Liquid courage required to date?
There are a lot of “social crutches” people tend to lean on in dating these days. Some people seem to think that they need alcohol to help them feel at ease. I think this is partly why a bar can be a bad place to meet someone for the first time. You don’t know if you are getting a really good “sober” representation of their personality (Let’s not forget beer goggles).
To be honest, drinking doesn’t always give you liquid courage. It can actually change your personality…for the worse. It’s amazing to meet people who have gone through life not realizing that when they drink too much their behavior is awful.
What is your drinking policy for dating? Do you date drinkers?
Do you limit your alcohol intake when you are on a date?
Has anyone ever told you that you behave differently when you have had a couple of drinks?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Raqi V
January 27th, 2011
11:39 am
Swiss, I remember on time we had an office party where I used to work. The party was in the evening a rented venue. There was this woman that worked with us that was so Miss High & Mighty. Snubbed her noise at every one.
Well at this particular office party she had too much to drink. She didn’t get wild and freaky but she pee’d her pants, started talking very loud and had to be driven home. Sure enough she quit soon after that. I think the embarrassment was too much for her to handle. LOL
Kym
January 27th, 2011
11:39 am
@Swiss and Raqi..well believe it our not the students go on to regular traditional colleges and thrive. the school is small only 60 kids, and they vote on any changes they want to make within the school any student at anytime can call a meeting and they discuss whatever the subject is and what action to be take, including adding a class. Like I said I was really shocked, you would think it would be chaos. But they seem to be pretty respectful of each other. Oh yeah and the founders of the schools were parents. Why do I hear Raqi..saying something like “Damn Hippies..”
Yes I know this is not Momania..but it is not Tv talk, or the cooking blog either..but we do discuss that as well.
AmazonRed™
January 27th, 2011
11:39 am
Any embarrassing stories of “When Alcohol Went Wrong”
Slim now that is a good one. I’m trying to pick a story out of several.
i'm swiss™
January 27th, 2011
11:40 am
Potential blog drinking game ideas:
Every time For Real references the AA Dolphin… DRINK!
Every time abc suggests women aren’t trustworthy… DRINK! (Although, that doesn’t seem to happen as much now that he’s all boo’d up…)
Every time Slim’s CT makes an appearance… DRINK!
Every time ARed verbally pimp-slaps Beatiful… DRINK!
AmazonRed™
January 27th, 2011
11:40 am
Yes I know this is not Momania..but it is not Tv talk, or the cooking blog either..but we do discuss that as well.
And I would say the same thing to them. But yeah, the kid stuff is particularly boring to me, especially when it’s been happening all week.
AmazonRed™
January 27th, 2011
11:42 am
Ironically, MOMania is actually interesting today because they are discussing TV. There is this MTV show called Skins…I caught it in passing and thought I was watching soft porn…
i'm swiss™
January 27th, 2011
11:43 am
“Swiss, I am more interested in what your friends ex wife would do and how did you know?”
Purple — Let’s just say they were swingers & I swung by once or twice during my single days…
Hmm…. embarrassing drinking stories… lemme think about that one…
Raqi V
January 27th, 2011
11:45 am
Swiss, that’s what I mean about college. You get to pick what path you want to take.
Grade school is where we all get the basics of life. The stuff that every individual needs to function no matter where their career path takes them.
Kids don’t understand that. If I left it up to my younger son he would drop all of his literature classes. He loves math and he tolerates science pretty good but english/literature he hates.
He loves to read but he hates it in school.
I remember in school we actually had classes that taught check writing and balancing. It taught how to properly prepare resumes and how to conduct yourself during a job interview.
I have instances in my life upon interacting with some folks where those courses should have been a requirement for them. Just think what would happen if children got to pick and choose what they think is needful for them. It would be a mess.
Celisea
January 27th, 2011
11:45 am
Sassy – Ain’t that the truth
cba – Ain’t that the truth
Kym – Now you know stuff like that almost always brings this thing to a complete shutdown…LOL It’s only hot and popping when it’s venus vs mars or bomqueque or smut stuff….EVERYBODY (just about) chimes in.
