Break-up or get married?
I remember back in high school when I was dating my first love senior year. Everyone would say that we were either going to break up or get married. I remember it so vividly because it became a serious source of anxiety for me. After graduation, we didn’t break up or get married. We kept dating. Yes, that’s right. Door number 3 ..that nobody bothered to mention. I don’t know how I let people work me into a frenzy about stuff that was going to happen in the future!
I can see that little has changed though. I have noticed a couple of friends who have been dating a little over two years and already the chatter circling around dropping the “break up or get married” hints. I don’t think things are that simple. Maybe I’m being naive. We talked long-term potential yesterday, but should you know by the second year of dating if the person is right for you?
Does it always come down to breaking up or getting married? What’s behind door number 3?
What do you think is a realistic and reasonable time frame to determine if there is a future?
Do you think it’s a bad sign if there is no “future” talk in a relationship after you have been exclusively dating?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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DreamsMaterialize
January 25th, 2011
3:01 pm
A burger, two slices of bacon, using two doughnuts as the bun.
Kym almost sounds like The Luther from Boondocks. lol
PrincessNik
January 25th, 2011
3:01 pm
Kym i just would have never thought of using a doughnut for a hamburger bun LOL, although I have been know to eat ham and turkey sandwichs on whole wheat raisin bread. I figure its no diff than the tons of diff kinds of bread most sandwich joints offer……
DreamsMaterialize
January 25th, 2011
3:03 pm
The Double Coronary at the Vortex uses a grilled cheese sandwich as each bun on that burger.
Kym-The Steelers are the AFC Champs!
January 25th, 2011
3:03 pm
sandwich..not sandwhich..whateva..this day is dragging on.
@Leggs..I have to..I must..me and the boy are having our own kind of weird “No Reservations” Bizzare foods. thing this weekend. He saw a burger on Diners, Drive-In and Dives that he wants to try. It’s a burger with Peanut butter on it.
SlimNumeroUno
January 25th, 2011
3:05 pm
Kym & kimmie – speaking of colored bright hair….why in the world has Martin Lawrence written in a character that is supposed to be a receptionist with Pink, green, purple hair acting all ghettofied. It just isn’t believable nor do I really like the show thus far. I expected more from ML
PrincessNik
January 25th, 2011
3:07 pm
dang kym now you have me wanting a krispy kreme doughnut………………
Leggs
January 25th, 2011
3:07 pm
@SlimNU ~ when the scene opened up with her at the front desk, I knew it would be a dumb show. And, so far it is! Well, let me take that back, only watched half of the episode never to turn it on again! I don’t even like the promo of her walking up and shashaying from side to side!
PrincessNik
January 25th, 2011
3:08 pm
I expected more from ML
Slim, did you, cause I’m thinking she-ne-ne and all the other characters from Martin…………….
Kym-The Steelers are the AFC Champs!
January 25th, 2011
3:11 pm
@Princess..sorry…I was reviewing recipes..while killing time.
@Dreams..I love the Vortex..I would love to recreate the chilli cheese tater tots at home.
SlimNumeroUno
January 25th, 2011
3:11 pm
Leggs – Don’t get me wrong, I’ll be the first to say I don’t watch edumacational programming all the time, hence my ATL Housewives, secretly at times Jersey Shore, BBall Wives, What Chilli will never get etc….but watching ML’s new show just blatantly insults my intelligence.
SlimNumeroUno
January 25th, 2011
3:13 pm
PN – But even with the She-nana, the main part of the show had topics that were more real to life…Shenene to me just added a silly funny side to the show…This new show he has seems to be weighted the total opposite of how I felt about Martin back in the day. (this spoken from a true nut herself)
AmazonRed™
January 25th, 2011
3:14 pm
I see in Cali where the second graders are into oral sex in the classrooms now.
That’s happening here too. Ask Mo’s sister!
But yeah, my parents were very in to public education. I even got accepted into boarding school and my dad would not let me go. However, the public schools in Cali are very good…well, they were in my day.
kimmie
January 25th, 2011
3:14 pm
Slim/Leggs – Too stereotypical ghetto in a not funny way!
