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Dating women: What do you want from us?

I spent Superbowl Sunday in a den of testosterone surrounded by male debauchery.  My boys know how to throw a party and they certainly didn’t disappoint. I can always count on them for insight into the male brain and believe me, they don’t sugarcoat anything. Ever.

One of them recently broke up with someone that I personally thought was a great match for him. Of course it’s good to break things off when you know there is no future but I always worry when I see people bail out so soon.

Every guy is different but when it comes to dating women, what exactly do you want? I read somewhere that some men will keep looking for the woman that he won’t ever cheat on? Do you agree?

Ladies do you think you know and understand what men what from you in a dating relationship? Do you have a hard time figuring it out based on their behavior?

Are we supposed to be clear about our dating intentions? Do you think it’s necessary so that we can actually make it to the relationship and commitment level?

HAPPY MONDAY!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

211 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
11:23 am

Slim, I just made some good e friends on here and I get to blow the winter months on the computer. LOL So I would not say that this place helps my relationship other than when I ask a serious question about women and receive a serious answer in return. I told her I’m on here 2 or 3 days a week and she is alright with it. :)

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
11:25 am

I would not respect a woman who did not hold me accountable.

Kym-Alas..number 7 was not meant to be..but I will always root for that Steel City

February 7th, 2011
11:26 am

@Swiss I believe your 11:23 is on point. So I shall second that emotion.

i'm swiss™

February 7th, 2011
11:26 am

“some woman can give you more sex than you can handle and make Dagwood size sandwiches, and platters of food and then you would say..she is not forceful enough or demanding enough. I said it before and I will say it again..something not quite right with that male chromosome.”

Kym — That’s human nature, not just us dudes.

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
11:27 am

If a person (male or female) is not holding you accountable or respects you in every way….you are the dummy for hanging in there forcing something that should not be.

DreamsMaterialize

February 7th, 2011
11:29 am

Dreams – have you ever met a chick with the IT factor but lacked all the other ‘on paper’ qualities? If so, how did that courtship go?
Slim Answer to the first is Yes, and the answer to the second questoin is: “I’m stil single.” lol

On-paper stuff won’t make you love someone.
kimmie you’re right about that. In that case, I guess I sometimes don’t know what I want. lol

Kym-Alas..number 7 was not meant to be..but I will always root for that Steel City

February 7th, 2011
11:31 am

Okay I missed something what are “on paper qualities”?

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
11:31 am

….and to your point Swiss, folks still carrying a checklist is stuck. I don’t do checklists because more than likely all that stuff listed is void of the essentials…being honest and forthcoming, right intentions, overall possessing character. That’s why I’m not impressed when folks flash either material stuff or degrees. Heck what good is a degree if you don’t have the get up and go to make it work for you? What’s good about material stuff if you don’t possess character and know how to find a right balance and not lead with it? What good is it for you to want so much from me but lack the ability to reciprocate? So would the question “what do men want from us” be appropriate?

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
11:31 am

am waiting on the ladies to answer this.

I answered. Pay attention!

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
11:34 am

Swiss, I agree with your 11:26 Women can have a guy who respects them lavishes them with gifts great sex etc But then she will say he is to weak.

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
11:39 am

Kym – On-paper qualities – Education, own home and car, stylish clothes, fit body, attends church regularly – nice “resume” that really has not much to do with the person’s character or the type of person they are inside.

DreamsMaterialize

February 7th, 2011
11:39 am

Okay I missed something what are “on paper qualities”?
Kym you know someone who looks great on paper…seem to have all the things that sound nice in a mate, but still there’s something missing.

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
11:40 am

Amazon ladies as in plural besides who listens to their little sister anyway. You are not old enough to date or close the door to your bedroom

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
11:40 am

I will say this I am who I am and I am not changing, my wife is who she is and she is not changing. We just happen to mesh together.

Kym-Alas..number 7 was not meant to be..but I will always root for that Steel City

February 7th, 2011
11:41 am

@kimmie..ohh ok thank you.

SexyCool

February 7th, 2011
11:45 am

Purp – I answered as well. Albeit, my answer was specific to my relationship. And basically, my answer was “Yes, I know because I ask.”

Where “the game” gets all twisted is folks asking the question and getting a response that sounds like a bunch of bllsht or…asking a person who doesn’t know what he/she wants and they respond with a bunch of hemming and hawing that amounts to a whole bunch of nothing.

SexyCool

February 7th, 2011
11:49 am

OR…you ask the question of a person who only wants ONE THING from you, but because they can’t/won’t admit to that ONE THING, they end up responding with something that is designed to pacify you until they can get as much of that ONE THING that they want from you and then move on to the next or go back to the main one.

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
11:52 am

“Ladies do you think you know and understand what men want from you in a dating relationship?”

I answered. I said I think men want us to know require anything of them.

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
11:52 am

“not” not know…sorry on a call and typing at the same time

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
11:52 am

SexyCool, I saw your answer and you are wise enough to know to ask. But I was looking for some of the general answers from others “who know” what a guy wants. LOL

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
11:54 am

I think that’s what men want and I think that that’s what women (me for one) think men want. I mean we all know you want:

1. sex

2. sex

3. quiet

4. sex

5. sex

6. food

7. sex

8. sex

9. sex

10. sex

11…..if at all possible for you to be okay with me and a few others.

