Superficial side of the dating game
The last decade has seen a huge surge in plastic surgery and other body enhancing (distorting?) procedures. It’s not just the ladies who spend money on cosmetic procedures either.
How do you think this has changed the way we see each other on the dating scene? I read somewhere that guys are no longer into the “plastic” look. Does this mean natural is back in style?
I remember seeing pictures of a young man I was seeing that were only taken three years before I met him. I didn’t even recognize him! He had a completely different nose and an extra 30 lbs on his frame. What a difference a gym membership and a nose contour makes.
I thought of how much I adored his wit and sense of humor and wondered if he needed to change his looks to showcase these qualities.
It’s impossible to say for sure, and I never asked him about his slightly drastic changes to his face. I just wonder if he saw himself differently, which made him feel confident enough to present his personality to people.
Do you think we spend too much time focusing on image and the outer layer, while ignoring the good stuff? I mean, does it really impress anyone that you are in the gym all the time if you are a raging jerk with anger issues you have yet to address?
How much work should single people put into personal growth? What do you think?
How do you handle the superficial side of the dating game?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
2:42 pm
I guess Swiss is always having a ball.
LOL, I guess I am not capable of joking about a mans ball
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
2:43 pm
So I guess you are going to take your ball and go home.
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
2:46 pm
@Raqi V ~ that is hysterical.
N E W S F L A S H: Study has shown that changing your sleep number will help reduce childrent butts being WHUPPED! DeFACS closes more departments!
Celisea
January 21st, 2011
2:46 pm
Swiss…yeah it’s a plantation for real…lol My daughter was like “oh ut uh mama we ain’t been long leaving the plantation”….lol
i'm swiss™
January 21st, 2011
2:48 pm
Purple —
Yeah, I still get a little offended anytime some talking head on the news goes on about some “lone nut” doing something…
BTW, I’m flattered you continued right past my TMI warning to read all about my balls — er — ball.
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
2:48 pm
@Raqi V ~ I have an address for him….i’m swiss, is it ok to give to her?
@BMW ~ most days I’m corny, but when they fall in my lap I try to catch as many as I can…sometimes I just need to use one hand!
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
2:49 pm
@i’m swiss ~ where are my manners. I too am glad you survived testicular cancer. You’re one cool hombre!
Kym
January 21st, 2011
2:49 pm
Random but True..Listening to NWA at work..causes militant tendancies. Going upside a joker’s head right now would be a true stress reliever.
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
2:50 pm
Swiss, LOL
Leggs, fell in your lap and catch as many as you can? Yes you just need to use one Hand since he only has one. LOL
Delight23...CAN'T LURK NO MO'
January 21st, 2011
2:51 pm
Random but True..Listening to NWA at work..causes militant tendancies
For me it’s ole skool Cube. My fav still remains Amerikkkas Most Wanted.
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
2:53 pm
Check Out Ice Cube in this picture LOL
http://panhandleprint.files.wordpress.com/2010/02/icecube-atfirstiwaslike.jpg?w=432&h=599
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
2:53 pm
@PR ~ that why I said “one hand”
Delight23...CAN'T LURK NO MO'
January 21st, 2011
2:54 pm
Have a good weekend all! Spent the last 30-60min playing catch-up and the blog did not dissappoint.
Could’ve used the laughs this morning, but ‘ppreciate it just the same.
i'm swiss™
January 21st, 2011
2:55 pm
Thanks, Leggs & BMW. You know, the radiation treatments were actually kind of fun… Primarily because the clinical techs were all cute chics in their early 20s. And I was nekkid on a table in front of them for an hour a day every day for 6 weeks. And they had to draw on my crotch with a magic marker…
AmazonRed™
January 21st, 2011
2:55 pm
she went to jump her legs got wobbly she fell and bumped her head on the headboard
Reminds me of one of my favorite nursery rhymes
One lil monkey jumped on the bed
One fell off and bumped her head
Mama called the doctor and the doctor said
That’s what you get for jumping on the bed!
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
2:56 pm
So if you would have had two would you have had twice the techs?
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
2:56 pm
How did you tell your wife or did you just spring it on her?
Kym
January 21st, 2011
2:58 pm
@Delight Cube will take you there for sure..I moved on to Tupac..pretty sure that just increases the chances of someone getting a right cross.
i'm swiss™
January 21st, 2011
2:58 pm
“How did you tell your wife or did you just spring it on her?”
I actually threw it out there on our first date…
Not my actual nut, but the fact that I only had one… 
Delight23...CAN'T LURK NO MO'
January 21st, 2011
2:58 pm
O’shea!
O’shea!
Boy get yo’ a%z in this house.