Princess – I did expect better from Martin, because while Sha-neyney was over the top, she/he worked, along with the other characters. They just all flowed well together. Sha popped up every now and then, as did the other characters. They were not an every episode regular role, like Pam & Gina & Tommy & Cole. They would kind of pop in to offer their crazy and then go on. Martin is one of my all-time favorite shows! The comedy on that show still has me LMAO!
SlimNumeroUno
January 25th, 2011
3:15 pm
PN – and to add, Martins old show was years ago…so I guess I expected his progression of talent to show in this new ordeal.
AmazonRed™
January 25th, 2011
3:16 pm
That’s what Ridalin overachievers get you
Or uh…Ritalin…:lol:
SlimNumeroUno
January 25th, 2011
3:18 pm
kimmie – Looks like we were on the same page with that.
kimmie
January 25th, 2011
3:20 pm
I’m sitting here cracking up over some of those Martin episodes, like when Martin found out Gina was making more money than him, when he was acting like Wesley Snipes Nino from New Jack City when he thought someone stole his cd player. And when Shaneyney went on Love Jones Connection and when she won that radio contest date with Kid from Kid N Play!!
SlimNumeroUno
January 25th, 2011
3:22 pm
kimmie – the one i saw most recently was the one when Martin’s mom thought she overheard Gina trying to setup insurance for Martin so she could kill him for the money. She left Martin a note inside one of her famous biscuits for him to find….lololol
kimmie
January 25th, 2011
3:22 pm
Slim – I knew my SO was probably the One when he gave me the Martin dvd collection! LOL!!!
kimmie
January 25th, 2011
3:23 pm
Slim – Mymamabiskits!!!
SlimNumeroUno
January 25th, 2011
3:24 pm
“Gina! You been messin with Mymamabiskits???!!! LMAO
kimmie
January 25th, 2011
3:26 pm
Bro Man – Nuttin. Just chillin!
AmazonRed™
January 25th, 2011
3:32 pm
I drive past Uptown Comedy Corner on my way to work each morning. Bruh Man frequently performs there. But the funny thing about it is the marquee always reads “Bruh Man from the 5th flo” and never states his name. Po thing.
SlimNumeroUno
January 25th, 2011
3:34 pm
Ared – lol….that’s just like Malcom Jamal Warner saying he gets tired of folks calling him Theo. lol I saw him perform last Valentines Day at the Passion of Poetry down at Center Stage.
Dan - Simply...Superior
January 25th, 2011
3:35 pm
Freak that, I still call Rudy, Rudy
kimmie
January 25th, 2011
3:37 pm
Amred/Slim – It’s tough out there. I understand they want to be taken seriously, but they gotta eat too! Be glad they are still recognized!
Sassy Me...Ms.Blackberri :-)
January 25th, 2011
3:37 pm
You been messin with Mymamabiskits???!!!
AmazonRed™
January 25th, 2011
3:37 pm
I saw him perform last Valentines Day at the Passion of Poetry down at Center Stage
Did you now…
Looks like this years big thing is that Babyface, Eric Benet and Kevon Edmonds concert on February 12. Might be worth checking out with that special someone!
Leggs
January 25th, 2011
3:38 pm
I loved the episode when he lifted his head and his face was swollen from getting beat up! That had me in stitches.
AmazonRed™
January 25th, 2011
3:39 pm
Amred/Slim – It’s tough out there. I understand they want to be taken seriously, but they gotta eat too! Be glad they are still recognized!
kimmie – I feel that. But there is room for them to add his name, you know, for the small following I’m sure he has.
I mean, if he ever does anything other than Martin. 
Kym-The Steelers are the AFC Champs!
January 25th, 2011
3:39 pm
@Slim..Malcom-J new title..is Regina King’s man. I think they make a cute couple.
Sassy Me...Ms.Blackberri :-)
January 25th, 2011
3:39 pm
I saw him perform last Valentines Day at the Passion of Poetry down at Center Stage.