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
11:54 am

But I was looking for some of the general answers from others “who know” what a guy wants. LOL

Well be specific next time! Men!

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
11:58 am

getting a response that sounds like a bunch of bllsht or…asking a person who doesn’t know what he/she wants and they respond with a bunch of hemming and hawing that amounts to a whole bunch of nothing.

Please allow me to copy and paste and repeat…LOL Don’t be wanting and posting a whole bunch and you bringing a whole bunch of nothing.

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
11:58 am

Celisea men can get sex from anywhere just like a woman can. LOL If I am looking for just a goodtime your list is right if I am looking for a long term woman the list is different.

AmazonRed, is your room clean? LOL

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
11:59 am

Purple – That’s just it – most of us, at least those women on here, know better than to “assume” we know what men want. It’s enough to handle just finding out what the one you’re with wants, figuring out if he can or is willing to give you what you want – and then trying to make it work.

I mean, it’s a huge waste of time trying to figure out such generalities with all dudes. Better time can be spent focusing on just the one you’re with – or trying to get! :lol:

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
12:00 pm

I am not qualified to tell a woman what she wants and a woman is not qualified to tell me what I want.

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
12:01 pm

Preach kimmie!

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
12:02 pm

kimmie, I agree. When do you get married? I am asking Julia for a “hall pass” so that I can come be your stripper :)

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
12:05 pm

Purple – We are narrowing it down this week, but it will be some time in April or May. I thank you for your thoughtfulness, but I wouldn’t want you to catch cold!!LOL!!!

Amred – :)

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
12:07 pm

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
12:08 pm

I will be to hot to catch a cold. LOL

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
12:09 pm

Purple – What is it, I can’t pull it up here at work?

You are a riot! :lol:

SlimDizzyDoodle

February 7th, 2011
12:10 pm

Purp – I sure hope that movie is funny because I plan on going to see it. And while on the subject, i wonder if a wife GIVING a hubby a hall pass, takes the fun out of it that you would get from lying, sneaking etc as in normal cheating?

Robert

February 7th, 2011
12:10 pm

Dating women: What do you want from us? –
This question can be answered several ways based on the age of the men and women. For example men in their 20’s-30’s are immature and their main goal is “sex” with as many women as possible. Women in their 20’s-30’s are much more mature than men and are already thinking about long terrn relationships leading to marriage which creates problems such as insecurity and trust issues. Bye the time men and women reach their 40’s-50’s they have gained enough experience to know what they want in a relationship. Most women want to feel secure in all areas of their life (job, home, man, etc.) while most men want to feel like the “man of the house” and have confidence that thier women is not cheating on them, being responsible about handling family business matters (bills, etc.) and last but not least most men want “A Lady in the Streets and a Freak in His Sheets”

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
12:10 pm

It is a male vampire stripper costume. Cape and all! LOL

SlimDizzyDoodle

February 7th, 2011
12:11 pm

Purp – Nice outfit but i must say, I wish the cape was a bit….cough cough…longer :lol:

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
12:11 pm

Slim if given a hall pass I would not take it. I would think she had already did something or was planning on doing something if she gave me one. LOL

Purple Rain

February 7th, 2011
12:12 pm

Slim, just watch me work the cape. LOL

SlimDizzyDoodle

February 7th, 2011
12:17 pm

Purp – Yeah i’d probably think something was up to if my SO was voluntarily giving me a hall pass option. Now regarding watching you work that cape….with Julia’s permission of course :devil:

DreamsMaterialize

February 7th, 2011
12:24 pm

This isn’t the same cape that Elijah used to fly around in saving all the blog women…

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
12:26 pm

PR – Celisea men can get sex from anywhere just like a woman can. LOL If I am looking for just a goodtime your list is right if I am looking for a long term woman the list is different.

PR, I’m fully aware. I’m a big girl…I know these things.

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
12:27 pm

It’s been pretty slow around here lately. I can’t even say I’ve had a showdown with anyone her in 2011…

Is AmazonRed gonna have to choke a bytch??? :lol:

i'm swiss™

February 7th, 2011
12:29 pm

“Is AmazonRed gonna have to choke a bytch???”

ARed — If Mrs. Swiss gives me a hall pass, you can choke me & call my your bytch… :lol:

kimmie

February 7th, 2011
12:32 pm

Amred – Yeah, we might have to turn over some chairs or something in here!! Get something stirred up!! LOL!!

AmazonRed™ - A Rodgers...told u he was that DUDE!

February 7th, 2011
12:34 pm

Sorry swiss – A lil girl on girl action always brings a better crowd.

Thanks for volunteering though!

i'm swiss™

February 7th, 2011
12:36 pm

ARed — You never, ever, need to apologize for wanting a lil’ girl on girl action. :lol:

Da_Man!

February 7th, 2011
12:37 pm

Just to be clear ladies, we don’t just want sex … we want sex on demand (short of a crime) and/or without asking. On game day, pre-game shows and half-times are good timeslots.

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
12:47 pm

Da_Man – we want sex on demand (short of a crime) and/or without asking.

So it’s safe to assume you’re good getting assualted and “taken?” That’s what you want from us?

DreamsMaterialize

February 7th, 2011
12:47 pm

A lil girl on girl action always brings a better crowd.
True, true. lol Get it crackin’ ARed. ;-)

Celisea

February 7th, 2011
12:47 pm