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Are you vetting your dates?

If you have found yourself sitting across the table looking at your date as if he had for heads, you may need to ask yourself an important question, “How did this happen?!” When this thought crosses your mind on a consistent basis, you should definitely reevaluate your “vetting” techniques.

A lot of us have busy schedules and lives. This leaves few precious hours to meet and screen dates, but it’s worth the time and effort to do so! If you already know that you would not get along well with a young, gun-toting, scripture quoting guy, then do NOT agree to take your get the number of your church member’s brother.

I’m not suggesting you rule out people based your unrealistic “ridiculists” of what you want. However, you know yourself well enough to narrow down potential dates using reason and logic.

What do you do to vet potential dates? If the person is a referral, do you find out the basic information that places them in potentially great date category?

If you meet someone from online dating or through a random encounter, do you devote time to talking on the phone first? Do you have an idea of what you would like to know about them before setting up your first meet and greet?

What do you think could happen when you don’t properly screen your dates for compatibility?

I once agreed to go out with a tow truck driver because he was handsome and helpful, needless to say I did not vet him properly. I ended up on a date with a really creepy guy who had my home address and car VIN#. Lesson learned!

What’s the worst dating misadventure you endured because you did not screen your date?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

130 comments Add your comment

Jeannette

January 31st, 2011
6:08 am

Are you vetting your dates?

No, but I am dating my vet!

q1

January 31st, 2011
6:42 am

What is “vetting”? I cannot spend a lot of time talking this morning, I have business. My PT[personal trainer] is coming.

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Billy

January 31st, 2011
8:33 am

Only a wise diva could start an article so eloquently:
‘as if he had for heads,’

‘For heads’, excellent writing and editing.

Also, unless someone is completely insane you’ll have to go on a date with them to truly ‘vet’ them. Dating is a vetting process.

I would think one should probably come up with better article ideas if they would like to continue getting paid to write, just a thought.

Yes She Is Cute

January 31st, 2011
8:44 am

Well, I was starting to feel that way as well….like wtf why what is this….but I’ve learned the 2 golden rules of dating. Once I learned that I don’t really feel like I have a problem.

I think that dating itself is a vetting process you should know after the 1st or 2nd date who you are dealing with no 3rd date required….I mean come on, you know the special olympic when you see them.

Kym

January 31st, 2011
9:04 am

Good Morning All,

I have to say that I am not a good vetter(ha) of dates. I tend to want to give someone the benefit of the doubt only to regret it later on. Worse case of not vetting properly was the dude who told me he had a plane and he was in the music biz and then called what like three days later asking to borrow 10 dollars. Man! the jokers I have come across.

Yes She Is Cute

January 31st, 2011
9:13 am

lol @ kym haha that’s funny. How about I work for a well known airline and dude was like oh i fly them all the time. how about he only flew ONCE! I was like what a liar! and another guy was like i fly them all the time on business….he had like 20 flights with us that year so i was like ok this one is legit but how you gonna lie to me like i’m not gonna find out. come on.

DreamsMaterialize

January 31st, 2011
9:33 am

Morning
I vet while I date. As we talk on the phone, email, go out, I’m finding out about you and letting you know about me. It’s all part of the vetting process.

What’s the worst dating misadventure you endured because you did not screen your date?
I don’t have any outrageous stories. Oh wait, I kinda do. So, my homeboy was dating this chick, and he tells me her girl is looking to meet a cool dude and says we should all hang out. He said he had met her once and she seemed cool. So we go out and hit this restaurant. We’re all talking and joking, except ol’ girl. I ask her if she’s ok, and she says, “Naw, you need to thug it up.” Even her homegirl was like, “what the He!! is wrong with you! I can’t take you anywhere.” Afterward, my homeboy’s girl is apologizing like “I’m so sorry. my friend is kinda hood. other than that, what do you think about her?” WTF. lol

Yes She Is Cute

January 31st, 2011
9:42 am

“I’m so sorry. my friend is kinda hood. other than that, what do you think about her?”

@ Dreams hahahhahahaahahaha that is funny!

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
10:06 am

Morning all –

Yes, I vet. I have too many crazy friends who don’t and they wind up with the craziest, drama filled relationships. The more you allow to talk get to know someone, the more you find about them. Folks are so busy rushing into things they don’t want to take the time to get to know someone. I think I can relax my vetting process a little, but better safe than sorry.

DreamsMaterialize

January 31st, 2011
10:06 am

Dreams hahahhahahaahahaha that is funny!
Yes The thing that killed me is that clearly I was being me. So, if I all of a sudden “thugged it up”, she would have respected the fake switch? lol

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
10:26 am

Jeannette – hilarious! (lol)

Other than the most glaringly obvious traits/habits/beliefs/interests or whatever that you can *most* often (not always) determine fairly quickly, you really don’t know if a person is going to be a “great” date until you are on a date with them.

And even a great date may not be a good mate.

Mr_NYC

January 31st, 2011
10:28 am

I’m curious how to thug it up. It may come in handy for the future.
What did she expect you to smack her around a bit.
You should have went to the mens room and put your grill in and came back; asked the waiter for some strimps and hot sauce.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
10:31 am

Mr_NYC – that would be sKrimps, sir. (lol)

BlackMagicWoman

January 31st, 2011
10:41 am

MR_NYC…..man you just let your “Yankee-ness” show! :lol: Hey I’m a yankee too! No worries! I lived in Atlanta from 2004-2010 and it took me almost that long to learn what “amilady” meant. Someone had to translate. :lol:

Well those who know me, know that I have a crapload of bad date stories, So I must be a very bad vetter!

Mr_NYC

January 31st, 2011
10:46 am

Hey BMW, I’m from da Bronx. BTHS grad. Livin in NC and visiting the ATL on the weekends every now and then.
Skrimps, strimps, pulling it out with a toothpick, now that’s straight street there.
Some of them gals out there are serious about that thug life for real.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
10:49 am

Mr_NYC – that is the result of the “106&Park Effect.”

I do hope that they grow past that nonsense.

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
10:50 am

I lived in Atlanta from 2004-2010

Uh…I thought you were coming back lady! Don’t make me and Page come up there and get you. :lol:

Robert

January 31st, 2011
10:57 am

What do you do to vet potential dates? – Let’s begin with on-line internet dating sites. We live in a global market place and dating via the internet is popular by demand and requires a “strategy” for success. For example my “strategy”. First select a site that has a system that matches your wants and needs (eHarmony, etc.) that will help you decide why I am on this dating site, who I am attracted to and where do they live. This is the most important step in the “vetting” process. Second write your profile as if you are applying for the most important job in your life and be honest about your intentions (just looking, long term, etc.). Most women want to know if you are serious or just interested in casual dating. Third, narrow your list of possibilities to no more than 3 women who meet your dating requirements. And last but not least schedule a date and determine if this person is right for you. “Vetting” via internet dating sites requires a “stategy” that allows you to be in control over the getting-to-know-you stage of the dating process.

BlackMagicWoman

January 31st, 2011
10:57 am

ARED…You can come up! :lol: But I think it’s a wrap for me and the ATL. :lol: I wish it were to move to Miami. But alas….I am back in the cold, snowy, overpriced city of NY! :-(

MR_NYC…I am a girl from Manhattan.

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
11:05 am

But I think it’s a wrap for me and the ATL

OMG! We didn’t even have a chance to send you off properly! :(

BlackMagicWoman

January 31st, 2011
11:07 am

ARED…I am coming back in March to wrap things up. So I will get to see everybody and say goodbye.

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
11:11 am

Good morning.

@Kym ~ I bet I have you beat in the “jokers” category.

I’m like DreamsM, I listen, observe body language, see if spittle comes out when you speak, watch if any gathers at the corners of your mouth, etc. (lol).

Seriously, I guess I “vet” the hardest when on the phone with you because I don’t have eye to eye contact with you.

DreamsMaterialize

January 31st, 2011
11:11 am

I think it’s a wrap for me and the ATL. I wish it were to move to Miami
BMW Miami is sounding nicer by the day. So is the south pacific. I need to retire to an island, open a bed and breakfast, and be a tour guide. All my blog peoples get the VIP treatment when they come. lol

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
11:17 am

Okay, folks…I am making (yet) another offer. Found a really decent place at a great price over the weekend in the Washington Park area – less than a block from the park.

Y’all keep your fingers crossed for me.

BlackMagicWoman

January 31st, 2011
11:18 am

DREAMS…I need to come with you! :lol: I am so over this cold and snow!

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
11:21 am

Best of luck, SC…has that area turned around yet?

kimmie

January 31st, 2011
11:26 am

Morning all. Still a little mad it took me almost 2 hours to get to work this morning, when from SO’s house it’s usually no more than 35 minutes!

On topic:

However, you know yourself well enough to narrow down potential dates using reason and logic.

Yeah WD, I’ve always been this way, but then I get to hear from the “Just give him a chance, you never know” crowd! Bottom line, when I’ve gone against my better judgement and did just that, gave somebody I KNEW was not a match a chance, each and every time I was proven right. It’s just some things you know right off the bat, don’t even require date 1.

And yes, I always take time to get to know. Talk, ask questions, observe. Take time to do those things before jumping into bed with someone on date 1 or 2, only to realize you really don’t even like that person!

DreamsMaterialize

January 31st, 2011
11:34 am

Washington Park area
SexyC Man I went to some hellafied bbq’s in the summers back in the college days. Off the chains is all I can say. I heard that area has changed alot though…for the better. lol

DREAMS…I need to come with you!
BMW Vente conmigo mami! Let’s put all this cold behind us. ;-)

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
11:34 am

It’s turning.
Nice little nest of a neighborhood.
Besides, I’m cool with the location. After I sold my first house, I lived a few streets south for almost two years.
So, I’m familiar with the area and with the locals.
(lol)

Some added bonuses are that this area is a part of the proposed Beltline redevelopment. Additionally, Walmart is expected to build in the location that Publix closed.

So…yeah…I’m really liking the changes that are coming and may just be patient enough to see them realized.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
11:36 am

Oh…and did I mention that it’s a block from the MARTA station? I can retire my truck on weekdays.

kimmie

January 31st, 2011
11:38 am

SCool – Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
11:39 am

SCool – Is the house in question peach colored?

abc

January 31st, 2011
11:46 am

then do NOT agree to take your get the number of your church member’s brother.

I have to agree with those that criticize the content and grammatical quality of this post. What the heck is that supposed to really mean?

Vetting dates? Going out with tow truck drivers because they’re cute and they asked? How about just having a lick of common sense, and only go out with people that you really like? Of course, you may have to actually get to know them a little bit before going on any dates with them. That’d require at least a modicum of patience.

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
11:51 am

Of course, you may have to actually get to know them a little bit before going on any dates with them. That’d require at least a modicum of patience.

:lol:

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
11:57 am

No. It’s a mossy green color. But, I know which one you’re talking about. Did you see the photos that are posted online with the MLS listing?

kimmie

January 31st, 2011
12:02 pm

You know, I see why a lot of people are fat. Most do not know how to put together a balanced meal! My mom used to point that out to us all the time. They’ll order a plate full of starches and meat, with no green vegetable in sight, not even a green salad.

This lady behind me in the cafeteria had an order of fried chicken, rice & gravy and corn. And yes, overweight. I mean, of course everyone has a right to eat what they want. But most people that do that have no idea that is not a balanced meal.

Just an observation.

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
12:03 pm

Did you see the photos that are posted online with the MLS listing?

