A reader is going through a little rough patch with her new boyfriend. Somehow the topic of “magic numbers” came up. She tried her best to sidestep the conversation but he eventually asked her outright, “So how many partners have you been with?” When she refused to answer, he started making wild accusations about her past and why she was being so cryptic. Finally, she told him, “You know what? It’s really not your business.” Oy.
Obviously, that didn’t go over well and now they have a weirdness between them that probably won’t go away until they address the big pink number in the room. Do you think the person you are dating has a right to know your magic number?
When I asked what exactly made her so hesitant to tell him, she told me she is not proud of her number. I think that not telling him will make him suspect that is high. What do you think? Is she screwed either way? Do women assume that men will judge them harshly or is it a valid concern?
Is it a bad sign if the person you are dating decides not to reveal certain things?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog