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Fall for your type

It can be daunting trying to figure out why we are always drawn to a certain type of person. Honestly, sometimes it feels like one of life’s great mysteries, with no rhyme or reason to it.

Attraction has a way of making us forget that we have met and dated a certain type before..even when it ended badly. I’m guilty of having relationship amnesia and I end up right back in the same predicament. It’s an awful deja vu moment to think that you have chosen the wrong type of person to invest time in.

Do you have a type that you always seem drawn to? Do you ever wonder why?

This is why I am such a big fan of going against type and leaving your comfort zone in dating. I have had good experiences when I give it a try! If you were to date someone totally opposite of who you usually are drawn to, what do you think would happen?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

319 comments Add your comment

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
11:15 am

Amazon, want to practice so when it’s time for the real thing you will be ready?

LMAO. Hopefully it will be like riding a bike! So I’m good. Today my baby meter reads: “remain childless forever”

But you just gotta show off those olympic swimmers huh? :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

February 1st, 2011
11:15 am

SLIM… you’re trying to have me looking like Mary J. when she was on that stuff! :lol: Sunglasses inside the building.

OOOH you got yo’self an “occifer”? :lol: Assume the position!

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
11:16 am

Leggs, here is my hand :)

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
11:18 am

Amazon more like riding a bull and sure I will give you a nice view of the swimmers. You and Leggs. LOL

MissUnderstand

February 1st, 2011
11:18 am

Dating outside of my comfort zone has given me better results as well. I am drawn to smart guys, have always had a thing for men who can capture my attention. I’ve dated athletic men that were able to hold my attention just as well.

minime

February 1st, 2011
11:21 am

looking back i realized most of the guys i’ve dated were older guys and funny guys

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
11:26 am

I’ve only had trouble when I strayed away from my type.

SexyCool

February 1st, 2011
11:26 am

As a young chick, I didn’t really consider what my type was. I was just out running around choosing based on attraction, emotion, chemistry and a whole bunch of other reasons that felt good and exciting and yummy and all.

After making bad choices and learning some tough lessons, I began to actually consider my type. I came to realize that it has less to do with physical attributes and more to do with character.

Needless to say, once I actually realized the importance of determining my true relationshiop needs, my “type” changed and over time required tweeking. Sometimes, it was a case of “Be careful what you ask for.” Other times, it was a case of “As you learn better, do better.” (The problem with that last edict….some folks never learn.)

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
11:27 am

‘Just put some coupons in their to his favorite sports bar for wings and beer! Also, throw in the basket a nice negligee for yourself to wear for him.’

Leggs – Yeah I was going to put coupons in there, his favorite candy, a bottle of goose (his fav licka), a nice negligee for me, some funny sexy undies for him, lovers dice and whatever else I could find to throw in there. ;-)

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
11:30 am

BMW – When i have a migraine coming on and my eyes start tripping, at that point I could care less if i looked like Strange from Boomerang or The Fly. Coming from a mgr’s standpoint, i’d just be happy my employee was dedicated enough to stay at work, than to leave. lol

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
11:33 am

I’ve only had trouble when I strayed away from my type

Yeah, I’m good with keeping with my type. I’ve always paid attention to a person’s character, so I can’t imagine relaxing that standard.

And then of course, height. I could relax that…but I’on want to. I don’t think you can really go wrong with either. :lol:

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
11:33 am

Slim, no funny man undies. LOL

Leggs

February 1st, 2011
11:41 am

@SlimNU ~ nice gift.

Hey fellows, would any of you have a problem receiving a gift like the one SlimNU is contemplating giving her SO??

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
11:43 am

Purp – I have to stay true to myself…a dayum fool…and who knows, maybe I can talk him into at least putting them on so i can get a good laugh and sneak a picture in. :lol:

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
11:46 am

Slim, you are funny. LOL

BlackMagicWoman

February 1st, 2011
11:48 am

SLIM…I am about to. These things are killer. I just want to close my eyes!

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
11:57 am

Purp – I think the Elephant trunk thongs would be good and FUNNY. lol He can chase me around the house with his ‘trunk’ at attention. :lol:

Leggs

February 1st, 2011
12:01 pm

OMG :lol: :lol: :lol: elephant trunk undies w trunk at attention.

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
12:05 pm

I do not even want to know what those are.

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
12:06 pm

Leggs – I already sent myself to the corner for 5 minutes. lol

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
12:08 pm

‘I do not even want to know what those are’

Purp – Sure i’d be happy to tell you.lol They are undies that look like different animals or whatever…in this case, an elephant. However, you put the slong inside the trunk part and i’m sure you can imagine the rest.

Leggs

February 1st, 2011
12:08 pm

Good girl, SlimNU!!!

Leggs

February 1st, 2011
12:08 pm

Wait, SlimNU! When in corner you can’t speak! 5 Mins start now (12:08)

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
12:12 pm

LOL, no thank you. :)

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
12:13 pm

Now I would wear some with a Mr Snufflelupagus pair

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
12:14 pm

Leggs – I’s free, I’s free now..whoo hooo hooo!!

Purp – I’m sure that For Real has AA undies. lol

BlackMagicWoman

February 1st, 2011
12:14 pm

PURPLE…you don’t want the wife to call you donkey d*ck? :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
12:15 pm

Purp – Does that mean what I think it means….that um…your…weenie…um…cough…has HERRR on it? :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
12:16 pm

Herrr as in hair lol

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
12:16 pm

Black no but you can :)

Slim, I am not discussing For Reals or any other man’s underwear.

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
12:17 pm

Slim at the base around but not on the shaft but the boys a smooth shaven :)

Realistic

February 1st, 2011
12:19 pm

You’re attracted to who you’re attracted to; it’s human nature. Attraction is built in. You can’t “overcome” it. You can try to ignore it but it’s like fighting hunger; you eventually have to eat. Don’t you watch Discovery?

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
12:20 pm

Fion

February 1st, 2011
12:28 pm

“You’re attracted to who you’re attracted to”

I tell you what, call it karma or whatever. For me, going off menu never works out.
The women are either certifiable BATTY, Life in disarray or just down right No Good!

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
12:35 pm

Fion – Do you believe in the theory “you attract what you are?”

BlackMagicWoman

February 1st, 2011
12:35 pm

PURPLE….you so nasty! :lol:

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
12:38 pm

Black, you like? :)

Randyt (aka "tired of this coolie work, need to get on a plane somewhere)

February 1st, 2011
12:41 pm

Hi WD

I have a bad habit of being attracted to women that turn out to be crazy. (Hmmm, or does that mean all women are crazy as bedbugs, or do I just turn them flaky)??? Guessing that “normal” would be toooooo boring though.

Fion

February 1st, 2011
12:43 pm

@AmazonRed™

That’s my point. When I’ve gone off menu, I was somewhere I didn’t belong.
As someone stated earlier don’t fight the natural order of what you like and where you belong.. Otherwise things get all out of whack!

kimmie

February 1st, 2011
12:45 pm

Afternoon Gang!

Well, our other offices helped us out during the snow, so we are now returning the favor. All good, though.

On topic – My type is a lot like Amred’s type. So it all just boiled down to timing. This time I finally got the timing right! :)

Any time I’ve gone out of my comfort zone, just hasn’t worked out. And even those times I didn’t stray too far, just didn’t work. Times when I listened to other people instead of my heart.

The heart always wins! At least in my case!

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
12:51 pm

Any time I’ve gone out of my comfort zone, just hasn’t worked out.

Yeah, everytime I allow myself to date an Alpha… it’s just totally wack. :lol: I should stick to Kappas. :lol:

MS

February 1st, 2011
12:54 pm

I had a terrible time winding up with the same version of men.
My parents once told me, “I think you’re ‘picker’ is broken.”

I was introduced to a man by a mutual friend who was at the time, “not my type”. We were married in a little under a year and celebrated our 2nd wedding anniversary in December.

Since this experience i’ve realized that many of us have created this false idea of the ‘type’ of man we need. I was completely wrong. My husband is a different age, a different color, a different profession, a different background, a different everything than what I THOUGHT I wanted.

SlimNumeroUno

February 1st, 2011
12:54 pm

Ared – lol So do you only date Greeks?

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
12:57 pm

Has to suck if “your type” doesn’t like you. LOL hence the creation of groupies and stalkers. LOL

kimmie

February 1st, 2011
12:58 pm

Amred – You crazy girl! LOL!!!

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
12:58 pm

Ared – lol So do you only date Greeks?

No, but it’s been a trend since I moved here. :lol:

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
12:59 pm

Amazon you like only Greek men?

AmazonRed™

February 1st, 2011
1:00 pm

Purple Rain

February 1st, 2011
1:01 pm

Fraternity Greek, I was thinking real “Greeks” LOL

kimmie

February 1st, 2011
1:02 pm

Amred – When I messed up it was when I decided to go for the more creative/artsy/earthy types instead of the corporate geeks I love. I can’t go one or the other. It’s not so hard to find a combo of both – someone that is creative and appreciates the arts but is smart and responsible as well.