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Are you vetting your dates?

If you have found yourself sitting across the table looking at your date as if he had for heads, you may need to ask yourself an important question, “How did this happen?!” When this thought crosses your mind on a consistent basis, you should definitely reevaluate your “vetting” techniques.

A lot of us have busy schedules and lives. This leaves few precious hours to meet and screen dates, but it’s worth the time and effort to do so! If you already know that you would not get along well with a young, gun-toting, scripture quoting guy, then do NOT agree to take your get the number of your church member’s brother.

I’m not suggesting you rule out people based your unrealistic “ridiculists” of what you want. However, you know yourself well enough to narrow down potential dates using reason and logic.

What do you do to vet potential dates? If the person is a referral, do you find out the basic information that places them in potentially great date category?

If you meet someone from online dating or through a random encounter, do you devote time to talking on the phone first? Do you have an idea of what you would like to know about them before setting up your first meet and greet?

What do you think could happen when you don’t properly screen your dates for compatibility?

I once agreed to go out with a tow truck driver because he was handsome and helpful, needless to say I did not vet him properly. I ended up on a date with a really creepy guy who had my home address and car VIN#. Lesson learned!

What’s the worst dating misadventure you endured because you did not screen your date?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

130 comments Add your comment

Lord Velonese

January 31st, 2011
3:07 pm

“You didn’t ride the short bus to school”
Actually when I was in school, I walked mostly, and I also paid attention. Is that the best you got SC?

Kym

January 31st, 2011
3:07 pm

Only thing left to do after a head shake and a snappy comeback is to take your wig and earings off. LOL!!

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
3:10 pm

What do you think of Charlie wanting to buy a mansion so his call girls could live there with him and his children? Probably in the hopes of his call girls being available to watch his kids so they won’t have to watchhim when he’s wasted. He’s probably avoiding a run in like Hassellhoff’s perdictament or he’s trying to open Playboy House II.

Kym

January 31st, 2011
3:12 pm

Poor Martin and Emillo..Charlie is gonna worry them to death.

kimmie

January 31st, 2011
3:16 pm

Kym – Trinity, Trinity, Trinity!!!

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
3:16 pm

The thing about Charlie though, is that he probably does a buffet of different type of drugs…when crack is low, just resort to prescription drugs/pills. Those can be just as bad judging from that show Intervention. I’ll never forget that one chick who was strung out and ran around naked outside, then got in a fight with her sister over a cell phone.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
3:17 pm

Sadly, sir. You are mistaken to imply that it was I who took on an alternate and false moniker to address your snide attempt at putting down my colloquial style of communication.

However, as it is quite common knowledge that we (although Wise Diva is) are unable to verify by exposing the Internet Protocol address of that particular post, you only have your badly drawn conclusions (or dare I say ASSumptions) to rely upon.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
3:19 pm

And let me correct my punctuation lest you ASSume that I do not realize the mistake.

Sadly, sir, you are mistaken to imply that it was I who took on an alternate and false moniker to address your snide attempt at putting down my colloquial style of communication.

Fion

January 31st, 2011
3:26 pm

Charlie, is in a long line of folks proving the point
“just because you can doesn’t mean that you should.”

Sassy Me :-)

January 31st, 2011
3:29 pm

Probably in the hopes of his call girls being available to watch his kids so they won’t have to watchhim when he’s wasted.

:lol:

Purple Rain

January 31st, 2011
3:34 pm

I am so sexy, how are you?

Fion

January 31st, 2011
3:36 pm

@kimmie “Fion – That’s wild. But you would be surprised how many “functionals” are walking among us. Looking perfectly normal, but got a whole ‘nother life going on behind closed doors.”

Yeah, I know. It’s a trip. This was a few years back, but I worked in the same office with a dude for
4yrs. and didn’t know he had a serious cocaine habit. Made 6 figures a yr and own a thing.

Fion

January 31st, 2011
3:39 pm

…meant “and didn’t own a thing.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
3:41 pm

Kinda like Roy.Hobbs. Wouldn’t think he was a crack addict until he’s stopped by police with a crack pipe under his car seat.

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
3:44 pm

Hey, PLito. I’m sexy too…but somehow, I think you knew that already. (lol)

Purple Rain

January 31st, 2011
3:44 pm

If you have the money you can function as a cocaine user without anyone ever knowing in some cases some can do it for a lifetime.

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
3:45 pm

@SexyC ~ if you paid close attention to his newscasts, you knew something was wrong!

Fion

January 31st, 2011
3:49 pm

@Purple That’s what Im saying. I saw this Cat very day, 5 days a week. He always came to work.
No starnge behavior on anything like that.

Purple Rain

January 31st, 2011
3:49 pm

SexyCool you are sexy and cool. I am just sexy and ripped. LOL

Purple Rain

January 31st, 2011
3:52 pm

Fion, yes some people have addictive personalities and others can function without losing control. If they have a lifestyle where money is not an issue along with other stresses…you would never now. LOL Not everyone scratches their arms feigning or runny nose etc. LOL

cba

January 31st, 2011
4:05 pm

Random vent: The second federal judge rules against Obamacare. I guess the Tea Party folks are having an orgy. I wonder if any of my tax dollars are used to keep Dick Cheney alive???

i'm swiss™

January 31st, 2011
4:19 pm

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i'm swiss™

January 31st, 2011
4:21 pm

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LL411

January 31st, 2011
4:43 pm

I got vertigo a week ago… came on suddenly, the room spinning, and me throwing up. The doctor said it appears to be virual, my ear is stopped up (w/white noise) and my balance is off.

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
4:46 pm

Well so far I don’t have any current ear troubles…someone had also suggested that.

Purple Rain

January 31st, 2011
4:53 pm

Leggs

January 31st, 2011
4:56 pm

By being yourself, you put something wonderful in the world that was not there before ~ Edwin Elliot

Be yourself and this should reduce quite a bit of “vetting.”

SexyCool

January 31st, 2011
4:56 pm

Feel better, SlimGoody.

SlimNumeroUno

January 31st, 2011
5:00 pm

Purp – Howdy Doody budd…

SexyCool – thanks ;-)

Purple Rain

January 31st, 2011
5:07 pm