No, but I figured I knew what section you were talking about. Years ago, when I was looking, they had a program where they were pretty much giving you tons of money to buy in that area and building your house from scratch.

A couple of those programs are defunct now, but that area you’re bidding on, you can probably get another $20K out the city if the programs are still around.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
12:08 pm

They are still giving a ton of money for that area. However, some of the ones that are worth the most require ten and fifteen year owner / occupant commitments.

I think I’m good with my modest sum of free money that would only require the five year commitment.

As to the photos of that listing, it appears that the occupant of the house assumed that they would only be taking pictures of the downstairs area (it was clean and neat) and did not realize that they would be posting photos of those junky ass bedrooms.

Actually, I can’t believe they posted them myself. Just a mess.

DreamsMaterialize

January 31st, 2011
12:10 pm

Sort of slow in here today. People must have overdone it with all that beautiful weather we were having. It sure was nice out there.

kimmie

January 31st, 2011
12:13 pm

Dreams – We were at the community center for the martial arts class yesterday. A lot of people were out in the park nearby.

Definitely gave me a case of spring fever!

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
12:16 pm

However, if I were to take advantage of all the programs that I could *stack* for that location, it would come to almost $30K in downpayment assistance.

DreamsMaterialize

January 31st, 2011
12:20 pm

Dreams – We were at the community center for the martial arts class yesterday. A lot of people were out in the park nearby.
kimmie It was a great weekend to be out. We were out all weekend, brunch, the park, a little shopping, caught a movie…loved it!

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
12:38 pm

SCool – Did ADA change from 10 years to five?

Yeah, I think I was up for $60K…I did the United Way program too and they gave you a grant free and clear. But they only allowed for certain zip codes and even though I completed the program, the area I chose wasn’t in the required zip so I lost out. I liked that program though because they held money for you in an account, so that if you ran into any difficulty paying the mortgage they would help you via the account. If you had no problems after two years, they used that money to pay on your principle.

As such, homeowners in that program had a 0% foreclosure rate!

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
12:41 pm

One of the ADA programs is five years.
A few of the others are still ten years.
The Beltline program requires a 15 year commitment.

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
12:43 pm

he Beltline program requires a 15 year commitment

By golly. :lol:

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
12:47 pm

Exactly. Besides, I don’t want to commit to accepting more money than I could reasonably pay back should I not be able to meet the terms of the program.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
12:49 pm

Or more to the point…I don’t want to accept more money than I could sell the house for to cover paying back the grant.
Whothehell knows what is going to happen with this market? Short term and especially long range.

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
12:50 pm

Yeah, GA dream and ADA is a good mix. ADA forgives more of the money each year you own so it makes it reasonable.

CoolShadow

January 31st, 2011
12:51 pm

What do you do to vet potential dates?

I vet dates by engaging them to talk about themselves and making mental notes from conversations and observations when we meet. This might lead to a first date or in some cases it has been a spontaneous date from a random encounter. I don’t think you can find out everything from telephone pre-screenings prior to a first date. The vetting process is not a one-shot deal; it’s a continual process until you feel it’s either okay to let some defenses down or you decide to keep it moving because of what you’ve seen (or not seen). It becomes a problem when a person doesn’t know when to lift the vetting process and begin investing in a relationship or ending things.

If the person is a referral, do you find out the basic information that places them in potentially great date category?

I would expect the referring person to have some basic information about the potential date as to whether I’m interested in pursuing their recommendation. The key to this is to consider the source. Does this person have any idea of your taste and preferences in potential dates?

Beautiful

January 31st, 2011
1:04 pm

good luck SexyCool!

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
1:20 pm

Thanks, Ange…

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
1:27 pm

Afternoon all,

A little late today since I just got poked and prodded for my physical today. Seems a little slow in here, I suppose due to the gloominess of the day. Shole wish I had taken off the whole day.

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
1:39 pm

Afternoon Slim.

