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My (magic) number, my business

A reader is going through a little rough patch with her new boyfriend.  Somehow the topic of “magic numbers” came up. She tried her best to sidestep the conversation but he eventually asked her outright, “So how many partners have you been with?”  When she refused to answer, he started making wild accusations about her past and why she was being so cryptic.  Finally, she told him, “You know what? It’s really not your business.”  Oy.

Obviously, that didn’t go over well and now they have a weirdness between them that probably won’t go away until they address the big pink number in the room.  Do you think the person you are dating has a right to know your magic number?

When I asked what exactly made her so hesitant to tell him, she told me she is not proud of her number.  I think that not telling him will make him suspect that is high. What do you think? Is she screwed either way? Do women assume that men will judge them harshly or is it a valid concern?

Is it a bad sign if the person you are dating decides not to reveal certain things?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

208 comments Add your comment

AmazonRed™

February 3rd, 2011
1:51 pm

But, there’s no such thing as a chick that would give a truthful answer to the question anyway, so it’s pretty much a moot point, isn’t it?

abc – I don’t believe in lying…so if I’m not going to answer truthfully, I’m gonna tell you that I am simply not going to answer. :lol:

But the numbers can flutuate by a few depending on what you’d define as sex. :lol:

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
1:54 pm

abc is right women lie and have selective amnesia.

It would be the worse to find out your mate was “loose” from others and not them. So better to be upfront or just kill the hordes that you had been with before he/she finds out your “sleep number”

Simple Man!!!!

February 3rd, 2011
2:00 pm

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
1:50 pm

Super Head???? Hmmmmmm……

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
2:00 pm

I wouldn’t want to know here number I just would like to know if her oral and penetration number were the same and if they were all different people or not….because if it were that number would have to be doubled. LOL

But hey, you can’t knock experience LOL

Leggs

February 3rd, 2011
2:01 pm

@PR ~ seems like those two are still in high demand.

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
2:05 pm

Leggs they are in High Demand for what? A quickie? No self respecting guy is going to marry one of them. Well Superhead can suck her way into a marriage but chalk that over doing dumb stuff for lust/infatuation. LOL Kim K is just being passed around, but hey hope she makes some money while being passed. Hey Simple Man if you dated SuperHead would you kiss her? LOL

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
2:06 pm

Leggs, and furthermore it would be safe to say that all whores are in high demand. LOL

Simple Man!!!!

February 3rd, 2011
2:09 pm

Purple…Nope…Not kissing superhead, but would be more than happy to let her “Speak directly into the Microphone” if she wanted to…LOL

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
2:11 pm

Simple Man, yes her skills are in high demand. LOL, is it wrong not to ask her number? LOL

Simple Man!!!!

February 3rd, 2011
2:25 pm

No need to ask…Just google her and you get a six digit response!!! LOL

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
2:27 pm

Six digits. That’s a lot. LOL

SlimNumeroUno

February 3rd, 2011
2:29 pm

Not really sure what’s so great about her ’skills’ anyway…

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
2:31 pm

Slim I don’t think it’s about her skills rather than what she is known for. Kind of like you have a great CT it is rumored even though I have never had it or seen it I think highly of it :)

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
2:32 pm

…and she has videos. LOL

Celisea

February 3rd, 2011
2:32 pm

Six digits?! She still alive? WOW…afreakingmazing

SlimNumeroUno

February 3rd, 2011
2:37 pm

‘even though I have never had it or seen it I think highly of it’

Purp :lol: :lol: Um, thanks….i guess. ;-) I think the CT is really one of those, whatchamacallits, um…Urban legends. lol

Leggs

February 3rd, 2011
2:39 pm

@PR ~ didn’t say the level of being in “high demand.” But they still are for however long the session.

Leggs

February 3rd, 2011
2:39 pm

Have you seen the video SlimNU?

Leggs

February 3rd, 2011
2:40 pm

or short the session is.

Celisea

February 3rd, 2011
2:40 pm

I think the Kardashians are trashy girls…that might be judgemental but just going by their actions.

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
2:41 pm

Samuel Greenlee once said “If you wanna be a rich hoe go to Hollywood.”

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
2:42 pm

It is impossible to attain whore status if you are not in high demand…but that does not mean everyone one in high demand status is a whore. LOL

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
2:43 pm

Leggs, I forgot I am not talking to you. LOL

SlimNumeroUno

February 3rd, 2011
2:45 pm

Leggs – I’ve only seen a short clip of her giving special pleasure to Mr. Marcus. All I saw was how she spit a long line of saliva on the weenie like you would put mustard on a hotdog. Other than that, didn’t see anything extra super exciting in that short clip. I may need to review more film. lol

Celisea – what actions exactly would make you feel they’ve done to fall into the trashy category?

Celisea

February 3rd, 2011
2:56 pm

Slim – Celisea – what actions exactly would make you feel they’ve done to fall into the trashy category?

