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Fall for your type

It can be daunting trying to figure out why we are always drawn to a certain type of person. Honestly, sometimes it feels like one of life’s great mysteries, with no rhyme or reason to it.

Attraction has a way of making us forget that we have met and dated a certain type before..even when it ended badly. I’m guilty of having relationship amnesia and I end up right back in the same predicament. It’s an awful deja vu moment to think that you have chosen the wrong type of person to invest time in.

Do you have a type that you always seem drawn to? Do you ever wonder why?

This is why I am such a big fan of going against type and leaving your comfort zone in dating. I have had good experiences when I give it a try! If you were to date someone totally opposite of who you usually are drawn to, what do you think would happen?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

319 comments Add your comment

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
2:44 pm

(Slim pulling up a chair waiting for Purps answer)

Leggs – Good one…let all the blog men respond :-D

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
2:46 pm

There are plenty of women sized 16 or 18 who keep a rotation, so someone is digging them.

You’d be mad if your girl was Jennifer Hudson tho. :lol:

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
2:47 pm

if she’s a size 18 with washboard abs, then I’m scared. That’s like a gorilla or a big foot.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
2:49 pm

As long as your waist at 60 inches or so

That is obese!

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
2:50 pm

Leggs, once I have learned her I could tell. But if it were short term I couldn’t and I probably would not care. Some women have certain “traits” that happen when they reach the big O and make a mess. :)

SexyCool

February 1st, 2011
2:51 pm

Well, dern…I’m a size 12 fatty?!?!? Who knew?!?!?

Oh…and….Kill yo’self…..twice.

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
2:52 pm

SCool – At least you’re tall.

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
2:52 pm

SexyCool, but you are active you run and do stuff. You are not a lazy lard.

SexyCool

February 1st, 2011
2:53 pm

True….(lol)

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
2:54 pm

SexyCool, come on up here and let me sex you down to a size 10. I am a calorie burner. :)

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
2:54 pm

‘Some women have certain “traits” that happen when they reach the big O and make a mess’

Purp – Do you notice of trend of drinking too much liquid prior to blast off? Might be something else, but not the something else you may want to think it is. lol (Chick go back home laughing with her friend about how she took a full p!ss in yo bed) :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

February 1st, 2011
2:54 pm

“I am really feeling left out now. LOL I like women in general, race does not matter to me.

I LOVES ya PURPLE! You know I am an International Dater! :lol:

“For many black women, we are loyal to black men to a fault…even when they aren’t loyal to us”

I guess I missed that lesson! :lol:

“The way I see it, we are the best of both worlds. Got the black mans “size” and the white mans “credit”. Now who wants some italian sausage?”

OH LAWD…I just died! :lol: Purple you are crazy!

DREAMS…….”manatee girls”? :shock: :lol: Jesus take the wheel!

PSSST…hey Purple. I am a size 8 or 10 depends on how the garment is made (hey a girl neds booty space). But I haven’t seen a C-cup in years. :lol:

Leggs

February 1st, 2011
2:55 pm

@PR ~ hmmmm, even if you have learned her”, you won’t always know when she’s faking.

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
2:58 pm

Leggs, is she can make it get moist and contract or squirt all while faking it..well its not like its a fake gucci bag or something. I am fine with that and I expect my woman to correct me to get her to the O if I am doing it wrong. LOL

Slim, that would not bother me one bit. :)

Black, I think a closer inspection of you is now in order.

SexyCool

February 1st, 2011
3:00 pm

P-Lito – Let me lovingly refer you back to the last line of my 251p post.
:)

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
3:01 pm

SexyCool, you have a killer nana? Well I;m ready to die….twice. LOL

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
3:02 pm

Me and dude discussed faking before…at this point in life, not really sure how faking it will give me pleasure. I want the other person know that Slim is just not there yet.

So what are some valid reasons to fake?

1. Ready for him to hurry up so you can finish polishing your toenails.
2. ?

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
3:02 pm

I guess I missed that lesson!

That’s why I said “many” and not all.

Besides, we’ve got a good number of beautiful sistas celebs getting their swirl on! Halle Berry, Paula Patton, Iman, Garcelle Beauvais, Alfre Woodard, Aisha Tyler…

DreamsMaterialize

February 1st, 2011
3:04 pm

The selfish part of me says that if you can fake it good enough for me to feel like it’s real, then I’m cool with that. But alas, I like to please, so I’ll do what I need to to make you gimme that O.

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
3:07 pm

Dreams, I agree. We have about a 6 to 1 ratio in this house. Her 6 “O”’s to my every 1

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
3:07 pm

I’m not a plumber but I lay pipe…….well

DreamsMaterialize

February 1st, 2011
3:09 pm

Halle Berry, Paula Patton, Iman, Garcelle Beauvais, Alfre Woodard, Aisha Tyler…
Garcelle Beauvais and Paula Patton must be cheating then because they are married to me…in my dreams.

SexyCool

February 1st, 2011
3:10 pm

Observation: P-Lito obviously suffers from zero insecurity about his size and/or skill. Has completely bought into the “Italian Stallion” of it all…and displays an almost laughable degree of cockiness. (Pun intended.)