I’ma need Raqi to check in everyday though… just want to make sure she and the bambino are doing okay…

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
1:50 pm

Ared – Oh ok…is she on best rest or something? Complications? I’ve been feeling a bit dizzy the last week and a half so i’m hoping it’s nothing major. Of course, everyone’s initial thought is always—->are you preggers. I mean, there are many other possibilites out there than that. Sheesh! I maybe be anemic but we’ll see…

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
1:51 pm

@Slim – Yes, she’s on bed rest for the rest of her pregnancy. However, she still has around 5 more months to go.

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
1:52 pm

Oh, and sorry you’ve been feeling dizzy. Funny how my first thought is maybe you have vertigo or your equilibrium is off. Why are folks always trying to give someone a baby? LOL

DreamsMaterialize

January 31st, 2011
2:01 pm

Ok that after-lunch bear is on my back. need to do some push-ups or something. lol

kimmie

January 31st, 2011
2:02 pm

Why are folks always trying to give someone a baby?

Slim/Amred – I know! The first thing came to my mind is vertigo. SO suffers from that from time to time and he’s definitely not pregnant!LOL!

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
2:04 pm

‘Why are folks always trying to give someone a baby?’

Ared – Chile I have no idea…

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
2:07 pm

Group hug Slim and Kimmie. LOL

Fion

January 31st, 2011
2:08 pm

What’s the worst dating misadventure you endured because you did not screen your date?

You wanna hear it here it go,
I’m on the 1st date with this chick. Things go well, it’s a normal 1st date.
We leave the restaurant and I’m taking her home. She says “hey’ can we make a stop at my cousin’s. Just need to run in and grab something and go.
“Ok, cool no problem.”
We get there, chick let’s us in and I see another chick sittin on the sofa, but she has this glazed look on her face.
I’m thinking what’s up with ol’ girl, cause it looks like she’s been sittin there for a couple of days.
Cousin come’s out of the back, quick intro,my date and Cuzz go in the back.
5 minutes she walks back in the room and ask me if I’m in a rush “no, I’m good.”
She starts going through her purse, I’m thinking what is she looking for?
Few seconds I got my answer, CRACK PIPE. Wait, it gets better.
She put’s the rock in the pipe and fires it up. 3 – 5 minutes rock is gone. She’s STONED.
Falls back into the couch and she’s out of it. Matter of fact she looks like
ol’ girl sittin on the other sofa. I get up to rollout Cuzz says where you going,

Me: “man I straight vapor’.
Cuzz: Hold up, take her witt you.
Me: You her cousin.
Cuzz: Cousin! @#!%*?&^ I ain’t her cousin, I’m her supplier!
Me: I hope she got cab fare, cause I’m gone slim.

….and ya know to look at that girl you never would’ve thought that she was strung out!
Damn shame too!

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
2:09 pm

kimmie – so what brings on the vertigo whenever SO gets it? I don’t believe i’ve ever had it before.

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
2:13 pm

Fion – Daaaayyyyuuuuum Gina! :shock:

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
2:14 pm

That is funny and sad at the same time. You see, she’s jonesing and doesn’t care about first impressions. WOW!

Fion

January 31st, 2011
2:15 pm

@Slim

…..and that’s the truth Ruth!

Fion

January 31st, 2011
2:16 pm

@Leggs

That’s what i said. She couldn’t take the ride home. She had to hit it right then.

kimmie

January 31st, 2011
2:17 pm

Slim – They say vertigo is due to some inner ear problem. Swimming, traveling like airplanes & cruises or an ear infection can cause it. The dr believe his was due to stress though. He had 1 bout with it during the 3 years we have dated. Before though, he had several bouts along the time his wife was sick and after she passed.

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
2:18 pm

@Fion ~ the date was going so well. She liked you and she got nervous…she needed a hit to get back to the swing of that which she was comfortable with…sitting on the edge of the couch STUCK!