Swiss – That should make for interesting convo Alcohol gone wrong. I got plenty from my kid’s father. Shall I go first?
Purple Rain
January 27th, 2011
11:46 am
Swiss, I have seen interesting things involving friends wifes that ended in divorce due to alcohol. LOL
Celisea
January 27th, 2011
11:46 am
He ain’t here to defend himself so I better not
i'm swiss™
January 27th, 2011
11:46 am
AmazonRed™
January 27th, 2011
11:48 am
I didn’t drink til I got to college. So when I got to college I would only drink in my dorm, in case I got too drunk I could go to my room and lock myself away.
I was chillin in my friends room. He and I had this love/hate relationship. Anyway, there were about 8 of us watching a movie. Then all of a sudden the guy and I just started making out furiously in front of everyone! We quickly realized we were kissing each other and were grossed out. I ran to my room and shut the door, but soon everyone on our floor knew.
Leaving my room was literally a walk of shame for the next few weeks!
Raqi V
January 27th, 2011
11:49 am
the school is small only 60 kids
That right there says a lot Kym. That place is obvious for a select few. Imagine that being a traditional setting school. Thousands of students from every walk of life. That would be chaos.
Why do I hear Raqi..saying something like “Damn Hippies
Ya damn skippy! LOL
i'm swiss™
January 27th, 2011
11:51 am
“but english/literature he hates.”
Raqi — That’s because until you get to college, you can’t really cover any of the good stuff for fear of protests. And even for the material that has some juicy subtext, you really can’t focus much on that, lest you offend some puritanical parent. I hated my lit classes in high school as well, but ended up being an English major. If I had taught for more than 1 year (as a HS Lit teacher) I’d have likely been run out of town because I constantly tried to add in some more interesting material that wasn’t on the approved reading list.
Purple Rain
January 27th, 2011
11:52 am
Small towns and underage drinking make for an interesting childhood. LOL
Superman
January 27th, 2011
11:52 am
Amazon Red.. can I see some of those pics??
Sassy Me :-)
January 27th, 2011
11:52 am
em>I caught it in passing and thought I was watching soft porn…
I watched a little of one episode and was
the whole time. MTv likes to push the envelope but I don’t know how well this is going to go over on the masses.
An alcohol story gone wrong: Two of my girlfriends and I were out celebrating a birthday and were having a good time at Spondivits. Well one of them is a light drinker and was tryna run with the big girls but couldn’t keep up. As I was sitting across from her I saw her close her eyes as she started leaning towards the table. Before I could extend my arm across the table to catch her head, her face landed in her food…it’s like the whole place saw that happen.
Then we had to damn near carry her to the car…what a rookie.
i'm swiss™
January 27th, 2011
11:53 am
ARed — Sorry about the tequila breath that night… I promise now I carry mints at all times… Wanna come over & watch “Friday” again?
Sassy Me :-)
January 27th, 2011
11:56 am
Then all of a sudden the guy and I just started making out furiously in front of everyone! We quickly realized we were kissing each other and were grossed out.
OMG…I almost sprayed my monitor with water
For some reason I feel like that could be part of a skit on SNL or Mad Tv…
Kym
January 27th, 2011
11:56 am
@Raqi..my son is the same way..he loves science, art, music..any of the creative things. Now he would do well in creative writing but ask him to read anything other than what he likes and he tunes out. I had a huge debate with his middle school english teacher because she said..”he like potty mouth books.”(Captain Underpants and The Day my Butt went psycho”) were his favorite. I said is the goal to promote reading..she said why yes of course. I told her well then I buy him what he likes and will read. Eventually he will out grow, this stuff and pick something else. Which he did. Hell I was addicted to Nancy Drew mysteries, which grew into Agatha Christie.
blue
January 27th, 2011
11:59 am
Hola Peoples,
drinking eh? guess im mostly a social drinker, dont mind folks drinking jus tcant deal with sloppy drinkers. cause when ladies fall off their shoes and guys forget which lady they came with, i will laugh and take pics to embarass you later lmao
Kym
January 27th, 2011
12:02 pm
I watched a few of the orignial BBC episodes of Skins..my understanding from the critics that the MTV versions is all sex and drugs..where as the BBC episodes they follow one character an episodes and their school life interaction with friends…in addition to the sex and drugs of course.
