Fall for your type
It can be daunting trying to figure out why we are always drawn to a certain type of person. Honestly, sometimes it feels like one of life’s great mysteries, with no rhyme or reason to it.
Attraction has a way of making us forget that we have met and dated a certain type before..even when it ended badly. I’m guilty of having relationship amnesia and I end up right back in the same predicament. It’s an awful deja vu moment to think that you have chosen the wrong type of person to invest time in.
Do you have a type that you always seem drawn to? Do you ever wonder why?
This is why I am such a big fan of going against type and leaving your comfort zone in dating. I have had good experiences when I give it a try! If you were to date someone totally opposite of who you usually are drawn to, what do you think would happen?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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319 comments Add your comment
marvinavila
February 1st, 2011
1:08 pm
jejejejeje:-)
SlimNumeroUno
February 1st, 2011
1:30 pm
Speaking of Greek, i love me some Kalamata olives…and a great Greek salad…Mmmm goood
Leggs
February 1st, 2011
1:31 pm
Looking back down memory lane, I’ve noticed that I’ve been drawn to lightskinned, bald men that look like a lightbulb…moust steer clear of those going forward (LOL).
Leggs
February 1st, 2011
1:33 pm
Dang, and I meant to correct “most” to “must” but see that’s not what I did.
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
1:35 pm
Picky women LOL
SlimNumeroUno
February 1st, 2011
1:37 pm
I suppose I like brown to dark-skinned guys…love goatees too. Mmm mmm good
AmazonRed™
February 1st, 2011
1:41 pm
I’ve noticed that I’ve been drawn to lightskinned, bald men that look like a lightbulb…moust steer clear of those going forward (LOL).
I’ve noticed that I really don’t have a pattern as far as light or dark. I’ve run the spectrum.
However, I’d say I’d prefer brown skinned like me…but I rarely get that. Either he’s lighter or darker.
I haven’t done the interracial thing…so I guess brothas are my type.
kimmie
February 1st, 2011
1:42 pm
Not big on facial hair, unless very well kept. Hate dreads & braids. Love clean cut look!
Fion
February 1st, 2011
1:42 pm
@Leggs
I used to really be into thin women, but now I’m sold on “BIG GIRLS”.
yeah, i said it, and I ain’t taking it back!
kimmie
February 1st, 2011
1:43 pm
Amred – I’ve run the spectrum too, of brothas!
SlimNumeroUno
February 1st, 2011
1:44 pm
‘I haven’t done the interracial thing…so I guess brothas are my type.’
Ared – Well we are two brutha loving chicks then..
Leggs
February 1st, 2011
1:45 pm
Big Girls need love too (LOL). So, you leaving us smaller framed women alone!
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
1:46 pm
I am really feeling left out now. LOL I like women in general, race does not matter to me. I am living Martin Luther King Jr’s Dream. LOL
DreamsMaterialize
February 1st, 2011
1:46 pm
I swear, I alllllways fall…for your type…for your type…
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
1:47 pm
Fion, how do you define big?
Leggs
February 1st, 2011
1:47 pm
My friend is trying to get me to swirl. Swirling just feels weird.
DreamsMaterialize
February 1st, 2011
1:47 pm
Speaking of Greek…there were lots of hot women at the Greek (real Greek) festival over the summer.
Fion
February 1st, 2011
1:48 pm
I was at a New Years Party. This woman had on a gown with her shoulders out, and there it was right in front of me.
There I came face to face with….. raw exposed……. it was beautiful.
Leggs
February 1st, 2011
1:48 pm
In my mind since I haven’t actually done it!
SlimNumeroUno
February 1st, 2011
1:48 pm
As far as size goes, the guys i’ve dated haven’t been big dudes or really that tall.
Leggs
February 1st, 2011
1:49 pm
How big is big, Fion?
Fion
February 1st, 2011
1:50 pm
@Pup
Well, I didn’t take time to look it up in Funk & Wagnall’s. Let’s just well proportioned.
kimmie
February 1st, 2011
1:50 pm
I like what I like.
Leggs
February 1st, 2011
1:52 pm
Funk & Wagnall’s wouldn’t have YOUR definition of big. Is a size 12 big to you? Is a size 18 too big for you? I believe that’s what PR is asking. He’s not interested in F&W’s or even Webster’s definition.