AmazonRed™

January 31st, 2011
2:18 pm

I’m thinking what’s up with ol’ girl, cause it looks like she’s been sittin there for a couple of days.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

Fion

January 31st, 2011
2:21 pm

@Leggs

I hear ya! :)

kimmie

January 31st, 2011
2:22 pm

Slim – Ginko biloba works wonders on it. My grandmother and another friend of the family used to get it all the time until they started taking the ginko regularly. Have not had a bout since.

Helped my SO some, but not as dramatically as my grandmama & friend.

Fion

January 31st, 2011
2:24 pm

Enter your comments here

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
2:26 pm

kimmie – I’ll keep that in mind. I’m not sure yet what it is, will find out something more concrete once bloodwork comes back…have to go back next week. Ginko is supposed to be good for memory too, so it’ll have dual effects, if not more. ;-)

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
2:27 pm

I never understood crack. Perhaps she was wanting to see if she can have a date with a nice person and not let the voices of the drug summon her…oh well, she lost!

Fion

January 31st, 2011
2:33 pm

@Leggs

Nah, nah. She was a functional Junkie. Hid it well. Real Pretty, making money the whole 9.

Fion

January 31st, 2011
2:37 pm

…….and the crazy thing about that is, i got introduced to her by a male friend of mine
who swore he didn’t know that about her.

Fion

January 31st, 2011
2:37 pm

Ain’t that a head kicker!

kimmie

January 31st, 2011
2:38 pm

Fion – That’s wild. But you would be surprised how many “functionals” are walking among us. Looking perfectly normal, but got a whole ‘nother life going on behind closed doors.

A lot of people look and say “He/She looks so nice, seems to have it together. Wonder why no one has snatched them up. You’d be surprised what people have going on!

Kym

January 31st, 2011
2:38 pm

I am really in need of a break from foolishness today. Why does Monday have to be so Monday?

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
2:39 pm

I have a functional crackhead uncle…he can build a house from the gound up, fix any and everything but he just likes to partake of what he likes to call his ‘wife’. I guess in a sense it is almost like having a significant other…you spend your money on it…you crave it…don’t like to do anything without it, in their mind it soothes their troubled mind, etc.

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
2:40 pm

Oh, a functional crackhead….you mean like Bruno Mars?

Kym

January 31st, 2011
2:40 pm

Wild story Fion!!

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
2:40 pm

I just found out he’s a crackhead!

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
2:42 pm

Speaking of crackish ways…please tell me why that chick on GMA this morning didn’t want to admit that Charlie Sheen is a crack addict. Talking about he was smoking “chunks of cocaine out of a pipe.”

B!+^#, that ain’t no ol’ regla ass cocaine. That’s crack.

kimmie

January 31st, 2011
2:47 pm

SCool – Somebody called to Q100 about Sheen this morning. Basically she said the same thing, that nobody will go on and say he is on CRACK. That crack has a stigma to it that powder cocaine does not. The powder stuff is more “high class” suppossedly. There is a racial component to it – if Sheen wasn’t swiss, the media would have no trouble pinning the crackhead label on him! :shock:

Kym

January 31st, 2011
2:47 pm

Bruno Mars the guy who sings I wanna be a millionare? I thought he was a teenager? Clearly I am not up on the music scene

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
2:48 pm

Sexycool – I think that’s pretty much what Whitney Houston did as far as not admitting to smoking crack….I know yall remember her famous phrase, “Crack is Wack!”. Matter of fact, “Show me some receipts from the drug dealer where I purchased crack” :lol:

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
2:50 pm

kimmie – “CHUNKS of cocaine”….chunks, no less.

I have not ever seen a CHUNK of cocaine. (Not that I have ANY cocaine (read recreational drug use) of any sort…ijs….

She said they were the size of tennis balls.

Lord Velonese

January 31st, 2011
2:51 pm

abc wrote: “Vetting dates? Going out with tow truck drivers because they’re cute and they asked? How about just having a lick of common sense, and only go out with people that you really like? Of course, you may have to actually get to know them a little bit before going on any dates with them. That’d require at least a modicum of patience.”