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
3:12 pm

I heard on the radio this morn that Halle Berry is about to start a custody battle for her daughter, with the baby daddy. So she actually dropped out of a film she was working on, to dedicate time for the litigation process.

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
3:12 pm

Dreams – In your dreams, they belong to you and only you!

Reality however… :lol: I think Garcelle’s man did her dirty and she might be available for ya. :lol:

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
3:15 pm

SexyCool, I can’t be mad if my wife strokes my ego…whether if she is lying to me or not..it works :)

Kym-Got 7? We do!!!

February 1st, 2011
3:16 pm

I thought Garcelle had twins just a few years back..what happen to her marriage?

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
3:18 pm

http://socialmediaseo.net/wp-content/uploads/2010/04/mike-nilon-5.jpg

That goofy looking dude had the nerve to cheat on her? *tsk*

Kym – They had been together for 9 years and he had some mistress for 5 of em. Garcelle caught wind and sent our a mass email to his job that went viral. The email asked what her husband had in common with Tiger and Jesse James. :lol:

Kym-Got 7? We do!!!

February 1st, 2011
3:20 pm

LOL he does look goofy..awww silly swiss boy..she gave you a chance…dang

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
3:23 pm

He probably had money and she always seemed a little ditzy to me.

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
3:24 pm

PR – He’s a hollywood agent.

Leggs

February 1st, 2011
3:25 pm

@SlimNU ~ grounds for faking:

1. Just want him off you! (I would imagine this occurs when it feels more like a chore than pleasure.)

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
3:26 pm

Garcelle’s first husband was white too? She does not like us darker brothers.

DreamsMaterialize

February 1st, 2011
3:27 pm

So she actually dropped out of a film she was working on, to dedicate time for the litigation process.
Must be nice to be able to put your career on hold like that.

I think Garcelle’s man did her dirty and she might be available for ya.
YES!!!! I mean shoot that’s just horrible. lol

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
3:27 pm

If she is faking or not she still gets to sleep in the wet spot. LOL

Leggs

February 1st, 2011
3:27 pm

Damn, ARed, and she’s lovingly looking at him. Some men are just stupid and greedy!

kimmie

February 1st, 2011
3:28 pm

Just never met anyone else that attracted me. Love the brothas!

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
3:28 pm

Goofy isn’t the word for how this dude looks…Looks like he’d be the type of guy who like to dress like a baby, have his big azz diaper changed, wearing a bib with a pacifier in his mouth. :lol:

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
3:29 pm

Is it the skin tone or just character of a brother? Because I know some brothers and sisters who are lighter than me.

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
3:30 pm

‘I can’t be mad if my wife strokes my ego’

Purp – Well she can’t help than but to stroke it if you always keep it stashed away in your undies. ;-)

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
3:30 pm

Hey, his goofy looking self caught Garcelle, he must be doing something right.

BlackMagicWoman

February 1st, 2011
3:31 pm

“Garcelle’s first husband was white too? She does not like us darker brothers.”

PURPLE….you are simply crazy! :lol:

SLIM…..thanks for the bad visual of that newborn chicken looking dude in s diaper and bib! :lol:

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
3:32 pm

Slim, your new name should be SlimCrazy. LOL you are funny.

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
3:33 pm

She does not like us darker brothers.

:lol: :lol: :lol: Shut up PR

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
3:34 pm

Black, I can pass on either side. LOL

kimmie

February 1st, 2011
3:34 pm

Purple – For me the whole package. It’s not even conscious. Don’t get me wrong, I love men & find some attractive in all nationalities. None of those others that I have found attractive were ever in a position to date me. They could be someone in the public eye or someone I saw in passing. But only the brothers seem drawn to me and I them. I like who likes me. Not just those who find me attractive, but those that are actually drawn.

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
3:34 pm

Looks like he’d be the type of guy who like to dress like a baby, have his big azz diaper changed, wearing a bib with a pacifier in his mouth.

Slim – That was a lil TOO detailed. Is there something you want to share with the class? :lol:

SexyCool

February 1st, 2011
3:37 pm

I feel like I just got GOT by an applicant or just learned a lesson that I still need to work on my “conclusion drawing abilities”.

Based on the information in her resume (community college around the time I graduated, plus a history on her resume that only went back ten years), I concluded that this chick would be around my age. When I called to schedule an interview, she mentioned something about having grandchildren….(which I sided-eyed, but thought, “Mmm..yeah…okay…they start making babies young in this family.)

Noooooooo…..chick walks in the door and is older than MY momma…..

Naw…hell naw….she advantageously MISrepresented herself on her resume….I’m kinda ticked. (lol)

DreamsMaterialize

February 1st, 2011
3:37 pm

Hey, his goofy looking self caught Garcelle, he must be doing something right.
Purp or she could have some self-loathing issues, a complex about herself.

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
3:38 pm

Amazon, since you took it there. It does seem like that rolled right out of Slim like she likes that kind of thing. LOL

kimmie, I am drawn to you. Told yall I was a brother. LOL