You name it…if it sells or get viewers, they’ll do it. Seriously, IMO they are low in the practicing decorum department. Giving vaginal wax jobs on t.v. and by each other at that? That’s nasty. One on one, can never ever speak without ever other word getting bleeped. No holds barred with just regular old convo…any and everything thing. Somebody said it earlier, they’re (well Kim) just getting handed around. And I understand it’s a reality tv show but folks that practice some sort of decorum will have limits…that’s it, they don’t display having limits…in anything.

Lord Velonese

February 3rd, 2011
3:01 pm

“When she refused to answer, he started making wild accusations about her past and why she was being so cryptic”

Good man, Besides I’d like to know there is tred left anyways and it is not like throwing a hotdog down a hall way.

“What do you think? Is she screwed either way?”

Yeah

“Is it a bad sign if the person you are dating decides not to reveal certain things?”

Yes, I’d hate to marry someone, and find some dirt about them down the road that did not approve of. I guess most people these days don’t care about honesty, too bad. I have more respect for people that are more reserved anyway. No Floozies here!

Celisea

February 3rd, 2011
3:20 pm

LV – you had a couple of bloggers fighting over you yesterday :) How’s that for a number :O)

Lord Velonese

February 3rd, 2011
3:29 pm

Wow, I guess I’m honored and flattered???? I will have to check it out.

Leggs

February 3rd, 2011
3:32 pm

@SlimNU ~ I couldn’t stand that part. It almost made me throw up watching all that dang saliva.

@PR ~ LOL.

@Lord V ~ yes, words used were “he’s my man!” :lol: :lol:

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
3:32 pm

Ladies, if you were seriously dating a guy and never cared what his number was….then went to his college.high school reunion and found it her served sausage to any and every women and had a high number how would you react?

SlimNumeroUno

February 3rd, 2011
3:33 pm

Leggs

February 3rd, 2011
3:36 pm

I would look at him like “damn, you did all these women and it’s still in your pants working.”

SlimNumeroUno

February 3rd, 2011
3:37 pm

Purp – first of all, I would feel totally disrespected if I accompanied my SO to his reunion only to have the old classmates going on and on about how he smushed every female student, and a few teachers. How else would I find out he was a complete feen unless they discussed it in front of me?

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
3:44 pm

Slim, that would be proper info to know before you made that trip with him. LOL and you watching superhead from a woman point of view is not fair. That is like a guy commented on another guys bedroom skills, we dont know whats going on in there just from watching nor should we ever comment.

Celisea

February 3rd, 2011
3:45 pm

LV – Wow, I guess I’m honored and flattered???? I will have to check it out.

That’s why you should pop in more often. Never know what’s brawling :)

kimmie

February 3rd, 2011
3:46 pm

Purple Olive – If he’s hot(if I’m dealing with him he is anyway) I would think they were just hating. The women are just mad cause they didn’t end up with him and the dudes are mad cause he showed up to the reunion with the hottest wife on his arm – ME!! LOL!!!

I hate reunions, especially high school! I’ve never been to any of my high school reunions, but saw pictures. The dudes that used to be hot all had pot bellies and receding hairlines already & the women looked like they had led a hard life. And this was only at the 10 year one! I didn’t miss a dang thing!

Celisea

February 3rd, 2011
3:46 pm

Yes…”brawling”

Lord Velonese

February 3rd, 2011
3:47 pm

Well, let’s just not let this go too much to my head, I do like to keep my ego somewhat in check.:)

SlimNumeroUno

February 3rd, 2011
3:47 pm

Purp – How can watching her from a female standpoint be unfair? If she get’s a title and notariety based off her skills, seems like I should want to see what she’s doing extra or different so I can let my friends know what they’re doing wrong. :lol:

Leggs

February 3rd, 2011
3:51 pm

No pun intended huh, LordV (lol).

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
3:52 pm

kimmie, you are hawt!

Slim, because you do not know what it feels like to have a wang or how a tongue can make or break the feeling. Once again you do not know what is going on in that mouth of superhead and I am dumb in love with her so get OFF OF MY GIRL! :)

SlimNumeroUno

February 3rd, 2011
3:55 pm

Purp – Believe me, out of all the women in the world, you don’t have to worry about me GETTING ON YO GIRL ;-) (I think I just got a chill…shudders lol)

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
3:57 pm

Well if you ever want to practice give me a buzz. LOL

SlimNumeroUno

February 3rd, 2011
4:08 pm

Purp – um, I’m sure you would like that wouldn’t ya

sugar

February 3rd, 2011
4:09 pm

Hey to Lord Velonese 2day? Let him know “Sugar” inquired about him ;) …Oh Sultana u need to back up & off :)

Purple Rain

February 3rd, 2011
4:30 pm

Slim, if I like it or not depends on you. LOL

Leggs

February 3rd, 2011
4:32 pm

@kimmie ~ would you be kind and leave the E.O.D.?

Peace!

SlimNumeroUno

February 3rd, 2011
4:35 pm

Ok, blog monster…really?

SexyCool

February 3rd, 2011
4:42 pm

So…once a person knows your number, what’s the follow up question?

“Who was the best?”

SlimNumeroUno

February 3rd, 2011
4:46 pm

Sexycool – you’re probably right…that’s when you drop the mic abruptly and exit stage left. (Heavenstamegatroid) lol