Lol could not agree more, if I dated every woman I thought was good looking or met, I don’t think I would have any sanity left. The only other thing I’d like to add is, if you use a “Dating site” you’re an idiot and probably deserve the follies that come with it. Whats with all this slang anyway, Till I am paid to learn it, I think some people need to go back and take English again.

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
2:51 pm

@Kym ~ he also sings “You are beautiful just the way you are.” He isn’t a teenager.

DreamsMaterialize

January 31st, 2011
2:52 pm

Yeah that “functional” shyyyyt only lasts so long though. Eventually the crack monster catches up with you.

Kym

January 31st, 2011
2:55 pm

Speaking of crack..@kimmie..are you keeping up with the antics in the Chicago mayor’s race? Apparently Carol Moseley Braun accused the other black female candidate for mayor of being a crack addict. Rahmn is gonna win by a landslide..

Sassy Me :-)

January 31st, 2011
2:55 pm

he was smoking “chunks of cocaine out of a pipe.”

That’ll fo sho get you a chile phuleaze

But ever since Whitney said, “Crack is whack folk been tryna be all bourgeois about it. Gone call a spade a spade…

kimmie

January 31st, 2011
2:56 pm

Apparently Carol Moseley Braun accused the other black female candidate for mayor of being a crack addict.

Kym – Oooo….. No, I didn’t hear about that!! Yeah, Rahm got that.

Kym

January 31st, 2011
2:58 pm

@kimmie..Here’s the link..she was showing her butt. Oh and the debate took place at Trinity..Rev Wright’s church.

http://www.npr.org/blogs/itsallpolitics/2011/01/31/133374209/carol-moseley-braun-attacks-rival-as-past-crack-user

Let the air out

January 31st, 2011
3:00 pm

Till I am paid to learn it, I think some people need to go back and take English again.

Wah wah waaaah. You didn’t ride the short bus to school,did you Rodney Raincloud? :lol:

i'm swiss™

January 31st, 2011
3:01 pm

Good thing for ol’ Charlie is at least he still has $$. Hopefully, he’ll either clean up or die before it runs out, ‘cos it would be a d@mn shame for him to show up on a street corner somewhere sucking wang for some crack… :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

January 31st, 2011
3:01 pm

Yeah Rahm got that race on lock. Who wouldn’t want a mayor with personal ties to the president?

Sassy Me :-)

January 31st, 2011
3:04 pm

Kim & Kimmie that debate was ummm interesting to say the least. Carol said her opponent had been a crack addict for the last 20 years…left me looking :shock: that she’d say such but nowadays it’s a free for all.

Lord Velonese

January 31st, 2011
3:07 pm

“You didn’t ride the short bus to school”
Actually when I was in school, I walked mostly, and I also paid attention. Is that the best you got SC?

Kym

January 31st, 2011
3:07 pm

Only thing left to do after a head shake and a snappy comeback is to take your wig and earings off. LOL!!

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
3:10 pm

What do you think of Charlie wanting to buy a mansion so his call girls could live there with him and his children? Probably in the hopes of his call girls being available to watch his kids so they won’t have to watchhim when he’s wasted. He’s probably avoiding a run in like Hassellhoff’s perdictament or he’s trying to open Playboy House II.

Kym

January 31st, 2011
3:12 pm

Poor Martin and Emillo..Charlie is gonna worry them to death.

kimmie

January 31st, 2011
3:16 pm

Kym – Trinity, Trinity, Trinity!!!

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
3:16 pm

The thing about Charlie though, is that he probably does a buffet of different type of drugs…when crack is low, just resort to prescription drugs/pills. Those can be just as bad judging from that show Intervention. I’ll never forget that one chick who was strung out and ran around naked outside, then got in a fight with her sister over a cell phone.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
3:17 pm

Sadly, sir. You are mistaken to imply that it was I who took on an alternate and false moniker to address your snide attempt at putting down my colloquial style of communication.