I can hear my mother callin’
I can hear…
BlackMagicWoman
January 21st, 2011
3:00 pm
SWISS….I am getting a visual of you with a cheese grin as all this “technical wang handling” was going on!
Tell the truth….you ask Mrs. Swiss to dress up in a lab coat and heels and draw on it don’t you?
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:01 pm
Delight, LOL
Swiss, sometimes you just have to put them on the glass
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:02 pm
Black, Swiss, Slim and I need to hang out. We will get kicked out of somewhere and at some point piss off some folks and end up running from the cops all in one night. LOL
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
3:02 pm
@i’m swiss ~ not surprised you found a pleasurable way of dealing with your treatments. You are a nut. Wait, wait, wait, awww fuggedabtit!
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
3:04 pm
swiss – I believe I was watching Dr 90210 or some similar show like that and a person was getting a prosthetic ball. It may have been a chick undergoing a sex change tho
So you don’t need a black light to see your lil swimmers all over the bedroom, kitchen, living room, garage, driveway, attic, hallway, bathroom, gutters, under the hood of your car, the pantry and in the hammock outside? lol
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:06 pm
I think I should get a prosthetic wang, for when I entertain unclean women. LOL
“hold on let me put this on”
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
3:07 pm
@i’m swiss ~ I totally visualized you throwing your nut on the table (even though I know you meant the latter part in your statement).
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
3:07 pm
‘Black, Swiss, Slim and I need to hang out. We will get kicked out of somewhere and at some point piss off some folks and end up running from the cops all in one night’
Purp – Sounds like a perfect sequel or spin-off of THe Hangover. lol
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:10 pm
Slim, that would be fun indeed. Just make sure everyone has bail money. Speaking of Jail, I had a request in to speak at my buds Parole Hearing, it got denied but my father’s didn’t. LOL
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
3:14 pm
‘I think I should get a prosthetic wang, for when I entertain unclean women.’
Purp – umm….I think that’s already been invented….doesn’t that fall under the category of Deal-doe? lol
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
3:14 pm
Or a sex machine?
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
3:14 pm
{{I’m walking down the street kicking rocks…I want to be part of spinoff of The Hangover. Sounds like my kind of fun. I probably could run faster than most of you (LOLOLOL).
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:15 pm
Slim, where can I buy that chair?
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:15 pm
Leggs, yes you have a wild side and the more the merrier. LOL
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:18 pm
I just looked up some pictures from the filming of The Hangover 2 and Alan looks like Rick Ross, bald head and fuzzy beard. LOL
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
3:19 pm
Yippee ~ I can be a great “lookout” woman, then join in the fun! Well, that’s not really a good lookout person. Ok, we can hire a lookout person cuz I’m having fun!!
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:20 pm
Amazon may be a good lookout woman but she may just run and not tell us when trouble is coming. LOL
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:21 pm
http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_Ya1KGjXKDBE/TTD25_HRIOI/AAAAAAAAACs/FdvoQCx-50w/s1600/The%2BHangover%2B2%2Bin%2BThailand.jpg
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
3:22 pm
Purp – Um, i’m not quite sure where they are selling those chairs. I do not own one but you seem to be quite handy…why not make one for you and the Mrs?
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
3:24 pm
@PR ~ that was funny. She wouldn’t bail on us….naw!
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
3:24 pm
Purp – I surely hope the sequel isn’t a bust since more times than not, they movie folks should’ve quit while they were ahead. I’m looking forward to its release tho
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:25 pm
Slim, want to come help me build it, just for measurement purposes. LOL
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:26 pm
Stu has a Mike Tyson tattoo on his face in that picture. Liam Nelson is in it along with Bill Clinton doing a cameo. LOL It probably won’t be as funny as the first, hard to top that one. LOL
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:33 pm
Leggs, she would be on here blogging on Monday and would not speak up when someone asked where we were. LOL
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
3:40 pm
Purp – Nice try but I have a pretty good feeling that the Mrs and I do not come close enough in size for you to use me as a measuring device.
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
3:41 pm
@PR ~ I got a visual…she’s sitting at her desk whistling while fumbing through some papers in her drawer acting brand new!
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:48 pm
Leggs, yes like it never happened LOL
Slim, you are not cool bro!
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
3:53 pm
Anyhoo, yall stragglers have a good weekend. That’s the end of my work day. Now I gotta try to find some sexy man thongs to go in the Valenties basket i’m going to make this year (as a gag gift of course)…be safe.
Purp – good luck on making that chair…just be mindful of the pressure you put that thang on. You don’t want to literally knock her back out. lol
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:55 pm
Slim, have a good weekend.
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
3:58 pm
a pretso