I was there,too and had a blast SlimNu…I ’bout jumped outta my seat when Layla Hathaway came on stage as a surprise guest. Are you going this year?
kimmie
January 25th, 2011
3:40 pm
Mymamabird!!! LOL!!!
SlimNumeroUno
January 25th, 2011
3:40 pm
kimmie – Malcom said he was very greatful for that Cosby show experience but he was like, come on…there is life beyond The Huxtables…lol I sort of feel him but at the same time, that’s what we grew up to see him as. I was impressed by his talent of not just spoken word, but his bass playing as well.
AmazonRed™
January 25th, 2011
3:41 pm
@Slim..Malcom-J new title..is Regina King’s man. I think they make a cute couple.
Isn’t that funny how it works out that way.
Vanessa Huxtable ended up with Ron Johnson from Different World.
kimmie
January 25th, 2011
3:41 pm
Amred- Yeah, they should put his name and then add the Bruh man stuff in parenthases!
kimmie
January 25th, 2011
3:43 pm
Kid from Kid N Play(eraser head I called him) is a music director/producer on Bill Maher HBO show.
BlackMagicWoman
January 25th, 2011
3:43 pm
Being a Glam Goth chick….sometimes I wear colored streaks in my hair. I am not close to 40. But I doubt if I’ll change. My favorite designer is Betsey Johnson. I interned for her. It was awesome! I have been dying my hair different colors ever since I was 15. I saw it’s all a matter of personal style and expression. Of course when I perform..I go all out with it. Hey if someone is bold enough to wear colored hair…they really don’t care what people think of them! I know I don’t!
As for the ML show…I watched one episode…It is too over the top with the really ghetto receptionist. Friend or no friend you would not let that be the representation of your business.
Kym-The Steelers are the AFC Champs!
January 25th, 2011
3:46 pm
Isn’t Play a minister? I thought he was..I always thought he was so cute..the dance off scene from House Party 1 was the best..that and Robin Harris as Kid’s daddy.
i'm swiss™
January 25th, 2011
3:49 pm
“Being a Glam Goth chick….sometimes I wear colored streaks in my hair.”
BMW — Do you make sure the carpet matches the drapes?
SlimNumeroUno
January 25th, 2011
3:51 pm
Ared – I see you throwing ideas out there. So does that mean you plan on going to the concert? Last year I went with my cousin and one of her co-workers. I wasn’t booed up then but who knows what this year will bring. Nothing is really moving me to want to do the PP this year.
Speaking of Regina…we cannot sleep on 227. That show was funny too…and it shows just how much life has changed. Back then, the heart throb was Calvin…now young girls slob over Lil Wayne and GUCCI! lol
Sassy Me...Ms.Blackberri :-)
January 25th, 2011
3:56 pm
Do you make sure the carpet matches the drapes?
!!!!!!!
Swiss you goin dooown!!
Sassy Me...Ms.Blackberri :-)
January 25th, 2011
3:57 pm
Pun not intended…no wait I’m talking bout Swiss so who knows
BlackMagicWoman
January 25th, 2011
4:03 pm
SWISS…,my hair is Raven Blue-Black now. I wear the clip in streak so I can change when I want. I don’t wear them to work. So the carpet is black too, what very little of it there is!
Why…are you trying to become my “Landscaper”? 
AmazonRed™
January 25th, 2011
4:04 pm
I see you throwing ideas out there. So does that mean you plan on going to the concert?
Perhaps.
Alvin Ailey also comes every Valentines weekend. I got my boo at the time to take me once. He was uncomfortable watching men in tights, so I never ask a guy to go anymore, unless he’s one of those Renaissance Men who can appreciate arts and stuh….
Leggs
January 25th, 2011
4:06 pm
What’s “arts and stuh?”
AmazonRed™
January 25th, 2011
4:07 pm
“the arts and stuff”
Leggs
January 25th, 2011
4:08 pm
i'm swiss™
January 25th, 2011
4:15 pm
Hmmm… Swiss Puddyscaping… That has a nice ring to it, come to think of it…
Sassy — D@mmit, you beat me to it…
AmazonRed™
January 25th, 2011
4:15 pm
Argh! So why did you ask?