However, as it is quite common knowledge that we (although Wise Diva is) are unable to verify by exposing the Internet Protocol address of that particular post, you only have your badly drawn conclusions (or dare I say ASSumptions) to rely upon.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
3:19 pm

And let me correct my punctuation lest you ASSume that I do not realize the mistake.

Sadly, sir, you are mistaken to imply that it was I who took on an alternate and false moniker to address your snide attempt at putting down my colloquial style of communication.

Fion

January 31st, 2011
3:26 pm

Charlie, is in a long line of folks proving the point
“just because you can doesn’t mean that you should.”

Sassy Me :-)

January 31st, 2011
3:29 pm

Probably in the hopes of his call girls being available to watch his kids so they won’t have to watchhim when he’s wasted.

:lol:

Purple Rain

January 31st, 2011
3:34 pm

I am so sexy, how are you?

Fion

January 31st, 2011
3:36 pm

@kimmie “Fion – That’s wild. But you would be surprised how many “functionals” are walking among us. Looking perfectly normal, but got a whole ‘nother life going on behind closed doors.”

Yeah, I know. It’s a trip. This was a few years back, but I worked in the same office with a dude for
4yrs. and didn’t know he had a serious cocaine habit. Made 6 figures a yr and own a thing.

Fion

January 31st, 2011
3:39 pm

…meant “and didn’t own a thing.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
3:41 pm

Kinda like Roy.Hobbs. Wouldn’t think he was a crack addict until he’s stopped by police with a crack pipe under his car seat.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
3:44 pm

Hey, PLito. I’m sexy too…but somehow, I think you knew that already. (lol)

Purple Rain

January 31st, 2011
3:44 pm

If you have the money you can function as a cocaine user without anyone ever knowing in some cases some can do it for a lifetime.

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
3:45 pm

@SexyC ~ if you paid close attention to his newscasts, you knew something was wrong!

Fion

January 31st, 2011
3:49 pm

@Purple That’s what Im saying. I saw this Cat very day, 5 days a week. He always came to work.
No starnge behavior on anything like that.

Purple Rain

January 31st, 2011
3:49 pm

SexyCool you are sexy and cool. I am just sexy and ripped. LOL

Purple Rain

January 31st, 2011
3:52 pm

Fion, yes some people have addictive personalities and others can function without losing control. If they have a lifestyle where money is not an issue along with other stresses…you would never now. LOL Not everyone scratches their arms feigning or runny nose etc. LOL

cba

January 31st, 2011
4:05 pm

Random vent: The second federal judge rules against Obamacare. I guess the Tea Party folks are having an orgy. I wonder if any of my tax dollars are used to keep Dick Cheney alive???

i'm swiss™

January 31st, 2011
4:19 pm

Any web-savvy marketing folks out there looking for a new gig? There’s a not-yet-posted opening at my company…

i'm swiss™

January 31st, 2011
4:21 pm

Oh, and we’re also looking for a solid web developer (with some client training responsibilities) as well: HTML, XML, XSLT, Velocity — PHP, .NET, Java or other server-side experience a plus…

LL411

January 31st, 2011
4:43 pm

I got vertigo a week ago… came on suddenly, the room spinning, and me throwing up. The doctor said it appears to be virual, my ear is stopped up (w/white noise) and my balance is off.

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
4:46 pm

Well so far I don’t have any current ear troubles…someone had also suggested that.

Purple Rain

January 31st, 2011
4:53 pm

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
4:56 pm

By being yourself, you put something wonderful in the world that was not there before ~ Edwin Elliot

Be yourself and this should reduce quite a bit of “vetting.”

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
4:56 pm

Feel better, SlimGoody.

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
5:00 pm

Purp – Howdy Doody budd…

SexyCool – thanks ;-)

Purple Rain

January 31st, 2011
5:07 pm