They are irritating. If I say I’m not interested or just no – then take that and go on about your business. Have I ever kinda regretted turning a guy down? Yes, very few times, but it’s happened. Hey, my loss(maybe). I do like a guy to pursue me, but he won’t have to chase me down. Just be a man of your word and follow thru when I’ve given you the indication that I AM interested, is all I ever wanted.

Ancient Alien

February 7th, 2011
1:51 pm

When a woman says no it means no even if its in playful tone leave it alone.

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
1:53 pm

You know I have never liked that “don’t take no/persistant” type dude. They are irritating. If I say I’m not interested or just no – then take that and go on about your business

kimmie – It should definitely be easier, but I could see how a guy might think they will get laid…even if she’s on the fence about her feelings. Let’s not act like there aren’t women giving it up for a #3 combo with a Coke! :lol: So I can see how a guy might hedge his bets.

However, if she comes out the gate with “i’m not sexually attracted to you” I can see why he’d take that one seriously. :lol:

Ancient Alien

February 7th, 2011
1:57 pm

It is submission without provocation that we cant latch on to.

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
1:58 pm

Amred – You are right. I’ve just never been one of those “on the fence” types at all. I’m pretty clear, in fact, thinking back with some I was a bit mean. But even the nice times I was nice but firm. So the times I regretted it, I knew there was no chance the dude was going to come back! :(

Ancient Alien

February 7th, 2011
2:02 pm

Celisea I tried to smoke it but could not take it. I just speak like I do.

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
2:05 pm

kimmie – I have definitely been on the fence. They are respectable and accomplished and nice to boot…but I just don’t want them on top of me. And I find myself confused as to how much physical attraction has to count for, especially so early on!

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
2:07 pm

Amred – Respectable, nice – yep those are the ones I regretted shooting down so quick! Sometimes I can really jump the gun! :shock:

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
2:11 pm

AA – So you speakings aren’t peace pipe induced huh? Alright then speak on.

On another note, this cake from Piece of Cake is simply divine..mmm mmm mmm

SlimDizzyDoodle

February 7th, 2011
2:17 pm

Dated a nice, respectable dude but there was NO physical attraction on my end for him. So even though I enjoyed conversation & hanging out with him, that was where the buck stopped.

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
2:18 pm

Celisea – What flavor cake?

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
2:18 pm

Dated a nice, respectable dude but there was NO physical attraction on my end for him.

Still makes me feel bad when this happens. Those are the guys we SHOULD like ya know?

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
2:22 pm

Slim/Amred – Even though thinking back I feel bad for being so harsh, it probably was for the best. What is meant to be will be, I believe. If me & any of those guys were meant to be together we would have been. It actually made it easier. I did go out a few times with a guy I was not physically attracted to and continuing to see him didn’t make it any better. It’s tough when the guy has been nothing but nice to you but you still have to turn him down because you’re just not feeling him that way. That’s a place I hopefully will never have to go again.

SexyCool

February 7th, 2011
2:23 pm

I have a couple of those dudes stashed in the back of my closet somewhere. (lol)

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
2:23 pm

Kimmie – White chocolate and chocolate on chocolate…I had a slice of the white chocolate..

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
2:25 pm

Amred – I had to tell myself that they deserve to have someone just as into them as they are to the other person.

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
2:25 pm

Mmm…my friend brought a white chocolate cake from POC to a Super Bowl party yesterday. I got there early cuz they go fast… But the hostess decided not to cut it til halftime…I was already on my way to the next party. I planned my destinations on account of that dang cake!

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
2:25 pm

Amred – I had to tell myself that they deserve to have someone just as into them as they are to the other person.

So true. That’s what keeps me going when I start missing my ex!

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
2:27 pm

I planned my destinations on account of that dang cake!

Ha…my real reason for attending this celebration today. I shamefully admit too, once the cake was cut, I took my slice and left…lol I felt eyes on my back but hey it was the cake that got me there in the first place.

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
2:27 pm

Celisea – That white chocolate is great. I got it for SO’s birthday last year. I recreated it myself this year for his birthday. Everyone raved but I think Piece of Cake still has me beat. Give credit where it’s due! :)

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
2:29 pm

Kimmie – I recreated it myself this year for his birthday.

Good for you. I bet you did good. So not a baker. Heck I don’t even cook (no more) half the time.

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
2:33 pm

kimmie – If you don’t stop calling that man SO and start calling him fiance! :lol:

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
2:33 pm

Talking about dudes you’re not feeling but are pretty nice. Only had one that where I really tried to be cool with him. He was such a decent dude but I just couldn’t get the physical thing going for him. He was there too for me during my rough ride. You can’t make the heart feel what’s not there. This was the only dude I sort of let him have it when he needed to vent because I knew most of that was the let down that I couldn’t make it happen….after he’d been there for me. It was always “just friends” for me though.

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
2:34 pm

All others, I did like they do…gradual fade away…LOL Sorry, just not feeling it. Can’t make the heart feel what’s not there

Raqi V

February 7th, 2011
2:35 pm

Hey ladies.

I saw that you all are talking about baking and I wanted to jump in on the convo for a second.

I received a large fruit basket last week from my former employer and it had 2 bunches of bananas in it. I don’t eat a lot of bananas and I have only allowed the baby to have two in the past week. My bff Doc came by Saturday and she saw the bananas had turned brown and were soft. She took them home with her and brought back on of the best loaves of banana bread I have ever tasted. I have admitted eaten more than I should have. She should have let my hub throw away the bananas then I wouldn’t be lying here feeling guilty. But I really do appreciate her turning a gifted item into an even better gifted item. LOL

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
2:36 pm

Amred – I know!!LOL!! I just don’t want to be obnoxious about it, like some other bridezillas I’ve known!!

SlimDizzyDoodle

February 7th, 2011
2:36 pm

‘Those are the guys we SHOULD like ya know?’

Ared – Well, I did like him, just not enough physical spark that would allow me to string him along in a long drawn out fake courtship. He was too good of a guy to do that too. If I felt weirded out by him wanting me to be all cuddled up with him on the couch to watch a movie, then i knew it was not gonna happen. ANd for the record, i’m not normally into the whole bad guy thing anyway. I meet nice guys more often times than not…thank God ;-)

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
2:41 pm

ANd for the record, i’m not normally into the whole bad guy thing anyway. I meet nice guys more often times than not…thank God

Yeah, I know. I’m the same way. But I still feel bad because it really isn’t them, but sometimes you wonder why you aren’t good enough!

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
2:46 pm

Raqi – That sounds good – does it have nuts in it?

Raqi V

February 7th, 2011
2:55 pm

kimmie, no nuts. I can’t eat nuts but it has raisins in it. It’s funny that the babe tries to pick the raisins out of the bread and throw them away but she will eat a box of raisins any day.