Leggs
January 27th, 2011
12:04 pm
@ARed ~ Skins is not a show for children. The argument is that it in fact borders on child cruelty. The youngest cast member is 15 years old. Too much sexing and boozing going on their.
When alcohol goes wrong: My gf and I had plenty to drink. Our other gf was home feeling the blues. We got the attention of a cutie across the bar and took him home for her. She was embarrased cuz she had rollers in her head. She quickly removed those after she got over the shock of what we’ve done, but had a blast early 20’s).
Superman
January 27th, 2011
12:09 pm
So… Leggs… What’s you story??
When I was born, I was given a choice – A big d*ck or a good memory. I don’t remember what I chose.
Raqi V
January 27th, 2011
12:11 pm
Kym, my knucklehead loves to read the newspaper. The entire paper at 15 (soon to be 16) years old. And I am finding that he loves to follow politics. He made it his business to catch the State of the Union address. He hates when the speaker paused for the applauds. He kept saying ‘let the man talk’. LOL
I know I cannot choose my kids’ future but lawd knows I hope he does not become a politician.
AmazonRed™
January 27th, 2011
12:11 pm
@ARed ~ Skins is not a show for children. The argument is that it in fact borders on child cruelty. The youngest cast member is 15 years old. Too much sexing and boozing going on their.
Leggs – It sucks cuz I remember watching a lot of MTV as a teen. I couldn’t let any kid I know watch that channel. Heck, some of the stuff is too much for me!
czBrat
January 27th, 2011
12:12 pm
blue, (HI!) one of out first dates was to blind willies. woman so dang drunk she was falling off her barstool and couple people had to carry her out of there. not a good look at all!
leggs, btw … thanx again for the invite. you’re the sweetness
i'm swiss™
January 27th, 2011
12:15 pm
“I know I cannot choose my kids’ future but lawd knows I hope he does not become a politician.”
Raqi — Why not? It’s not such a bad gig: constantly getting your pockets lined by lobbyists, not really having to do any actual work or even know much about anything other than memorized talking points… And as long as he’s not a republican, he won’t even have to hang out in airport mens rooms…
blue
January 27th, 2011
12:20 pm
the commercials for that show look like its nothing but sex and drugs…and isnt it on like 10 or something, that to me doesnt say teens should be the target audience…
@Leggs – lmao, thats too funny. we’ve never done anything like that. but did go to Opera once for my girl get to drinking too fast, we’re looking for her, shes in the corner blowing chunks in teh trash can…had security come tell us we had to take her home lmao!
@cz – lmao, poor thing probably didnt remember in the morning either, wondering why yall are laughing at her lol
Raqi V
January 27th, 2011
12:20 pm
Swiss, because all of my attempts at good parenting in honesty, ethics and values will have been a waste of time.
Kym
January 27th, 2011
12:21 pm
@Raqi I am pretty sure mine is going into the arts. He is the creative type I told him they offer computer animation and design and GA Tech if that is really where he wants to be. But err..whateva he choose..he can’t live with me!
Raqi V
January 27th, 2011
12:29 pm
Kym, LOL yeah living with mommy ‘nem is most def not an option.
The 15yo wants to go into sports medicine. Which I think is good.
He wants to be the concierge physician for sports team though. The hub, the boy and I were talking about it one day and the hub asked him how he plans to be married while being on the road with a team. That knucklehead asked which team has the prettiest cheerleaders. We couldn’t do nothing but LOL.
Leggs
January 27th, 2011
12:29 pm
@Superman ~ I’ve done some pretty crazy things in my day. Picking up a stranger and taking him back to our place is at the top. I remember one evening feeling down for whatever reason. Called a cab, went to Babe’s (off Candler Road) and that night “A DeeJay Saved my Life!” I danced, and danced and danced! That was an important night for me becase I truly could have found some trouble if I sought it out. I didnt’ want to do anything I would regret and I knew I only had myself to answer to. I chose the music to take me away like a Calgon Bath!!!!