Fion
February 1st, 2011
1:52 pm
@Purp
You can’t talk me out of it Purp, I’m leaving thin girls alone.” BIG GIRLS”. I’m all yours!
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
1:52 pm
Shaped like a box big, nice and plump or just big breast and a fat ass?
DreamsMaterialize
February 1st, 2011
1:52 pm
slim, thick, tall, lil shorties, light, dark, love ‘em all. You all are so beautiful!
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
1:53 pm
As long as her waist is smaller than mine we can do business.
AmazonRed™
February 1st, 2011
1:53 pm
Hate dreads & braids. Love clean cut look!
Ditto.
AmazonRed™
February 1st, 2011
1:54 pm
race does not matter to me.
For many black women, we are loyal to black men to a fault…even when they aren’t loyal to us.
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
1:54 pm
There is nothing more filthy than seeing a white person with dreads, but I do know that they will know where to get the good weed without risk of getting arrested.
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
1:56 pm
Amazon, then when she is finally fed up she comes to us Italians to clean up his mess. She isn’t going all the way white and not totally leaving the black. We are smack dab in the middle
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
1:57 pm
The way I see it, we are the best of both worlds. Got the black mans “size” and the white mans “credit”. Now who wants some italian sausage?
Fion
February 1st, 2011
1:57 pm
@ Leggs
Well, not so Big that the Toledo’s (scales) yell ouch. Dress size doesn’t really matter.
I can say this, if you are a 6. That’s ok.
Leggs
February 1st, 2011
1:57 pm
Thank you DreamsM!
Leggs
February 1st, 2011
1:58 pm
Thank you, DreamsM!
Fion
February 1st, 2011
1:58 pm
Size 6 keep it moving.
SlimNumeroUno
February 1st, 2011
1:58 pm
Dreams – been listening to Jamie Foxx huh? lol
Purp – I don’t have anything against interracial dating. I just haven’t met anyone of a different race, YET, that i’ve been attracted to enough to date. My girlfriend and i have discussed this once…i dunno if I could deal with being able to see the map of veins and stuff on his wacker. lol Plus, please tell me…is if…um…PINK?
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
1:58 pm
No takers? I thought I had great selling points. LOL
Before someone logs in under an alias and reprimands me, those were just jokes, except the “who wants some italian sausage” part.
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
1:59 pm
Fion, a shapely 6 is awesome. So is a size 8 that is toned and in shape with some 36 C cups, small waist. LOL
Fion
February 1st, 2011
2:00 pm
“Fion, a shapely 6 is awesome. So is a size 8 that is toned and in shape with some 36 C cups, small waist. LOL”
Too samll Bro
Leggs
February 1st, 2011
2:01 pm
@Fion ~ you have me cracking up becuase 6 is definitely on the small size.
“Shaped like a box big” had some of my water slip from my mouth!!
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
2:01 pm
Slim, mine is not pink and you can see no veins. The world is more than just black and white. LOL there are other races. LOL
But on that note when I have been “eye close” to women of different ethnic groups there are differences in the pinks. LOL
DreamsMaterialize
February 1st, 2011
2:02 pm
ARed You hear about Farmer’s Insurance talking about putting up $700 million to build a new NFL stadium in LA. They just need an actual team to play in it.
Leggs
February 1st, 2011
2:02 pm
“I can say this, if you are a 6. That’s ok.”
“Size 6 keep it moving.”
Daggonit, which one is it (LOL).
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
2:02 pm
The pinks all taste different too.
Pink connoisseur
Leggs
February 1st, 2011
2:03 pm
@SlimNU ~ I almost posted that I was afraid of that thing being pink! (Haa haaa haaa)
Fion
February 1st, 2011
2:04 pm
When I say Big I mean Big. Size 16 or 18. Stacked and Packed. No Square boxes!
Purple Rain
February 1st, 2011
2:04 pm
Sure ignore me when I try and have a perverted discussion. Where is Swiss? LOL
DreamsMaterialize
February 1st, 2011
2:06 pm
You’re welcome Leggs
Dreams – been listening to Jamie Foxx huh? lol
Slim seemed perfect for the today’s topic. lol