AmazonRed™
January 27th, 2011
12:34 pm
I’ve done some pretty crazy things in my day. Picking up a stranger and taking him back to our place is at the top.
What did you do to him when you got him back to your place?
Leggs
January 27th, 2011
12:38 pm
I use to always say “having no one to answer to but myself is a dangerous thing to possess!” Having 100% freedom to do what you want, when you want without a care will have one probably sitting in jail. If it wasn’t for my morals, ethics and belief in character, I probably would have thrown caution to the wind on many occasion and just said F…It. I did sometimes, but perhaps not often enough. I don’t know. What I do know is I’m happy with the person looking at me in the mirror. Besides my car accident, I didn’t hurt anyone else along my path to getting to know ME!
Superman
January 27th, 2011
12:38 pm
Wow, Leggs…. you and Amazon Red both sound like a LOT of fun… my kind of gals!
and remember…Panties: Not the best thing on earth but next to the best thing on earth!
AmazonRed™
January 27th, 2011
12:42 pm
If it wasn’t for my morals, ethics and belief in character, I probably would have thrown caution to the wind on many occasion and just said F…It.
I wish I could do that today. I have a flight to Hawaii that leaves at 1:35. I booked it a year ago to go to the Pro Bowl this weekend. Well, finances won’t allow me to go…but I want to just get on that plane and wing it all weekend.
Not only that, but anyone I’d answer to at work is out of the office today, so it’s not like I’d be missed…. *sigh*
czBrat
January 27th, 2011
12:43 pm
Kym/Raqi … took thing 2 out for dinner monday (his 19th bday). he looks across the table and tells me we should plan on living together forever because we get along so “cool”. i nearly choked. does he really have no idea how anxious i am for him to move out too?
Dan - Simply...Superior
January 27th, 2011
12:46 pm
Yeah, I think you have to give in to the mischief inside err once in awhile, otherwise life isn’t worth living.
I work hard and play harder (though not as often as I used to)
Superman
January 27th, 2011
12:47 pm
I wish I could go to Hawaii with you! We could both get Lei’d! Of course you don’t have to go all the way to Hawaii for that….
Superman
January 27th, 2011
12:48 pm
I know what you mean Dan.. but I has to stop working hard… some of the older ladies in the office were getting offended by the big bulge in my jeans!
czBrat
January 27th, 2011
12:48 pm
ugh, Ared! you just gave me stomach cramps. i’m actually hurting for you cuz i don’t doubt you well deserve the getaway. sorry sweetie.
i choose to believe something simply wonderful awaits to make up for this!
Kym
January 27th, 2011
12:49 pm
@CzBrat..I might have choked him..LOL.
AmazonRed™
January 27th, 2011
12:51 pm
i choose to believe something simply wonderful awaits to make up for this!
Thank you czBrat. I’m not too broken up about it. Hawaii will be there (God willing) and some friends and I are trying to go to Kauai by years end. I hear Kauai is even better.
AmazonRed™
January 27th, 2011
12:52 pm
he looks across the table and tells me we should plan on living together forever because we get along so “cool”. i nearly choked.
Well, at least he likes being with you. I would have never told my Mom that. Love my parents to death, but I was so ready to get out in the real world upon graduation! (and never came back either
)
Raqi V
January 27th, 2011
12:53 pm
czBrat and Kym, and to think I am adding another 18-20 years on to my waiting for an empty nest. I will be 61 before I get to send my last one off to college. In fact my younger son will be going off to college before Lizzy even gets into pre-school. smh
Raqi V
January 27th, 2011
12:55 pm
Have any of you seen Match Point? I am thinking about watching it in a few.
Kym
January 27th, 2011
12:57 pm
Raqi..and for that you deserve an award..I will be 42 when I kick my little eagle out of the nest.
Raqi V
January 27th, 2011
1:02 pm
(Thinking out loud)
My legs hurt. I wonder how much it will cost to have a masseuse come in a couple times a week and rub my legs for me. I had to get some support socks today at the recommendation of my doctor.
Maybe I can get the woman that does my mani/pedi to make a house call. hmmm